The Single Rule for Kid’s Sports: Don’t Be An Asshole

As far as I’m concerned, there’s only one rule for adults who watch and coach kids’ organized sports: Don’t Be An Asshole.

We are currently in the midst of Little League season, and I’ve noticed that there are a large number of people who are either unfamiliar with this rule, or they need some education on exactly what this entails. Therefore, I’ve developed the following quiz to provide guidance on how you should behave at games.

1. A 7 year old on your opponent’s team is at bat against the pitching machine.  He strikes out. You pump your fist in the air and yell “YEAH!”. Are you the inventor of the pitching machine? Do you own stock in the company that manufactures it? If not, you’re an asshole.

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2. Your team’s shortstop just dropped the ball.  Did you just scream out “WHAT THE FUCK, BEN” to 6 year old Ben?  Yep, You’re an asshole.  (Oh, and if Ben is 12, you’re still an asshole.)

3. Did your 9 year old just cheer when the opposing team’s goalie took a shot to the face? You’re an asshole. If your kid is being an asshole, I guarantee they learned it from you. There are enough assholes in this world;  please stop making more.

4. An 8 year old on the opposing team is up at bat, and you’re sitting 5 feet away. Are you purposefully creating a diversion to try to knock him off his game ? (“Finally! The ice cream man is here!”).  If so, you’re an asshole.

5. You’re driving home from your 10 year old’s game. Did you utter any of the following to him?

“What were you thinking with that last play at first?”

“Michael really needs to give up baseball; he’s bringing your whole team down.”

“That ref was blind; you were clearly safe.”

Congratulations, you’re an asshole.

6. Your daughter’s best friend is on the opposing team. She hits a grand slam. When she crosses home plate, you are standing a few feet away. Did you congratulate her? High-five her? If not, you’re an asshole.

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7. During your 7 year old son’s lacrosse game, are you frantically pacing the sidelines like you are waiting for the results of a biopsy? If yes, you’re an asshole.

8. Your child’s coach tells your child “throw it to second!” Did you just yell for her to “throw it home!”? If you did, you’re an asshole.

9. A 7 year old second baseman stumbles and falls in his reach for the ball that was hit onto the baseline. Are you arguing with the umpire that it was obstruction? If so, you’re an asshole.

10. Have you ever uttered the phrase “Shit’s about to go down” during a pee wee football game? How about “Get some fucking glasses!” to the referee? If you answered yes to either question, you’re an asshole.

11. Have you been thrown out of a game or banned from coaching in a league? If so, you’re an asshole.

Seriously folks, if you can’t control your asshole behavior, stay home. It’s a game, they are kids. Life’s too short for this shit.

About the writer

Brooke is a wife, mom and attorney. Her hobbies include over-caffeinating herself, cursing and decorating her pretend beach house on Pinterest. When she can remember, she tweets at @brookekravitz.


Tim 2 months ago

Am I an asshole if I think they should keep score and hand out trophies to the top teams and not just everyone for participation? If I am, I’m OK with that.

Don 2 months ago

its sad how many people lose sight of the reason youth sports exist in the first place.

It’s not so Mom and Dad can have bragging rights when their kid wins.
It’s not so parents can engage in an arms race to see who can afford the most expensive gear, camps, etc.

It’s so kids can have fun. Learn to be part of a team. Contribute to a greater goal than their own. Learn to handle disappointment and victory with equal grace.

If you are a parent and you allow yourself to lose sight of this…. Or allow you kids to lose sight of it….. I’m not going to call you names. I’m going to encourage you to re-evaluate.

William 6 months ago

This is a great summary of the little ways that parents end up being the parent on the news who assaulted another parent, a referee or umpire, or a coach. While it is good to encourage your child to be competitive (let’s face it, there is no point in disguising being somewhat competitive is healthy), it is also important to remember that if your child has the potential to be a pro, they will show it if you help them develop and positively encourage them to compete harder and play better. I promise that the little things in Little League aren’t worth it. The only people I knew whose kids made it to the pros (a couple of double A pitchers and an NFL punter) didn’t put any stock in youth sports win-loss totals. In fact, the one pitcher’s dad only let him pitch once every couple of games because it was more important to develop good habits and develop skills at other positions.

