Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy
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Having a girl is like riding a roller coaster. A fast, exhilarating, slightly out of control roller coaster.
Except that I hate roller coasters and haven’t been on one since I was nine years old and my father had to hold his hand over my mouth the entire time so the puke I was storing in my cheeks wouldn’t make its way back to the people in the row behind me.
But, other than that, having a girl is totally like riding a roller coaster.
The highs are so high. They are filled with sweetness and joy and all things good. Like cupcakes and rainbows and unicorns. On a sunny day. In a field. Together. They are amazing. And then boom! everything is turned upside down in the most dramatic way possible.
The lows are abrupt and intense and deafening. And then, the highs come back and you forget that the lows ever happened. Rinse and repeat a million times to infinity, and that’s what it’s like having a girl. Like a roller coaster, minus the nausea. Well, minus the nausea, most days. But, it’s certainly always an adventure and I’m forever thankful that I get to go along for the ride.
Happy 7th birthday to my one and only daughter. You add so much love and joy to my days. My world is a billion times better because you are in it.
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Happy Birthday to your lovely Lily!!! May the highs always be as high as they are now. :)
Happy Birthday to your girl!
So, so true. Happy Birthday, Lily!!!!
I could not agree with you more!! I also have a 7 yr old and two younger daughters 5 and 1). The drama overwhelms me a lot but I do love the sweet times as well! Happy Birthday to your daughter!
You said it beautifully. What highs and what lows…. and all that pink!!! :) Happy Mother’s Day to you.
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I couldn’t agree more! You explained it SO well!
Happy Birthday to your girl!
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I know exactly what you are talking about. I have two girls (15 & 21). They are exactly 6 years & 1 week apart, both January babies. You haven’t experienced anything until you have two girls suffering PMS at the same time!
Happy Birthday to your little one!
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I’m just starting to get a taste of all the drama…..but you’re right, the highs often replace the memories of those dramatic – whiney – crazy girl moments.
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I have missed out on the madness of having a daughter, but I have a drama king son, does that count? It sounds very similar.
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That is EXACTLY what it is like, I love it! Happy Birthday to your beautiful girl!
Awww, Jill, she’s a beauty!
Happy birthday girl child!
(I love when Scary Mommy busts out the mushy mush)
Well said! Mine is 15 and you never know who is going to say good morning- happy or mad…rollercoaster is perfect, because that is exactly it. Teen years are so tough! Enjoy your pre-teen years! :)
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It’s true…and it’s certainly endless as my 20 year old melted down yesterday via cellphone. But, I wouldn’t change a thing…other than the broken bones…oh, and the tumor. But, for better or worse, they’re mine and I love them. Girls….
Happy Birthday to your baby : ) I am glad you get to be on the roller coaster with Lilly!
And to think I would give anything in the world for a little Lilly!
Life with Kaishon recently posted..‘For last years words belong to last years language And next years words await another voice And to make an end is to make a beginning’ TS Eliot
The fun has only just begun! I raised three daughters and have lived to tell about it. Now that they are all in their 20′s, the melt downs are usually over the cellphone. I give advice, tell them to quit crying, put their big girl pants on and deal with it. It usually works. I love them to death but it can be exhausting. Good Luck…you only have about 20 more years of it. Just keep smiling….and maybe have a glass of wine.
Happy Birthday Lily! Wow – 7 years. She is growing up so fast. It’s a roller coaster, but I am so happy to have girls in my house as I’m sure Lily is an awesome girl to have in yours. She is creative and fiery and beautiful Jill….congrats on 7 years mama!
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And THAT is why I’ve always been so grateful to have a boy…..although…….
What a beautiful girl you have! Happy Birthday to her!
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Great way to describe it. Mine’s about to turn 6 and I had no idea that all girls should’ve been named Sybil. I find myself singing the words “she’s always a woman” by billy joel in my head a lot of the time when I deal with her because scarily, the lyrics of the dichotomous personality already apply.
