Being A Good Neighbor

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Things are trudging forward and it looks like we may actually be heading toward an April move. {Fingers crossed. And toes.} There are many factors that led us to want a change, but probably most of all is the fact that we just don’t belong in our neighborhood. After much thought, I’ve come to the conclusion that it boils down to one thing: We simply aren’t nice enough.

As you probably know, we just received a mind boggling 35 inches of snow and are expecting another foot tonight. Now, Jeff and I are not fans of snow. While I do find it beautiful, the annoying aspects of it far outweigh the aesthetic value. Jeff believes it’s a personal attack him. I do suck it up and take the kids out to play, but I far prefer frolicking on the beach. Jeff would rather just stay inside and grumble about it.

There are a couple of guys who we’ve begun paying twenty bucks each to shovel our walkway. Jeff deals with the cars when he feels like it, but with their help, doesn’t feel compelled to get out there the moment the snow stops falling. It works for us, and everyone is happy. Or, we were, until our neighbors decided to involve themselves in our snow removal.

Sunday, I looked outside to find our 13 year old neighbor and her friend earnestly shoveling our driveway. While most people may get a warm and fuzzy feeling at that sight, I felt annoyance. Who asked her to come over? I told her I appreciated her help and handed over a ten. She refused to take the money. “Just being neighborly,” she replied cheerfully when I insisted.

Neighborly? Borrowing an egg is neighborly. Using the phone when yours is dead is neighborly. Perhaps shoveling out an elderly, handicapped person is neighborly. But us? We were all set, thank you very much. Her own driveway remained covered with almost 3 feet of snow. Was she expecting us to shovel her’s out? To cook her dinner? To drive her somewhere? What was her motive? What did we owe her? People aren’t that nice… or, are they? Just thinking about it made my head hurt.

I think I’ll fit in much better in the city, where people crack your windshield if you park in their shoveled out spot. That behavior? I get.

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    Danielle says

    Had I known you were this horrid, I would have bumped JF off in elementary school so I could have been your BFF later in life.

    Fuck neighborly. Pff. My neighbor has a truck with a plow and waves when he drives by and sees me struggling with the snowblower. Neighborly indeed.
    .-= Danielle´s last blog ..Scahhhhhhhd foh life! =-.

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    Carrie says

    Ha, my neighbors would just dump their snow onto my driveway or in front of my car :op

    Oh, and don’t shovel out your car and then think if you leave that no one will take the cleared spot (unless you block it with a lawn chair)! It’s a dog eat dog world around my house when the snow falls. My hubby spent HOURS digging out our car and then some jack ass tried to pull into our spot!! Uh, sorry no way. Go dig out your own place.

    Snow is evil
    .-= Carrie´s last blog ..Kid Swap Meet time! =-.

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      Scary Mommy says

      When Jeff and I lived in DC a million years ago, we made that mistake. Took another car’s shoveled out spot not knowing it was wrong. They left a nasty note and smashed our window. We called the cops who were pretty much like, yup, that’s what you deserved. Lesson learned!

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    Becky says

    People do that around here, although it’s usually the ones that have snowblowers that are out helping everyone else. I think the standard “thanks” is to bring over some sort of baked goods – cookies or brownies or something. I still feel awkward when people do it, but I figure that I didn’t ask, and if they aren’t happy with brownies as thanks they won’t do it again and then the problem will be solved.
    .-= Becky´s last blog ..Guessing game continued =-.

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    Julie says

    Oh, but see, that is TOTALLY the kind of thing I did as a kid!! (and I probably wouldn’t do it now…) It made me feel good to do something like that for someone. I’d say just enjoy being the recipient of a Random Act of Kindness!
    .-= Julie´s last blog ..Say Cheese! =-.

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    Loukia says

    Yeah, I’m not that neighbourly, either. Often times our neighbour mowes our grass in the summer. We say thank you, but that’s it. And we don’t usually re-pay the favour. OMG I AM EVIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why did I just admit this?
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..Memories from Greece =-.

