I love comments. I crave comments. The little ding my e-mail makes when I have a new one has me dashing to the computer to see who said what. It’s flattering to have people react to the words you’ve written or parts of you that you share. Any blogger who claims not to care about comments is lying. Comments are what make a blog a blog, rather than just a diary.
Through comments, I’ve learned valuable sleeping tips and tonsillectomy recovery ideas and potty training tricks. I’ve learned where to buy things I couldn’t find myself and how to make the perfect ballerina bun. I’ve laughed really hard, and often thought that someones spur of the moment comment far rivaled my well planned out post.
Commenting is also a great way to gain readers– when you say something witty and entertaining on someone else’s blog, chances are people will want to follow you to your blog. But there are also some comments that ensure that they (or at least, I) won’t. And I seem to be getting quite a few lately. So, I present you with the top commenters I’d rather be without:
1. The Cut & Pasters: The most irritating commenter is the one who leaves a million comments such as “great post!” or “love it here!” clearly without having ever read a single word. It’s as if they’re trying to gain credit by hitting as many blogs as possible, except nobody is keeping score but them. While there are times when a simple word says it all, it’s obvious when the commenter has actually read the post or not. And that’s kind of the point.
2. The Shameless Pluggers: If you have something relevant to link, go ahead, but just posting “I have a great giveaway, be sure to visit!” pisses the hell out of me. Maybe add it at the end of a relevant comment. Maybe, but at least make an effort to say something else first. And what about the people who insist on leaving their url everywhere they visit? If your comment is worth following, I’ll click on your avatar and be brought to your blog. Typing it out won’t help you gain any readers.
3. The Inappropriate Commenters: Comments should be relevant to the post they accompany. This isn’t my Facebook wall, so don’t use the comment space for random thoughts or messages. See that mailbox icon above? Use that to e-mail me. Please.
4. The Spammers: It’s bad enough that my inbox is filled with girls from Russia who want to marry me and illegal drug suggestions, but my blog gets inundated too? That’s not cool. {The Akismet plug-in kills 99% of these, but before I installed it I was getting 100 or so a day.}
5. The Anonymous Pricks: Some of my favorite comments ever have had opposing views to mine. Well, that’s not true– my favorite tell me how witty and pretty I am, but I do very much appreciate when someone takes the time to present me with a differing point of view. But, only if that person has the balls to use their name. Otherwise, they’re just asking to be deleted. And I’m not afraid to do that.
6. The Un-Reachables: When I was on Blogger, nothing drove me crazier than someone asking me a question in a comment and finding “no-reply-comment@blogger. com” as the return address. Then, I am forced to respond to the question on their blog which isn’t appropriate or not respond at all which is even ruder. And fake e-mail addresses? Oy. Get a life.
7. The Paybackers: The “thanks for visiting my blog today” folks are not only rude, but insulting. While it is much appreciated when a blogger pays you a return visit, by simply thanking you for visiting them, they are making your little corner of the web about their blog. Same with “visiting from xyz!” You can’t find anything else to say along with that? Then don’t.
Did I miss any of your pet peeves? What drives you crazy? Or are you all too afraid to comment?
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First off, please forward me any great potty training suggestions you have collected.
Secondly, I HATE the spammers and anonymous posters.
Brittany’s last blog post..Let’s all make a list of things I can’t fit into right now, while I cry and get drunk. It’ll be super fun.
Great post! (ok, I started with that just to be an arse ;)
seriously, I love comments and love leaving them.
So far, no pet peeves have happened to me, but your list is great.
Rebecca’s last blog post..I declare June “Ottawa Tourism” Month
I have a crazy pet peeve. When you have someone who comments all the time and then they just poof! disappear! I find myself wondering, what did I do? Are we not friends anymore? Am I not interesting?
I’m weird right?
jodifur’s last blog post..Deep Thoughts By Michael
I hate the people who leave fake email addresses. I mean, really. If you can’t take the heat, get the hell out of my kitchen. It is so cowardly; they can call you out, but you can’t reach them to retort.
mrs chicken’s last blog post..I Want A New Drug, One That Won’t Make Me Fat
You know when you leave your email open 24/7 that you are addicted to the comments on your blog… and your route to the bathroom ALWAYS goes by the computer first.
I’m with you on the cut and pasters. I haven’t had too many of the others, but I have had some weird and downright strange comments. Huh, say that again?!
Well crap……now I don’t know what to say.
I was gonna say great post, I love it here. BTW, I have a great giveaway at my site. I am a Russian woman who wants to marry you.
Well that is no fun.
:)
DCUrbanDad’s last blog post..Ear hair, man cold, ducks, smoothies – Random Thoughts by DC Urban Dad
now i am scared to comment. i might do it wrong. i’ll have to talk about this in my next therapy session.
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I hate the “thanks for visiting my blog today” comment so much! It’s like they skipped the post and went straight to the comment section.
Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha
I am totally addicted to comments! I don’t get too many but when I do it just makes my day! I’m also a big believer in replying to the comments but I know for some people with larger numbers of comments that is just too difficult.
As a comment addicted individual I also try to make at least one comment on a blog that has made me smile or been informative in some way.
My pet peeve? Someone who brings their differing opinion with their closed mind. If you want a conversation great, but if your mind is already made up why are you here?
It’s my party/blog so I’ll cry/delete your comments if I want to. :)
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To be honest, I can’t really relate to this post because I’m still scrambling to get people to comment on mine :) But I hope to have this problem one day!
Kristina’s last blog post..Lineman’s Wife
Now I feel like going back to read every comment I have left here to see if I am guilty of any of those things! ;) I sure hope not. Can I say – great post? Seriously. And I do love your blog. I have received anon comments only a couple of times and of course those are deleted right away. How annoying are these people? Also? A blog I used to follow regularly? Well, this blogger emailed me and told me I was visiting her blog too often. She said I was leaving too many comments. She said she felt like I was trying to bring attention to my blog which was totally not true at all. I was shocked and I have not been to her blog since. That really pissed me off, because really? Who cares how many times a day someone clicks on your blog? And I’m thankful for every comment I get!
Loukia’s last blog post..The finer things in life..
Comment pasters are my biggest annoyance, but I suppose they’re just going to say “great job” when they comment here about it.
Also, anonymous or not, anyone who rips on a mother’s parenting tactics on that mother’s own blog should be deleted from the internet. (not that I’ve ever experienced this, because I’m perfect). I read my IRL friend’s blog about getting her kid to sleep using the “cry it out” method, and could not believe all the bad-mommy comments that were left for her.
Ryan Ashley Scott’s last blog post..On Edge
I love getting comments too! I find myself disappointed if I don’t have at least a few comments — like people weren’t impressed enough to comment, or the post was boring.
I find that there are often blog posts that I want to comment on but I find myself at a loss for words. And rather than leaving a “great post” comment, which I admit to doing once or twice before , I just leave nothing, usually meaning to go back when I think of something interesting to write.
Thanks for the tips!
FamilyNature’s last blog post..“How do you do it?”
My pet peeve is when people leave stupid comments that are obviously suppose to be witty, but are actually the opposite.
My favorite Twain quote goes something like… It is better to remain silent and appear stupid than open your mouth (or type) and remove all doubt.
Oh, and I posted my blog address. I’m not giving anything cool away either. Clicking that link will be a total waste of time, unless you want to read about me and my one year old… Which you totally should because I’m interesting… Oh, I think my comment no longer has a point :)
I almost never leave a comment because i feel like I just repeat what another person said.
Sometimes I am not that creative and just can’t think of anything else but “You are funny” or “Great Post”
Melissa’s last blog post..Just this one
Great post! :-)
Non-reply commenters – drives me ape crappola. I’ve “met” some really nice bloggy people by chatting via e-mail. But someone will leave an excellent comment, and I will want to say “thanks,” etc., only to have my reply go out into the non-reply commenter blackhole.
I’m sure the point is for me to go to their blog and comment there, but I never seem to make it. Bad me.
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hello Jill,
First let me say those are three adorable kids you have there. Mine are all grown and gone…hence the empty nest refrerence. Just so you know, I read your blog and every one of the comments, am not selling you anything, have given my full name and e-mail address and hate to cut and paste. Whew…….hope I covered most of your peeves ;-) OOPS hope you don’t hate little happy symbols. I have enjoyed reading your blog and will be returning for more words of wisdom. Kiss those kids often for they will be gone in the blink of an eye.
your friend,
Janet
p.s……I am having a giveaway on my blog…..their I said it…..and I’m outta here before you can catch me!