If you’re an asshole at youth sports, you are probably compensating for your own crushed dreams. Don’t take out your smashed professional sports dream frustrations on your child, my child, and the mostly positive role models volunteering their time to coach the kids.

Michele 7 months ago

Love, love, love this! So true too. Kids just want to have fun playing sports, but they learn this crazy competitiveness from parents who are hoping their kids will end up going pro someday. If the parents need so much competition, they should play in an adult league and be an asshole there.

Marjie 7 months ago

Six years ago my daughter who was 14 had a travel softball coach that was so verbally and emotionally abusive. His temper tantrums during the games made me fear for my daughter’s safety and our only recourse was to pull her out of the program and find another team out of town. Parents beware of travel teams where there are no background checks on coaches. Watch out for your daughters! Anyone can form a travel team if they have the money. He was and still is the biggest Asshole.

Tina 7 months ago

This was right on! When my son was in little league (he was six) the coaches would put stars by the players name that hit the best and those were the ones who always played first!! The coach was awful to his own son and some of the coaches on other teams would have the boys tell things when kids were up to bat! It was just sad because all the boys on every team went to school together!! Sports at that age should be just for fun but people get way out of hand

Sue 7 months ago

Oh Brooke I LOVE Your blogs!! Someday can I join you as scary grandma??!!! I’ve already done the scary mommy thing!

Damon 7 months ago

My little league coaches were assholes but they were good coaches. We got yelled at a lot but not because we were physically incapable of something but because they knew we knew better and were capable of doing better. We played serious, no fooling around and if you really wanted them to get into your business, just go ahead and disrespect an opposing player, coach, or umpire. Now that I’m in my 40’s, myself and the teammates I’m still in touch with remember those as some of our best years. My second year we went undefeated and the all star team was comprised of mostly our players. I’m not so sure that coddling our kids these days is the best policy. I do agree that at that age equal playing time is important because you don’t want to discourage kids from perusing sports in the future and development comes at different ages for different kids. By high school it’s a sports team that’s main objective is winning, you play the best players and you win games. There are a lot of lessons that are to be learned through sports and disappointment, sacrifice, and losing are a few. I don’t really agree with the “no score” sports either, I mean what lesson are we teaching there? Are we trying not to hurt someone’s feelings? It’s ok to have your feelings hurt, it’s part of life. With that all said, still, don’t be an asshole spectator, you’re only embarrassing you kids and yourself……

Courtney 7 months ago

This article is so spot on. Just wish I could post it on every single Little League bleacher seat and dugout in our hometown! What these coaches and spectators don’t realize is not only are they being terrible examples but a lot of times there are consequences for their actions. And you know who has to deal with those (or rather enforce those?) the people that are volunteering to make a change — present company included. Which means taking time away from MY FAMILY to deal with your a-hole antics.

ken 7 months ago

Being an asshole isn’t limited to parents! How about an umpire at a tournament who notices a players at the snack shack between games wearing earings, and instead of telling her she needs to remove them before the next game waits until the first pitch then throws her out of the game!

Roque Versace 7 months ago

I’ve coached flag football and soccer for a total of 7 years. I have had many asshole moments (not like the ones above especially pertaining to the treatment of kids on the other team). I have thousands of “great guy” moments. Hugs, words of encouragement, cajoling and seeing a child reach beyond what they thought hey could.

We are all human. Sometimes we have stress and unfortunately it comes out at the wrong place and time. Apologise, be sincere and move on.

They say every negative comment to a child requires 10 attaboy’s to make up for it. Keep that in mind and you can recover from mistakes.

Coach 7 months ago

If you drop your kid off at a practice to get babysat and go to get your nails done, you know what you are
If your kid misses most practices, yet makes it to every game, you know what you are
If you complain about coaches and yet never volunteer to do anything even though most organizations are desperately short of help, you know what you are
If you… Oh never mind, this is worthless. I just realized I’ve been coaching too long.

