I love my children with all of my heart. All of my being. I would run in front of a bus for them. Jump from an airplane. Kill. Maim. You know, anything for them.
Well, anything except for one teeny, little thing.
Despite having birthed them, changed their diapers, having been covered in their vomit, snot and pee, shoved thermometers up their asses and cleaned their poop out of tubs, rugs and countless other locations, I simply cannot bear to share drinks with my children. Am I alone here?
The way they mouth bottles makes me ill. Is it necessary to put their entire mouth all over it? A small part of a lip would suffice. The little floaties they leave behind? Is that not the grossest thing ever? What are those, anyway? Just general crud floating around their mouths, waiting to turn into backwash? Gag. The lip marks they leave behind? As if I needed a reminder of their invasion. Perhaps, most annoying of all, is that they inevitably will spill my drink somewhere along the way. Not only do I not want to drink it anymore, but now I need to clean it up. The whole thing just makes me crazy. I’ve resorted to keeping my drinks on the top shelf in the fridge whenever I’m not drinking them, far away from the little hands I so adore.
Now, I’m not evil. If one of my children were close to dehydration and in dire need of a sip of my freshly poured water, I would allow them to partake. Of course.
I just wouldn’t drink after them. That’s gross.
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we call it ‘back wash’ in our house and kids are pretty much famous for it world wide. i hear ya.
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LOL – that’s hilarious, but oh so true! When we go out, everyone has their own bottle.
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I so love the title of this post!
I do share drinks with my kids now, but they’re older and (slightly) less slobbery.
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Not only do I NOT share drinks with my children, I never have, and now they don’t share with anyone else either.
My brother was visiting, grabbed my 15 year old sons water bottle, took a swig, and set it back down. When my son gently, and very deliberately, slowly pushed the bottle away from himself and toward the offending uncle, the uncle proclaimed that we were all weird.
This is the man that confessed once to using his fingers as toilet paper once when the bathroom was out instead of calling out for a new roll. I have no clue what plant he is from.
I don’t even want him in my house, much less touching ANYTHING here.
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Ewww so true.. & why is it they always want to drink out of MOM’s glass?
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You are NOT alone! I will never ever share my drinks with my kids. I always have a water bottle with me and whenever they ask for a “sip”..it’s like “Ugh. Here. Take it. ” Mommy will just die of thirst….:)
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Thank God I’m not the only one that feels this way. My husband and some of my friends look at me like I’m being selfish when I tell my kids ‘Go get your own water, cup, etc’. This is one area I don’t mind being selfish. No floaties for me!
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Brittany at Mommy Words Reply:
January 26th, 2010 at 12:49 pm
Cheryl my husband says I am selfish on this too! How crazy!
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Sharing drinks with the kids is off limits. I don’t like to drink back-wash, I love my kids but I’ll pass on their back-wash
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LOL! I couldn’t agree more. I will never forget that sip of orange drink through a straw with the mcnugget pieces in it. I wasn’t thinking – and it was one of the grossest things I’ve experienced as a mom!
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I am the same way! Once they get a hold of my drink, it is theirs.
Tessie Mayes is the biggest backwasher ever!
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I totally agree. Drinking after anyone is gross, but especially kids with the leftovers when they get done. So glad to know that there are so many other mommies out there with my weirdness about this.
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–>I rarely let my son drink my drink because of THE BACKWASH. **Shudder**
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Jill I am so with you. Kids’ drinks are nasty and the way they drink is nasty and mine even put hands into the drink. Even though they wash their hands I know they are still really nasty. So, uh, gag me with a spoon I do not want to share drinks.
You are right on mama!
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Hilarious.
I am like that with my husband. We can make out on the couch for an hour ( not that we really do that, I mean, we’re not dating anymore, we’re 33) and he could reach over for my glass of water and I am all “Noo!!!!”
I have no idea. We’ve shared toothbrushes for goodness sake.
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I am with you 100% !
No way, can’t do it with anyone.
I don’t have kids yet but I won’t be sharing drinks with the, either!
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yuck, I’m with you, spitters!
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Not only is it hilarious but it’s actually probably very WISE not to drink after them. :)
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I think I’m in the minority because I just figured it was part of my imprisonment in mommyhood! Like part of the job that I had to take on. I feel better knowing I DON’T HAVE TO share spit with my child for him to know I love him.