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I don’t get enough comments to get annoyed by them. It might have something to do with rarely updating my blog … oh, and I occasionally “disappear” for days, sometimes weeks at time. Sometimes life just gets a little overwhelming, and I have to step back from the online world and get back in touch with the real world. But I always come back, eventually.
Patti’s last blog post..Back to Reality, or is it Virtuality
I HATE it when people only say “hi – great post! dropping in from SITS (or wherever)” SO WHAT? I too delete comments that I find irritiating. Like the ones above but without the first sentence. The ones who JUST tell me where they’re from. Or the ones who JUST tell me cool blog or whatever. Yeah, I’m with you. I get irritated at comments too.
Oh, and Jill, I miss your comments on my blog! :)
christy’s last blog post..Mirrors in the Bedroom
Jodifur, You are so right- the Disappearing Acts suck. I used to make a point to visit every commenter, but I’ve gotten lazy. Maybe they’re waiting for a return visit?
And, no, emoticons don’t bother me at all. I am actually an abuser, but I hate the flashing faces that some blogs change them to. I like mine old school :P
And when in doubt, just tell me my kids are gorgeous. I’m a sucker for that.
Well this is a comment TOTALLY relative to the post. I’m afraid and paranoid that I’m a crappy commenter now! Give a girl a complex why don’t you. There’s nothing like getting a good comment on a post though. I’m working on trying to build my “following” but honestly not overly concerned. IF peeps like me great, if not who the hell cares! :) Later!
Jamie’s last blog post..How good he has it
I concur. I especially am driven nuts by the “beautiful photos” and “cute blog” comments. I even try to help the commenters that can’t think of something to add…but putting questions at the end of each of my posts. And I still get those kinds of comments.
Kat’s last blog post..Pieces of Eight
Ummm, yeah, NOW I’m afraid to comment. See you next year. LOL
:)
~Tabitha
Boner.
DrZibbs’s last blog post..What Are The Best Food Brands? Chips. Baked Beans. Burgers.
I’m a relatively new blogger and LOVE the few comments I get with each post. SERIOUSLY, brightens by day. While I haven’t been bombarded with spammers or negative comments, I do find the non-reply comments a little irritating.
Managed Chaos’s last blog post..Steps Forward
Ding…Ding…
Thank you for the comment tutorial – it had me laughing!
I always appreciate when people take the time to visit my blog and actually leave a thoughtful comment. That’s what makes my day. I try to do the same.
Thanks, as always, for a “great post”!
T Rex Mom’s last blog post..Party Preparations…
I love getting comments too. It’s true that it’s what makes a blog a blog. Every single one makes me smile. I am not fan of generic comments or spammers either. Ugh. Poo on those!
I don’t delete though. I don’t get enough comments to delete any. hehe.
Kelly Deneen’s last blog post..Peek-a-boo Surprise
Ah oh…I do the visiting from SITS and the thanks for visiting my blog, but, I leave a comment also regarding their post.
The disapperers, yup, right now I am letting that bother me. I had 4 who I thought were bloggy buds and then they just stopped visiting. It shouldn’t, but it kind of hurts:(
Vickie’s last blog post..Bloggy Awards Are So Cool:)
I am on blogger so I totally HATE that “no-reply-comment @ blogger. com” commenters. I considered changing to WP or typepad because of it, until I realized that if someone doesn’t want to leave their email address they can always just make up a fake email address. Anonymous pricks can still be clever.
Not that it’s very clever to figure out how to leave a fake email address. But, you get my point.
Great post! Love it here! :-)
Texan Mama’s last blog post..Update!
You’re so witty and pretty. ;)
Anne’s last blog post..Beauty Tip Roundup
you have me wondering if some of my comments sounded “generic” to some. i always read before i comment, but sometimes i say “great post! i hope you have a wonderful day :)” not because i don’t care, but because i really felt it was a great post and i want them to have a wonderful day. is that bad? geez i hope not!!!!!
anyways… Great post! have a wonderful day :)
ha ha
Lizzie’s last blog post..Neighborhood Visit
I was going to be all great post! love it here! But I guess I’m not as clever as I thought.
My current site is still too new for a lot (er, any) commenters (or at least that’s what I’m telling myself) but when I used to get comments at my old sites (a long time ago), I remember really disliking the “Thanks for stopping by my site, yours is great!” notes.
Crystal’s last blog post..When I Move, You Move
You nailed it with “anonymous pricks”….can’t stand the negative nellies if they can’t use their name and link back to their blog!
Casey’s last blog post..Wordful Wednesday
ha! Too funny. Basically, you’ve summer up all the shitty yearbook signatures, just with today’s newer technology. “Stay Sweet 4-EVA” is now, “Loved this post!!”
“This post F’ing sucks” by Anonymous is the new “You’re fat” anonymously written in the margin on page 223.
The spammers are like those desperate jerks who wrote their phone numbers in every girl’s yearbook.
I guess some things never change – just the mediums do.
Jessica’s last blog post..I can’t make up my mind…
You pretty much summed it up for me! But, really?? A perfect ballerina bun? YOU MUST SHARE! My daughter had a dance performance this past weekend, and as a newer dance mom, I couldn’t help but analyze the buns. Mine was way too high for one thing. :o)
Melissa’s last blog post..You’re it!
You can be such a B and I love it. Carry on!
PS – your kids are gorgeous. See? Not only did I read your post, but your return comment, too. :)
Starnes Fam’s last blog post..The Land Of BBQ
I have a giveaway at….I’m kidding. I was just making my point on my number one comment pet peeve. If I want to check your giveaway out, let ME come to YOU..I don’t like thte spam on my blog.
As for the anon comments, it’s why I turned anon off. I’m overly sensitive and would probably cry if someone left a mean comment. I need to grow some balls, I know. Well, thicker skin at least. Growing balls would be weird as I’m a chick.
Amber’s last blog post..The Diseased Dora
I have some ocean front property in Arizona. Are you interested? LOL
I couldn’t resist. One of my pet peeves are those that leave comments just trying to sell you their product or worse a product they scammed off someone else to pass as their own.
Seriously though I do enjoy reading your daily posts. As a mother of 2 (soon to be 16 and 6) I can relate.
Wishing you a scent-sational day!
Patty Reiser’s last blog post..Picture of the Day 6/02/09
Wow, great post! Love your site!!
LOL! I am happy for any comments, even the annoying ones. Ok, not really. There are those I could do without and those 5 types are a good start.
James (SeattleDad)’s last blog post..10 years and counting . . .
I dont know if its a good thing or not, but I guess my blog just isnt popular enough for the Anon’s to bother with. Either that, or the letter-verification thing made them think long enough that they decided not to post their stupid comments. Either way I am glad they dont come to visit me :) I hate the Anon wars – where they just fight with each other.
I do enjoy reading your blog – for the comments & your interaction with them almost as much as for the original posts themselves. Great job :P (is that enough sucking up for you? No? Well then…your kids are gorgeous).
sarah’s last blog post..Wedding, wedding, wedding
Yep, yep, and yep.
P.S. I think you’re witty. And pretty.
I too crave comments (show me a blogger who doesn’t…) and detest spam. Nothing worse than getting all excited about some comment love and discovering it’s a trashy spammer. Akismet picks up most of mine too, but some slip through. Jill, I love that you practise what you preach, and you share your knowledge of the way the blogosphere works with those of us who are newer to the game!
SquiggleMum’s last blog post..Tantrum Tracker
OMG I LOVE you!
Your number one is my number one.
In fact, I shit you not, I recently got a cut and paste comment and immediately sent an email to a friend asking if we could outlaw these type of comments.
tattooedminivanmom’s last blog post..Chick Chat For Dudes
The cut and pasters kill me. Slowly.
I just copy their comment and paste it back.
Two bad comments don’t make it right, I know, but I can’t help myself.
Tiffany’s last blog post..New Moon Footage: Oh My.
Christy just made me laugh- with her “stopping by from SITS”!
I like to know where people found me, but I prefer a relevant sentence or two as well!
The other way to look at it is that comments are still a visit and a visit is still traffic, right?
BTW- I am the friend TTMM sent the email too- then we both came here, how funny is that?
Tiffany
Tiffany’s last blog post..Featured Blogger: Why Mom Drinks Rum
Then I went and did her idea for cutting and pasting back.
Try it next time!
tattooedminivanmom’s last blog post..Chick Chat For Dudes
I like it here. Check of my giveaway for toe nail clippings.
Was that what you meant? Yep. That was my pathetic attempt at a joke. Sorry, no toenail clippings here.
“GREAT POST. LOVE IT HERE”
lol
Brilliant, agree with every word!
