I won’t lie: The first time I looked at my postpartum body a few days after my first baby was born, I was pretty freaked out. My belly sagged so low it almost touched my thighs. My stretch marks were just as red and angry as they’d been when the baby was still inside. And all that cottage cheese (er, cellulite) that had housed itself on my thighs during the pregnancy hadn’t budged at all.
Simply put, I was horrified. Horrified because I half-believed the notion—plastered across every magazine, and celebrity website—that it was possible to “bounce back” within days of giving birth. Horrified because I wasn’t sure how long this postpartum look was going to last. And horrified because there was already so much about being a postpartum mom that felt out of my control, and I really didn’t need another thing to add to the list.
At the time—over ten years ago—there was no such thing as people sharing their postpartum pictures on social media. And as much as we all love to begrudge social media and the stress it can cause new moms, there is something to be said for the way that sharing raw, honest portraits of new motherhood can make us all feel less alone, less ashamed, and well…normal.
All of this was why I was so thrilled to see a new social media movement emerge on Instagram over the past week called the #celebrating_my_postpartum campaign. The hashtag was originally started by Hayley Garnett, a photographer and mom of three. And the campaign is as simple as it sounds: post an honest postpartum pic of yourself, and celebrate the incredible, life-giving mama goddess that you are.
Garnett’s call to action came in the form of her own gorgeous and empowering Instagram post in which she shares and celebrates her postpartum body.
✨Body Positivity Loop ✨ Hey Guys !!! Today I’m super excited to be sharing with you a recent passion project of mine – which is celebrating our postpartum bodies! I have asked some mamas to participate , mamas that embrace their post baby bodies and really shed a positive light on how different our bodies are Post birth ! For me embracing the change hasn’t been the easiest journey but it has been the most powerful mentally. It’s so much nicer to be able to look at myself in the mirror without wanting to turn my head . The excess skin, the stretch marks, the horrible diastisis recti- it’s part of who I am and by golly I’m going to love and celebrate myself for this physical journey that motherhood has taken me on! . . Please tap my photo to continue through the loop to @emmy__liz and help celebrate these ladies and the brave ways in which they share themselves with you, hoping that you too can look at yourself and see you how we see you . We will use the tag #celebrating_my_postpartum and encourage you all to use that tag if you share ! . . . . . #cameramama #twiniversity #twinsandmultiples #inspirepregnancy #stopcensoringmotherhood #twinpregnancy #37weeksgestation #twinmama #twinmom #magicofchildhood #ig_motherhood #p52radness #inspirepregnancy #siblinghoodlove #pixel_kids #familygoalz #cutekidsclub #momswithcameras #ramonandruby #bumpbirthandbeyond #jj_emotional #postpartum #inspirepregnancy #coi_mamamonday #thejuggleisreal #cm_kisses #clickinmoms_motherhood #cm_moms #cu_mamaandme #mothersintheframe #pk_mom
“Today I’m super excited to be sharing with you a recent passion project of mine — which is celebrating our postpartum bodies!” writes Garnett. She then goes on to candidly share some of the struggles and triumphs she’s had as a mom who has birthed and fed three amazing children, including her twin baby girls, who appear in the photo.
“For me, embracing the change hasn’t been the easiest journey but it has been the most powerful mentally. It’s so much nicer to be able to look at myself in the mirror without wanting to turn my head,” Garnett writes. “The excess skin, the stretch marks, the horrible diastasis [sic] recti — it’s part of who I am and by golly I’m going to love and celebrate myself for this physical journey that motherhood has taken me on!”
Unsurprisingly, Garnett’s hashtag has totally taken off, with over a hundred other moms banding together and sharing the beautiful truths of what real postpartum bodies look like. These mothers’ pictures and words are so raw and breathtaking they will make you teary-eyed. Truly, these women are so damn beautiful and inspiring.
✨Body Positivity Loop✨ Ive carried my children within my body, slept with them On my chest. I’ve kissed Little toes & wiped away Tears. I’ve been vomited on, Peed on, & spent sleepless Nights cradling my crying babes. & I wouldn’t have it any other way. My body isn’t magazine perfect, But when I look in the mirror, I SEE A MOM & there is no Greater honor, Love or blessing.🌱 take a step back with me today and really think about how you view your body! Love every inch,every flaw,& every beautiful mark. Check out my mama friend @karenavalentina to keep following this body positivity loop💫 • • #bodypositive #selflove #postpartum #loveyourself #loveyourbody #womenempowerment #empoweringwomen #empoweringmoms #mamabird #babybird #twobabies #mamaoftwo #momswithtattoos #momswithcameras #momsofinstagram #momblogger
Like many of the women who shared pics, @emmy_liz, shared not only her own postpartum belly, but the sweet children who cuddle so affectionately with it. “My body isn’t magazine perfect,” writes @emmy_liz . “[W]hen I look in the mirror,” she continues, “I SEE A MOM / & there is no / Greater honor, / Love or blessing.”
