People say horrible things about me on this site. They tell me that I’m stupid, that I’m a terrible parent, that I’m a horrible wife. They tell me that I’m undeserving, shallow and going to hell. They tell me that this is the lamest blog they have ever read and that I should just shut off the computer and disappear forever.
Yes, truly, people tell me that.
But, none of it really phases me (ok, most of it doesn’t phase me.) I know that I’m a good parent, that I’m a good wife and a good person and those people don’t know me at all. Thankfully, I have a really good ability to let the negative stuff roll off me. Except, when the insults are about my appearance. Because that’s the one thing I have doubts about, myself.
When Target approached me with the idea for the Target Fashion Experiment, I was beyond flattered. Freaking Target!
But, the more I read, the more nervous I got. I was basically going to be a paper doll for a month. A real, live Barbie doll who people get to play dress up with. Me, the size 12 with the flabby belly and the upper arms that have never seen the light of day. Um, me?
We were steps away from signing the contract when the PR company asked for my measurements. We’d never talked about it before and my heart dropped: This was it. My weight was actually going to stand in the way of the most exciting opportunity I’d ever received. I felt sick to my stomach. I waited until the latest minute possible and sent off the measurements, along with a note saying I hoped they weren’t looking for a size four. I maniacally waited for the response, hardly breathing. “No, we aren’t looking for a four,” they said. “These are perfect.”
And… exhale.
When I arrived at the shoot, I breathed a HUGE sigh of relief as I perused the racks of sizes ranging from 10-14. There were some things that looked absolutely horrible on me, but lots that I did feel comfortable in. I was even able to see the humor when, with no size-large belt in sight, the stylist cut the too-small size across the back and held it together with masking tape. This was going to be OK. I could do this.
Until the confession came last Saturday. The only confession that has left me feeling like I was kicked in the stomach.
“I had no idea Scary Mommy was so large.”
Ouch.
Jeff tried to convince me that whoever the person was, meant it in like, a Wow! She’s big! Successful! Look at this opportunity, kind of way.
Nice try, my love.
But, it’s true. I’m not a size four or six or even an eight. I have lopsided boobs and a flabby belly and a wide back and I really need to lose 15 pounds to be comfortable with myself again. I’m not a model, and I never will be. But, I am a real, live person. I’m a mother and a wife and a blogger and that’s why Target chose me.
And, that’s why this campaign is so awesome.
(Now, I just need to convince myself of it.)
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um . . . whoever said you were big is out of their mind.
When I saw you at BBC Philly, I wouldn’t have said you were even a size 12. You are gorgeous.
And congrats on such an amazing campaign. And for giving me the idea to duct tape my belts in the back so they fit better . . .
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HAHA! My first thought was ‘extending belts?…. hmmmmm…. how ELSE can I do that?’….LOL!
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I thought it was the best idea ever, too. I just couldn’t take off the blazer. :)
Jen
You are comment 1 of 263 which gives one an idea of how many people agree with you and with whole idea that one has to be small to be OK.
Media is teaching women to be out of their minds – we all think we should be size 10 to be normal.
Ok, I’ll stop ranting and raving now. ;-)
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I’ve loved you since the minute we met. Actually since we before we met. I think you are amazing and wonderful. And beautiful.
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i echo jodi entirely and i am so proud of you for being the beautiful face of this incredible project and opportunity.
Oh, honey.
Just for the record, I think you are GORGEOUS.
You are awesome, Jill.
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You are beautiful. #thatisall
Bravo to you, Jill! Thank you for your honesty! Anyone who insults you needs to look in the mirror and deal with their own problems. I think you’re fantastic!!
I didn’t even think for a minute that you didn’t look normal. And by the way, nice legs in that dress!
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I was thinking the exact same thing!! Work those legs lady, I wish mine looked like that :) Don’t let one rude, insecure person’s comment get to you. I echo everyone else here, you’re gorgeous and fab and I LOVE this campaign!
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good for you! and btw, you look great. i want that outfit!
I have tears stinging my eyes for you. I thought you looked gorgeous in that video and all your photos. I am also a 12. I can’t imaging people calling that large. Yes, I hate the flab but I *can* look and feel good in this (very long) in between stage for now. Thank you for being real.
Steph
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I remember seeing you at BlogHer and thinking how petite and adorable you were and that I’d love to look like you. We women are so weird.
I remember reading that very comment, and hoped that it wouldn’t upset you hon. You are beautiful and real, don’t let words or labels hurt you!
I gotta say I LOVE that you aren’t a 4. I love that you are my size so when I dress you, I can dress me :) thanks for being so real!
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You are awesome. Size is just a physical number, it does not define you as a person. I am a size 7 with a 26″ inseam….all that means about me is it is really fucking hard to find pants and nothing more. Short jokes are never in short supply, but I have told myself that those people are assholes, and their flaws will be exposed as well. The people who bring up things about others better live in Plexiglas houses, because they throw an awful lot of stones.
You are awesome, you are Scary Mommy. Forget what other jack holes have to say, they are not connecting with tons of people on a daily basis, who are listening to everything you have to say. Enjoy this, it looks like fun.
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Jill, Target picked you because you do represent most of what us mommies to young (and not so young) children look like…you are real, we are real, and that’s why we’re all so excited to see what you’re wearing this month…because if it’s looking good on you, then we know it will probably look good on us…
And for the record, I’m muffin topping out of my size 14s….
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People can be so evil… especially when they are jealous, which is exactly what those hurling insults at you are. You are BRAVE, smart, and successful. I admire you, and I think you are a beautiful woman.
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You’re beautiful! Inside & out. I think it is just wonderful that you have been given this oppurtunity. I can’t think of another blogger that deserves it more. ((HUG))
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Jill, you look AMAZING. You’re a real woman, and I think that’s what make’s this campaign so great and special. I am so happy you were chosen to represent us women out here! :-) Have fun!!!
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What’s sad about this to me, besides that your feelings were hurt, is that anyone considers a size 12 ‘large’. Model figures are not realistic; they are twigs. Normal, real women, and especially mothers, are not stick figures. We are real, we have curves, and you totally rock them!
I am a 5 foot 8 inch, size 12 surrounded by 5 foot 6-8 inch, size 6 friends. My self esteem takes a nosedive every time I am around them. Not through any fault of theirs but how I feel about myself. It would suck to have someone say a fairly thoughtless thing like that to me, whether it was meant spitefully or not.
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Oh my god, you’re gorgeous! I would totally love to have your bod, no kidding. When I watched the Target video, I thought, “I had no idea Scary Mommy was so beautiful.” I can’t even believe somebody would perceive you that way. You have absolutely NO reason to feel bad about this comment. It’s total stupidity.
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Love love love your blog and that you are a Target paper doll!! Jealous (because my post baby body could use some new clothes) and joyous (because my post baby body likes to see clothes on normal humans, not tall, thin teenage models).
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Oh, people are such A-wads. And I know it’s hard to focus on the good comments- even if you have a million good comments, that one negative one will stand out. But I’ll chime in and say I’m really impressed by you, and congrats on the Target thing!
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I think you are beautiful! I had no idea what you looked like and when I clicked on your vlog I was honestly refreshed to see that you are not a twig! Rock those size 12′s, mama! You are awesome!!! :)
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A. How is that a confession? (I remember reading that one, not cool!)
B. I am the same size as you, and I don’t think I look nearly as great! Frankly, wearing a dress that length would never happen, my legs are too fat!
C. I wish I had your hair!
D. You look freakin’ awesome, so be proud. Who cares what anyone else thinks? and
E. I don’t see Target picking anybody else for this!
Jealously can be so destructive. I read that comment too and was furious. You are so beautiful and you have been given a wonderful opportunity to a. wear some truly stunning outfits and b. to show mean people like that that beauty doesn’t always mean being a size 4. I am excited for you and I am sorry that others comments can be so hurtful. It baffles me why we can not just respect each other as women and as mothers – why there is a need for people to cut each other down like that. I hope you realize that there are WAY more of us cheering you on than not. :)
Jill, you look so PRETTY in that outfit! Love it! I get nasty comments on my blog too. I had no idea you also did. Why? Your blog is wonderful and I’m looking forward to seeing your work with Target (one of my favorite stores). Congratulations!
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Pardon my french, but f*ck what anyone else says about you or your size. THAT does NOT define you. Shame on them …
You ARE gorgeous. I’ve seen you and spent time with you IRL. You are down to earth and self deprecating. You are THE real thing.
Target should be proud to have chosen you …
This is why we love you! What woman would ever NOT worry about that happening. I mean, if I were in your shoes my computer visits would have had to have been supervised so I wouldn’t type vomit all my insecurities in non-stop updates after the signing of the contract!
You are so brave.
Size twiggy models are also terrified of being too big, for not being enough. And for losing their spark with the camera. You got that spark babe. You got this. xo
Isn’t it funny that one comment can knock the wind out of you? If it’s what you are even remotely thinking, that one person can make it “true.” You’re going to get a flood of comments telling you that you’re wonderful, you’re gorgeous, and you’re pretty.
I won’t tell you any of those things, because you need to know them yourself first!
(but, for the record, I think you look awesome. If those target duds need a home all you need to do is ask! lol)
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I agree with Mom Went Crazy…it is amazing (and not in a good way) how one comment can level us. I totally understand. I am a former size 10, six feet tall, and current size 18. Ugh! Weight is always the topic that can level me, probably because the “tape” in my head about my body is so similar to the vicious comments. Actually, I’m glad you’re not a size 2. I’d have a hard time relating. You make me feel like maybe I can be imperfect and still be awesome too. Love you!
Yes, it is amazing what one comment can do. More amazing? What all of these positive comments can do. I adore you all.
I am a size 6 and had a woman ask when I was due (3 kids in 5 yrs the belly is not perfectly flat) Some people just don’t know when to shut up even if they end up looking like a tactless baffoon over and over. I was always a 0-4 pre kids and I was always jealous of the curves my bigger friends had! You are gorgeous!
Jill,
You are awesome. You are real. You make all of us feel a little more normal. Fuck the haters.
Love you, Scary Mommy!!