Maria T. 7 months ago

I coached my daughter’s instructional league softball team for 7-9 year olds. One of the ‘fans’ yelled during our first game, “Stop throwing like a girl!”. I IMMEDIATELY made that our rallying cry! Every single play someone was complimented for ‘throwing like a girl’ or ‘that’s how a girl runs!’ , or my favorite after one player hit a home run, ‘That’s showing them how to hit like a girl!’. We had more fun that season than any time I coached AND I got to humiliate an asshole fan…. WIN/WIN!!

opinion 7 months ago

My son plays travel baseball. He is 7 and has been playing up with kids 2 years older than him for the past 3 years. He plays SS and 1st. I agree with almost everything you said, however, there is a time and place to demand excellence. We went and watched the rec league the other day to see his buddies from school, and they are light years behind. Rec ball is all for learning the game and having fun. My son is the type of kid who gets upset if he loses. He doesn’t make excuses, he just goes out and tries his best everytime. I told hike long ago that as long as he tried his best I will always he proud of him win or lose. That being said, the travel side of sports is a different beast. Some parents are so wrapped up in it they often let their emotions get the better of them as I witness almost daily. It is quite sad as those kids will not want to play sports much longer. Mine on the other hand, I have to beg for breaks from throwing, hitting, running anything practice related because he wears me out lol.

Sara 7 months ago

I applaud you and this article! Nobody likes an asshole. I’m the mom who nearly brained 2 grown men with a giant trophy at one of my son’s PeeWee football playoff games a few years back. Why? I sat and listened to them make fun of half the kids playing while speculating which of their players would be best to injure our best players. The fuse in my brain blew. It wasn’t pretty. I’m probably still in their nightmares.

Jeanette 7 months ago

After teaching for 34 years and going to my own children’s games for many years I have , sadly, seen this behavior, again and again. People will never learn…

casey 8 months ago

Most importantly….If you can’t go a day with out drinking before, during or after your child’s game you sir are an asshole.

ant 8 months ago

Do you people view your own website? That is the worst auto-play commercial I have ever come across. It cannot be muted or paused, it keeps restarting and hesitating. I will never visit this site again because of that, your info is hardly worth being annoyed to death. Bad advertising can ruin a website.

Savannah 8 months ago

This post was hilarious except for one thing. PLEASE don’t assume that just because a child utters a mean, nasty, asshole-ish phrase that the parent is also an asshole. My step-son utters some OUTRAGEOUSLY mean, asshole-ish phrases that his mother teaches him all the time. It’s infuriating.

Branna 8 months ago

I used to work for a little league sports photographer. If you think parents are assholes about the games- just wait until their 4 year old doesn’t smile big enough for his/her heroic pose. Usually this where the moms came in, no offense. I have never witnessed this much unscripted crazy before. It’s scary.

Chris Christie 11 months ago

It’s a hard truth but some parents need to hear it. This is not about YOU; it’s about the kids and their fun and their passion. Your job is to get them to the field on time and be supportive no matter what. Cheer and cheer alike.

Barbra Oster 1 year ago

How about the only kids that are picked for all star teams or district teams are the board members, the members friend’s kids, and the coaches kids. Then secretive invites to tryouts sent to only certain kids in the league. Which are those same kids. Then wonder why they don’t win. Because their kids aren’t the ones who help win the games in the regular season. This is frickin’ little league baseball people! You can’t say well you need to get involved. I was involved as team mom and my husband did more coaching with the kids than the teams 2 coaches. My husband is not able to be a coach full time due to work conflicts. But as someone said before If we are not drinking buddies, your not in the popular clique. They are only hurting the kids. My kid doesn’t whine when he has to sit or complain when he’s not playing 2nd (which is his best position). He loves the game and just wants to play. But when he sees kids who are playing at a lower talent than him and they are the ones picked for those teams. It gets a bit upsetting. He is smart and knows b.s. when he sees it.

Tony Stark 1 year ago

Not sure the word “asshole” provides a good example of classiness to our kids. Perhaps idiot or jerk may serve the same purpose. But it does make the point. Where are all the male comments?

Craig 1 year ago

I coach soccer for six year olds in a recreation league with no score. I’ve been dealing with a parent this season who wants to know why we’re no scoring more goals. I had to tell him that the recreation league is to teach them basic skills, goals will come (even though they don’t matter right now)

Amy 1 year ago

I was an asshole parent until I took on the role of coach. You learn real fast how much of an ass you really are when you’re on the other side. Now, I cheer and stay positive, even if I have a different opinion of a call.

