Tamblyn defended the decision to wear black to the Golden Globes
Among the many lessons the #MeToo movement has taught us, it’s that there’s no blueprint for navigating how victims handle trauma. Now that many women are no longer suffering in silence, emotions are (understandably) running high. Rose McGowan, one of the first victims to speak publicly about Harvey Weinstein, recently attacked fellow actresses who planned to protest the sexual misconduct in Hollywood at the Golden Globes next month by wearing black gowns.
Actress and fellow #MeToo activist Amber Tamblyn was having none of it, and called McGowan out on Twitter for “shaming” women.
In a since-deleted tweet, McGowan lashed out about the planned Golden Globes protest:
“Actresses, like Meryl Streep, who happily worked for The Pig Monster, are wearing black @GoldenGlobes in a silent protest,” she tweeted. “YOUR SILENCE is THE problem. You’ll accept a fake award breathlessly & affect no real change. I despise your hypocrisy. Maybe you should all wear Marchesa.” (Marchesa is the fashion line started by Weinstein’s wife, Georgina Chapman.)
McGowan’s tweet quickly garnered reactions from many, Tamblyn included, who addressed McGowan directly in a Twitter thread.
THREAD: Rose McGowan is a friend and while I support her kind of movement, I do not support any woman (or man) shaming or taunting the movements of other women who are trying to create change. Telling us to all wear Marchesa? This is beneath you, Rose.
— Amber Tamblyn (@ambertamblyn) December 17, 2017
You don’t have to support and stand with us, but we stand and support you. You may take below the belt shots at us but we will not take them at you in return.— Amber Tamblyn (@ambertamblyn) December 17, 2017
Our movement is big. And a black dress is just the beginning of the darkness that will be drained from every industry across the country by the time we’re done. That’s a promise.— Amber Tamblyn (@ambertamblyn) December 17, 2017
And we stand together in this fight, shoulder to shoulder, weapon to weapon, woman to woman (and man), body to burned body. And our arms are open. And our hearts two fold. And our fire will be a universal scorch. Heed the mantra: #ChangeIsComing— Amber Tamblyn (@ambertamblyn) December 17, 2017
People on Twitter were quick to applaud Tamblyn for speaking out.
I stand by every woman in the pursuit of permanent change and gender equality.— Alyssa Milano (@Alyssa_Milano) December 17, 2017
Rose McGowan made it a public affair attacking everything and everyone lately. She snapped out of the #MeToo 's real matters.— 🐼 (@LaMediaphile) December 18, 2017
Unfortunately I had to unfollow her because of the stuff she was writing and who she was writing about...— Tessa Lee (@tessalee2161) December 18, 2017
Others felt McGowan’s voice still deserves to be heard.
I completely disagree. I think Rose McGowan made some valid points.— Cassandra (@Serial_Tragedy) December 18, 2017
I think Rose is incredibly angry, and rightfully so. What she endured went way beyond the original rape. She was stalked, tricked, maligned in the media. I think they even bought off her boyfriend. Let's try and understand before judging too harshly.— Demeralda (@demeralda) December 17, 2017
Just like there is no right or wrong way to process trauma, there is no right or wrong way to peacefully protest. If every single actress making an appearance at the Golden Globes wants to wear a black dress, you best believe that makes a statement. It will draw attention. It will make headlines. It will be discussed, in-depth, in fashion roundups and post-award show thinkpieces. Which means it had an effect. And you can’t begrudge that, no matter how you feel about it personally.
We’ll never know how many people were genuinely unaware of the depths of Weinstein’s treachery. McGowan slammed Meryl Streep in her original attack, though Streep has repeatedly denied knowing anything about Weinstein’s sordid assault history. Streep released a statement to HuffPo yesterday acknowledging McGowan’s words:
“It hurt to be attacked by Rose McGowan in banner headlines this weekend, but I want to let her know I did not know about Weinstein’s crimes, not in the 90s when he attacked her, or through subsequent decades when he proceeded to attack others.”
We can’t blame Rose McGowan for her anger; at her alleged rapist, Weinstein, or at the industry that blacklisted her. But as Tamblyn points out, attacking fellow victims and supporters won’t help create change.
For her part, McGowan did offer a public apology after speaking with Tamblyn.
The Marchesa line was beneath me and I’m sorry for that. Seeing that picture of Alyssa Milano with GC has ignited something in me that I can’t quite articulate. There is no map for this road I’m on, I will fuck up. Peace be with you, go with Goddess.
— rose mcgowan (@rosemcgowan) December 18, 2017