I especially hate anonymous commenters, I did a post a while ago about breast feeding and got soooo many nasty comments from people that didn’t leave their name, really pisses me off! I think if you truly believe smething you should stick your name by what you say.
xxx
Daisie’s last blog post..A Rack, Some Shorts, Some News, A Rant And Some More Shorts
You are so beautiful.
I really enjoy your blog, I don’t know what else to say. visit me at Luxury Watches.
(oh, and don’t knock us Russian brides! free delivery!)
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Great post. Love it here!
I just had to do it, sorry. :P
I totally share those peeves with you! Blogging (for me anyway) is about community, and stupid thoughtless comments don’t do anything to foster that.
OH AND…you’re pretty. ;o)
dysfunctional mom’s last blog post..WordFUL Wednesday ~ Spring
I agree with all of your points.
I don’t get all that many comments on my blog (the fact that I write only irregularly doesn’t really help with that), but I do appreciate each one that shows that someone actually read the post and I do my best to engage those readers in an ongoing conversation, mostly by email.
But even so I have no problem at all with deleting comments like the ones you mentioned. If somebody – especially somebody I don’t know yet – just writes “great post” or “thanks” it shows me they didn’t read the post and only want an outgoing link to their own blog to get the Google juice. And that’s just lame. Thankfully, Akismet takes care of most of them right away. :)
Same goes for the shameless pluggers. I might not delete their comments completely, but I will definitely remove any spam-like looking links from them, which usually makes sure they never come back. :)
It’s sad that many people seem to have nothing better to do with their time, or that they just don’t get the point of commenting on a blog. It makes blogging more of a hassle than it should be. But there are always people who do get it and those are the ones worth concentrating on.
samulli’s last blog post..Etsy Finds – Week 23-2009
that pretty much covers it! i love comments too
The paybackers drive me up the wall. I’d rather, if they’re going to visit, they just read and not comment, than make a point of saying they did.
I thought I was the only one who got annoyed by #6! It’d be great if this could be posted as a “Commenters Etiquette” list somewhere!
The Dental Maven’s last blog post..Texas Grillin’
First…I am glad I don’t fall into any of those catagories…Second, you did forget the person that goes on a personal tangent leaveing a mini book post about how inappropriate they feel the persons post was…
Me, if I don’t have anything nice to say…I don’t say anything…My mama taught me well!
I don’t get that many comments, but I agree with what you wrote. I would rather have nothing than something that doesn’t mean anything.
One of the things I’ve noticed about commenters on other people’s blogs that I don’t like is when they are having a giveaway and someone leaves a comment along the lines of “oh, oh, pick me, pick me!!!” Especially if it is someone I read regulary and I notice that it is not a regular commenter. At least write something about the post and not just your desire for something free.
And I do love you because you are witty. And pretty. And you have cute kids (you forgot that one). Because I totally wouldn’t read if your kids weren’t cute. I mean we do have to consider the important stuff.
Jennifer’s last blog post..The Mystery Rash
You know what bothers me? The people who comment on my site about five minutes after I commented on theirs. It just seems so rude that they can’t bother to visit on their own but rather feel like they need to come say something just because I popped in.
Also, I agree with all of the others that you wrote!
Hilly’s last blog post..You Want “Real”? Let’s Disco, Bitches…
i found this post from my greader (shared by snackiepoo) . I thought i would put my two cents in.
I have a blog. I love getting comments on my posts, but I don’t need them. Comments are awesome, don’t get me wrong, but they are not the end all be all of my blogging life. And some times, I will comment right after I get a comment because, the comment will remind me to go back and revisit the latest blog post. I’m forgetful sometimes I do want to comment, but something shiny usually takes my attention, and I close the window.
Now I follow some pretty awesome blogs, and I do read everything, but sometimes I just don’t have anymore in put that “hey, that was an awesome post”, or something like that. If I don’t have anything to add, I usually won’t post anything.
Sorry if this feels like there is no flow to the comment, but I haven’t had a lot of coffee yet.
Have a good one!
oh man those anonymous ones are brutal and oh so cowardly. they scream up such a big comment and then don’t show their face. ICK!
I have to say this post was really well written, you should do a weekly blog-etiquette column somewhere. Seriously. You totally covered all the bases in the article/write up (you always do)
dawn’s last blog post..morning glory muffin
*hanging head in shame* I admit, in the past, I have been a “paybacker”. BUT, in my defense… I was just starting out at blogging and I thought that’s what you were supposed to do. lol. *sheepish grin* I totally see why it’s annoying now.
These days, when I read a post, I try to leave a somewhat relevant comment if I can, or if not, just enjoy the writing and forego commenting. I hate to be a lurker, but sometimes I just have nothing great to comment, or what I would have said has already been said by others :)
Jaden’s last blog post..Friday Fill-Ins #21
Great post! I have an awesome post up myself today, you should check it out! And I can also show you how to get a gajillion new twitter followers a day for only $21.95.
Hee hee hee…….
I detest the no-reply-blogger thing too. I try to respond to every commenter, and hate when that pops up.
Tiffany’s last blog post..Me And God; We Go Way Back
It’s funny because I am so new the the blogging world I didn’t even think about any of these issues. I guess because I get so few comments that I don’t suffer from these problems. I usually comment here and there on other blogs. I usually just get excited and definitely guilty of writing “nice post” or “thanks for sharing”. I always enjoy reading posts but sometimes I don’t have anything clever or witty to say. I am not subscribed to many blogs out there (maybe I should, it sounds like it brings in traffic….I have a lot to learn!) I subscribed here initially to score some free earrings. But I am glad I did, because “I love your blog” :) Even if I don’t comment, I read it at 6 am every time you publish and it always puts a smile on my face!
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Great post! And thanks for visiting mine. I also have a super cool giveaway going on, come and check it out. Anonymously speakin, I can’t believe I love you so much and you are suck a liberal. Rush rules!
I’m eating the best almond butter on my toast right now, and then heading to the pool.
And you are so pretty and your kids are gorgeous. You’re smart too.
courtney’s last blog post..It’s THE LOOK of the summer, people!
Amen! These are all things that I’ve bitched about before. Though I have to admit that sometimes I do leave lame ass comments, but I visit lots of blogs through SITS/Welcomistas and some I just don’t know what else to say.
I realize that’s not a very good excuse so next time I’ll send you a link and let you write my witty comment for me. Deal?
Oh, you have definitely hit the nail on the head! And boy, you are doing all of us a service by posting about how not to comment :-)
I want *everyone* to read this, so I will add it to the Cool Finds of the month post :-)
Elisa’s last blog post..The one where my husband bribes me
Sometimes the simple line is all that needs to be said. If I have ever posted a link, I apologize. If I have an interesting topic that relates to someone’s post, I will include a link to my post in my comment. But since I do not have giveaways I never promote my site in that manner.
I have also thanked people for stopping by, but this is only because there is no follow-up e-mail that I can thank them personally. This is one of my pet peeves in that people leave a comment, but I have no way of thanking them personally for the great words they just left.
I do try to give thoughtful comments, but there are times when the words just don’t come and I still feel that some comment should be left. Many times I try to leave a comment to say how I interpreted the post. There are a lot of well written stories and I want them to know that they did a great job.
Thank you for a great summary of the different types of comments out there. Now I will need to be more careful about leaving those anonymous comments on your blog.
Christopher (AKA: CaJoh)’s last blog post..Yosemite: Technologically Challenged
Can I just consider myself lucky I didn’t get called out for some bad bloggy etiquette?!?
I have to say that I love hearing that comment ding too! It’s like the Ice Cream Truck song for bloggers!!
I won’t even tell you how many times I replied to a commenter and hit sent only to then realize they are NO REPLY! Grrrr!
Oh yeah…… Great Post!! ;-p
Christina’s last blog post..2.5 DAYS
hee hee – I just wrote a post on comments a couple of weeks ago – BUT i left all these goodies out! silly me!
OMG, I was afraid I was on your shit list, but after readin gall the way thru I HAVE NEVER done any of those! And I think I helped witht he tonsil situation! :)
Former Fat Chick’s last blog post..If you knew me
LOL!
OHmommy’s last blog post..I don’t care what you say. He’s happily married to a manipulator.
That is one the comments I hate the most.
OHmommy’s last blog post..I don’t care what you say. He’s happily married to a manipulator.
Wow – I am so enlightened about the blogging world. Good thing I am not very creative with my words (and therefore don’t have a blog) and can’t commit any of these bloopers.
Now – how do I get one of those Russian wives? Do they cook and clean and do laundry? Because I have a wife and yet I do all of that :) HeeHee
Is your phone going off today a little more then often?
OHmommy’s last blog post..I don’t care what you say. He’s happily married to a manipulator.