Dayna 1 year ago

how about, if you ostracize those who do not participate in the yearly brewfest , do not invite those to your kids bday party or backyard function because they do not party after every game and are surprised that anyone would rather (gasp) take a family vacation rather than play little league….I think you are an asshole!

Tammy S. 1 year ago

My son (now in college) was a referee for rec league soccer when he was in middle school. He was constantly being screamed at by a$$hole parents from the sidelines. I happened to be at one of those games and witnessed a jerk of a fella actually get up in his face while screaming at him for some call that he (the grown-up) had no clue about. My son calmly and professionally sent him off the field, and when he refused to comply, several of the other parents “persuaded” him to leave. Needless to say, when he finally exited the field, said jerk got a huge taste of how big of an asshole Momma Bear here can be. I think his testicles shrunk three sizes that day.

Amy 1 year ago

When I was 10 years old, I was the goalie for one of the best teams in the neighborhood league. During a high-level tournament game – one of the last of the season – we were playing a team from the other side of town. We didn’t know any of them, they didn’t know us. One of the dads from the other team stood behind my goal while the action was at the other end of the field and started talking to me. He asked if I had a pet and then started talking about how if I didn’t let the next goal go through, that he was going to ‘do something’ to my dog, and then he started naming nearby streets, asking if I lived there, did my dog run around, did I think he might be able to hit my dog with his car on his way home today. I didn’t even HAVE a dog but the guy scared me half to death!

erin 1 year ago

Okay, when your kid is at a competitive level in sports, you are straight up lying if at times you aren’t on pins and needles as if anticipating biopsy results. When you watch your kid work hard all season and they play an awesome championship game and reap the rewards, it’s an awesome thing to watch your child succeed and be happy. Is it the only thing in my kid’s life? No. Not even close. But I’m not an a-hole for, maybe not “pacing”, but definitely tapping my foot and hoping beyond measure. That is a short sighted viewpoint and way too judgey.

violet 2 years ago

ASSHOLE——>9 year girl shows up to an 830 am game (when they had played until 930 the night before) forgetting her helmet IN THE CAR, when the mom, who also happened to be the coaches wife, shouts “I swear one of these days I’m going to knock the hell out of you!” , then continues to complain how unforgivable it is that a child forgot something & how irresponsible “this group of girls are, they don’t deserve to play. I politely told the coach we were leaving & haven’t been back!

Marc 2 years ago

Pacing while your kids play doesn’t make you an AH, that’s the only one I disagree with. It can be nerve wracking watching your kids play for many reasons.

Charles Grayson 2 years ago

If you like calling people and asshole and a dick repeatedly in an article – You’re being an asshole, too.

    erin 1 year ago

    That was my thought!

werowance 2 years ago

As a Little League District Administrator I have certainly seen many examples of bad behavior by adults.When there is a problem, or a formal incident report, it is almost certainly not about players. When it is about a player, it is often about an attitude they have from, or because of, their parents.

A parent once yelled at me when the parent’s child did not make an All-Star team, mostly because of a really bad attitude. The thing is, this had been a long, on-going situation. Instead of sitting down with the kid and saying, “We need to fix this”, the parent chose to verbally abuse me and demand I put the player on an All-Star team anywhere. (I didn’t, and wouldn’t have even if I could). This parent and child are now in their 5th league in 5 seasons (they’ve moved twice, they’ve been able to take advantage of Combined Play forms, etc.) And the player still has issues.Sigh.

I share many of the sentiments in your article and in the comments by others here. Unfortunately I can’t link to it from my web site because of the language, even though I would have used the same words.

I chuckled when I saw you are an attorney. I have been telling my friends for years now that when I’m in charge of the world, I am going to replace about 60% of every nation’s laws with “Don’t be an asshole”. Trials would then become an exercise in deciding how big an asshole the alleged perpetrator is. On a scale of 1000, 1 is maybe something like littering with a small scrap of paper, and 1000 is mass murder. Then we would not have to update laws as technology changes. For example, copyright laws. We have had to come up with new laws for new technology as the Digital Age has advanced. But if the law was “Don’t be an asshole”, then copyright violators, whether by xerox, magnetic tape, burning CD’s & DVD’s, or file sharing, or something else that won’t be invented until 2025, could all be branded assholes to some degree and punished accordingly. Prosecutors would then have to prove that the accused did certain things that, as a result, brand him as a certain degree of Asshole, rather than prove a violation of a specific law. This certainly doesn’t cover all the laws on the books, but I bet it would for about 60% of them.