I’ve followed your blog for a long time and your humor, hard work and success inspire me all the time. You also look to be GORGEOUS (that’s from your photos, we haven’t met yet IRL) and I am SO envious of you getting a bunch of cool clothes from Target! Not that this helps you, but I am 6 feet tall and curvy – for me, size 12 is where I look REALLY good. Currently I am a 16 – not so good. But working on it. And encouraged by your bravery at admitting your own insecurities. Kudos to you and keep rocking those Tarjay duds!
I am so sorry that someone posted that on your confession site. I think that is very mean and sad. I don’t understand why people are so mean. I think your Target experiment is an excellent opportunity for you and I hope that you ignore that disrespectful comment and focus instead on all the other ones that offer you support and encouragement.
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For the record, I don’t think you’re large. But I get it. That confession would have ruined my day. But I give you a lot of credit for going through with it…I’m a size 14 and I know I wouldn’t be able to do the Target thing with my body-type being put under the microscope. Stay strong. If not for yourself then for those of us with less than perfect bodies.
I cannot for the life of me understand the capacity some have for negativity and tearing other people down….I bet if you were a size zero stick, there would still be haters, cause haters gonna hate.
I saw the video and was thrilled that Target chose someone who represents me and countless women like me!
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Oh my gosh, you are GORGEOUS!!! This is the first time I’ve seen a pic of you and you look fantastic!
And I love the outfit – I am very glad Target wasn’t looking for a size four. Its nice to see someone the same size as me who looks as good as you do. We tend not to have realistic opinions of ourselves and I often think I’m large, so seeing you looking as good as you do makes me think “hold on, a size twelve is great!”.
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I also read that confession and gasped. How many regular moms are a single digit size? Not many. You’re awesome. Youre the reason we can confess anonymously instead of going insane. You are very pretty, and look quite stylish in your outfits. Don’t let that comment get you down. It’s refreshing to see you are a normal Mommy. If you would’ve been a size 4 I would’ve hesitated to visit your site as often as I do. Again, you’re awesome, brilliant and beautiful!
I’m sorry that you had to endure not only that horrible comment, but all the others as well. People say all kinds of nasty stuff when they can hide behind their computers. I’m afraid that is the nature of the “beast” you created. Someone quite hateful posted that because he or she knew it was anonymous.
Keep you head held high!!
I saw that confession too! People are coming to that person’s defense say thing the poster also said you were pretty and that it wasn’t fair for you to omit that. It doesn’t matter! NO ONE would like being told, “you’re pretty for a fat girl.” Don’t let it bug you, Jill. You’re gorgeous. You’re not large, fat, heavy…etc. You’re just right. And I love that your not some stick thin, blonde haired barbie. You’re just like me. You’re just like most women, only better.
You’re right, it did continue to say that. The funny thing is that I totally forgot. The only thing that resonated at all was the word “large.” Pretty telling.
I was actually thinking how great you look. you have a really unique and gorgeous look and your body “videos” so well, i’m jealous. you have an adorable figure.
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I am a size 1 and honestly, even skinny has it’s issues. I have absolutely no chest…can wear shirts out of the boys section and they fit. No butt=not being able to find pants that don’t look awfully saggy in the butt department. I don’t have any eating issues my body just likes to be skinny. I have come to the realization that it doesn’t matter what size you are, as long as you are ok with whatever size that may be. If you are fat and complain all the time then do something but if you can work those curves like nobodies business then work them. Being happy is the most important (sorry for the awful cliche but it’s so true!). I am skinny but obviously am still working on loving the parts I deem (too skinny) so whatever you gorgeous lady!
I just spend an hour of my rarely free time creating looks for you. It is so easy because it is something I would wear and I know you will look great in! Thank you for doing this Target gig. So refreshing to be able to look at clothes and think: I like it, she likes it, lets buy it.
I just don’t feel that way when I see Kate Moss.
Also, learn to accept compliments. You have and will continue to receive many. For a reason!!
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Oh Jill. I remember reading that comment and wanting to punch the bitch who wrote that through the computer. I remember a bunch of people calling her out for it too. Seriously? Fuck her. You are gorgeous. I know everyone here has said basically the same thing and I really, really hope you take it to heart. You are not huge. You are not large. You are a beautiful and smart woman who unfortunately had ONE freggin IDIOT make one jackass comment that happened to strike deep. Like I said earlier, fuck her. We’re all on your side and we all think you’re lovely.
I think you’re pretty. I only wish I was as small as you are. I’m glad Target saw you as the wonderful and beautiful person you are.
I think you are beautiful! The only picture I had inmy mind about you from reading your AWESOME blog was that you had blond or red hair. LOL.. I have no idea why though! Anyway, I’m a mother of 4 with about 40 lbs to loose. Chez Target is lucky to have you!!
I got all choked up when I read this.. It’s not easy being self concious. Having children changes your life in so many ways, all your spare time is no longer spare, you go from never using a calender, to completely relying on one, you give up your body for your little blessings, and sometimes you give up your healthy mental state.
I think a size 12 is small, that was my size before I had my son (AU sizing) I had a nice body! Now I have a baby belly that will never go away, no matter how much exercise I do.
Scary Mommy is beautiful, end of story. Haters be gone!
Your most real post to date. I am proud of you.
xo
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this email came in literally seconds after yours :)
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I think you look absolutely gorgeous!!! All the haters can just eat your dust, because they’re jealous of a very beautiful and successful woman.
You are one beautifull lady and let no one tell you otherwise!
Size 12 is not big! I’m currently rocking my 18s. It’s not about what size you are, it’s about loving yourself. And you? Totally should! I love you, your site, your Twitter feed and I think you are an amazing beautiful woman! Don’t feel self conscious because you are a real woman with curves and not an anorexic stick. Our society has absolutely insane ideals for what a woman “should” look like. Keep doing what you do and show yourself some love!
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Jill, you have what that commentator is sadly lacking: wit, talent and compassion. Plus you look absolutely lovely.
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I am also a size 10-12! I have always been self conscious! I am so sorry you had to hear that, people are brutal! Not all of us gained two lbs when we were pregnant and were able to starve it off again! Being a mommy changes our bodies but look what we have gained for those changes! We are women! We are able to make human beings! That is amazing! We can do that with our bodies!
OK I was really stunned when I read this article. For two reasons. Firstly, why oh why would someone be so nasty? (after reading the other comments, I think the ones who said jealousy got it right). And secondly, it never occurred to me that as a blogger, we would be criticised personally. Criticise how we write, if you don’t like it, or our content, even our opinion, but what has how we look got to do with anything?
Your reader and commentator had absolutely no right to say what he/she did. To make you feel like that. I can understand exactly why it hurt so much, it wasn’t just a thoughtless comment, someone actually took the time to write it down.
In reality it’s a reflection of society (in general the media) and that one nasty person. In doing this campaign you have done something to be very proud of, you’ve shown the world that a normal, healthy size is beautiful. You have stood up for me and the other normal mummy’s here. So thank you.
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Wow! Just when I thought I could’nt possibly adore you anymore then I already do … You are truly an amazing woman, who brings so much joy to some many of us. Thank You. And thank you for this post. There are so many woman, including myself who share the same insecurities and I’m beyond sick of woman tearing down other woman. Whoever made that remark obviously didn’t have the balls to let their name be known so FUCK ‘UM!!! You are Beautiful, just the way you are ;)
I just love that you are doing this campaign. You look amazing. I mean, REALLY. Amazing. Thanks for representing the double digits. *fist pump*
I think you look lovely.
I am a UK size 18 (not sure what the US equivilant is)
I get called fat all the time and I try to not let it bother me. I buy clothes that flatter my shape and I’m very conscious of what I wear. I absolutely hate my arms and my tummy so I make every effort to shield them from view.
Recently my work colleague told me that another collegue had told her that whilst at work one day, I went to KFC for my lunch and brought back a bargain bucket and stuffed my face. They went on to say that I’m a pig and that’s why I’m such a fattie.
Normally I can let stuff like that slide (pathetic losers) but this time I can’t. It’s hurtful and I’ve cried several times over the last 4 days.
I don’t even want to come to work anymore.
Reading this and seeing how fantastic you look has made me realise that I too can look fantastic. I feel slightly better now. Thank you.
You truly are a beautiful person.
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Perhaps you could take a bargain bucket from KFC to work and tip it over their head?
Some people really deserve a comeuppance!!
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When I read the hurtful things people have said, my jaw dropped. Where do people think they have the right to be so hateful to another human being? And I’ll bet it was anonymous comment too. Hugs to you. You are a smart and beautiful woman – don’t let “them” tell you any different.
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I think it is simply a reflection of flaws in these thoughtless people’s personalities that they actually think it is OK to insult another person. I always think there must be something missing in these people’s lives to be so mean to others. They maybe have been treated badly themselves so think it’s normal to act that way. Or maybe they’re just cowards who hide behind their ambiguous username. Whatever the reason I pity them because it is they who will be eaten up by guilt for saying these mean things and it is they who are the bitches of our society!
Luckily however I am not one of them and I also genuinely think you look lovely and it does not matter what your measurements are. Why should it? Perfection is imperfection and believe me I have plenty of them. Everyone does unless they’re made of plastic and called Barbie but even she has way too much hair and no nipples! Ha! Warmth and love and humour come across in your face and that is what makes you beautiful!
You are gorgeous! I would kill to have legs like that – congrats on the Target deal :-)
I find it so sad that such an unhappy, ignorant person could cause you to have such doubts about yourself. You are a beautiful, real woman and it is this body that you carry that comforts your children, takes care of your family, loves your husband. Be confident in who you are – when I look at the Target Fashion Experiment, I see an inspiration.
For Pete’s sake, you’re gorgeous! Forget the goobers who want cookie cutter beauty!
You are a beauty! Don’t be swayed by the thin is beautiful nonsense. You are curvy and magnificent, the way a woman should look. We are soft and squishy and that is how we are meant to be! As a bisexual woman, let me reassure you that I would totally do you (were I not happily settled) and that I am supremely jealous of your ample bosom. So there. Plus, your hair is amazing. And you are witty, intelligent and from what I have gathered a GREAT mum and wife.
I love that they picked you, that you wrote this and that u are a size 12 like me. You are gorgeous!!!!!!!! And real and a woman in all the wonderful ways that count. Wow!!!