I can’t stand the noreply blogger email. It makes me crazy. I also can not stand the people that havent read and left a comment, “Teehee!” and the “You are funny” or just “Awww….”
Why leave a comment? Why? I will not go to your blog because you left me a “Awww….”
OHmommy’s last blog post..I don’t care what you say. He’s happily married to a manipulator.
One more thing babe….
I love comments. I especially love how I feel when a “big” blogger leaves me a comment. OMG you should have seen me piss my pants this morning when a comment came through my phone.
I nearly crashed my car. I am SUCH a dork.
OHmommy’s last blog post..I don’t care what you say. He’s happily married to a manipulator.
You hit the nail on the head on all of these! I was just thinking about the cut and pasters and the no-reply bloggers. Grrr I have been MIA from the blog world of late b/c of personal problems but I will always be back. I often wonder what happens to people when they don’t comment anymore.
My daughter just ran rings around me and almost got in the way of me leaving a comment. Sometimes the kids don’t cooperate. Yea, I wish it was only sometimes!!!
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Shit, I think I’ve broken at least two of these comment rules.
I suck.
Notesfromthegrove’s last blog post..The Death of a Camera
When someone suddenly dissapears, it doesn’t really mean that they not like you anymore. Sometimes they are having hard time with their life.
My brother died last month and I was there to witnessed how he died. It would not affect if I don’t see it happening in front of my eyes.
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I totally agree… though I may have broken one of those rules once or twice!
By the way… absolutely LOVE the little pop-up icons at the bottom of your posts to email you, facebook, etc. They look so sleek!
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HI~
I’m a mail order bride from Russia asking you to buy some Viagra pills and to come visit my newest and latest giveaway!!!!
Just kidding!!! I totally know what you mean. I HATE when I can’t get a hold of people. That’s my #1 BLOG pet peeve. Please put your freaking e-mail address somewhere accessible. Along with music on blogs….
And I’ve been totally guilty of this one…when people post pictures of their kids..I comment, “Cute”. WTF is that?
Julie @ Angry Julie Monday’s last blog post..Monthly Minute Fitness Challenge-June
Great post!!
Speaking of commenting annoyances, every now and again I will post a giveaway and EACH AND EVERY TIME there is one anon commenter dropping by just to say “WOW!” nothing else but “WOW!” Why on earth would you waste your time entering giveaways only to post as ANON, have no blog and leave no email, Oh and then add “WOW!”??
I.Just.don’t.get.it
I don’t get it, I tell ya!
Linda @ My Trendy Tykes’s last blog post..Wordless Wednesday GO DAD GO!
Great post!!
Please visit my blog at breakingtherulesofcommenting.com
LOL
Kidding. I totally know what you mean, and although I’ve been guilty of leaving few word comments, they aren’t because of not reading, they’re because of not knowing what to say but wanting the blogger to know I was there and bothered to read.
I don’t get a lot of traffic, but I certainly get more views than comments. Maybe I should create a drop down menu of comments!! hehe
You’re right about the anonymous hate. Anybody willing to stick a real name to their comment gets to stay, no matter how much they disagree. Still, I’ve had to delete a couple hilariously backward comments. So ignorant and offensive, they come full circle back to funny. Almost a shame to see them go.
Rebecca / Playground Confidential’s last blog post..Backyard Basics
I HATE when you *know* that someone totally hasn’t read the post at all because they either say something that’s completely in the wrong context OR they leave you a “that’s so funny” or they totally read the very last line of the post and left a comment about that or they just read the comments and write something similar to what other people have written.
um, I HATE THAT.
I can’t stand the commentors who have clearly read like one line of my post. It’s so obvious they don’t know what they are talking about.
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You mean I shouldn’t copy and paste all my comments and hit as many as I can in a day and then keep track? Crap.
Seriously. Amen, sister. I complete concur.
angie’s last blog post..Wordful Wednesday-hair cuts. Plural.
OH I HATE the “Thanks for stopping by my blog”… I don’t know why that grate’s on my nerves but it does. If they come back to see who commented… give me a read, take off your jacket, stay awhile… ya know?
Shelle-BlokThoughts’s last blog post..GOSH.FREAKING.DANG.IT!
I love comments too. I love writing them. I love reading them. Sometimes they are as entertaining as the original post, when they’re relevant to the post that is. A great list. Some people I think have forgotten about the function of comments, they’re not just a link directory. I really enjoyed your analogy -’Comments are what make a blog a blog, rather than just a diary.’
Always something to enjoy over here at ScaryMommy.
Carrie Anne’s last blog post..Write a Review Wednesday: Man on the Moon
I LOVE THIS!! I must tell you..when I first strated blogging I could care less about comments. A year later I feel VERY differently. You made some very good points.
MLC’s Mom’s last blog post..Dress rehearsal hell………..
Oooo I don’t like the paybackers!!!
Jen, buried with children’s last blog post..Scary Things that go Bump in the Night
HAHA I ‘m not that popular to even care what sort of comments show up- count your lucky stars ,Scary, comes with the turf, like being the hottest girl in skool… I do read other’s comments on other blogs and am entertained by the inappropriate-ness of some of the ego inflicted squeeky wheels. There are some loonies out there indeed, but just like life in general, not to be taken too seriously…by the way , I am not having a great give away over at my blog house….and I DO love it here!
There should be real rules like this. Like ‘follow these rules or die’ rules.
I can’t stand when someone ‘stops by’, doesn’t even read your posts and then links their blog or store in your comments. I mean, can’t they find a better way to advertise? I guess that’s a combination of two of your examples!
erin’s last blog post..Devil’s Minion or Angel Baby?
(Crap – I responded via my iPhone last night and I see it didn’t post. All that pecking at my phone for nothing…)
You’ve basically summed up what not to do when signing a yearbook, too.
“Great post! Too funny!” is like the boring, “Stay sweet 4-eva!”
The “You’re a stupid asshole” post from “Anonymous” is like when you found “You’re fat” scribbled in the margins of page 212.
And the creepy dude who wrote his phone number in all the girls’ books is just like a spammer!!
Proof positive that THINGS NEVER CHANGE!
Oh, and I wanted to say to everyone that’s nervous they’re bad commenters for say, “Great post!” or “Loved it!”: if you have an ongoing “relationship” with the blogger, an occasional brief comment isn’t a big deal. It’s just if that’s ALL you ever post… am I right? (Don’t want to put words in your mouth… but that’s sorta how I interpreted your list :))
Jessica – This Is Worthwhile’s last blog post..I can’t make up my mind…
Oh yes, excellent list. I have to agree whole heartedly with all of your points. I don’t get too many comments on my blog, but I have just started getting a few that are “nice post” type comments. And then I’m left like….. “and…….was there more to that?” So yeah, I can see what ya mean.
I try to comment where I feel that I can offer something. If I don’t have anything to say, I just don’t post something stupid. lol~ And rofl at ohmommy’s comments to you. She’s a riot. ;) :) :)
LOL Yes it gets to be a pain in the ass when akismet misses the spam and you get tons of Wow gold or viagra spam.
Yes.
Thank you. I got nothing else yet now feel the need to write a lovely discourse on the awesomeness of your post so that I won’t be a pathetic commenter. :-p
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I could not have written this any better! I do have one to add to the list…The Giveaway Grubbers, those are the people who after winning a giveaway email you INCESSANTLY asking for when you will ship out their item, how long will it take to get to them. I’m sending you a FREE GIFT. Be patient!
ps. Most of the time the Giveaway Grubbers “follow” but only comment on the giveaway posts…
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Oh my goodness! This made me laugh so hard I snorted!! LOL!
Seriously, I couldn’t agree more. Especially the Paybackers. What’s the deal with that? It’s a BLOG, it’s not like I cleaned your kitchen, I just somehow linked through and liked what I saw enough to leave a comment. I’m not sure why some people NEED to thank me and then invite me back. It’s a public website. I’ll go back if I want to.
That and the people who read like one line and make a comment. It’s like: really? You were going to take the extra twenty seconds to comment, but not the extra ten seconds to read enough of the post to not sound like an idiot? It just makes such a fool out of them and it makes me feel like I’m being belittled.
hey, I have an opposing viewpoint, and I’m using my name. :^) Sometimes when I visit a blog, I want to acknowledge the effort they put into blogging because it touched me somehow but I don’t want to get into detail, so sometimes I just get on and say, great post today. Or I love this blog and it doesn’t mean I’m not paying attention, just that I didn’t have anything else to say but wanted to acknowledge you.
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In response to your part 1, the cut & pasters. It is actually a major benefit for the cut and pasters since Google recongizes the link to their website as plus. The more people linking to your site, the more credibility Google thinks you have.
