Comments on: A Real Mom

By: Ellen S.

Ellen S. — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 17:48:20 +0000

Whether you are a SAHM or a WM, I think it’s important for your kids to experience other adult supervision. Not just for your sanity’s sake, but for the sake of teaching the kids that there are multiple ways to approach pretty much everything in life. I think it teaches kids open-mindedness and urges them to develop their own points of view to be exposed to other perspectives. It also helps kids learn to be adaptable – not always having things done exactly one way. I don’t think of a teacher as “raising my kid” for me, but rather broadening her horizons and giving her a more complete view of the world. Same for a daycare provider or nanny or grandparents or neighbor or whoever.
So, with that in mind, I agree with the comment that SAHM’s are GREAT, and working mom’s are GREAT too!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 17:20:03 +0000

These conversations drive me crazy. Daycare does not raise your child anymore than your mom would be raising him/her if she watched him while you work. YOU raise your child. They watch them for you.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:49:40 +0000

I’ve been on both sides of this fence. I couldn’t wait to go back to work after my son, then after my twins, working was the furthest from my mind, and lately, I’ve been thinking about working again in some capacity.

Me? Lately? Take my kids, please. Take them for as many days as you’d like. Which is probably wrong on several levels, but that’s how I feel right now.

Otherwise, you know, I “sit around and do nothing all day” at home with them.

Or go to work and taste a drop or two of freedom.

See? There is no right answer. You’re absolutely correct, and I salute you, Working Mom, for doing what I (at least 50% of the time) wish I were still able to do!

By: Sweety Darlin'

Sweety Darlin' — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 00:33:26 +0000

I have been a working mom and a stay at home mom. I know one thing to be true……. MOM is the person that does the MOM stuff. Who stays home when they are sick? MOM not the daycare worker. Who fixes the big boo boos? Mom! So much so that your baby will relive the accident if they don’t think the daycare worker did it right.

There are moms that are better moms when they work and moms that are better at home. Why would any of us need to make another one feel guilty for the decisions we make for our children. We know what we can and can’t afford. We know what we can and can’t sacrifice. Sometimes I sacrificed, sometimes I didn’t either way I am a damn good mom. I love my children more than life itself and I do what it takes to make sure they are growing up to be good people with strong values and good manners.

Working isn’t a sin. Staying home doesn’t make you a saint. Being a mom is a job we all have to find our own path and be damned the consequences! I am glad you enjoy your career. I am also glad she loves staying at home. You have both made choices you are happy with!

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 20:17:11 +0000

I don’t understand why women choose to tear one another down. We have enough assholes to deal with; we should have each other’s backs.

By: Meredith

Meredith — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 17:04:27 +0000

Amen, sister!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 02:21:15 +0000

I considered staying home with my twins and before my maternity leave was even close to being over, I was back at the hospital telling my old boss that I needed to come back. (I’m a nurse.) Money wasn’t the issue. I needed adult conversation and interaction that mommy-baby play dates would never cover. That other mother was just insecure and mean. Every good mother questions if the choices they have made are the right ones for their children. It sounds like you’re making the right choice for you and your family.

By: Hatton

Hatton — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 02:10:29 +0000

Love this!!

By: Cassie

Cassie — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 23:54:41 +0000

This, I think, is the worst part of being a parent. I love my son, my family, my job, and the choices I have made about them. But there is something about someone else’s comments that make us so insecure. I have been in this exact situation several times. It has ruined friendships, and caused many hours of worry. Parenting is so personal and the choices we make are so important to US, that it seems so hurtful when someone else seems to not agree. You are a great parent just because you worry about your choices. It’s the parents that think they have it all figured out that we need to worry about!

By: Hatton

Hatton — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 23:33:11 +0000

Amen! Somehow I’d avoided any mama drama up to that point so it caught me off guard.