There is finally a word for men taking women’s ideas and passing them off as their own
If you are a woman, you’ve likely at some point in your life said something or come up with an idea which was initially ignored until it was repeated back by a man — at which point everyone trips over themselves thanking him for coming up with such an amazing concept.
Well ladies, now there’s a word for it: hepeated.
Nicole Gugliucci, an astronomer and professor, took to Twitter on Friday to explain the new term. “My friends coined a word: hepeated,” Gugliucci tweeted. “For when a woman suggests an idea and it’s ignored, but then a guy says same thing and everyone loves it.”
My friends coined a word: hepeated. For when a woman suggests an idea and it's ignored, but then a guy says same thing and everyone loves it
— Nicole Gugliucci (@NoisyAstronomer) September 22, 2017
Hepeating, which spellcheck (who is obviously a man) keeps trying to change to repeating, differs from mansplaining in that a man takes something a woman says and immediately regurgitates it back as if he thought of it himself. Mansplaining, when a man explains something to a woman because we clearly are too dim to understand it ourselves, can be more subtle but equally infuriating.
This is a great point. Women's ideas are often ignored until a man says the same thing. A good word for this would be "hepeated". https://t.co/N0UeOIdfJ2— Steve Hogarty (@misterbrilliant) September 22, 2017
This happened to me all the time at my old job! Also- my boss told me to take notes at a meeting when I was the most senior in the room.— Ilana Wiles (@mommyshorts) September 23, 2017
Gugliucci told HuffPost the word was coined during a group chat with some of her girlfriends (as is every other brilliant idea) who work across multiple industries. “More than once we’ve all run into issues, at work mostly, when we have an idea that doesn’t get any traction until a man says it,” she said.
It’s true; I’ve worked in male dominated environments most of my career and am not easily offended. In fact, one of my old managers used to rearrange his balls throughout most of our meetings. One time, he even used a quarter. I never batted an eye (I actually felt bad for the quarter). But taking a woman’s thought or idea and claiming it as your own is a special kind of maddening, ranking a close second to hearing “OMG, you are so lucky your husband helps with the kids.” It seems others on Twitter agree:
It also works in the context of a PoC trying to speak at any point.— Camilo (@i_am_camilo) September 22, 2017
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 pic.twitter.com/9tZvfkJIwE— Hangry Nurse (@FemNurse) September 23, 2017
Sort of like when Collins and Murkowski oppose new healthcare legislation, and McCain gets all the credit.— Candace L. Carr (@CCandyLuv) September 22, 2017
Cool, but I have an idea for a word: hepeated. It's when a woman has an idea and it's ignored, but then a guy says it and everyone loves it— J.T. Finch (@emperorjamius) September 22, 2017
One time a male mgr. complained about a problem and I said you mean the thing Lydia already proposed a perfect solution for? He's like uhh..— Joel Oblizalo (@JoelOblizalo) September 22, 2017
I often "helay" ideas - whisper an idea to a male colleague for him to suggest so that it receives proper consideration.— Erin O'Brien (@erinogirl123) September 22, 2017
Hepeated is gaining momentum and has already being added to the Urban Dictionary which means we can order it on a mug. At least we can have our coffee while a man steals our ideas, so that’s cool.