Several of the moms who shared their pics highlight the truth that there is actually a reason behind the transformation that their body has undergone—you know, the fact that they have gestated and birthed an entire human being. It’s so obvious when you think about it, and yet so easy to forget.
See that belly? That faded linea nigra? See that new growth of hair and the permanent stretch marks? That posture? These are my remnants of her time inside the womb. These are reminders of the 40 weeks plus 3 days I carried her. Battle scars I earned from the 36 hour labor and birth we fought through together. This body is a testament of the countless days and nights I spend breastfeeding, rocking, carrying, soothing, playing, teaching and most importantly, LOVING her. . This body took its time to orchestrate the miraculous creation of the most special human I have ever known. This body took its time to choreograph the most incredible labor and birth, a synchronized dance that ended in a fireworks display of emotion I'll never forget. . So, no, I'm not in a hurry to "bounce back." I'm not in a rush to lose the "baby weight" or tighten that "loose skin." This body continues to take its time to nurture this child, so I'm going to continue to take my time in nurturing this body. . Huge shout out to the incredible @th3littlestavenger for being such an inspiration and light for all women and reminding us to love our bodies and for #celebrating_my_postpartum with us 🖤 . . . #inspirepregnancy #igm_033 #ig_MotherHood #igMotherHood #postpartumbody #postbabybody #postpartumjourney #bodyafterbaby #bodypositive #postpregnancy #momstrong #normalizebreastfeeding #bodypositivity #bopo #effyourbeautystandards #loveyourbody #embraceyourbody #dropthecover #thebump #brelfie #petitejoys #thehappynow #abmhappylife #theeverydayproject #photosinbetween #everysquareastory #posttheordinary #postthepeople
“These are reminders of the 40 weeks plus 3 days I carried her. Battle scars I earned from the 36 hour labor and birth we fought through together,” shares @dominikagrand. “This body is a testament of the countless days and nights I spend breastfeeding, rocking, carrying, soothing, playing, teaching and most importantly, LOVING her.”
OMG, can you pass the tissues, please and thank you? I’m going to need the whole box.
Other moms have been more candid about how they’ve struggled to embrace their postpartum bodies—because we all know it’s not as easy as deciding to be body-positive, and then suddenly falling in love. It is a journey, a process.
Dear Hope Wounds, You are kind of ugly. It feels like you sag to my knees. You’ve taken away my belly button. You roll over every kind of jeans, pants, shorts, or skirt I wear. You are gross. You are the cottage cheese that seems to cover my entire belly. You are extra fat that will probably never go away. You’re my 3.5 inch scar on my bikini line. You are the agony of my infertility, the pain of an empty womb. You are a reminder of how sick I was after my delivery , all that blood I loss, and the heart ache of not meeting my babies for 24 hours after they were born. You are the change my body never saw coming, but desired so deeply. Hope wounds, You are a miracle. You are perfect. You are beauty. You show how much I went through to bring my darling hope triplets into this world. You are beautifully saggy and beautifully ugly. You are my dream come true. You are the hope of my infertility. You are the joy of a fruitful womb. I prayed for you, hope wounds. I longed for you and begged for you. I was so desperate to have my miracle it didn’t matter how gross my hope wounds would ever be. Nor, what I would have to endure to get you. You are something I would never change. Hope wounds, you remind me the importance of teaching my children to love themselves, to celebrate who they are. You show me the value in loving who I am so I can be a good role model for them. My hope is to raise my little humans to be kind to themselves because I know now more than ever the value of self love. Hope wounds, Thank you for showing me that. Sincerely, Celebrating the sags, wrinkles, and all. Thank you @th3littlestavenger for creating #celebrating_my_postpartum and encouraging us to love ourselves a little more!! This is something I absolutely believe in!! Love your bodies mamas and know that you’re amazing!!! 💕 Tees: @weestructed • • • #triplets #thebump #momswithcameras #twinsandmultiples #postpartumbody #postpartumfitness #aheadofthecurve #momsandmamas #momsofmultiples #postpartumdepression #twins #mamaswithcameras #mother #motherhoodthroughinstagra #fitmomsofig #lovewhatmatters #bodypositive #goals #mommy #momlife #babe #baby #body #tripletsofinstagram #pregnant
“Dear Hope Wounds,” writes @thefortintrio, addressing her stretch marks and other postpartum markings. “You are kind of ugly. It feels like you sag to my knees. You’ve taken away my belly button. You roll over every kind of jeans, pants, shorts, or skirt I wear. You are gross. You are the cottage cheese that seems to cover my entire belly.”