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I’m wasn’t thrilled with sharing a drink with them, but I would do it. My gross out factor is when one of them uses my toothbrush.
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I agree 100%. There is something about little mouths that is gross. And the floaties could be anything from weeks old fries in the car to cookies under he sofa….
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Doesn’t bother me, not sure that it ever did. I suppose that if I noticed a ton of floaties it might irk me. Although, I am only referring to my own children, wouldn’t do it with anyone else.
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I hate that, too!
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I know “green” folks everywhere will die (or picket my house) when I say this but if my 2 year old takes a few sips out of my liter bottle of Fiji, that’s it, it’s done. The bottle is all his. And he won’t drink that much so it inevitably gets thrown out. But I can see the little bits of backwash floating around in there and I just can do it either. I’m so glad someone finally said something!
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No, I’m right there with you. In fact, if one of my kids wants a sip of my drink I just hand it to them (I can’t deny my babies!) and then tell them they can just have it all. (I get to look like the selfless, generous mommy and I don’t have to squirm at the bits they leave behind.)
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I totally agree, I won’t touch any of my kids drinks with a ten foot pole. If they beg for a sip of what I have I can pour it down their throats from a distance.
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Hell NO!
That is DISGUSTING!!!!!
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My husband gets so pissed at me about this! I can’t stand it either. It is totally gross and I’d rather dehydrate myself then drink after him. That and , why does my son stick his fingers in his mouth, then go to talk and feel the need to put said spit fingers on my clothes, arms, face. I get so annoyed. My husband’s response is “He’s your son. That shouldn’t gross you out. It’s doesn’t gross me out.” That’s because you’re gross too!
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Oh, I totally agree! No eating after and definitely no drinking after my son. “We don’t share cups” is just the family policy, the only problems being that 1) my husband’s family shares drinks all the time (ew) and 2.) my son caught my husband and I sharing a drink and now is insulted. My husband started to comment that “it’s not like we don’t swap fluids” IN FRONT of my son, but a quick gut punch took care of that.
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Oooh! Now that you mention it, I do tend to avoid my toddler’s cup whenever it is offered!
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Sometimes I’ll close my eyes and take a quick slug of Hollis’ water if I’m dying for some – you know, like I’m drinking whiskey or something.
Although, I did find myself eating something off his shirt the other day like a chimp… so my standards aren’t all that high, I suppose.
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Mine are all grown now but I remember that feeling very well. IF I HAD to share, I would just give it to them. Isn’t that terrible. I agree… backwash is just gross. I don’t even like drinking after my husband! LOL
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This is totally funny. Kids and their crap. Their floaties. Their slobbery mouths–yup, the same ones we kiss but EW…they are NOT as cute when they are french-kissing my Vitamin Water Dammit!
I used to share everything and then I drew a line. Mama’s got to have a few things that are off limits. So stay away from that Cabernet little darlin!
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I’m with you on this. I pull boogers out of the twins’ noses with my bare hands. And I’m STILL changing their three year old size diapers. Hey – just today, I sniffed at something brown on the back of my hand to see if it was poop (epilogue: it was)… But I can’t drink their backwash. Must be universal.
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I’m waiting until spring to introduce cups without covers, but I don’t like sharing drinks with anyone and assume they’ll be no exception. I do sometimes nibble their leftover dino-nuggets, but only the side that hasn’t been sampled/slobbered.
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Came upon your blog today after linking from a blog of another clearly fabulous woman who can write. And you, woman, can write! Yay! Enjoying a number of these and looking forward to following you more closely.
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OH MY GOD! I was starting to think that The Husband was right in calling me a bit nutty for not sharing drinks with my kids! I absolutely refuse to share a drink. And for anyone who wonders why, I dare you to try the following……..
Give a 2 year old child an oreo cookie.
Watch the child eat the cookie.
Offer the child a cup of water to drink.
When the child is done drinking, take the cup back and look at the water.
How much of that cookie is now floating in the water???
I rest my case.
It’s just disgusting and wrong.
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Scary Mommy Reply:
February 10th, 2010 at 6:25 pm
Exactly!!! Thank you for the brilliant illustration, and excuse me while I go and puke. ;)
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