Custody battles can be very, very ugly as parents sling negativity at each other in the hopes of winning over the judge.
But a judge in New Jersey was having none of it when a father called into question a mom’s choice to take her daughter to a Pink concert. A vengeful dad accused the girl’s mother of bad parenting for bringing her 11-year-old daughter to the singer’s Truth About Love concert last December.
New Jersey Superior Court Judge Lawrence R. Jones wrote that the mother “in no way, shape or form exceeded the boundaries of reasonable parental judgment.” He added, “To the contrary, when all the smoke from the custody litigation clears, it will be self-evident that all which happened here is that a young girl went to her first rock concert with her mother and had a really great time.”
The judge is obviously a music fan—his judgement ran 37 pages and went into detail about the history of banning music and music advisory stickers, and even dissects the empowering lyrics of some of Pink’s songs. He commended the mother for choosing to spend some quality time with her daughter, writing, “In this day and age, it is easy for parents to put off important bonding experiences with their children until a tomorrow which simply never comes.”
Pink’s show is not squeaky clean, but she is a voice for strong women and an advocate for loving oneself. If taking her daughter to a Pink concert was the worst thing that this father could drum up about the mother’s parenting, then she wins at parenting.
We probably have all done things more psychologically damaging to our kids than taking them to a Pink concert, or at least I have. That’s what it means to be a parent. I feel lucky that I have no one scrutinizing what my kids see and do each day.
The true loser in this story is the girl, whose parents’ court battle is so ugly that every decision goes under a vengeful microscope. She really is learning some ugly truths about love.