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I think you look amazing. Inside and out.<3
Hiya Scary Mummy,
I’m pleased that I got the opportunity to read your story. Because it gives us a chance to talk about how wrong it is to say that you are ‘big’ (whatever that means). You are *not* ‘big’. You are a very attractive woman who clearly has a warmth about her that’s worth knowing. It’s important to remember that you are not the size of your bottom. You are SCARY MUMMY! And that’s fabulous!
Are you kidding me? You are so gorgeous. I love what Target said to you…”These are perfect.”
xoxo
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Psh, that commenter was clearly suffering from a lack of chocolate. We should all feel very sorry for whomever it was, as they are sitting in the corner of a restaurant at this very moment, licking a chunk of tofu and staring enviously at the diner next to them who is about to take the last bite of her tiramisu.
Not that I have anything against tofu.
And your legs are killer.
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Fabulous post. Can’t wait to meet you in person at BBC Boston this weekend! Thanks for your honest writing and for putting yourself out there. Yay, you!
Jill, I am so appalled that people would say anything like that to you – as you well know, comments like that reflect *only* on them, but I’m sure they must still sting. For the record, when I saw your Target video, my initial thoughts were a) that you are even cuter than you look in your blog pix, and b) that you have a fantastic, sexy voice (seriously, you could do voiceovers or something). The haters can go suck it – you have many, many fans here!
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Wow…that’s a horrible thing to say. People are ridiculous.
I love this new campaign with Target and even put together (what I thought was) a great new look for you! I’d love to be involved with something like this and you are such an inspiration for getting out there and doing it…insecurities or not!
Bravo to you!!! Your are a REAL role model of beauty for young women.
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Why does it always seem like the haters of a blog keep coming back to leave hateful comments. They need to get a life…seriously.
But on to what matters…you. You look great in the target outfit. I must admit that I had a low or no opinion about Target clothes until I was pregnant with my third child. I needed new maternity clothes because I had worn out sets #1 and #2…ooops I guess maternity clothes are not supposed to become everyday clothes. I was amazed at all the Liz Lange range. I was able to buy a set of maternity clothes that I then retired as soon as possible after #3 was born.
I modeled wedding gowns at a 12 – and was really shocked when a bridal store owner saw me and screamed, “Thank God! I told them to find bigger girls! Not that you’re big, sweetie, but I need a 12. And I need tall so my dress doesn’t drag on the damn floor!”
Not the reaction I was expecting! I seriously thought they would look at me, smirk, and send me home for being too fat.
12 is awesome – and your legs are awesome! Daym! :)
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I think you are lovely.
I am thrilled for this opportunity for you Jill!
I dislike whoever left that.
Intense dislike.
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This might be one of my favorite campaigns ever.
One of the reasons that I shop at Target is because I’m a woman with curves and muscles and I can find clothes that will fit me and I can still look good! I don’t have to be a paper doll or a barbie doll or a stick.
Jill, you know I love you girl. Rock on.
I am sad someone said that. I know I would be so upset. I think you are gorgeous and I applaud you for having the courage to do this awesome campaign. It is awesome to work with Target, but I totally get being nervous about being a paper doll. I love that they are cool with us as women and not stick figures!
Good luck beautiful!
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you’re great. i’m a size 16, so you’re basically kate moss to me ;-)
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Are you kidding? That is SO mean! You are beautiful, and whoever said that is obviously just jealous! You are a real woman, not an anorexic supermodel, who has had children, and we are ALL beautiful.
I’m not gonna kiss assing you and tell what a great, smart woman you are and that your curly hair is a thing that even Barbie would kill for it.
On the other hand, I do wanna remind you that losing 15 or 20 pounds will not dramatically change your life. You know that. It could even affect your writting at the beginning! ( Your brain will crave sugar and therefore you ll be even bitchier- but that might be a twisted way to actually increase traffic :) ).
Even if I want to use words that starts with ” F” to adress to those people who picked on your weight, I know that it s useless. As soon as you dropp, they will pick on something else.
So no, don’t binge of sadness, cut some slices of apple and dipp them into PB and write some stuff !
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So fun! And I know I must be the world’s last person to NOT have a FB account… but I tried to enter the contest and picked out a rocking outfit for your gorgeous self to wear… but it won’t let me submit cause I am not on FB! I should get $25 Target card just b/c Target and FB created a conspiracy against me this morning!
Have fun!!!
New requirement: whenever you mention your flabby arms, you must mention your fantastic barbie doll legs to cancel it out : )
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Only people who are miserable with themselves feel the need to tear others down to what they feel is their level. In reality? You’re lovely!
Also, sadly, in our society we tend to equate success with thinness. That’s what success ‘looks’ like. You’re a tremendously successful blogger and yet – Gasp! – you look perfectly normal. Maybe the commenter(s) have been using their own physical flaws as an excuse for not being as successful as, for instance, YOU! You gave them a healthy dose of reality and they couldn’t handle it.
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and that’s why so many people love you, because you’re real just like us.
I too thought the confession meant ‘large’ as in well known or successful!! I think our own insecurities force us to automatically assume the worst, but that’s not always the case. Nevertheless, you shouldn’t allow people to make you feel bad about yourself. I know it’s easier said than done. You are AWESOME! You are also VERY beautiful! I’m sure anyone who frequents Scarymommy would agree with me.
Jill,
You are a beautiful REAL person and it is about time that stores use REAL people in their ads. I have lop-sided boobs and a flabby stomach and I want to look good to in sizes that fit me. Thank you for putting yourself out there so that the world can see how beautiful a REAL woman is.
Oh and Thank you to Target for seeing this REAL beauty!
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people are always gonna have something negative to say. you are absolutely beautiful. You have some of the best legs I’ve ever seen! Keep up all the hard work and just ignore them. You are fabulous and keep tons of mommy’s completely sane.
Oh baby girl! You are beautiful! AND, I will have you know, you are smaller than me! HA!
F whomever it was that had to be so stupid! That’s a horrible thing to say!
I’m willing to bet that whomever said that is *at least* your size, if not larger, and had to make themselves feel better by putting you down. They are just jealous that they don’t have a brilliant blog, beautiful family and didn’t get picked to be the fabulous Target experiment!
And Kudos to Target for picking a REAL WOMAN, instead of the emaciated waifs they normally pick!
YOU. ROCK. MY. FACE. *OFF*!!!
xoxo
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Pay no mind to them Jill! I would kill to look like you! I am not just saying it to make you feel better either, I honestly think you are the perfect size. Not too big and not too small. If you lost weight you would prob look anorexic, seriously!
Don’t give that comment, or the person who made it, a second thought! As you said, you are a REAL woman. I bet that the person who posted those horrible words are either not a mom (hence don’t understand the post-baby body image struggle) or they are freakishly small naturally and don’t understand that the majority of us don’t have that luxury. You put your time and energy into what is important-your family, friends, and passions and nothing else matters! You have a wonderful opportunity with Target and many of us mommies are so jealous! : )
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Honestly, when I first saw your pictures and vlog, I was taken aback. And relieved. But mostly thankful that you’re a REAL PERSON! The words “oh my god, she looks like me!” quickly left my lips. I’m 40-years old, 5’2″, 38-30-39, size 12-14 and have kinky-curly crazy red hair as well as a pooch from 2 pregnancies that just won’t. Go. Away. So thank you Jill for being yourself and proudly representing us moms realistically. Cheers!
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I am not a size 4 either! I really feel like a fish out of water most of the time. My mom is tiny, my sister (she just had her 5th child) is tiny, and my brother’s wife (she has 3 kids, two are twins) is tiny. I don’t like my weight, but I try not to be so hard on myself. As long as this body will allow me to raise my children and be there with them when they have their own children, I am just fine with it!
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You are absolutely adorable!! Honestly, you have the body I aspire to–gorgeous curves, healthy strength, and a happy glow. Keep that confident smile and delete those deluded comments! BTW, love, love, love your blog, too!
Kudos to you, Jill, for realizing that you are a real live person, and that moms come in all sizes (I’m about a size 16 at the moment)! I’m glad that you had this opportunity with Target! :O)
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You ARE awesome and you totally deserve this and you are beautiful and not at all “large” in the bad sense of the word.
(And yay for hubby’s trying to make us feel better!)
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You’re gorgeous and awesome and people are mean. I wish we didn’t live in the land of extremes – anorexic models and 400 lb women – but we do and we should all fight against it. I think what you’re doing is great. You are normal, I am normal, let’s get America back to normal.
I’m sooooo excited to be back to work today because now I’m on the computer and can play “dress-up-scary-mommy” you know cause that’s what work hours are for :-)
Dang it, is this on FB? I can’t get to FB on my work computer. What the hell am I supposed to do all day now?!
I think you look gorgeous!!! I applaud you for putting yourself and your feelings out there. You are not alone. :)
You’re real. You look awesome.
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You are freaking awesome! Congratulations on the Target gig, you are the perfect model for them AND for us!
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That person who called you large is just plain MEAN! Geez! You are beautiful, Awesome and REAL! I’m five foot and wear a 12/14 and my ass is huge! and you know what…..I LOVE ME! and I love you for doing this!
You are beautiful, inside and out! Don’t let anyone tell you differently!
Jill,
I have gained and lost enough weight over the years to make a whole nother person. Actually, probably 6 other people. I am the poster child for body issues. How ironic that we who are so confident in our professional lives, in our roles as wives and mothers, are so frighteningly unconfident about our appearance. I read a news story today that said doctors have just discovered that fat that is removed by liposuction comes back in other places on your body within a year. No duh. I tell my teenage daughter all the time that as Lady Gaga says, God makes so mistakes… we are all beautiful the way we are. If you had told me I would ever be quoting Lady Gaga for parenting advise, I would have coughed up a cow.
Anyway, this is my long-winded way of saying you rock! I think you are gorgeous… your words inspire me and your smile brightens my day. Hope you have fun with this!!
Tracy
Adorable! I love the picture and think you are the bravest woman in the world. Oh, yeah, and you write a pretty cool blog too…
I think the person who said “I didn’t know Scary mommy was so large” really meant, “big” like famous…. big enough for Target to approach for marketing. There is no way she was referring to your size… I think your adorable. We all have spots we are insecure about, but I would say most women can relate to a size 12, way more than a 4. Anyway you look great, knock em’ dead!