I am SO doomed come teenage years.
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Awwww! Happy Birthday to your baby girl!
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Happy Birthday Lily!! You described my relationship with Sadie perfectly. Oh dear god…she will be 4 this month and HOLY SHIT…this roller coaster is intense!!
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We have two… one just turned 16 and most days she’s downright happy and bopping around the house hugging everyone… except when she’s swearing up a blue streak and insists she is incapable of true feelings:) Uh-huh… teen angst… good times. Then there’s the nearly 15 year old. Her mood swings at an amazing pace. If the hair hangs forward, beware… back away slowly and don’t make direct eye contact. But she gives the best hugs you’ll ever get.
I cannot imagine life without these two amazing and very different creatures.
btw— This right here… BEST EVER roller coaster story! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1h_hmdVJAc
Happy birthday to your girl!!
My oldest is turning seven at the end of February. She´s extremely sweet, but can be such a pain…as you said highs and lows. And I have two girls!
Happy B´day to your girl!
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Happy Birthday, Lilly. You are a beautiful and loved girl!
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Happy Birthday beautiful Lily!
That is soooooo true. I have a 12yr old girl that I love love love. But, boy when she’s down. Its lower than Hell. I’m also grateful that I’m along for the ride too.
Happy 7th birthday!
And I hear ya on girls. I think my eardrums will burst before the younger one turns 5 from all the piercing screaming and whining!
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Happy happy day to your girl!!!! Girls ARE…..well, you know. I have a thirteen year old! ugh. We love them just the same.
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Happy 7th birthday to your Lily.
My daughter is only 4 and is a lot of drama… my boy is so easy. Girls are a lot more complicated.
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Happy birthday to a beautiful little girl!! I hope your day is filled with fun and everything you dream of! :)
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Happy happy birthday little one! I completely agree with the roller coaster analogy yet I still find myself hunting for that “freeze your age” spray to use on my 11, 7 and 6 year olds. I hope you both enjoy every (well, most) minute of the ride! :)
Perfectly said!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY LILY!!
I’m not sure I’m going to look at a roller coaster the same, ever again.
Or vomiting, for that matter.
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Happy Birthday to your girl. We have two and I can certainly relate. Which is why I love to peek in on them why they’re sleeping.. they’re such angels then!
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Happy Birthday to your girl!
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You described it to a tee. And I’m comforted to know I’m not the only one riding a rollercoaster with my kids.
(AND you better believe it when I tell you the only side I ever see of your sweet girl is the sunshine and roses one.)
Happy Birthday, Lily!
That’s what I hear. :)
Happy Birthday, Lily…your present is in the mail (as soon as I can get out of the driveway!)….hope to see you soon.
Happy Birthday, Lily! And congrats, Jill, for making it this far with strength and grace. :)
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It is different being the dad. My girl goes through those up and downs too. She’ll be 7 this year too, but I think that the daddy/daughter deal has a calming effect upon her.
At least for now. Hmm, I just might have to blog about this.
Jack recently posted..Writers Write Right
Oh, it’s a whole different ballgame. He’s the hero; I’m the enemy. Bastard.
Everyone knows that women are evil. Haven’t you read the bible. ;) Ah, it is so much fun to have daddy’s girl crawl into your lap and look up at you with eyes that tell you that she has no bigger hero.
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Happy B’day to the little one. It’s a good thing you’re thankful for sharing this up and down ride, another 7 yrs of gripping the rail will have you partially primed for teenage stuff! BillyT
As the mom of four boys followed by my one-and-only girl, can I say I’m a little terrified by how DIFFERENT she seems from her brothers? More moody, more complicated…more manipulative? Still, there is something really special about our relationship…so far. She’s not even 2 yet, so I guess I really don’t know what I’m in for.
The are SO different– I really feel so lucky to have both.
