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Divorce Selfies Are The Hot New Instagram Trend, And TBH, We Don't Hate It

by Christina Marfice
Image via healthy_happy_mom_/laynenprice/Instagram

Every major life event deserves a hashtag — even a divorce

Like it or not, a divorce is a pretty major life event. So major, in fact, that some of the internet thinks it needs to be memorialized in the most internet way possible: with a divorce selfie.

Divorce selfies are Instagram’s hottest new trend, and they’re popping up everywhere. We honestly can’t decide if we love them or hate them, because while some are clearly celebratory and chill, like this one:

…others are just really, really awkward, like this one:

https://www.instagram.com/p/BUZkQsJlvQy/?tagged=divorceselfie

Others still are a weird mix of the two, like this one, where the couple isn’t smiling and looks pretty miserable, but still claims to be post-divorce besties?

https://www.instagram.com/p/BUQXHwAFD7t/?tagged=divorceselfie

There’s these two, who celebrated their divorce with a selfie and a beer together:

And, uh, these two who are a little less friendly about it:

Carissa Coleman, who wrote that she and her ex were “more excited than… our wedding day” when they got divorced, told Scary Mommy she didn’t think twice about sharing a selfie to commemorate the day her divorce was finalized.

“I’m an over-poster on Instagram. I like to share my life,” she said. “It was a really long road. We both knew it was coming for a long time. It was a happy day for us because we spent so many years holding onto something that we knew wasn’t going to work. It was an exhausting marriage.”

https://www.instagram.com/p/BK0pUrWDxK_/?tagged=divorceselfie

Coleman and her ex, John Whitworth, were together for 11 years and married for five of those. They share four children.

“We love each other. We’re a family. We can let go of each other, but we know were always going to be there for each other,” Coleman said. “That selfie was like, oh my gosh, we did this and we’re still friends and we can still smile and we can still take a picture together.”

As for divorce selfies in general, Coleman said, “I think it’s kind of crazy that it’s a trend. I think it’s great that people can end a chapter of their lives and not need to be bitter or unhappy about it. It puts a good spin on divorce.”