Just an FYI :)
@lauren: That’s sometimes the case, but from your standpoint, you have to be careful, because Akismet will often mark short posts like that as spam. At least, that’s what I’ve noticed.
I agree with most of your points here. However, there are some times that I don’t mind/actually encourage backlinking (as you call, “shameless pluggers”), and I do it myself often, and that’s when I’m doing a large web roundup. For example, if I’m writing a post like “50 Awesome Tutorials for Bloggers”, I’m going to manually visit each tutorial and leave a message for the author such as “These are some really great tips, featured it here: ” and then include the post address. The main reason that I do it is a common courtesy, because when I search the web and find random sites linking back to me and featuring portions of my content, it makes me worry about how many sites might be ripping me off. :P
Eric Shafer’s last blog post..30 Awesome Anime Illustrations from Blasting Art
I’ve had people comment in my threads by posting their own affiliate links to sell items that I’ve already affiliate-linked in the post, which I think is pretty rude. I don’t run my site with the aim of selling guitar gear but I don’t want others to treat it as an open forum to make money off my writing.
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Great post!
(Sorry, I just <> resist it!)
Steve Collis’s last blog post..My Class has a Conversation with the World
Yes, I too have sinned in the past and now consider myself suitably chastised! I too have just wanted to acknowledge the fact that I have read someone’s blog and let them know a real person visited. Mybe I’m not intelligent enough to be worthy who knows. But points are recieved and understood. I value any comment left on my blog with the exception of spam.
Pam’s last blog post..Gary Jules – Mad World
Great post. I’m definitely going to subscribe.
For the record, that was not a copy-paste job…I typed out the whole thing. But seriously, you hit the nail on the head on some of my own pet peeves too. And thank God for Akismet. Sliced bread’s got nothing on that.
I also agree that I love reading comments others post on my blogs…I like to hear what people think!
Finally, just wanted to say I love the name of the blog, and GREAT pictures of your kids!
I would add the ‘me first!’ers and the people who read your post so quickly that they miss a salient point of your argument and then demonstrate that fact by trying to make a real comment. Or the lime popsiclers, who bring up the last thing you mention in the post, the thing that’s not super important, and riff off that.
I hope I didn’t do any of those just now.
I also hope that it’s not a violation to skip reading all of the other comments, because you have like 106 and I’m just too damn lazy.
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Thanks for this info. I am a brand new blogger and am both overwhelmed and undereducated about blog etiquette. I have so much to learn. Thanks for helping me get started.
Dani (and this is the place where I would normally post my url but have learned from you it’s annoying. :) )
Dani Webb’s last blog post..Best T-Shirt Ever
WHoah. I just posted my comment and there is a “Dani Webb’s Last Blog Post” link. I didn’t do that. But I’d love to learn how you set that up!
Dani Webb’s last blog post..Best T-Shirt Ever
I found remaining anoymous to my benefit, much of what I say has capacity to give some folks ideas. Besides, I don’t want my mommy to worry, She belives she’ll be long dead before C. Change makes her world intolerable. As for The rest? It’s just human nature to piss peeps off with nasty replys, shameless self plugging and links to nowhere and for some reason I get popups from NetFlixs, really irritating! I like the lead-up to this particular piece, I could use some help navigating the information highway, So I’ll unlock my blog and ask as I tell. Thanks.
Great post, the ones that get me are the people that post like 4 paragraph on stuff that does not pertain to the topic. I am not talking about spam but just rambling on and one about other things.
Vinny’s last blog post..Oh Dover Oh Dover, Jimmy Johnson Comes Over
OH my gosh… I totally fall into the “Thanks for Visiting… ” but I always ADD something personal about what I read on their blog. REally, I do and I am sincere when I say thanks! I’m excited to get new readers!
Sue’s last blog post..Hot Mama, WHAT?
appreciate your insight. i’m a little too straightforward for all these tricks, I wouldn’t do them (or even think of them) so it’s good for me to be aware of what’s happening.
Either you have very interesting hair or you’re wearing a cool hat and those kids are so damn cute.
I raised my two on my own for nearly 20 years. wouldn’t have traded a minute of it. One is finishing PhD. and the other just finished her masters. i did a good job and am so happy. I had a scary mother but she wasn’t as interesting or funny as you. you rock dolly. D
Deborah’s last blog post..Surprise? Find Yourself Online
Great post! Whoops.
No honestly. You’ve made some really great points.
I’m guilty of being a CRAP commenter because I quite often have a sleeping baby in my arms. I WANT to write an essay… but one handed – it’s impossible, almost.
So I ended just wanting to acknowledge that I’ve read, or whatever and will end up writing. Great Post or Thanks For Sharing.
Dull. Boring. I suck.
Thanks for kicking my commenting butt.
Did I do okay?
fat mum slim’s last blog post..Bestest Giveaway EVER!
These points hit the nail on the head. I love it when someone replies to a post I’ve written and suggests another link for me to check out that is relevant to the topic of my post – whether it’s from their own blog or not. There are always going to be new ideas and the point of a blog I think is to get the dialogue going and share information in a more personal way.
This is my first time on your site and while I’m not yet a mother I’ll certainly be back!
MC’s last blog post..Literal Video Version = Hilarious Concept
Speaking of blogging etiquette, I find the words “prick,” “balls, and “pisses the hell” inappropriate for use in online content. Save these for verbal expressions on the construction site, wharf, or wherever the uncouth reside but do not use them in any written form on the Internet. They are unnecessary, improper and out of place. If you wish me to take you seriously, please use words that to do not offend or lower my expectations of what you are striving to communicate.
When commenters don’t like your language – if you don’t like the content don’t read the blog.
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I’m with you on many of these. But I’m okay with the “thanks for visiting” folks if they continue with a thought that’s relevate to what I wrote.
More than anything I’m not a fan of people who never bother to check out my blog. If I leave lots of comments on their blog (and I’m not talking about people who get hundreds…just the manageable amount) and I never get a response of any kind? I lose interest. You are right – bloggers are a community and a community communicates. We communicate through comments. Honestly, if I walked up to someone at a party and after several attempts at conversation got zero response from them, I’d walk away. What’s the point? That said – I don’t harbor any bad feelings – I just feel a tad miffed, then get over it and move on.
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Relevant points, well made. I don’t like keeping comments closed but between the spam and the promoters, I am learning to. I like your site and will return. I found you through Problogger’s post on Twitter.
I love it when I get to see the most recent blog posts from commenters. It’s a great way to find new blogs to read. Thanks for putting that feature in your comment section!
Lynn from For Love or Funny’s last blog post..Tween conversations
Almost makes me not want to comment – but where is the fun in that? I am so sure I violate a LOT of those on a regular basis. Such is life.
I will do my best to keep the blogging comment “rules” in mind as I navigate my way through this, um, clique, err….community.
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Well boo hoo for you having so many comments that you get to criticize!! No one even reads my blog yet! Maybe that’s a good thing if the comments start making you crazy some day. You know I’m kidding and you are pretty and damn funny too!
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I guess this post sparked a lot of controversy. I have been guilty of most of these things myself. Sorry.
I love your blog even though I didn’t want the diamond earrings…
swirl girl’s last blog post..The One in Which She Wonders …Is This Thing On??
I hear what you are saying… however, I don’t agree completely. Although, I have never had 100 + comments on a post before… so there you go.
I do think it is shady business to leave anonymous comments. It feels a lot like high school, having bad things said about you but not knowing who said them first. It makes me nauseous.
However, I don’t think your list is “etiquette” as much as it is a list of things that annoy you. Which is fine, because it is your blog, so you can say whatever you want to say.
Also, I apologize if I have committed any of these blogging sins before, and will try my best not to commit them again… at least on this site! :)
Amber’s last blog post..Swimtastic Summer
Boy did you just nail it with this one! I have a commenter who does the cut & paste thingie…..and it’s NEVER relivant to what I posted. Then she wonders why I never visit her. I figure at least take the time to READ the post…or don’t bother taking the time to comment. Anonymous bitchers always make me want to scream…MAN UP for hell sakes! Great post….now we just need to get everyone in blogland to read it!!!
nikkicrumpet’s last blog post..♥ I WISH (it was still) WEDNESDAY ♥
I have to say the “UnReachables” definitely tick me off the most. I want to email my readers, get to know them, start a conversation and I can’t do that when it says “no-reply comment”. I’m linking up to this post for my Sunday Stars!
