This dad brought some major awareness to depression
A father took to Twitter to share a memory of a dark time in his life, when he was considering suicide. Eight years later, he revisited the moment, and shared a message of hope for other parents out there who suffer from depression.
The internet responded in solidarity.
Craig Stone is a successful author with three books under his belt, a writer for Guardian, and the father to a precious little boy. But eight years ago he was on Blackfriars Bridge in London, contemplating suicide.
Last week, he was back at the spot at which he felt his lowest, but this time he was with his son. And he used the opportunity to encourage others to hang in there.
See that bench. 8yrs ago I sat on it thinking about throwing myself off Blackfriars Bridge. Today, I took this pic of my son. Tomorrow might be the same. But it might also be brighter. It might even bring unimaginable brilliance. Hang in there. Love is always coming. #depression pic.twitter.com/91mYk9hvEo
— Craig Stone (@craigstone_) November 19, 2017
His tweet, which included a photo of the bench he sat on while he considered giving up, has over 24,000 likes and 7000 retweets.
“See that bench. 8yrs ago I sat on it thinking about throwing myself off Blackfriars Bridge. Today, I took this pic of my son. Tomorrow might be the same. But it might also be brighter. It might even bring unimaginable brilliance. Hang in there. Love is always coming. #depression'”
The Twitterverse brought forth parents who’ve been in similar dire straits responded with their own stories of depression.
Good on you mate. I was suicidal many time over the years but somehow kept going. I now have 4 kids. Meditation and medication I found very helpful. Learned to try and love myself. Every day a bonus. None of us know what lies ahead. Peace. xx— Justin Smith (@JustinMUFCDub) November 22, 2017
I’ve been suicidal on more occasions than I wish to remember and at 21 with 2 attempts behind me, my son has truly saved my life. He’s 16 months now and he makes me smile every day - no matter my mood previously. He will never know what he’s done for me ❤️ pic.twitter.com/3K3MUQAqU5— Chloe Campion (@EdgarAllanClo) November 25, 2017
When I was pregnant I planned to end my life as soon as my baby was old enough to survive without me. I believed everyone who told me I wouldn't cope, I'd be a rubbish mum. Now the love of my life is nearly eight and tells me I'm the best mum in the world, the perfect team.— WildBunnyArts (@WildBunnyArts) November 19, 2017
I understand completely. I am up and down a lot. What always stopped me in the end was because I didn't want my sons seeing my body after suicide or have to clean up in their home too. It was enough for me. I finally learned not to not worry about things I don't control or can't— Mary says Ban AR-15s (@thecatsartist) November 20, 2017
Plenty of non-parents chimed in too:
I have been going through a severe depression myself. Your tweet helps me see out today's day and probably tomorrow and then the day after. Thank you for sharing this and unknowingly inspiring me to fight another day. strength to you!— Alok Badri (@alok_TTID) November 21, 2017
I'm in a pretty dark place at the moment but it's just that hope that you never know what tomorrow can bring that keeps me going— Emile Strunz (@EmileStrunz) November 20, 2017
I have been feeling that everything is pointless. You just reminded me things can be better in spite of that pointlessness and depression. Thank you.— ForgetMeNot (@EmNeesia) November 19, 2017
This tweet is much appreciated as I’ve suffered with depression/anxiety and had dark days where everything is an effort but lightness always follows darkness so yes always hang in there even if just by a teeny weeny thread ... your son is proof of the light that follows— The 80s Girl (@The1980sGirl) November 20, 2017
Thanks for sharing that. I think it really helps guys who are depressed, to know how common this is, how it will pass, & how life gets better.— Julian Gough (@juliangough) November 20, 2017
(I did the standing on a bridge, pondering the jump thing, years ago. SO glad I didn't.)
Enjoy the dad years. Tiring, but the best years.
Craig listened and responded to many of the replies to his message. He explained how writing helped him climb his way out.
No treatment. Writing books has helped; they're a bit like throwing my brain at a mirror and then shouting at the nightmare in the glass that it can't hurt me cos it's not real. 8yrs is long: my brain still tells me I'm a failure, but the look in my son's eye says the opposite.— Craig Stone (@craigstone_) November 20, 2017
And he added further words of encouragement to anyone out there who feels like all is lost.
Thanks for reaching out. Keep reaching out! Talk to someone. Battling alone can feel like fighting a TRex with a spoon. Every conversation you have about how you're feeling reduces the TRex, and turns your spoon into a tank. Glad the tweet has helped; keep on keeping on Alok x— Craig Stone (@craigstone_) November 21, 2017
The best way out of a pit is to announce you have fallen. Then look for the hand. Trying to climb out yourself is exhausting, glad you are looking for the hand Alok x— Craig Stone (@craigstone_) November 21, 2017
The proud dad made sure to remind anyone suffering from depression to seek help, and talk to others about it. A message that is particularly important for men and dads who still, in 2017, feel beholden to absurd macho standards that prevent them from being honest about their emotions and mental state.
Talk to anyone - friends. strangers. Talk, talk, talk, talk. There's that saying 'it takes a village to raise a child' - well, we're still all children. And we never leave the village. x— Craig Stone (@craigstone_) November 20, 2017