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    WebSavvyMom says

    –>When I lived in the DC area, I used to shovel snow at our house, the sidewalks and venture over to do my neighbors. We didn’t get it very often so it was kind of “fun.” Now, not so much. It hurts my back.
    .-= WebSavvyMom´s last blog ..Flashback Friday (part 9) – Snowboarding Crash of the Year (again) =-.

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    Lolli says

    You are too funny. Yesterday, when I looked out my window and saw my neighbors shoveling around my car, I was consumed with guilt and went out to spend an hour shoveling with them.
    .-= Lolli´s last blog ..Bloggography Challenge – Shutter Speed =-.

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    Bonnie says

    We moved into our new house 3 weeks ago and on Saturday after the snow stopped our neighbor came by and started clearing our drive way. Yikes….what does he want? Do I have to bake him cookies? Does this mean we have to be friends? All thoughts that raced through my mind. Nice to know I’m not the only one!!!

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    MamaOtwins+1 says

    I detest snow, and I will never shovel anyone else’s driveway, much less my own. Of course that is because it doesn’t snow here.
    On the other hand, I felt wierd when my neighbor brought my trashcan up from the road while my hubby was out of town for business once.
    .-= MamaOtwins+1´s last blog ..The Tale of a Survivor – Seven Hearts Series =-.

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    Tiaras & Tantrums says

    aren’t 13 years old children supposed to be full of attitude and not pleasantries?
    I’m a bit gobsmacked here as to WHY she did it? We can’t even get our 21 year old neighbor boy to help his own mother out!!
    .-= Tiaras & Tantrums´s last blog ..Amelia DVD Giveaway =-.

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    Beth says

    that little girl either had a motive or her girl scout leader was around the corner spying on her! we moved to Texas in 2008 from MD/PA and miss the snow terribly. Of course we moved into our house 2 weeks before Hurricane Ike hit us head on. oh joy. my brother is using his companies Bobcat and charging $50 a driveway in my parents neighborhood. should be another good week for him.

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    Lori says

    I’m smelling ulterior motive all over that. Maybe she’s already done something to you and you don’t know it and she’s feeling guilty. Like, hmm…, maybe she took your Sunday paper, or took a great magazine out of your mailbox and didn’t want to give it back. Hmm?
    .-= Lori´s last blog ..What We Did =-.

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    SoccerMom says

    I don’t go out of my way to be mean to my neighbor’s. However I won’t be mowing your lawn for free either.
    Maybe it was just kids being nice? My son this winter has shoveled a pathway between both our neighbors yards for the mail man to walk.
    Seems strange but he likes to shovel snow.

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    Lynn from For Love or Funny says

    Send that little girl to my neighborhood, ’cause we’re expecting another 2 feet and I could use the help!
    .-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..I can handle 21 inches =-.

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    Lustau says

    My neighbor did that several times last year–dug us out with his snowblower. I was grateful because, well, I was pregnant until late January and then dealing with a newborn. My husband is not in the best physical shape, so during last year’s colossal dumpings, I was seriously concerned that he was going to have a heart attack, leaving me widowed with a newborn.

    Anyway. We’ve never dug our neighbor out. But I did make them brownies and I try to send stuff over from time to time. But yes, they are WAY nicer than I will ever be.
    .-= Lustau´s last blog ..Let me dust things off a bit here… =-.

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    Christa says

    My neighbor was trying to be “helpful” (play with his new toy) and plow everyone’s driveway with his truck. Well, he hit our brick mailbox and it now looks like the leaning tower of pisa. Some kind of help you just don’t need.

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    beth aka confusedhomemaker says

    Lol, I understand the feeling but I also have shoveled other’s walks for them. I’m neurotic in every sense, from worrying about why someone is being nice to me & then if I’m being nice enough to others.
    .-= beth aka confusedhomemaker´s last blog ..Help a Brother Out =-.

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    TheKitchenWitch says

    Honey, I grew up in North Dakota and that’s what people do when the shitstorm from Hell comes down. Now send those kiddos over to my place, because it’s snowing. :)
    .-= TheKitchenWitch´s last blog ..White Trash Motherlode: Crabmeat Appetizers =-.

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