Mel @ A Box of Chocolates’s last blog post..Narcissism At Its Best
Well, I do think you are beautiful and wonderful actually. I don’t know…I don’t have a very rocking blog so I’m happy for any comments..even if they do suck. I just get excited to get the e-mail. I do find it interesting though to get new followers from people who have never commented before or the e-mails from my family/real life friends commenting on my blog…but not actually leaving comments on my blog…
Julie B.’s last blog post..Lord, grant me the serenity…
The Link Puker
This person has clearly not read the post (thus distinguished from people who share on-topic links that you or your reader might enjoy) but instead pukes out a rote message with a link or, usually, multiple links to sales, intimate personal services, etc.
I didn’t make up the name, but I love it. Link Puker. Hee!
Elizabeth Barrette’s last blog post..Fieldhaven at Night
Great list, and insight into a couple of things I’d never thought of before.
I also hate the no reply blogger, but never realized that that’s what likely happens to my comments too .. d’oh! So maybe I should just leave an actual e:mail address?
The paybackers… I actually don’t mind if people thank me for visiting and commenting on their blog, and mention where they found me from. But if that’s the ONLY thing they’re doing, then that’s a bit annoying… I don’t mind it as a simple preface, but if it’s just “thanks for visiting my blog.” … blech! I’d like to think that they took a little time to read MY post :)!
Karen MEG’s last blog post..Living the dream
I’m a total comment whore. I try to leave as many quality comments as I can to put good karma out there, but the quality of comments I’ve been receiving lately has been disappointing. Some from great bloggers, too!
corrin’s last blog post..Bible Belt from Diane Birch
That’s funny, I never thought of #7 as rude, but it really is, isn’t it? Might as well just say “I feel totally obligated to pay you a visit, but can’t be bothered to read through to find a relevant post that I can add to.” Hmmm…
Oh, the hatred of “anonymous pricks” is one I can totally get behind. If they can’t sign their names, it’s likely that what they’re saying is totally inappropriate. And they probably know it or they wouldn’t hide behind anonymity in the first place. Trolls should expect to be deleted. They get treated with precisely the same amount of respect they dole out.
I also hate the “soapboxers”. The people that use someone else’s blog comments section to plug their own agendas. They’re kind of like spammers, but more persistent and annoying. You know the ones … “you really need to … (blah, blah, blah) … road to salvation … (random mumbo jumbo) … Christ is Lord (yadda, yadda, yadda) …”. Yeah; I can’t stand that.
Momma Trish’s last blog post..Maddie’s Song
I find what’s true about all good etiquette, is that it puts the feelings of others ahead of your own. I truly think some people are unaware of how transparent they are. Recently I’ve had people follow me on twitter, I follow them back and visit their blog, and maybe comment. Then if they do end up visiting my blog, leave a comment of the “thanks for visiting my blog variety.” They are really achieving the opposite of what they set out to do. BTW – clearly, you are witty and pretty. Ive been visiting your website, and am commenting for the first time. Usually I get so caught up in scrolling through your comments that by the time I get to the bottom, I have to scroll up to to refresh my memory. Then the phone rings, I have to be somewhere, blah, blah. Which makes me think blog visitors should perhaps have the option comment closer to the top? Not really a peeve, but I’d comment more on popular blogs if that were the case.
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Man, I should of read this BEFORE I posted my first comment on your blog. I broke 7 out of 10, but with all do respect I AM russian and I DO want to marry you.
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Hey just popped in from Angies Circus and I really love your blog.
I wish you would come by and see mine…I’m hosting a giveaway soon.
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You are smart and hawt and I couldn’t agree with you more.
texasholly @ June Cleaver Nirvana´s last blog ..Essential Elements of Summer
Just coming back to tell you that I gave your post a little PROP this morning! (Still loving this and really wish others would take the time to THINK before leaving those “WOW!” comments or “GREAT PIC” even though there is no pic in the post.)
Rock on Momma
i love this post. really. i do. it completely crackered me up ;)
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Yeah, I’m one of those people who say “Thank you for your post” I always feel like you took the time, I should say it back; but I also still send thank you cards to people who come to our parties, so maybe I’m old school. I guess when I get 41 comments on my posts I won’t have time! :) I only get like 2 or 3….BTW, cool post!…snort
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Thank you for these tips. I’m far from a new blogger but I am a new blogger looking for followers and it’s good to know what not (in your opinion anyways to do!).
I did make a new email address just for myblog ;)
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Hi there
Just read and loved your lists of how not to comment! I have only been blogging for a short time and also get excited when I see a comment, but so far they have only been from people I know and I have been looking forward to seeing comments from strangers-only maybe not so much after reading your list. Now I feel cautious-maybe no comment is better than a weak comment! Thanks for the list, I thoroughly enjoyed it!
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I hate post-length comments. It’s like wearing white to a wedding. Get your own blog or get to the point. Please.
Deb´s last blog ..Sibling scripts
So if I comment, it should be short and to the point, but not TOO short cuz then it’s obvious that I’m too stupid to read the whole post and I should absolutely NOT say “thank you” even though I’m a brand new blogger and I’m enormously thankful to every. single. person. who spends their time at my blog? Got it.
I agree 100% with your comments. One thing to also consider – when people are new to the blogging (like myself), they tend to not have a clue what they’re doing, right, wrong or middling. They’re just grateful to end up …somewhere!
If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.
I know you posted this months ago, but I just wanted to chime in and suggest that you also install Spam-Free. I haven’t had one spam comment slip through in the past two years over three separate blogs. It’s that good!
Kat´s last blog ..My House is a Mess
I think these are excellent points… but as many other commenters have said, taken always with the understanding that there are some sincere “great post!” writers out there.
I was actually thinking about organizing a Commenting Etiquette Day with a bunch of bloggers (to educate readers/lurkers about why and how commenting is done), but it seems you’ve covered most of the important bases. :-)
Hi, I came over to visit from the SITS giveaway. I appreciate these tips and have been guilty of some of the “don’ts”. I hope you will give new bloggers a break – I am still trying to figure out etiquette, how to promote my blog and html with my aging brain!
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All I have to say is, wow, and you got it! Didn’t know there were so many rules involved with, “leaving word”
As they say in my world.After reading this I’m thinking that most blogs are written soley for the sake of comments. Is that what this is really all about? Now I see blogging in a whole new light. Thanks for clarifying the political correctness of leaving comments.
What a great post! <– if I end it there, I'll be deleted for sure…
Honestly, you called a few comment faux pas that I have committed in the past; and I want to thank you for that, because I read other people's blogs to make friends – which will hopefully lead to people coming over to read my blog – not to piss people off.
Also, my attitude towards blogging has changed over time. While I think it would fan-freaking-tastic if I had a HUGE readership, and was able to sell advertising space on my blog; I really just want to connect with other like-minded people. I figure the best way to do that is to project an image that is as non-irritating as possible.
In fact, my most recent blog was started in the hopes of generating some excitement in my circle of family and friends about the fact that we are trying to have a baby. And, I have heard from a lot of Moms that having an online support community – tweeps, blog buddies – was a life-saver for them, and who am I to turn away free advice.
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Jeez, seems like I effed up all of these in my earlier comment about stopping by from SITS and am I totally screwed now, having pissed you off, by having my last blog post attached to my comment?
That said, I totally agree with you on the majority of your points. For Pete’s sake, doesn’t it seem like the Anon posters are almost always out to stir the pot? Just sign your name, damn it! Even if you don’t want to log in, put a name – any name – at the bottom of your post.
Thank God I haven’t had any problem with the spammers. And, yeah, I’ve had a comment or two that I’ll read and go, “WTH?” Is this comment meant for me or someone else because it just doesn’t make any sense with the content of the blog.
Thanks for the tips and Happy New Year! (so I’m a little late reading them, sorry)
Shawntel´s last blog ..2010 Resolution #4 – and That’s It, No More
Immediately after leaving my comment here, I noticed I had a new comment on my blog, which simply said, “Just stopping by from SITS”.
That it. Well, thank you so much for doing your “duty” on Saturday Sharefest day. And thank you so much for not even bothering to read my post. Most of all, thank you for giving me something to laugh about (having just read this post).
Shawntel´s last blog ..2009 The Year of the Blanket
Hope you don’t mind, I linked to this post today on the comments in my blog to get a point across with just such a blogger (guilty of #2 and #7). She blogrolls you so maybe it might work. I also admit when I was new,I didn’t know these rules and was a most egregious offender. :) Wish I had seen your post first because now I know how it feels.
~Scout
Scout’s Honor´s last blog ..Check Your Snot Rags at the Door, Beeches: A Princess Blogger’s Story of Bad Hygiene, Germs and Etiquette
What I hate is when I have to jump through hoops to actually LEAVE a comment. ;)
I take all comments. I’m a Ho like that.
uff I had not idea leaving a comment such as
nice post,
cool idea
or something in that context could be annoying someone
I do understand that it would cause someone to think that their blog wasn’t even read…..
anyway I like the idea of if someone visited your blog and left a comment that it would be nice to get a “thanks for reading my blog” comment.