I think you look FABULOUS!!!!! And I love ur site because it’s the uncut truth and it makes me feel like I am not crazy. Lol!
Excuse Me? but you look like every woman I know & care about. I wish I was a size 12-14 but I’m a size 26…..yeah that’s right I posted it right here to tell you that no matter what your “size” says if you feel comfortable within yourself then that’s half the battle. I come from a Mom/Grandmother that are petite & both a size 6,which is hard on my body image. Last Sunday was the first time I had my photo taken & wasn’t ashamed of my size so forge on & let others know that you are beautiful.
Yeah, I’m right there with you. I need to lose around 120 lbs. to get down around what would be “normal” healthy. I’ve started doing self portraits on my blog because I hate that I hate pictures of myself.
Scary Mommy, you are honest and bold and perfect as you are. It’s a sad commentary on the state of our culture that a beautiful healthy 12 is considered large. We are so scammed by the ad industry and we don’t even realize it.
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Size is only a number, and I personally think you are Mom Sexy as hell! You are gorgeous, and funny, and real, and such an inspiration for all of us…don’t forget that!! I think this experiment is just the coolest thing ever.
And I’ll totally kick the ass of whoever wrote that confession. That person wouldn’t know Mom Sexy if it hit them in the face.
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Some people just have no respect. They think that the fact that you have put yourself out there makes you a target for any thoughtless rants they want to hurdle at you under the guise of anonymity. It is shameful and cowardly.
It takes a lot of courage to do what you do and to share your life (the ups and the downs) with virtual strangers. Know that it is much appreciated by the vast majority of us for there aren’t enough people like you who are willing to be honest about motherhood. You have a loyal following of people that greatly respect and admire you. Don’t let one rude confession shake you up.
This Target project will be a lot of fun! Enjoy it.
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Large…says the person hiding behind their computer who is small, as in weak and insignificant. Small minded and obviously has no idea what beauty looks like. I think you are beautiful, and hip and most of all – full of the awesome.
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Honey. If you are large then I am ginormous. I am twice your size. Be who you are and love it. You are awesome and I know I don’t comment very often but know that I think you rock and you are beautiful and a great mom and wife. Who gives a crap what people think?? Target didn’t care! What an awesome opportunity!
Whoever said you were large is out of their damn mind.
Congratulations on being able to take part in such a great opportunity!
What a great campaign. I’m so jealous. I would love to be a paper doll for someone. I’d like that even more than having my house made over by Nate Berkus or someone. I think the picture looks wonderful and I’m sorry someone made you feel bad about it. I did the same thing, I posted a picture of an outfit I thought was so cute, and some troll dissed it. I’ve never worn that outfit again, and I don’t think I’ve ever posted a picture of my clothes on my blog again. Sad how one person can have such an impact on us.
Jill, I’m a size 2. Sometimes, a 0, depending on the store. People tell me how lucky I am. But I have no hips. My ass can hold a pencil underneath the flabs (yes, really- I tried it). My boobs are so non-existant that they look like a pair of fried eggs. I like my arms, and my calves are okay. But my stomach has multiple layers of flabby skin as a result of my two babies and the 50+ pounds I gained when I had them (both times). And people tell me how lucky I am? That’s because they haven’t seen my naked.
You are such a beautiful woman. You have curves that I envy. Your hair is fabulous. You are fabulous. Small or large, 2 or 12, what is important is how you feel about yourself. To hell with the critics and all the nasty comments. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I think you are beautiful and real. What is more awesome than that? All your photos have come out gorgeous.
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This is just further proof that people suck. I am currently pregnant and a size 22. THAT is large. I plan to take up a meth habit when the baby’s out. Who needs teeth?
As for Target, I’ll sing their praises when they stop filling their “plus size” section with clearance items for skinny chicks.
Seriously, back in the day, size 12 was considered perfect! So just pretend it’s 1950. Honestly, I’m happy seeing a real live person who looks NORMAL modeling clothing. And you do look great, so tell that person to go suck it — and keep modeling for us :)
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You radiate, Jill.
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As I read ALL THE COMMENTS from people who love you it makes me wonder….do you ever get bored? ha ha ha
Here’s my $.02 –
You are at times, quite literally, the ONLY thing that gets me through the day. Thinking to myself, “What would Jill do?”
I was down, WAY WAY down, and I found your blog – it was a beacon in the fog for me. It was the path that led me back to my family, to the life that I meant to be living.
You are my hero of parenting, motherhood, blogging and now – Fashion. You are everything I hope someday to be!!! You are fabulous.
I thank my lucky stars for the gift of you.
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Bored reading comments like these? Are you freaking kidding me? I want to frame my full-length mirror in them. Come to think of it, maybe I will. :)
No need to let that one MEAN-spirited person bring you down. You are GORGEOUS!! I love your blog. I love your confession site. I love your tweets. Sometimes people just SAY things to make other people feel bad because they are a-holes. :( It’s sad, but true. I am glad you are not a size 4. By being a size 12, it puts you in the NORMAL range with the AVERAGE mommies that read your blog. In fact…I WISH I was a size 12. I am shooting to be a size 12 by this summer. But you know what…If it doesn’t happen…I am a pretty happy size 16 that used to be a size 22 who doesn’t even remember EVER weighing less than 200 pounds in my adult life and now I am 195!!!
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Just adding my voice to the chorus. That person was an a-hole. I think you look beautiful – and hell, unless that person’s willing to put herself out there every. day. like you do, she should shut the heck up.
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I’m just floored that someone would say that. Floored. You are so beautiful. And hello. I would be fucking ecstatic to squeeze into a size 12. SIGH. Loving Target even more now.
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You look fabulous! I don’t even bother trying on belts…
You really are beautiful, lady.
Believe it.
and now my kid is screaming that he pooped…or I’d say more.
xoxo
I don’t know you like some of the women on here who you have conversed with and have met a few times (I’ve only recently started following your blog), but I think you rock ! This is the first picture I have seen of you, and I think you are ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS ! You look like I imagined you would. Fun, flirty and full of life ! Let your light shine bright honey, and don’t let anyone dampen your spirit !
Dont believe a word of it! That person was just being a mean jerk, I think you & your size 12 body are beautiful.
I’ve always had issues with my size 12-13 body, frowy curly hair and wide back but knowing I’m not alone in being im-’perfect’ has made me a little more comfortable in my skin. BTW, I love the look you’re sporting in this photo!
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Wait – size 10 is considered “Large”? And here I thought that when I could squeeze into a 10 I was hot stuff. Hunh. Oh well – size 10 and 12 for me feels pretty good. Luckily – I also wear a size “L” from Tar-jay so I’m taking the comment to mean shirt size!
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I hate how our standards of beauty say anyone over a size 8 is “large”; wearing double digits in women’s sizes is the equivalent of kicking puppies, I guess. I love you for your outspokenness, your wit and your attitude. You are not “large”. And even if you were, does it matter? Thank you for all you do, Scary Mommy. And a big STFU for those who are so shallow they judge on appearance alone.
What a mean spirited thing to say. You are absolutely gorgeous and I loved the video.
Trolls are trolls are trolls. I guarantee the person who wrote that is at least twice your size. But you know what, that’s never even a thought you or any kind person would ever have about another woman. So let her anonymously attack you while the rest of us publicly ADORE you for being the kiss-ass wife, mother and woman that you are. I’m so excited to read about this project since basically all my clothes come from Target lately too!
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Nice post, Jackie! I agree! I would never consider a 12 “large”! TRY to let it get outta your head, Jill! You are a beautiful, real-life woman!
Mean people suck and you are beautiful. That is all. :)
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Wow. You look fabulous. I, myself, am between a 14 & a 16 right now, and I have learned to love every single jiggle. Well, maybe not love, but I definitely don’t hate. When I look at you, I don’t think large, I think normal. Screw the haters. It takes a truly self-conscious person to put down someone else’s appearance.
Kudos to Target for not being narrow minded & size-ist.
p.s. The first thing I noticed when I looked at your picture…Great legs!
hey – your millionth commenter telling you that you’re gorgeous exactly the way you are will change nothing, but – well: you ARE. It takes guts to admit these feelings, and you did it in such a real way.
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People are assholes.
And I guarantee you the person who wrote that comment has six cats, no kids, a trailer and 50+ pounds to lose.
And now I’m an asshole too.
Keep working it my lady, you’re goygeous!
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A big, huge, I mean LARGE, thank you to every single one of you. I don’t even think the comment was meant to be mean spirited– it was an anonymous confession– it’s more about how I took it. It’s the one area that can really get under my skin. Thank you all for building me back up. XOXO
What a great idea, I loved it!
Well, you´re not a size 4, but, let´s be honest: after 3 kids only Victoria Beckham manages to be so skinny (I´ve read she´s a 00). And she´s always so grumpy on pictures…maybe because she doen´t eat at all!
Target chose you because you´re a great blogger, with a sharp sense of humor, and also a pretty woman. A real one!
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You are – and you’ve always been and will continue to be – gorgeous and stunning and amazing. That person is vindictive and most probably jealous. We don’t need negative people like that in the world.
I *am* a 4 and I am still self-conscious about my lopsided (almost non-existent) boobs, wrinkly belly, and legs that will never be long nor lean. There are tons of clothes that look horrible on me, and I WISH I looked like you in that outfit above. It’s a really hard lesson (that I’m still trying to learn), but we just have to be comfortable with ourselves– in bodies that others would love to have.
It’s a shame that the realative anonymity of the Internet let’s some people feel safe in being mean for the sake of being mean. Jealousy is ugly on anyone. Too bad that person decided to make themself look so ugly. I think you are beautiful, inside and out. I’m thrilled to see you dressed in all these cute outfits and giving me some shopping and style ideas.
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Jill–we are all way too hard on ourselves and even harder on other people sometimes. You are gorgeous, talented, successful, and . . . NOT LARGE at ALL!!!!!!!!!!!! LOVE the pictures from the shoot. I’m in the airport and don’t want to annoy people with the sound, but I can’t wait to watch the vlog at home. PS. Went to the North End of Boston for the first time ever last night. HEAVEN!!!!