Keep up the good work, and “Don’t Be an Asshole!”

    CW 7 months ago

    You should run for congress! Lol Of course, most of them would fall into the Asshole category in one way or another, so I doubt that form of legal process could every pass. Sigh, if only.

David 2 years ago

I like all of these, but I question #7. That’s not harming anybody. If someone cares a lot but doesn’t exhibit any of the other asshole qualities, that’s no one’s problem but his/her own.

KatyDid 2 years ago

As a mom, teacher and a previous coach, let me assure everyone in the world who reads this and doubts it–ALL OF THIS is 110% true. Everywhere, every sport–or dance recital, etc–there is ALWAYS “That Parent”. You should see how *some* (not all) teachers treat the kids when no one’s around, too. Children will ALWAYS be seen as property until we step up and lead them, properly, with firmness but also love. This was funny to read, but in reality it isn’t funny at all sometimes. GREAT article.

Cindi D. 2 years ago

When my son started playing ice hockey, parents had to attend a class regarding sportsmanship, behavior in the stands, how to talk to your player and coach about the game, etc. We had to sign a statement that we would abide by the rink rules. If someone for each player didn’t attend, kid didn’t play. Our rink was completely serious about behavior! While hockey fans may cheer/yell for a good check (or fight in the pros) or other “team oriented” shouts (I was always yelling “protect your goalie!”), I hardly ever heard negative remarks from the stands. And ice hockey refs have no patience for nonsense from the coaches either! Our High School coach spent some time off the bench for yelling!
It has to all be in good fun!

Tom 2 years ago

I coached, refereed, and served on the executive board of our travel club for 17 years. I learned early to keep my friends close and enemies closer. The mom that had all sorts of advise on how to run the team was asked to be the team manager. She did a great job, and I never heard another word from the sideline. The dad that spent every game trying to coach from the parent’s side of the field was asked to join me as an assistant. The first thing I did was explain my coaching philosophy, and get him to understand that practice was our time to teach and motivate, but that soccer is a players game and once they step inside the boundary our role was to counsel the players on the bench and make adjustments at half time. It took him a while to get used to it, but he became a valuable member of our coaching staff, and a very good fried.

Tanya 2 years ago

Because my parents were asshole at my kids softball games she quit playing all together. Of course there was nothing I could say/do. She was a great player. And to this day, she still hears about it from them.

Trevor 2 years ago

Here’s one.

Are you at a hockey game and you boo a child in the opposing team’s jersey when he comes on the Jumbotron? If so, you are an asshole, and also the other thousand assholes in the stands who did so are your extended asshole family. And also go fuck yourself, it’s a KID.

I don’t lose it at people – normally – but a couple of noisy dudebros behind me at that game got a right shaming that night.

Michael Chaney 2 years ago

I love this list. You rock Brooke. Go kids!

Leanne Matters 2 years ago

My home looks over a huge sports complex. Every Saturday there is profanities screamed out by parents or coaching teams that bring the kids up near my back fence and have used profanities in their pep talk. Worst one was a few weeks ago that involved two mothers cat fighting , absolutely disgraceful that some have to spoil it for others.

Shannon McDaniel 2 years ago

Okay…..I agree with most of this, however, isn’t the point of playing a competitive sport to be, I don’t know, competitive? What, everyone needs a precipitation trophy? I agree that foul language shouldn’t be used against children, but come on, I can’t be glad that the other team struck out? I am cheering for my team, right? So we teach our kids that they are supposed to compete without being competitive? Horsecrap. Sports are supposed to teach kids that you don’t always win and hard work directly effects your performance.

    Trevor 2 years ago

    There’s a difference between being competitive and being an asshole, though.

    You go on and rightly teach kids that hard work directly affects performance, that competitiveness is good, and sure, that not everyone needs a participation trophy, but I hope that with all that other good stuff you teach them sportsmanship and respect. The whole Gretzky treatment, you know?