I don’t find it necessary but it is kinda nice :D
good post by the way
:D
First visit, trying to become a better, more serious blogger and searching out tips and suggestions that might help. I’m also seeking out and trying to find more blogs to read that I can learn from, identify with and simply enjoy. Blogging can be a scary world…but I’m loving it. Thanks for these tips, looking forward to reading more.
Christine LaRocque´s last blog ..Dinner time drama
I’m not too afraid to comment. I’m just pleased to read this and not feel guilty in any way!! I’m a good comment leaver!! WOOT WOOT!
Great post though, I think that for the right people this could be a great lesson. Especially for the blogging community. It’s easy to get crazy in you quest for readership, but a lot of what people do just ends up being counter productive. I am trying to tell myself that “if I write it, they will come”. Just trying to do me (hehee) and forget about the rest. If I put too much force or pressure into something it becomes un-fun anyways.
Ps….love the blog! (hahaa)
juliea´s last blog ..Don’t Call It A Comeback
this is hilarious – and true. i thought i was one of those weird bloggers that didn’t care about comments, but i’m realizing it’s not true. i like Real comments.
i think i hesitate too much when it comes to leaving comments because i don’t want to offend. i guess this business just takes time to figure out! :)
The comments that REALLY get me are the ones that leave a great comment and I’d like to thank them only to find NO website and NO email address. It’s a terrible feeling!
Anywho, great breakdown of the do’s and don’t's. I know I learned a few. :)
Lindsay @ Kids Are Teachers´s last blog ..Free Samples!!
This is essential reading for bloggers. I wish I had read it before posting my comments on another one of your posts. Forgiveness!
Stacey Robinsmith´s last blog ..Canada Wins Hockey Gold, 2010 Olympics Closing Ceremonies
guilty as charged *raises hand*
i dont comment often, because sometimes i have anything worthwhile to say other than “i agree”.
cut us newbie bloggers some slack. we’re still learning the ropes, you know :)
cheri´s last blog ..during the middle of the afternoon
Then I may have just committed more than a few faux pas. ‘Though, in my own defense, I always read the post.
So, here’s my question. If someone has an honest disagreement with some part of the post, are you okay with the commenter leaving a comment about it? Open debate? Or would you say it should be messaged?
Brenda´s last blog ..Smooth like Barry White
Oh, yes! I think it’s so interesting when readers disagree and conversation happens. As long as it’s respectful, I’m all for it out in the open!
I’m new at this too and was glad for some advice. Sometimes I’m not sure if I’m leaving my URL everywhere or not. Sometimes I fill out all the hoopla to leave a comment and there’s my website instead of just my name. I knew that made me uncomfortable for a reason. I’ve got to figure out how this stuff works so I don’t look like a tail.
Thanks for the information though, I sure need it.
I’m new to the blogging world and have noticed all these type of comments. Although luckily I’m not getting any spam. I’ve got the facebook page and twitter. But still need to read up on much more. I’m looking forward to reading all your blogging advice.
Thanks for all this information…just set my account up thru wordpress as to your suggestion, and really needed to hear all this! Still new….obvious, huh? Don’t even have my first entry up, but YOU have inspired me to make a totally cool (hopefully) ‘diary’ of my life with kids (well, mine anyway)…
I always read your posts, but never knew comments were that important or that YOU even read them : )
just trying this again..not sure why mine is the only name not highlighted…
from your new stalker friend… : )
No. I’m not afraid to comment. It’s helpful to see your opinion of what not to do when posting comments. Bye. I’m off to read more of your posts.
Adventuresofamiddleagemom´s last blog ..New Theme: Titan
Does it still count if it’s your mom commenting? : )
I think the two that drive me the craziest are the “stopping by from” comments and the ones that you can tell really have no idea what you said. Those frustrate the piss out of me. :)
Courtney´s last blog ..The Perfect Day
Interesting read. I’m finding that this is a whole new world of do’s and don’ts. Now I’m getting a little gun shy when I comment. I’m literally getting palpitations and feeling the need to check back with the list while I write this. I’ve always been a lurker in all the blogs that I read so this is all new for me.
I just wanted to say that I love comments too :) I write about eco-friendly living/parenting/etc. I try to share the little bit of knowledge that I have in an effort to inspire others to make some of the same changes and choices.
I love when a reader tells me that what I wrote was helpful. Not only is it fulfilling, but it let’s me know that I’m on the right track. I also love when my readers ask questions or tell me about the things that they do! I *love* interacting with them and am always happy to help and learn more.
Ahh, I love blogging :) Thank you for the great post.
Amanda´s last blog ..Mind if I gush about one of my favorite products???
Thanks for all the blogging tips you give. I’m pretty new and didn’t realize there was etiquette for commenting. Aside from regular manners that is. I would never leave someone a nasty comment. Because their opinion is their opinion and if I don’t like it I don’t have to read their blog. At least that is my opinion.
The main thing I think I am guilty of is leaving my URL at the end of my comment. I started doing this because I noticed that my eyes are attracted to the comments that people have left when they leave their URL. And I usually go to the URL. And I have found some rather funny blogs that way. I’m not sure this has happened on my blog but it wouldn’t bother me if it did. Everyone wants readers and you said it perfectly…It’s flattering to have people react to the words you’ve written or parts of you that you share.
I love how you have your blog set up to show my latest post following my comment. Wish I could do that on Blogger. I might be able to and just haven’t figured it out yet. I’m gonna check it out.
Thanks for all the blogging tips! It’s great appreciated!
Megan´s last blog ..OH. SO. TIRED.
Very intersting post. I’m not a blogger, I don’t have the attention span to finish half of my own thoughts. Seriously half the time I start to type out a comment I end up saying “screw it they don’t really care what some random stranger thinks” and I delete what I was writing and just go on my way. I can certainly see how all of those things would be highly annoying. They do seem to be common coutesy though, I’m somewhat surprised you’d have to point it out, but what do I know I’m just a reader- not a blogger.
Though I LOVED this post, and lapped every word of it up, I know do feel intimidated to comment! But I won’t stop, don’t worry.
Who knew there were so many right ways to do it. Some I don’t get, but instead of asking about them here , I’ll email instead.
I’d love for this to grow into a blogging etiquette book. Really. Or is it already, and now I just left another dumb comment b/c I didn’t get to know enough about you before commenting…yikes.
I’ll learn..and sincerely, thanks for letting us know, b/c we don’t know how we appear. I never want to appear rude, or stupid, ungrateful….clueless? Yeah, well, that’ll happen.. I’ll learn. Thank you!
Alexandra´s last blog ..Verrry Interesteeng….
I doubt I will do the Friday Follow again bc of this . 90% of the comments were, “I’m your newest Friday Follower. Visit my blog at http://www.ididntreadthefirstsyllableofyourblog.com” or “I’m your newest follower. I would love to have you stop by http://www.shamelessbiatch.com” I bet you would, but that’s a sure fire way to ensure that I do not.
Bethany´s last blog ..From YoTweeps to NoQuacks
Ok, I am still pretty new to blogging. I started my blog to go with my website. So here is my question: when I comment on someone else’s blog, should I put my blog in the space where it says “website” or can I put my actual website in that space?
Lesa Rumbalski´s last blog ..Stuck
I think you can put either one there, but you’re probably going to build better relationships leaving your blog instead of business.
Thanks. I wasn’t sure.
Lesa Rumbalski´s last blog ..Stuck
Great Post
haha…I really read your post:)
and loved it. Agreed with the ‘and check out my give away’…just delete!
Thanks and I gave you a thumbs up in stumble upon:)
Alison@howdoesshe´s last blog ..Rainbow Polka-dot Party – real party
Huh. You don’t like paybackers? Great. I’ve broken that one a lot lately. My excuse is participating in a big blog party on Twitter and having a bazillion comments and knowing they really are hoping to get at least a visit from me and wanting them to know I did in fact visit them and yet not seeing anything relevant on their blog to comment on.
Fortunately, your blog doesn’t fall into that category.
Hi, I agree with all your points ESP #6 and #7… having a good chuckle as I read ;)
Ay! I was being very “Sanctiblogger” reading this list, sticking my nose in the air and thinking “well I would never do that” with each of your points.
Then I got to point #7 and felt like I had been caught in a spotlight. I am an Avid Paybacker, but I’ve always done it as a genuine note of gratitude; never intending to make the other person’s blog about me. I am pretty sure I have always added something more than just a “thanks for visiting,” but I wouldn’t bet the bank on it.
