Comments on: Helicopter Moms

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:24:19 +0000

From reading some of these comments I think some of you may be in line for a heart attack!

If I could offer any sort of advice, I would suggest that you look at things from a different perspective. My mother had a nice saying that hung on her wall ever since I can remember through my 33 years. It reads.. “Prepare the child for the path.. not the path for the child”. She reinforced this by letting my brother and I become complete independent people while preserving her sanity.

I have employed this tactic with my own daughter as my wife and I raise her the best we can. The simple truth is that your child will never be able to deal with a problem if the problem is always solved for them. In this case, enroll your child in swimming lessons. Its fun for them and you can even be in the water with them! They teach kids how to swim, how to be safe and even how to alert others when they see problems. Wouldn’t that help alleviate your sanity the next time at a pool when you have confidence that your child knows how to be safe around water and alert you when something is wrong?

You cannot protect your child 100% of the time for the rest of their lives. If they never learn how to deal with problems then you have set them up for failure later in life while making you feel better in the early years. It may be very reassuring hovering over your child, but it is a very selfish thing to do. I am all for safety, but stressing constantly will never end without confidence in your child to know and do the right things. Your job as a parent is to give your child the tools and skills neccesary to be a independant person. They will be there before you know it and by then it will be too late!

By: Live.Love.Eat

Live.Love.Eat — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 00:09:06 +0000

I think it's normal. At a pool or playground, BAD things can happen and there are people who lurk around waiting for that mom not to look for a second, long enough to snatch her kid. So, I think it's OK to keep a constant eye. Now, if we are at someone's house I am totally fine with them in the other room while I am sipping a cocktail in the next one over! .-= Live.Love.Eat´s last blog ..Roasted Veggie Pitas =-.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 01:55:06 +0000

Oh I do this every time they swim, it’s amazing how long the buggers can hold their breath isn’t it!? I am normally not the mom running every time something happens but OMG in the water if they don’t come up soon enough I jump up and bolt to the water. Freaks.me.out. I could have written the same thing. We have a 3ft pool they can touch in it and both my older 2 have had numerous swim lessons and swim very well and I still panic, my youngest wears a life jacket at all times (well for the most part) at the pool and can’t get it off on his own and I still panic when I don’t see him for 2 seconds. Water can be scary stuff with kids.

By: Suzy Voices

Suzy Voices — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 21:43:46 +0000

Helicoptering is totally acceptable, and preferable, at the pool!! Now mine are both on the swim team, but that still doesn't keep me from cringing every time the little one jumps into the deep end. .-= Suzy Voices´s last blog ..Blame it on Aunt Becky =-.

By: DesignHER Momma

DesignHER Momma — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 12:40:31 +0000

I love pools, but they scare the crap out of me too. I’m all over that like a fly on a turd…

By: Nikki

Nikki — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 03:23:07 +0000

I am the same way with my son. He’s four now. I’ve never been one to follow on his heels making sure he doesn’t fall or, gods forbid, get dirty, but when it comes to the pool I drive him nuts. He even tells me “Mom, stop following me, go away!” I’m already an embarrassment to him! I do yell out the occasional “Get down before you smash your head! Do you WANT to go to the ER?” But beyond that, I let my son have a lot of independence, except of course when he could drown in seconds flat. So I think you can keep your “not a helicopter mom” title.

Oh, not sure what the etiquette is for a first time comment, so hi, I’m Nikki. I found your blog through One Nerve Left, which I found through Rock and Drool, from a referral through Suburban Oblivion. It’s always nice to run amok down strange avenues and find cool stuff.
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By: LinLori

LinLori — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 02:43:41 +0000

Ohhh, been there, done that, so many times. Actually, every time we move, the first month of trips to the new playground is full of nothing but, “OMG DON’T DO THAT YOU’LL BREAK YOURSELF!” This move, in particular, was a bit on the traumatic side. All the other playgrounds we’d gone to were nicely fenced in. But oh, no, no. Not this one. This one is wide open space. Sure, it’s surrounded by houses and housing itself is, y’know, enclosed in fencing topped with barb wire, but still! You never know what could happen if they suddenly decided to run off. Hoooo boy. It’ll pass with time, though. And I’ll be pool-side, ready to have a heart attack next summer.
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By: Nap Warden

Nap Warden — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 19:19:34 +0000

I think I might be guilty on this one. I just got back from the zoo. We go all the time…it’s right there in the city. That said…it’s like hearding cats! They are just everywhere. I hate being outnumbered:P
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By: Missy

Missy — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 18:44:09 +0000

I admit, I am a semi-heli. I have gotten a lot better with each subsequent child. But when it comes to water, I'm pretty sure I will always hover. Water is scary. .-= Missy´s last blog ..Clutter =-.

By: Elisa

Elisa — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 18:43:31 +0000

Oh, I hear you! Stella started swimming too this summer, and since then, pool = anxious time for me. I can barely recognize myself.
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