Kay Jordan 2 years ago

I am a basketball official. I love this. My rules are Coaches coach, Players Play. Parents cheer… PERIOD

Keri Taylor 2 years ago

Thank you!

Sue 2 years ago

Unfortunately, it doesn’t fade as they get into high school. A town near me is known for their asshole parents. After we beat them at girls basketball district final some woman yelled at me that our girls would never win regionals. I said it didn’t matter if we did, we only wanted to beat “them.”

Cathleen Clifford 2 years ago

Makes me proud to be part of a sideline that cheers for a job well done no matter which team!

Peter 2 years ago

I find that where I live hockey mommies and daddies, and soccer mommies and daddies, are the complete worst. Funny thing, when I take my son to martial arts meets, everyone there is so respectful and polite, throughout, even though ultimately martial arts are about fighting. Go figure.

Virginia Hope Lynch-Lineback 2 years ago


Rhonda Stewart-Schoenig 2 years ago

Life’s too short for a lot of shit!!!!

kelley 2 years ago

We have a coach in our town who is a huge asshole. He coaches football and baseball. they still allow him to ciach is beyond me. He yells to distract the opposing team so they can’t hear and he’s just ugghh…he needs to be banned!

Grown and Flown 2 years ago

We’ve been part of youth sports with our two families and five kids for two decades and have definitely seen our share of terrible sideline behavior from parents. Fortunately, the rotten behavior is far outnumbered by the good in parents who are supportive, who spend countless hours coaching as volunteers and who help in other large and small ways. In fact, saying goodbye to the other parents we have known all these years is one of the hardest things about our now 12th graders. Enjoy it all. Ok, you don’t have to enjoy the assholes, but enjoy all the rest!

Jeanine Raghunathan 2 years ago

Yes!!!! Love my kids in sports, hate the asshole parents!!!!

Andrea Kelly Briggeman 2 years ago

Amen! As my daughter’s softball coach(3rd season this year) it is so frustrating to see parents(and other coaches) act like this. At the beginning of each season I tell the whole team, parents included, this is house ball, not rep. We are here to make new friends, learn new or improve old skills, and mostly HAVE FUN! I have 4 girls on my team who played rep ball last year but came back to house because they didn’t like the coach. My daughter didn’t get my softball playing ability, but that’s okay. She enjoys herself, and at almost 14, I’d rather her on the ball field than hanging out in a park smoking weed or something.

Vanessa Ross 2 years ago

The only thing your kid should EVER hear from you (unless they are hurt) is “I love to watch you play!” Say it with me, people.

Evelyn 2 years ago

Awesome. I have sent this to everyone I know. Everyone should do the same!!!

Katie Bogdan Sunderlin 2 years ago

My son is 4 and in a no one wins everyone plays type soccer league. There is a father who takes it a bit too seriously. He stands on the sideline constantly yelling instructions to his son. It’s like, “Dude they are four, chill out.”

    Christine 7 months ago

    See and i am the asshole that actually tells the guy that.

Suzanne Yingling 2 years ago

This is why we play tennis. Coaching from the sidelines is forbidden.

Jody 2 years ago

I don’t fully agree with number 3. If your kid is being an asshole, they may have learned it from you, or they may have learned it from others in their life. The real test is, how do you respond when your kid is being an asshole (assuming that you have NOT modeled asshole behavior for them)?

Nicole Rusnak 2 years ago

During one of my sons football seasons there was this dad constantly yelling at his kid from the sideline. Never anything nice. Finally one day I asked my son if this kids was having a hard time with the game. I said I felt sorry for him because we always heard his dad yelling. My son got this weird look in his face saying no, this kid was one of the best on the team. Yet if you heard his dad on the sideline you’d think this poor kid wasn’t cut out for the sport. Id hate to hear this dad on the way home from a game

Sarah Robinson Hendricks 2 years ago

Love this!!!

Jennifer Franklin Martens 2 years ago

I have another one: if you are a parent who comes to every game and “coaches” from the sidelines, but refuses to volunteer to help out with simple things for the team, you might be an a$&;)$;e.

    Barbara Mastroddi-Lackey 2 years ago

    When my daughter was in travel soccer, we had one set of parents like that, very Type A and always “coaching” their daughter from the sidelines, much to my annoyance, but somehow, he got a pass. Also having a child who was the weakest link on the team made me secretly glad when she didn’t make the travel team the following year and played in rec league, which is a bit more low key and is about enjoying the game while playing well (and interestingly, did better in this type of environment).