Happy Birthday to your little girl! Yes, it is a wild ride-I thought my 21 yr old daughter and I were almost to make the full circle. Then the other day….she blocked me from her facebook. grrrr
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This could’ve been written about my 7-year-old daughter! Spot on.
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Happy Birthday to your girl! Great post… now I know what i’m in for (my daughter is 4 months)
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Happy birthday to your daughter!
My daughter is already a roller coaster at only 5 years old. I was just saying to my husband today that she can go from being the sweetest child to a little monster in the blink of an eye. I shudder to think what my life will be like when hormones come into play at puberty. I think I should go into therapy now!
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My daughter as a teenager could do more with crossed arms, a roll of her eyes, and a dismissive exhalation of breath than I would ever have believed. That said, she has promised to push me in my chair, when I am old(er) and gray. Like you, I have two sons and a daughter. My Mother-in-law (mother of three boys) used to say Sunday school teachers and mothers of three or more boys go straight to heaven…. But I find they each of them bring their own challenges, and as you so clearly appreciate, their own compelling joys. Happy Birthday to you all!
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Girls will keep you on your toes, that’s for sure. But it’s a great roller coaster ride.
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My sister used to get so upset because her daughter would never act the way she acted with her Mom when she would stay with me. Definitely a Mom-Daughter thing and you are so blessed. Happy 7th Birthday to Lily :-)
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Wow…I can’t imagine 7. Happy birthday to your daughter! Mine is only four, and already the roller coaster is full speed ahead at times, but I love her just the same. I do fear the day when she wants to go on an actual roller coaster though, because I’m petrified. I’ll take the psychological one, thank you very much!
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How it is possible that you have been a mother for seven years? Happy Birthday, Lily! And to you, too, Jill, for surviving all seven of them.
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My mother often says I got the daughter I deserved. On the days when I could kill her stone dead I know that to be true. On the days when she makes me so proud my heart could burst I know that to be true. Some days I could absolutely do without the pink drama, but secretly know our family production would be a little lifeless without it. Hope you both enjoyed the day. HMS.
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You’re a good mama. Sounds like the best party ever!
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I’m at year 4 and I thought it was a roller coaster, hoping I would get a break until the teenage years. You’ve ruined my hopes of rainbows and unicorns.
Happy birthday and happy birth day to you, Jill.
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I hope Lily had a great birthday. And, God, i hope she’ll be an easy teen.
I have two girls, ages 2 and 4 and I already completely understand what you are talking about!
Happy Birthday Lily!
Very interesting post. I have 10 year old girl at her
very young age she acts like she is totally teenager. She is very conscious in her looks and body.
Happy birthday to your lovely little angel….
My goodness you it the nail on the head. I have a 16 year old boy. Very hard headed up until he was in 7th grade and boom. I couldn’t ask for any child better than him. I thought I had it figured out. I thought WOW what is everyone complaining about…..this partening thing is EASY………………..Boy did I get a dose of some MAJOR drama. My girls ar 6 and 7. 18 months appart and MAN I question my sanity everyday. From what they are going to wear, how there hair is going to look, they have to have the correct socks and don’t get me started on the shoe shoppig AND clothes shopping. Sometimes I think you know maybe our husbands or partners, signifigent others think the same thing of us. Females are coplex on so may different that they will never understand and as weman WE may never know. I always say parenting is the most rewarding, confusing, sefl aware, happiest, sad and at times leave you broke hearted but you have to list to your self and I have learned…..don’t listen to other people and I don’t mean don’t take their opions into consideration but you live with your children, you know them more than anyone will ever know them. Good luck I’m sorry to say you do hae a 50/50 chance that your daughter wil take. At some point it’s ut of your control and you have to let them experience, even thought it is sad but we all what our chil to be successful and happy and supported and understand. Mommy duty never stops but up for it. I hope I didn’t bore you but just to t my oldest in th a 16 and I have made ALOT of mistakes I had himat19. Keep in ouch,