Every major life event deserves a hashtag — even a divorce
Like it or not, a divorce is a pretty major life event. So major, in fact, that some of the internet thinks it needs to be memorialized in the most internet way possible: with a divorce selfie.
Divorce selfies are Instagram’s hottest new trend, and they’re popping up everywhere. We honestly can’t decide if we love them or hate them, because while some are clearly celebratory and chill, like this one:
…others are just really, really awkward, like this one:
Others still are a weird mix of the two, like this one, where the couple isn’t smiling and looks pretty miserable, but still claims to be post-divorce besties?
There’s these two, who celebrated their divorce with a selfie and a beer together:
We went to court and got divorced today, and then went out for a beer and a selfie. Totally normal, right? Seems appropriate because nothing we've ever done is normal. I'm grateful to this guy for 25 sometimes good, sometimes not-so-good, years together. We raised each other from adolescence to adulthood and then made two beautiful children we love like crazycakes. Instead of being disappointed that our choice to be together didn't last forever, we choose to accept that sometimes good things fall irreparably apart, to be thankful for the adventures we had, to look forward to the new and exciting ways we will grow as individuals and in other relationships, and to commit to a lifelong friendship and coparenting partnership– not just because it's good for our little ones, but because it's also good for us. KB, thanks for making this day, and so many other days, easier. You will always be my family. "Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends." (Rumi) #divorceselfie
And, uh, these two who are a little less friendly about it:
Carissa Coleman, who wrote that she and her ex were “more excited than… our wedding day” when they got divorced, told Scary Mommy she didn’t think twice about sharing a selfie to commemorate the day her divorce was finalized.
“I’m an over-poster on Instagram. I like to share my life,” she said. “It was a really long road. We both knew it was coming for a long time. It was a happy day for us because we spent so many years holding onto something that we knew wasn’t going to work. It was an exhausting marriage.”
Coleman and her ex, John Whitworth, were together for 11 years and married for five of those. They share four children.
“We love each other. We’re a family. We can let go of each other, but we know were always going to be there for each other,” Coleman said. “That selfie was like, oh my gosh, we did this and we’re still friends and we can still smile and we can still take a picture together.”
As for divorce selfies in general, Coleman said, “I think it’s kind of crazy that it’s a trend. I think it’s great that people can end a chapter of their lives and not need to be bitter or unhappy about it. It puts a good spin on divorce.”