Regina Griesbaum Mudd 2 years ago

Adults should be positive role models for kids. Some children ask their parents to drop them off and not attend their games.

Kelley Kadelbach 2 years ago

Yesssss!!! Love this article!

Nicole Rusnak 2 years ago

Love this!!! Sad but true!!

Jackie Reid Zapien 2 years ago

This is great!

Marie 2 years ago

Assholes are abound in club sports… Coaches, parents, and players. Everyone thinks their kid is it. I tell our daughter that if you can use sports to help pay for your education – great! If not, don’t worry you will still go to college and have a great life. Get real people!!!

Melanie Kathryn Hemingway 2 years ago

When my daughter was 5 and in peewee cheerleading, her coach would let them take little water and snack breaks and one day this peewee football mom came over and YELLED at her coach because “the girls weren’t being professional enough or cheering enough for the players” needless to say our coach gave her the what for.

    ZenaidaPA 7 months ago

    Lol… Good for her!!! Wish there was a ‘like’ button.

Lisa Marie 2 years ago

Sadly, I fear I am that asshole :(

    Mimi 2 years ago

    I know… I believe I am as well.

    BethK 1 year ago

    Recognizing the problem is the first step to recovery. Congratulations!

    Christine 7 months ago

    THERE IS HOPE! you can still be an asshole in your own head! Or at night, talking in private with your spouse when the kids are asleep (make sure first). If I said half the things that come into my head (all of the above and more!) I’d’ve been the biggest asshat ever. It is a learned skill to sit quietly and encourage the kids on both teams. The best things to say to your kid are “did you do your best?” and “listen to the coach and do what he tells you” (unless the coach is also an asshole – i’ve been extremely lucky there!) It takes a few years; but by the time your third boy is up at bat in T-ball – you’re not even an asshole in your head anymore!

      1girl2boys 7 months ago

      Bahaha! Everyone has a little bit of asshole in their noggin. REPENT!

Samantha 2 years ago

I agree with all but 11. As my dad was yelling at a ref when my brother was in soccer after he had been kicked in the head. The ref didn’t even want to stop the game to get my brother off the field (he had to be carried by two people) to get him to the ER. He had a concussion. The yelling (to put it mildly) got my dad red carded and was banned from two games…same thing happened to my brothers coach (who was also yelling at the ref)

    David 2 years ago

    I refereed my last soccer game 17 years ago, mainly because of behavior described in this article. In your situation, however, the moment your brother was kicked in the head, the ref should have stopped play immediately, whistling the foul, and given the player who kicked your brother at least a yellow card, for dangerous play, or if he/she deemed necessary, a red card for violent conduct/serious foul play, if, in his opinion (and yes, that phrase does (or did, when I was reffing) exist in the Laws of the Game), the kick was intentional. Neither your dad nor the coach should have gotten a red card, or any card, for that matter, because coaches are not carded, only cautioned or sent off (ejected), and members of the crowd are certainly not carded. If the ref had a problem with your dad (and I saw this actually happen in a game where I was a linesman/assistant ref, and had called offside on the home team, and a parent insinuated that the reffing crew was “on the take” (as an aside, the coach of the team which was called offside told me “That’s okay, there were two other players offside too (and there were).” :-P)), he should have told the coach to tell your dad to take it to the car, and spend the rest of the game there (or somewhere else away from the field). Neither your dad nor the coach was an a$$hole in this case; they were probably “collateral damage” for a ref with either an inflated ego, or a “god” complex, who didn’t like being shown up by people who either knew the rules better than he did, or called him out for something so obvious that he shouldn’t have missed it. Sorry for such a long post.

Nanda MacNeil-Arnold 2 years ago


Stacy 2 years ago

Let’s add if you are screaming your child’s name repeatedly and so loud that’s all anyone can hear your an asshole. If you are screaming at other players to pass the ball to your child, if you are screaming that your child is “open”, your an asshole!

cahren 2 years ago

Thank you for this. My son is 6 and playing in a Little League tournament this weekend. On a normal day, I love the parents on our team, but not that we are mixed up with kids from other teams, I appreciate our team parents even more. We cheer for the opposing team just as loudly as our own team. And if a kid makes a mistake, we let the coach teach, then cheer that it’s ok, they’ll do better next time. They are 6 and 7 year old kids still learning the game, but apparently, not all parents see it that way. Some are just assholes.