She goes onto share her struggle with infertility, and how her “wounds” actually are signs of hope, because they signify her sons’ entrance into this world—the sons whom she longed so deeply for. “Hope wounds, You are a miracle. You are perfect. You are beauty. You show how much I went through to bring my darling hope triplets into this world,” she writes.
*cue ugly cry #23,453*
Other moms remind us that celebrating our postpartum bodies means posting the pic no matter how much fear or self-doubt we had about doing so.
This body. This 21 weeks postpartum body. Full of stretch and curve. Full of love and yet full of self doubt. You did so well creating this beautiful baby girl, this beautiful human. You amaze me with what you have done. You have changed, but I will do my best to embrace you. And with time, nourish you back to the healthiest version of you. . Before I decided to post this photo, I honestly had lots of doubt. Sure, I have stretch marks and extra skin to show from this experience called pregnancy. But I also have fat. What piled back on to me after two years of getting it off pre-pregnancy. It came right back on to my body. I couldn’t tell you which stretch marks are from my previous lifestyle and which ones came during pregnancy. That doesn’t matter though. Every body is different. Unique. Special. And so powerful. From the ones who had the smallest changes to the ones who had the biggest. And some may not like this photo. Some may say it’s not your typical postpartum photo because there’s more than loose skin and stretch marks, that women like me should lose the weight since it’s not just loose skin. But women like me exist. Women like me are trying. Women like me have feelings and are real. And we are allowed to honor and love our bodies just the same. And that’s beautiful. So my self doubt and worry began to disappear. And I hope yours will too. Even if it takes one day at a time. . Thank you to @th3littlestavenger and her #celebrating_my_postpartum movement for the little boost that I needed to spread this message. ♥️
It means never letting our insecurities about our bodies stop us from living our best lives, for ourselves or our kiddos. And yes, it means getting in the damn bikini if we want to, no matter what insecurities we may have.
The realities of social media motherhood. 🙈🤷🏻♀️ Btw the way, I cant count the number of “omg she shouldn’t be wearing that bikini” looks I got. To those haters I say, i feel sorry for you! I’m beautiful and I love my body. Judging me won’t help you kill your demons, it will just make you full of anger. Let it go and love yourself! #celebrating_my_postpartum . . . . . #ohheymama #mommystatus #mommylifestyle #instamamagang #joyfulmamas #vsco_mom #vscomom #motherlove #clickinmoms #acupofmotherhood #motherhoodthroughinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #unitedinmotherhood #honestmotherhood #honestlymothering #myhonestmotherhood #momhub #socialmediamom #momsofig #themotherhoodcorner #wellwateredwomen #motherhoodunplugged #morethanmama #postpartumbody #fourthtrimester #stretchmarks #stretchmarksarebeautiful #empoweredwomenempowerwomen
And most of all, it means snuggling up with our babies at the end of the day, and remembering that, to them, all of that postpartum sagging and softness makes for even better cuddles. Because when it comes down to it, to our babies, we are as perfect as can be. And maybe that is what matters most of all.
My body did something that I could never wrap my head around. It nourished and grew a tiny little human that sees the world when she looks at me. My body has changed in a way that pre-pregnant me would’ve hated. I had a flat belly, free of stretch marks and jiggling, and I still wasn’t happy. I wanted to be toned, I wanted definition and some image of sexy that I had in my mind. My belly is the farthest from that now. I have a pooch, stretch marks, jiggling, roundness… and I love it. I love looking at my belly and thinking about the wonderful little girl my body made. I love that Delilah finds comfort in my imperfect skin, strength to lift her up and hold her close, and warmth that feels like home to her. Not everyone finds their postpartum body as magical as I find mine, but I think we all should. Our bodies are divine, creators of life. We should celebrate. #celebrating_my_postpartum