I’ll be more conscious of the potential for inducing annoyance before my next payback! :)
Great! Post! I enjoyed reading it! I’m visiting from Twitter and would appreciate if you’d come to my blog, enter my giveaway, follow me back and tell me how cute I am! Otherwise I might not come back!!!
Have you noticed those people always overuse exclamation points? It’s a pet peeve of mine…
amber´s last blog ..Wordful Wednesday: Summertime Fun.
Even though I’m usually nervous about leaving a 185th comment because it usually means some crazy war is going on in commentville, this post is so timely and true that even I, a dedicated lurker, am writing
THANKYOUTHANKYOU this post rocks!
And you have the best hair ever and the skin of a teen. (And people, I have met her IRL. All true.)
I agree with all of these! I don’t mind if someone tells me where they found my blog from IF they’re leaving a relevant comment, b/c it’s kind of nice to know which blogs are sending their readers my way.
Here’s my only thing though. For Blogger blogs who only use Open ID, those of us who are self-hosted can’t leave a comment! I don’t think they realize that Open ID doesn’t allow for .com addresses. I have a private Blogger blog that I use so I can leave comments, but then I leave my actual blog address in the comment. I feel horribly tacky doing so, but I’m not sure what other option I have b/c otherwise I’ve committed sin #6. If you have any ideas I’d love to hear them and Blogger bloggers, PLEASE consider allowing the name/URL option for your commenters!!!
MarfMom´s last blog ..Losing My Writing
Seems I am guilty of a few of these things..oops! Especially number 7, I do try to post something relevant to the post I am commenting on when returning a visit though, unless I am doing it for Friday follow.. Many of those posts really don’t have a topic so there isn’t a whole lot to say to them, you know ?
I have also included my link in my post, but I started doing that because …well it saves an extra step of clicking into the profile, and some people -myself included- have multiple blogs and if I am posting on a mom blog, I want to make sure if they are going to return visit me that they will be going to the correct blog. I have a blog that is adult only, and would probably be offensive to some people, so if they want to go in my profile and click on it -Great! But I leave my link to maybe spare them the trial and error of finding out which of my blogs is the “right one” for the topic of their post.
If any of that makes sense..
Anyway, I found you on facebook. Off to check out some of your other posts !
Missy´s last blog ..Neighbors
This might get me in trouble, but I don’t like it when bloggers comment back to me in their own comments, because if I read and comment on 25 blogs in a day, I am certainly NOT going back to those 25 blogs just to see if anyone replied to me. I reply to my commenters via email. Of course, sometimes, if I’m interested, I sign up to be notified of follow-up comments, but I think it’s kind of dumb to think that everyone is coming to your post more than once. Oh, and yes, I do comment back in my comments now and then, if I think others will be interested, but I also reply via email.
Now THAT is a good point! And one I had not thought of before.
I guess I should also email you this, shouldn’t I?
Ofthesea´s last blog ..Reason 33 – I strip my son of his dignity for my own amusement
I’m not sure I want to get to the place where I’m ok with deleting comments. LOL I love each comment that I get. Maybe because I don’t get many or maybe because this is guilt talking. I sometimes just say love this post, or good stuff after reading the full entry just to let the blogger know that I stopped through.
Love this post lots of good stuff to ponder. The comments were full of information also.
BusyDating
BusyDating´s last blog ..The Doctor, A Year, The Break Down And Why I Hate Facebook
I simply am sick of getting the comments that says the post is great and can they use par of it on their blog, with due credit given. I feel all warm and fuzzy, then find out once I visit their site it is all about penis enlargement. Go away!
Lindsey´s last blog ..Menu Plan Monday
I found this post while searching google for “how not to comment on blogs” because I’m working on a post similar to this one! Why? Because I keep getting those… “visiting from blah-de-blah.” Sooo irritating!!!
I don’t get much spam and I haven’t received an anonymous comment yet.
Great post, I’ll have to link back in my post!
Penny´s last blog ..How was your 4th
It gets on my nerves big time when someone obviously didn’t read my post and leaves a generic comment. If someone thinks I wrote a “great post”, I’d love to know what they liked specifically about the post. I visit a lot of blogs regularly but only comment when I feel I have something to add to the discussion.
I have a pet peeve about people insulting a comment made by someone else on one of my posts. I’ve deleted few comments since I started blogging, but one that I did delete was because it was simply a personal attack on another person because their opinion differed from mine.
karen@strictlysimplestyle´s last blog ..Basic to Bold
I hate cowardly anonymous commenters. In addition to my regular blog, I have one where I do restaurant reviews and if someone doesn’t agree with my review, they are quick to blast me anonymously. Why?
I also can’t stand the people who clearly didn’t read the post at all … except for the last paragraph maybe. Don’t they know that all the meat is in the middle?
Whatever.
chele´s last blog ..My Latest- Greatest- Inspiration
I totally agree – comments are a blogger’s crack cocaine. We want more! More!
That said, my poor lil blog is so young I have only gotten 2 spam comments so far. I look forward to links from penis enlargement sites! ;)
Ofthesea´s last blog ..Reason 33 – I strip my son of his dignity for my own amusement
Excellent suggestions. One that I had to rush right over to my own blog and make a change – the word verification. I have tried using it and not using it. I can’t stand the spam, but I’ll see what happens this time. I know verification is irritating. Thanks for the nudge!
*cough* I have actually done a few of the “no/no’s” you mentioned. Can I blame that on blogging for only one year and not understanding it all yet?
Please forgive my grammar, I am waiting up late for my teenage son! (smiles) What else would an impatient mother do, but go visit blogs, while waiting?
Mrs. White´s last blog ..Hiding At Home
Too afraid to comment… lol
No, seriously, I think its so good to discuss appropriate blog etiquette. Thanks for the tips.
CK´s last blog ..The Military Wife
So so true! I love every single one of them. Some people just piss me off when it comes to comments.
I Hate not getting comments! They say if you visit other people’s blogs then you will get visitors and comments too but it just doesn’t happen like that for me. And, ever since I took off word verification, I get spam comments like crazy, but I’m really trying to make it easier on my readers. But at what cost???
Angie´s last blog ..Im All In – City of Hope Campaign
I don’t get as many comments either because I have the comment moderator turned on. However, it is because of the spam comments that I did it. Even with the spam blocker I would get comments that would still filter in about dating sites for people with herpes and just really inappropriate comments. My blog was initially started for my business. So I don’t want anything to negatively affect my business or my blog. It is kinda frustrating!
The cut and pasters drive me crazy. But it must work when you want to get through a million sites, leaving a link to your site. Some of the biggest blogs are the biggest cut and pasters out there.
Helena´s last blog ..Twitter Happenings This Weekend!
I’m a little on the sensitive side (but still totally a badass) so if I comment someone a lot and am reading pretty religiously, I do expect a visit from them every now and then. Otherwise, I think it’s just kind of rude. To me, it’s just common courtesy. There ARE exceptions (like when Maddie Spohr passed away–I SO did not ever expect Heather or Mike to come by my blog–they had more important things to worry about). But generally speaking, I think it’s nice to show a little gratitude when someone takes the time to take an active interest in your writing.
Lessons in Life and Light´s last blog ..Blog Updates
I’m wondering if you should write a book. They have etiquette books for everything now, why not for blogs? I’m sure there are more issues out there then the horrible commenting practices we all have to deal with…….it would be a best seller! Especially with your humor injected into it. I know I’d buy it after reading your posts (actually reading them, LOL-not just commenting on ones with random crap).
And now I’d like to chat about my giveaway at my blog……….HAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA. I couldn’t resist. Sorry!
Staci´s last blog ..Intense Debate-Bad News for my Comments
I used the wrong then, didn’t I? It’s my thorn in my side. I never remember to check to see which then I am using and if it’s the right one. At least I know the difference between there, they’re and their….
Sorry! I mucked up your blog with my inability to use the correct word. My apologies.
Staci´s last blog ..Intense Debate-Bad News for my Comments
I am so glad I found your website! Thanks for the tips and enjoyable reads!
…had no idea it wasconsidered inappropriate by some to comment on anything but what the writer had written about in that single post (RE: innapropriate commenters). It seems to me that a comment is a comment. People are reading your blog and inspired to comment.
I hate the comments from the people who complain that I don’t comment on their blog or ask if I can blogroll them. Not cool.
This is an awesome list! I couldn’t have said it better and I think you covered them all. I don’t get a lot of traffic or comments and I tried the friday follow me two weeks in a row and got a lot of this crap that you speak of. So I quit participating in it. I much prefer my few witty commenters to a bunch of words lacking any personalization whatsoever.