    Christine 7 months ago

    It only gets worse when they are 11 and 12 year olds still learning the game.

Becky Donnelly 2 years ago

Last year my daughter, who was 6, had a coach who was an asshole. If they were loosing he would loose all interest in coaching and spend him time kicking the dirt on the sidelines. He also kept the kids who were not his best players out of the game until his team had a strong lead. THEY WERE 5 and 6 year olds! WTF.

Paul 2 years ago

The main reason behind this behavior is a deep seated spark of hope on the part of the dads who believe that little Elmo has a real shot at the pros, and less than stellar coaching, officiating or playing by everyone else involved is surely in impediment to Elmo’s eventual signing with the Yankees.

    matt 1 year ago

    oh, it ain’t just dads, belieeeeeve me. Watching my 8 year old’s soccer games, while I’m actively listing phrases in my head that are encouraging to yell, all I hear on the sidelines are the screeches of moms yelling at the kids. I now hang out behind the kids on the sidelines pointing out the good things kids on both teams are doing at the moment. trying to drown out the incessant buzz of negative vibes coming from the parents.

Nicole Sullivan 2 years ago

I live in a very small rural town in Texas. Parents are beyond assholes, especially during football & baseball. Sports are the only reason for living for some of these people. Education takes a back seat (very far back!)

    1girl2boys 7 months ago

    Amen. I have friends that ground their 5 year old for striking out. I just want to punch them in the face!

Amy Roskilly 2 years ago

Don’t be and Asshole is my only rule for society. In all things, not just kids sports.

My special kind of crazy 2 years ago

The other weekend I stopped by my neighborhood ball field while walking my dog to watch some if the little league game. There was a dad- sitting in a lounge chair, on his iPhone. But he would intermittently call out to the coach, “hey coach, where do you want Ian? You should move him over, this guy can hit hard to left” and other such coaching comments. And he was not the coach. And he was barely watching the game, never called out any encouragement to his kids team, never cheered or clapped, just on his phone and telling the coach what to do.
He was an asshole.

    NinjaBill 1 year ago

    Re the dad on the phone…it sounds like he may have been scoring the game for the coach. there are several excellent apps available that record and compile stats for youth baseball, softball and other sports. Believe it or not, these stats can be used to TREAT “assholeism” in coaches or parents, either leading coaches and parents to areas of a player’s game that need work, or, in more advanced teams, helping the coach decide things like batting order. Also, there can be strict rules on how many adults can be in the dugout, and the person running the stats app is often a parent doing so from the spectators area, away from the commotion of the dugout. Or, you could be right, he could have just been an asshole 😉

Kim 2 years ago

This was hilarious and disturbing at the same time. I can’t believe this kind of asshole stuff goes on with kids sports! I hope this is so widely shared across social media that by the time my kids are ready for baseball all the assholes will have reformed. One can hope.

    Sharon (aka PuckGal) 2 years ago

    Oh it happens. All the time. I heard one dad refer to the ref’s mother as a “hooker”. The ref was probably about 15. Sickening but true.

      Wayne from PA 7 months ago

      I used to coach girls soccer. We were at a tournament and I was watching a team play that we would face the next afternoon. As one of the girls was dribbling the ball around the opposing defense (and doing it with some serious pizazz), two grown men, I assume parents from the other team, were yelling, “Stop that little bi**h, Knock her on her a**”. This was a U8 volleyball game. Between games I reported them to the head ref.

        Bob 7 months ago

        Your an asshole for scouting a U8 soccer game

          Dee 7 months ago

          Uh…isn’t that what coaches do? Watch the opposing teams? Nothing wrong or there….

        Ben 7 months ago

        If she was dribbling around opposing defenders during a volleyball game, then I suppose the parents had a right to be a bit upset.

    ZenaidaPA 7 months ago

    Good luck with that! It’s only getting worse!

      D-Shasty 7 months ago

      Is a volleyball game or a soccer game? You mentioned both!


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