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OMG I would kill to be your size. When I saw saw you I was so happy you weren’t a size 4. I was like thank god she isn’t one of those moms who is successful, has a great family, is a good wife, AND is a size four because she has a high metabolism. I would have had to jump off a bridge :p I think you are absolutely stunning and am very jealous of your success at the moment (grumble grumble). You are perfect in every way.
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Jill, I want to give you a hug. You are a size 12…you are the normal size of all American women. You’ve birthed children and lived life in that body. You are an amazing lady and a beautiful lady.
I do however understand the trepidation that is brought about by having to give your “measurements”, I had to do it for the Nutrisystem opportunity and I nearly died of embarrassment. But then ,if I were a size 4 like i used to be, I wouldn’t have needed or been eligible for the opportunity.
I’d like to kick the person who called you “so large” in the teeth. They are assholes in my book. They knew YOU would see the confession.Everybody knows that you are amazing…look at it this way, you aren’t a size for because I an effing size four couldn’t contain all that awesomeness that is you. *HUGS* You rock the hell outta that Target. You’ve made me fall in love with Target all over again.
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Kudos to Target for picking a REAL mom, who represents the majority and not a picture perfect air-brushed model, who none of us could look like if we spent 24/7 working on it. And yeah, my boobs are lopsided, too. :)
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I don’t know you but I think I would love you if I met you!! You sound like an amazing person and your blog is anything but lame! You make me laugh out loud daily and it’s gotten to the point that I look forward to reading your posts every morning!! The ones who dog you are simply jealous!! You go girl!!
First thing- I read your blog, not because you are shocking but because you make me feel normal! Things that I am embarrased that I have thought, doubts that I have had, you have written and put out there. And for that, I thank you!
Second- You are the size of Marilyn Monroe! And she rocked her size 12s! The people that are important to you in your life dont give a crap what size your pants are and they are the only ones whos thoughts should count.
Unfortunately, there will always be those who find joy in bringing down others. You are a beautiful woman! Curves aren’t a bad thing in my opinion and thanks to Target, you have a fabulous opportunity to dress them well! Hold your head high, “Scary” you are not.
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sweet jesus you are not fat…pay them no mind they are just jealous because you are happy and doing your thing—they want to crush that.
and of course their comments are supposed to get to you because you are human with feelings, but what you do with those feelings afterwards makes you a stellar person.
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Beautiful comes in many sizes. I’ve had to convince myself of that, too, as I have come to terms with being 40 lbs heavier post-kids than I started out. 40 lbs. Ugh!
Jill, you are beautiful inside and out. And that’s my sap for the day. :)
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I’m with your hubbie – I think this person is jealous and didn’t realize “Scary Mommy” blogger was so HUGE!!! Congrats hon!!
You are gorgeous!!!! And I love your hair!
Um…. Big IS beautiful!
Marilyn Monroe was a size 12.
You are a hotsy totsy! Completely, totally hot!
Whoever said that to you is nuts and obviously doesn’t live in the real world. I’m glad you are not a size 2, because I wouldn’t be able to relate to you if you were! I’m currently a size 14 and have been since I had my son last year. I’m working on losing weight, but I know I’ll never be a size 2. It’s just not part of my DNA. And you know what? I wouldn’t want to be a size 2 anyway. My goal is a size 8 and that’s well within my reach. I’m sorry you were hurt by some lame person, because you are AWE to the SOME!! Target picked you because you’re a REAL mom who is beautiful on the outside as well as inside!!! :-)
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And that’s just another reason why we all love you, babe :)
x
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Women are evil. This world would be a different place if women weren’t so catty and ridiculous towards each other. Don’t let it phase you… you are beautiful no matter what the number is on the label.
I am you…or you are me…minus the husband part…cuz mine left…but all the rest is me…lol…Ive big shoulders and can take criticism and put it in its place most times…but the things that always stay, are the hurtful appearance comments so, I get you sister! Ive recently gone back to my “healthy Lifestyle” A-G-A-I-N!!! and am trying to lose my last 15lbs to be comfortable in my own body…hmph… But its a cruel world for some reason, and Ive to remind myself daily( and some days hourly)…”I am who I am and I try my best with what I have and know and thats all I can do today, tomorrow is a new day” a little mantra to keep me light hearted and well a friend of mine shared this with me today and frankly if everyone woke up as happy and pleasant as this guy in the morning we’d all wanna kill ourselves (you must give it a watch to understand…enjoy)…lol http://youtu.be/5L1tr0PIx20
:) Shawna Maxam
This is (believe it or not) the first blog I’ve ever read….and…I love it! Sounds to me like you are just a real person. In this day of super tiny, super perfect model types, it’s refreshing to hear from someone just like me! Lopsided boobs, flabby tummy and all. We’re not all the size that society seems to think is perfect. I think that if we all strive to be the best person – not size, we can be, this old world will be a much nicer place to live. Thank you for making me feel ok.
What?!? People can suck sometimes. You look wonderful! I told my husband that I wish I could swing some of those looks. Scary Mommy you are Scary BEAUTIFUL and don’t let anyone make you second guess that!
I guess we all have pre-conceived notions although, I think that may have been a little unfair – confessional or not. Personally, I think you’re a very good representation of ‘mom’ and Target hit the nail on the head with you. Besides, ‘typical mom’ doesn’t mean not hot, trust me!
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Jill you are amazing! That is why Target chose you. You are a real woman sharing her real life. And we love your for that!
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How ridiculous! You look fabulous!
you are beautiful. truly! & ive seen you in real life too (Blogher last year) — People can be so insensitive & i am sorry! You are beautiful.
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When I first read your post- I had the SAME thought Jeff had, that the person didn’t realize how popular you were. But I can totally see how you read it as well.
I for one think you are fucking gorgeous and I LOVE that you are doing this!!!
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You are real and honest and that is why people relate to you and love you. Those other idiots are either jealous or so insecure themselves they need to make other people feel bad about themselves.
Its all about attitude anyway! I think you are beautiful, I also think anyone can come across sexy with the right attitude and confidence! No matter the size!
You are an inspiration for putting yourself out there.
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You’ve earned size 12….me too! Without our saggy, lopsided boobs, extra squishy tummies, and tiger scratches we wouldn’t have the title MOM. You’re beautiful, and this is such a wonderful opportunity for you to spread confidence to other women & young girls that size doesn’t matter & beauty isn’t on the cover of any magazine…it’s @ Target!
I saw this on people.com last night and thought, “wait a minute……is that Jill?”
You look amazing. Just amazing. I want your hair. Bad.
And I’m glad you’re not a size 4. I think it wouldn’t match your face, your hair or your personalty. Make sense?
You look amazing! I want that outfit, like now. Like I’m going to go brush my teeth and change out of my ratty pajamas and get my butt to Target. So I suppose you’ve done your model-job in selling Target clothes–success!
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Jill,
I also think you are great! I love your blog, and It is what has helped me keep some sanity in my life. I was having a really rough time being a mommy when I found your blog. (3 stepsons whom i love dearly. We moved into the same town so we could be closer to them. I went from being a weekend mommy to full-time, 2 kids in school and 2 at home mommy. It was challenging for all of us!) I still read because it is so incredibly nice to know I’m not alone in how I’m feeling, both the good and the bad, and that other mommies have some of the same experiences as me.
I am also not a single digit clothing wearer. I’m afraid I’ve forgotten
exactly what size I am as Baby is due middle of next month. But I
do know it was bigger than 12. I was at least a 14-16. It’s nice to see/hear other mommies say that they are not single digit people, either! :)
Wow….my very first thought was (honest)
I didn’t know Scary Mommy was so pretty.
Period.
I saw your picture first – before I read your blog – and seriously, that was my first thought.
Second thought -no wonder Target chose you.
You look great no matter what anyone says, Look at all these comments above mine, you are loved! The rest of them, well there is a special place for people like that, but I won’t cuss on your blog :) I just found your blog and all I can say is I am a fan already, the rest do not know what they are missing.
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PS: WTF!? You are not big!
I don’t care what size you wear, Jill…but I LOVE that Scary Mommy is so large, meaning so stinkin successful! Go get em, girl!! You look great!
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I’m also a size 12 (after losing 40 pounds) and looking at that picture, I would KILL for your legs.
You look awesome! I shop and wear lots of Target. Seeing how great you look makes me want to go there right now but I’m waiting for Obama to tell us that Osama is dead!
They say it takes 10 good things to be said about us to erase the one bad. I think you are way ahead. You are one real women. Judge not lest you yourself be judged. Anybody here ever NOT have to lay on the bed to zip up your jeans? Takes gumption to do this no matter what your size. It’s about being real. You go woman!
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You are beautiful.
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You look amazing! What an awesome opportunity for you. I am so glad you’re able to let most of the negative stuff roll off of you because we need people like you who tell it like it is and be somewhat irrelevant sometimes. Keep on keeping on!
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I saw that on the Confessions and my eyeballs nearly fell out of my head! Are they crazy??? Sweetheart, you’re smaller than the national average, and that’s something I can’t say anymore. I’d rather see how the clothes look on a real woman than some stick figure model. You are absolutely BEAUTIFUL and more importantly, you are you!
Seriously, Jill? You need to add a dislike button to the confessions. There’s a lot of stuff people say on there that are just wrong.
Oh. And I rather believe the person who said that is probably very large herself. She probably has a skewed idea of what women look like due to media and the like and sees anyone bigger than a size 0 as too big. I’m willing to bet it’s because of her own poor self image.
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I think this Target campaign is awesome and that is why real woman flock to targets in droves!
Oh I totally didn’t even notice your body, except to think that your clothes looked good because I was totally obsessed with your hair. I have curly hair too and I was thinking would it be too weird if I asked what hair products she uses to make it look so good!
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I’m a size 2, I used to be an 8. I’m not any happier now than I was then. In fact, I might be less happy because I still feel fat, still try to lose weight, and feel guilty about overeating. Kudos to you for being happy and proud of who you are.
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You are adorable! Don’t listen to those negative comments from ignorant people. I love all the clothes and want to go to Target and get some for myself! I’ve been sick with a bad cold for a couple of days, so I’ve spent quite a few hours putting outfits together-it’s been fun! I’m not a size 4 either and yay for REAL women who can feel comfortable and look great in cute clothes! You go girl and have fun:)
This experiment is SO COOL! And you are beautiful! It is so awesome that you accepted the opportunity! Putting yourself out there, despite your fears or anxiety. That is when truly amazing things can happen! Your honesty is inspiring! I hope you are letting the negativity roll off and having fun with it!
Jill, this is such a cool opportunity and I’ve already gone and created a few looks for you for this month! As for people pondering your size-f#&$ ‘em. Seriously! Do not let this bother you!
You are a real woman. You are a real size. And as a gal who wears size 12 to sometimes, gasp!, 14 myself (and I deign to call myself Glam-O-Mommy LOL), I think you rock!
12 is NORMAL people. I know the fashion industry calls it “plus size,” but whatever. 12 is NORMAL.
Can’t wait to see what you get to wear this month!!
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The bravery it takes for anyone (other than a professional model) to do what you are doing with Target is bigger than the word “big”. It is special, important, fun for those of us watching. All of us with Muffin Tops, mis-matched droopy boobs (uh, thanks kids), and back fat that appeared somewhere between “yeah baby let’s get nekkid” and “OH MY GOD I’M IN LABOR!!!” applaud you.
You are putting yourself out there to be judged by the masses, which takes incredible guts. I’m guessing that anyone who comments negatively on your figure isn’t happy with their own. So please, when you feel their bite just send some self-acceptance their way and wish them the best.
Because you already have the best, and most of us can see it clear as day.
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(a) Congrats! What an awesome opportunity. Make the most of it.
(b) People only say hurtful things because they are jealous. You are crushing it with your blog, and they just wish they had that kind of success and attention. Some people don’t want anyone else to ever succeed, so then they can feel better about themselves. But that’s just insane and silly. Forget the haters!
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You said it, mama: you’re a mother, a wife, a blogger—not a size! And an awesome mother, beautiful wife and mad-talented blogger at that. Enjoy this amazing experience…I’m so glad you’re taking us along for the ride!
I was so focused on my size-12-is-normal message in my comment, I forgot to say I think you look beautiful. But maybe you intuited that from my post anyway, hopefully!
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Don’t let what others say or write bother you. You are smart, funny and beautiful and have a huge following of people that enjoy what you have to write!
You ARE a real woman! You ARE beautiful! You ARE brave for doing this experiment! I stand up beside you and say “Proud of Being a REAL Woman!!!”
Your size / physical appearance is only one tiny aspect of your whole self. Not to mention – it represents such a demographic! Target knows this, as do many other fashionable stores. You look incredible – the smile says it all. Ever wonder why those models on the runway never smile? They’re miserable. Miserably hungry :)
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I hate this part of the Internet. For every wonderful, amazing post or website, you get more than plenty of people who take pleasure in ruining your day. Whether it’s weight, parenting style, world views – it’s not just a difference of opinion. It’s slamming your self-worth.
Does anyone remember the blog of a woman who had her fourth (maybe third) child – the newborn had a heart problem and died a few days after being circumcised. People went as far to call her state’s news stations and Attorney General to get her arrested for murder. People can be cruel and heartless sometimes.
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I commend both YOU and Target for choosing to show that a woman can be beautiful even with the “lopsided boobs and a flabby belly and a wide back.”
You are beautiful both inside and out. Thank you for choosing to do this. To show the world that you don’t have to be a size 4 to be a beautiful, confident, and successful woman.
Rock it Jill! You deserve it!
As a fashionable New Yorker, I love shopping at Target, there are some gems that city folk dont get. That said, if you are above a size 6, you need to definitely work harder to find the perfect items but it can be done. You look fantastic.
Congrats!
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So… just out of curiosity… do fat people type a certain way? Do we do nothing but talk about food? Did this person somehow feel lead on because you didn’t give off a ‘fat girl’ image?
Sterotypes are CRAP! I sport my 16-18′s proudly. I have curves, and yes I have a flabby belly, and my arms arn’t what they used to be. I dont care… they fit right in with my “What you got to say about it” attitude. I am a package deal. So are my oreo’s.
People need to stop assuming that just because they read a few (or a million) lines of text from you, that they have any clue who you are, or what you are really about. You are amazing, and always remember, there will be people who have nothing better to do with their day then presume to know something they have no idea about.
FYI: The average American woman is a size 14. So your ALREADY doing better then most!
Jill, I think you’re absolutely beautiful! I’m so happy that Target chose you for this and I hope you have a wonderfully fun time doing it. You deserve it and any other good things that come your way.
Congrats.
And, I would put money on that person being like a size 22! Plus, since when is a 10 huge!
You rock. And, now I’d like your super sexy legs. Pleaseandthankyou.
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You are beautiful and honest. You keep life real.
Thank you for being you and ignore those comments that say anything different.
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Please, please, please know that 99% of who read, comment, post on your blog and confessional LOVE LOVE LOVE what you’re are doing…. and no, you are not “large”…. you are normal. Don’t let a few asswipe bitches hurt your feelings.
I have never commented on a site before but I thought this post warranted one. I am so impressed w/ how brave you are! I could never have done this! Also, you have terrific legs – and honestly, that’s the first thing I thought when I saw your pictures.
You look HOT! I love that you are a real reflection of what motherhood looks like both through your words and your image. You are a FREAKING ROCK STAR! Having kid does some terrible damage to everyone’s bodies, and the fact of the matter is that it’s totally worth it. (Although with this upcoming bikini season, I’m questioning that one, lol) Rock what ya’ got and walk with the same confidence that you have here! :)
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I read an article in the Globe & Mail today about a woman in her 40′s who suffered with bulimia for years. She finally overcame her eating disorder when she realized that she was “killing” herself in her efforts to be a size 4.
When I look at the photo of you in the blue Target dress & yellow sweater, I see an attractive woman who looks comfortable in her own skin.
I wrote this blog post before … hopefully you’ll find it interesting: http://karynclimans.com/2010/11/18/real-beauty/
And this right here? Is my favorite post that you have *ever* written and why you are so adored- we can relate to you, because you’re real! XO
Wouldn’t the world be boring if the only flower we had were a rose?
You are beautiful!
Womens’ shame over their size just exhausts me. They try to hide their weight, their size, etc etc. I spent 3/4 of my life struggling with disapproval from a skinny Mom and then something just broke off…and now I embrace my size 14 self. I’ve got a great smile, a winning personality and I really *like* people…and I think few people care about my pudgy stomach and second chin ;). I think YOU are wonderful. Thank you for being candid. It’s just what we ALL need.
OMG! I cannot believe someone said that?!?! Shame on them.
And I don’t even get why 12 is newsworthy? It’s a very average size for women.
You love every outfit, every day, Jill!
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First of all let me say that I think you are gorgeous! I don’t think you are “large” at all in any other sense than successful! I think whoever said that SHOULD have meant large in terms of success and if they didn’t then they are just jealous. You are REAL! Thank GOODNESS! And Honestly, you are not in any way shape or form considered “Large” in the body type area in my opinion. You are Beautiful!
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FYI – I can’t wait to play dress up with your body! (wow…that sounds creepy!)
You look so super cute! The person that wrote that was probably just a troll.
Please, in addition to knowing you are a good mommy and a good wife…please add “and beautiful”.
There was a website that I saw on Msnbc or CNN…It was called http://theshapeofamother.com/ I think. It has women of all shapes and sizes and everything here there and everywhere. I love it.
They’re just upset cause they don’t look as hot after kids. The yellow and blue combo looks GREAT on you, nice to see that you’re repping real beauty out there.
You’re real. Most of us aren’t size 4s…or anywhere near there. Honey, I lost 50 pounds and I’m still not a single digit (except in these one awesome pants I found…lol but some sizes are flukes). I think you’re beautiful. truly.
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I dont WANT to see a size 4…I want to see reality so thank goodness for you and for Target! You are gorgeous and brilliant and hilarious!
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There is seriously (and sadly) something wrong with a person to make a comment like that. No other reason for it than to hurt someone else. Insecurity at it’s best!
Rock on! You look Great!!! Don’t listen to that crap! You are real and and it’s so refreshing!!! Keep up the hilarious work!
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You look great! Congrats on the fantastic opportunity.
I don’t know what “real” means because I think many shapes and sizes are beautiful. In the area I grew up, you weren’t considered beautiful if you were tall and skinny like I was, so I grew up feeling rather unattractive. Women need to focus on being healthy, dress in clothes that accentuate the positives, and be confident about who they are. In this picture, you look to be all three.
You are stunning. Screw the haters.
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You’re a doll and you look glorious in this outfit. Beauty comes in so many shapes and sizes and colors and hairstyles – and my guess is that the commenter didn’t even mean it in a negative way. But since we’re all trained to kick ourselves before anyone else can, of course that’s how you took it.
Shake it off. Breathe. Work that cardie.
Who doesn’t love Target? Good choice.
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Um… some of us are size 18, and used to be a size 22. At comment # 225 or thereabout, I can’t be the first person to mention this.
And great legs by the way!
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Maybe the outfits hide it well….but I don’t see a flabby belly. And…you have great legs! You look beautiful! Babies change us….does not mean we are not beautiful anymore! Size 4 or Size 12…
This is an awesome campaign, and an awesome chance to show your kids & the millions of others a positive body image of real woman full of confidence. Go you!!
And yeah, the confession? I actually feel sorry that their views of people are so warped that the only thing that comes to mind when encountered with someone popular that they automatically have to be thin, b/c those are the only people that are important. Great people come in all shapes and sizes.
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Notice the person did not post that comment on your announcement were they would be exposed. I am glad that you are a real size, Like me. You know you have really made it when people say mean things. That is advice from my grand mother when some one made fun of me for my Easter hat.
I love love love that photo of you. You look confident and happy and that’s hard to pull off at ANY size. Screw the haters.
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Sista, I don’t know many people who have had babies, who don’t SPEND all their time at the gym, who are size 4. We are real people. You are the real deal. And we all have insecurities. I have lopsided boobies too. But seriously, you should feel good because you are rocking that outfit!!! I mean seriously fab. And those legs, I would love to have legs like that. HOT!
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My hubby told me no man wants a skinny lil thing to hug on… (those bones hurt) how he knows this.. I DON’T really wanna know. When I start losing weight he says ughmm BONES BONES?? He says that I am what you call THE RIGHT SIZE. Thats what I call you. You look good. Healthy. Not like one good cold is gonna wipe you out. We need to go to the, what is it the Japanese/chinese Not sure which, way of thinking? where when you have put on weight means you are living large hahahaa! I so love those across the creek’s way of thinkin!
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you look totally adorable in that blue dress with the cute yellow sweater! and i’m glad target chose you – a real person… a real woman, with real curves…
but anyhow… besides being real… you are adorable.
i’m so excited to follow this challenge through the month!
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Whoever said that is a big jerk and those that feel they should insult you shouldn’t read your blog anyway. Losers!
OMG! that’s a lot of comments to scroll!!!!
You’re right, you are real….. That is why we all love your blog so much!!! And why we are so damn excited you get this opportunity!!! Gives the rest of us hope :D
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Why do people have to be so fucking blatantly mean?!
Anyone who would say terrible things about you is a coward and dead inside. You are brave, scary, and you rock. Don’t forget it!
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I sincerely do not wish to start a nasty back and forth dialogue, but I would like to point out that several women who commented and who stuck up for Jill for being insulted for being a size 12, have made extremely disparaging comments about those who are in the single digits. “Skinny bitch” was one I found particulary mean and nasty. And several made references to the 2′s and 4′s not being “real women.” I just wanted to point out the (sad) irony.
You look great! And there are so many reasons that Target chose you, the fact that you’re not a “perfect” 4 is only one of them. I hope this is a huge confidence boost for you. You deserve it. And you look HOT!
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I have to confess, I’m new to your blog, but what I’ve read and seen, its wonderful and so are you! It might sound cliche, but people who feel the need to make such hateful, out-of-place comments are usually people with very low self esteem and self-love and need the feel to put someone else down in order to make themselves feel better, so know that you aren’t what the haters say or what their opinions are. So you’re not a size 4, most women aren’t, specially after kids. Is that going to be something you’re going to regret on your death bed looking back or is being a good person, a great mom and wonderful wife, and doing what makes you happy in life going to be what really matters? And by the way, the yellow sweater set and blue dress look wonderful on you!
you know what you “Rock”. People will always be jugmental and mean. Always remember your children when the cut throat comments are read. Also, remember your daughter. You are showing her that no matter what you can do anythig. I am proud to be a follower of Scarymommy. Rock ON!!
Screw that evil person in the confessions. Jealousy is ugly. You are a beautiful person- and all of the comments here in support of you show just that. You are a wonderful role model for girls and women- because you are real!
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Jill,
You are so not large. If you were large then I am gigantic. You are a true beauty.
I always feel like people who need to say stuff like that about people they don’t know must feel horrible about themselves. You are not big. You are the average size of most women. I used to work as a stylist and yes…a lot of women…real women…not model types are size 12 or bigger. So what? As a smaller woman I get bashed all the time too…more so when I was younger so I guess we all get it.
You have hair I would die for by the way and the most awesome smile ever.
Jill, you are amazing and you inspired me to pursue my passion. Now that I am a mom of three–there is no excuse not to be able to do anything. Mommies rock!
You look totally adorable in the picture!! People can be stupid and say hurtful things. You still look adorable and gorgeous! hugs!!
The whole size thing just bugs me… I thought you looked great, and kudos, kudos, kudos to you for being brave enough to do it! Even if I was thinner, I do NOT feel photogenic, and that had to have been intimidating if you’re not used to it! You look like you rocked it, good for you Mama!!
I think you are FABULOUS.
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Just saw an ad to dress you on Real Simple’s website! SQUEE!!!!!
You know what I saw when I watched the Target Vlog? I saw a big personality and lots of beautiful curls! Seriously….
I bet we could gather all 255 bloggers commenting on this post and count the size 4s on our fingers.
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I think I just burned a few calories scrolling to the bottom of this comment form.
I see you, pretty lady. Your to-die-for curls, your shapely legs, your vibrant smile, and the beautiful chunks of your inner self that you leave on this blog.
Screw the haters, honey. SCREW them. You’re the shit.
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jill — this is beautiful!! you’re fabulous! -mia (freis)
Girl please – I am 5’10″ without my heels and weigh in at about 290-310 lbs. depending on what time of the month it is. I wear a size 44DD bra (thanks to the kids) and a size 20 or 22. A 1x will fit but a 2x is more comfortable. You’re one of those skinny bitches I just love to hate roflmao!!!! Seriously – be PROUD of who you are!!!! I think you look friggin fantastic…I haven’t seen that size since high school for pete’s sake LOL!
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Size 12 is not large! It sounds like a really cool promotion Target is running. I love the pic. You look like a totally normal woman–I think it’s the size 2 and 4 ladies who are too skinny. I’ll have you know, I’ll be happy if I can ever get into my size 12 clothes again after having this baby.
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I think you’re a super cool chick-mom. You tell it like it is & you’re NOT fake. I have many similar moments like you & its so nice to know that I’m not the only one=) Pay no attention to weight comments they’re nuts, You’re a super hot milf
You are so brave to put yourself out there. And the funny thing is…I never would have guessed you were a size 12. Ever. In fact, I thought, hot damn, that lady has GAMS! I mean, I couldn’t take my eyes off your legs. And what you’re saying is…you have curves? And you had three kids and bear the wounds? So what you’re saying is…you’re human?
Holy shit, I had no idea Scary Mommy wasn’t perfect!
YOU GO GIRL! The world is mostly people like you/me, not size 4!
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The reason I love this post so much is because, at the other end of the spectrum (stick skinny (I know, woe is me!)), I am self conscious, a real life person, mother, and blogger too. People think it’s easier to be smaller, or always a choice. After three babies I am no closer to being any bigger than my 10 year old. And I hate it. I didn’t choose it. No amount of meat and potatoes (as much as my friends’ southern grandmothers told me they would) has helped. My boobs are size -32AAAAAAAAA and lopsided (how the hell does THAT happen?). But. I am still evolving, still finding ways to like myself (and I would like myself more in that polka dot dress you’re wearing!).
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that you are a Real. Live. Person. is why I love you and your blog so much. keep it coming and CONGRATS on this thing you’re doing with Target – very awesome.
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As someone who sews, I WISH women understood how very small the difference between sizes was… I think you are BEAUTIFUL! I think women were designed to be soft and comforting and REAL, not a size zero with no padding. I just think if a man wanted to hold someone hard and muscular against them, they’d be with another man. Just sayin’.
But, Samantha, while I appreciate your lauding “padded” women b/c I believe all women deserve respect regardless of body size/type, I get the impression you are in turn criticizing women like me who are “hard”, a size zero with no padding. I have always been skinny. Super skinny. Stick skinny. And I have always fought against it. I have no thighs, boobs or butt to speak of (unless pregnant, then wow! take pictures of my boobs and butt; quick!). I love food. I love fatty foods. I eat constantly. I’ve tried all sorts of weight gain regimens/aids/schemes. I simply can’t gain and retain any weight. Doesn’t make me less soft or comforting or real when my husband holds me against him. Maybe I took your comments too literally, and if so, my bad. I hope I haven’t been offensive in my response. But where most women think skinny women are skinny by choice (and flaunting it when that isn’t always the case), just know there are some of us who wish the weight others want to lose could be injected into us.
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Arnebya,
I wish I can eat as much as I like…”today I eat it, tomorrow I wear it seems to be my experience.” ;-) I can understand how frustrated you must feel – I have a friend that has a similar body type and is infertile as a result. I have seen her consume a 500g of butter at a time to try to pick up weight.
Maybe this is the whole issue though. That the media has taught women that you’ll never be OK. Too fat, too thin…never OK.
The funny thing is that most men are not too concerned about such issues. They just love you – comfort or sports model body, doesn’t matter!
In the meantime, I’d love to fit in my size 16 pants. (On cortisone, look like balloon! :-)) Send me some of your metabolism speed this way!
Amanda
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Oh goodness, no that wasn’t my intent at all! I wasn’t trying to knock skinny girls at all. My mom is the same way… she eats constantly and continues to lose weight. I know she’d love to gain some weight. That being said, I still think that women were designed to be the softer counterpart in a relationship. That does not mean that you can’t be a size zero and still be a comfort. And besides, every man is different and likes different things. I’m sorry if I offended you! It certainly wasn’t my intent!
No harm done. I’m rather sensitive. I want body mass. Really, I do. I’m 37 years old and my 10 year old has more boob than me. And recently asked me why. I no longer like her.
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I think you look fabulous. Truly.
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You are beautiful, brave and inspiring.
I am excited to be following you along on your Target Experiment.
Forget the hate and ENJOY the ride.
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I’m a size 4, and I’d kill for your legs. I’d never have the confidence to do something like this, and people tell me I’m skinny all the time. I truly admire you, and you are absolutely beautiful. I saw that post on the confession board and it was from a truly shallow person. You are obviously above that.
Exactly. They chose you because you embody the average woman. But, make no mistake, Jill, you’re not at all average.
You look so fantastic and this campaign is only going to build your confidence. Knowing how to dress so that you feel good inside and look fab outside is so important to building confidence and you’ve nailed just the brand to do that for you! So exciting. Best of luck. I’ll be reading!
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I love that someone my size is working with Target. Now I have you to use has my model before I go and buy something. I refuse to wear anything other than black yoga pants, so maybe you will inspire me.
PS, I have a theory on people who make fun of others and say mean things. They are just jealous.
I love reading your blog!
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marilyn monore was a healthy size 12 in her prime! before all the drugs and alcohol that brought her down….and think about how glamorous she was!!!
Okay, that’s person is crazy. Because I’ve seen you in real life. And you’re not large.
You can trust me, because I’m honest to the point of rude and insulting.
Which usually doesn’t work out well. But in this situation seems to be fine.
If I’m ever a size 10-14, I would jump for joy. I’ve made it to a 16 and now, pregnant again, I’m holding onto that size for dear life!
Aaaand I’m pretty sure that’s you in the pic with the cute dress and cute sweater and cute shoes and cute purse. And now I envy you. You have the legs *I* want to have and never will. Skirts don’t even make it into my wardrobe because of heavy calves.
So, good for you on the Target thing. Enjoy your skirts. pfft.
Oh wow!! i love this concept! I am totally playing along!
I thought you look very nice in that dress, i wish i could look that nice and feel good about it.=0)
You’re awesome! Thanks for putting yourself out there like this–both in your blog and the Target Fashion Experiment.
I am very proud of you. We need more REAL moms and wives and people who do not get paid to stay fit and thin to represent us. I say kudos to Target too, for reaching out to REAL people. :)
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I’m also a “big” woman but the world is full of them. Thank you for representing us in such a beautiful, honest way. We’re not worth less because we’re not a size 6.
For a world that focuses on the skinny, it’s awfully funny when I go to get clothes and all the bigger sizes are gone because there are so many of us out there. There will always be size small on the clearance rack, but often the large and extra large sizes are gone. So, model away. It’s nice to get an idea what Target clothes actually look like on the majority of the population of adult women.
I wish whoever it was would have been brave enough to leave their name so you could go to their house & take a dump on their front lawn.
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Stumbled onto your blog, and now you’re bookmarked as a favorite! You look absolutely gorgeous in the yellow cardi and polka dot dress, and the poster who commented on you being “big” is clearly jealous of your amazing calves and ankles! :) Beautiful comes in all sizes!
Great. Now there’s another thing that you have that I don’t- haters. Thanks for rubbing it in.
xo
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Well, I think you rocked it in the video! What a fantastic opportunity…enjoy it! People are just jealous and will lash out. You are a fabulous, beautiful woman and I look forward to seeing all your outfits from the best. store. ever. ;)
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Ok… maybe I’m late to the party…. and maybe you’re sick of hearing it… but….. you are beautiful! And I’m even crazier about you than I used to be. Congrats for doing “the one thing I have doubts about, myself.” Shine on!
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Jill, you are beautiful inside and out! The readership of this website speaks volumes of how true that is. <3
Jill, You look absolutely gorgeous! Without a doubt, I applaud your courage, strength, and sincerity.
Ummm whoever said that was either a bitch or had to have meant “I had no idea she was such a rockstar!”.
What an amazing campaign!! Congratulations and Yeah You for showing us what a Real Beautiful Women looks like!
LOL I have to admit when I read the statement I didn’t know Scary Momma was so big i like Joe thought of your blog readership which is huge!
You honey are not BIG…
you look great! and honestly who doesn’t have lopsided boobs that are not purchased (not saying anything is wrong with purchased boobies).
Woohoo to you to facing your body fears! Have fun
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I can’t believe people are so rude. I think you rock and the campaign looks awesome.
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Oh man. I freaking LOVE this! So freaking awesome, Jill! And those outfits are out of this world! I’m a size 12 and I love Target’s stuff!
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Oh girl, I really hope you can laugh about this bc being in the public eye means people will ALWAYS find a reason to try and knock you down a notch. Don’t sweat the small stuff. You’ve got too much exciting stuff going on. xo
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You looks so beautiful in the picture above, and even more significant, you’re a great role model for all of us out there who have doubts about our bodies after children (we all have them). Thank you for being honest – and putting yourself out there!
PS I think your hair is so fabulous and I would DIE for hair like that :)!
Gorgeous!!! Never listen to the negatives. You are fabulous!! Congrats on being included in such a fun exciting experience. Can’t you officially add fashion model to your resume now?
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Um whoever said that needs a mirror. and a kick in the teeth. You are one hot momma and you have amazing legs I have to say! I can only hope to look that good after three kids (im a size 12 NOW and I have NO children!!) Ignore those nasty comments, people are most mean when they feel threatened by something- just know that you are fabulous and enjoy the free clothes! ;)
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I think you look fabulous and have a certain pizzazz, and your writing voice has made me a fan in less than one month. I look at you and imagine what I’d look like in that outfit (score for Target). Anyways, someone at church asked me the other day if I was pregnant (NO!), and that made me all self-conscious about my figure, so totally understand where you’re coming from. You’re beautiful, and I hope that you’re enjoying this Target opportunity! :)
Just found your blog. First time I’ve been here. Love the way you write and can’t imagine someone saying such horrible things. Keep it up and good job w/ Target campaign.
Suzanne Williams
I’m so sorry that comment hurt you like that. You look gorgeous, though! Sure, it would be fantastic if we were all size 4′s and everything looked awesome on us, but it isn’t reality. We are all different sizes and variety is what makes life beautiful. I have found from experience that people who are able to make negative comments so openly are usually pretty unahppy with themselves. Whether you are a size 2 or 22, no one deserves to feel badly about themselves.
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Not that I needed another reason to love and shop at Target but I love this. The outfit is great and gives those of us without much style savvy some much needed tips.
Thanks for putting yourself out there and doing this!
Hi- I’ve never commented here before (total lurker), I don’t have a blog you need to follow & I’m not looking for a re-tweet. I just read this & felt compelled to tell you that you look adorable in your Target outfits. I applaud you for putting your life (and your body) out into the great scary internet space for public scrutiny- you’re a lot braver, smarter & (dare I say) COOLER than all those nutballs hurling insults. Or, as my father would say, don’t let the BASTARDS get you down!
Good on you and good on Target! You look absolutely lovely.
Sorry some fool has tried to ruin it for you…. Don’t let her.
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I think you look wonderful, and inspirational for women like myself who are bigger then most and dont wake up feeling so great. I see people dress so nice and since i had my baby ive basically lived in sweats. Even at work. But seeing all these outfits fit so nicely on you makes me thing I can do it too and at a great price because its TARGET.
Again thank you for putting yourself out there like this and giving hope.. to at least one new mommy..
Thank you for being real and transparent and SO relatable!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!
Well duh–dont’cha’know, its not enough to be an intelligent sassy woman,a great mother, and a successful writer, but you also need eat a diet of three eggs a day and spend hours at the gym scrutinizing whether your ass is tight enough, to fit into size 00 clothes. I mean, that’s what everyone else is doing–right?
Mother-Writer-Model–um…and then, of course, in your free time, I expect you to end poverty and save the polar bears–OK?
I would tell you how beautiful you are but I’m late for my bikini highlight/deep conditioning appointment, and my spray tan is fading.
I work for Target so I’ve been up close and personal to this whole thing… I almost cried reading this post. I am so proud that we are working with you, because you’re REAL. Nope, you’re not a 4, 6, or 8… you’re a mom, a human being with curves and a real-girl body… I’m a 16 right now, have never been smaller than a 10. I am proud of my company for wanting to use a NORMAL woman to talk to normal women. Thrilled with this project. :-)
It’s so pathetic, how we beat ourselves up. I’m a 14….with skinny legs, arms, etc…it’s all in my waist and tummy. And…to top that off…I had twins & a c-section. Great, that helped my tummy situation! I beat myself up everyday about this build that God gave me. However, my friends say “look at those gorgeous legs….I have fat legs and cellulite and would kill for your legs”. Women, we’re all so hard on ourselves….but I personally find it impossible to turn it off…the constant self-critique. Wish I could!
A little behind on commenting… Or more accurately, A LOT behind on reading and pretty much NO commenting… But at least *I* know I’ve caught up right?
Anyway – this made me feel terrible. I was just looking in the mirror (wearing Merona I might add), thinking that I need to lose some weight and lamenting the hereditary knee pudge that only lipo could fix AND the varicose veins that are bulging more and more each year (thank you two huge pregnancies in 18 months!) But guess what? And I’m actually a pretty small size as far as Target goes. I’m not a 4 (though sometimes I am with vanity sizing…) – but I’m generally comfortable in 6 or 8. If I’m covered with clothes, I can fake being slimmer than I actually am. But at the end of the day – I look far from perfect, and I would hate the idea of anyone scrutinizing my bad legs and loose underarm skin online AND writing about it.
I would guess that if Anon was even thinking about that, she must have her own size issues. That she links of HESELF as “large.” And she should really be more sensitive about discussing other people (on their own blog no less!) from the safety of her anonymous perch.
I have always felt insecure about how I look. I was never a skinny little kid and have often joked that I looked 30 when I was 16. In the end, it’s helped me to have realistic goals about my appearance, a better sense of priorities and a high level of sensitivity to the feelings of others. I think I’d trade that for smooth, slim legs any day!
Now if you want to talk about wrinkles – then that’s another story altogether. I might throw all of you under the bus if it would make my crows feet go away.
Seriously though, I’ve loved seeing your outfits and thought you looked gorgeous in all of them. I really don’t know why people give you such a hard time in comments…the only thing I can come up with is straight up jealousy. Their problem – not yours.
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You Look Dazzle!
Ok, who said that? Because I want to thump them. What kind of thing is that to say? First of all because you are gorgeous. And I mean it, this isn’t a “oh, no dahling, you are gorgeous!” fake thing – I have seen you in real life and you really are beautiful.
And second, because one has to be a complete bitch to say that. Also, stupid. So what, because one is fun and irreverent and a good writer, she must be a size 4? Because god forbid someone who isn’t a stick figure could be so outspoken and awesome ;-)
My first thought when I saw the picture was “Ooh, cute! I love that outfit!” So, maybe Target is on to something. And BTW, it doesn’t matter what size you are. We all have issues finding the right clothes that work for our bodies, no matter what size we are. Granted it’s easier to find things in smaller sizes because there’s usually more options. But even then, clothes don’t always hang right, or things are too tight here or too loose there. The waist might be too small while the legs are too big! You get the idea. It’s always a challenge. You look adorable!
Kudos to you! What a compliment to have Target seek you out and feature you in this campaign. You look completely fab in that outfit, and your legs are rockin’ in that dress! Very nice.
Congrats again, you deserve it!
Mandi
Congratulations! It’s so good to know that a company like Target is seeking out real, inspiring, relatable women instead of just throwing a someone random into their campaign. I hope more companies do things like this.
Just read this one, and I enjoyed it very much. As a “larger” gal (I wear anywhere from a size 14-18, depending on the style of the article of clothing or how often I’ve been skipping workouts to catch up on sleep…), I know all about self conscious scrutiny. I would’ve been a basket case in that photo shoot, lemmetellya. I think you look fab in those clothes, I wish I looked that good in stuff! And the bitch who said that about you being “that big” or however she said it, she can go take her judgmental and mean self right on back to wherever she came from, because she’s not welcome here. No, reading and supporting you doesn’t mean you’re “perfect”, but you’re perfect for YOU, and that’s all that counts. Keep up the great work.
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