Every time Kim Kardashian moves, she stirs up a controversy, so it should come as no surprise that the internet is clutching its collective pearls at her latest comments about push presents.
In a recent post on her website, Kim wrote about push presents — the gifts some women get after having a baby. She says she’d never really been a fan of the whole push present phenomenon but her friends are into it, so she’s coming around. She then revealed her dream push present — a gorgeous Lorraine Schwartz diamond choker, like the one in the photo above — and offered some more reasonably priced alternatives for her readers. She writes:
“Do you guys believe in a push present? I never did, but all of my friends do!!! We have the funniest e-mail chains discussing it… I like the idea of a push present—after nine months of pregnancy it’s a sweet and well-deserved thank you. We women go through an entire pregnancy carrying a baby…of course it only makes sense that we get something amazing to show how amazing we are! LOL!
This pregnancy, I would love a Lorraine Schwartz diamond choker, like the ones I’ve worn before to the Art + Film Gala. Too much? LOL!”
Her tone throughout the post is pretty nonchalant and not indicative that she has strong feelings either way. Still, that didn’t stop the internet spin machine from taking the concept and running with it. Pretty soon there were posts all over the place talking about Kim’s “million dollar push present” and how Kanye better take note. NineMSN even penned a a post about it headlined “Kim Kardashian Demands Million Dollar Push Present,” like she got on her website and said she better get that damn choker, or else.
Of course, once the news got out, the mommy-shamers appeared in force. Dozens of moms took to the comments on NineMSN, Mamamia, and others to let Kardashian know she has no right to demand a push present because the baby in her arms should be the only gift she needs:
“I got an awesome gift with each of my three pregnancies. They are called babies and their worth is beyond measure. Shouldn’t that be enough?”
“Ok I did my pregnancy wrong apparently. I got excited about having a baby, when I should have been expecting expensive gifts. Guess I was just grateful to be able to have a healthy baby, how sad am I.”
“Shows how shallow and pathetic she is. You carry a baby for 9 months and you should receive something amazing at the end? Isn’t the child the most amazing thing you can ever receive?”
Full disclosure: I’ve never asked for a push present and I don’t know many people who have. Still, the rampant mommy-shaming and acting like women are monsters for not finding complete and utter fulfillment in their babies has got to stop. A woman is not selfish or wrong for wanting a present — yes, even when that woman happens to be a Kardashian who can afford absurdly expensive gifts — and really, it’s none of our business what’s going on in someone else’s delivery room.
Push presents are kind of a ridiculous concept, but it’s no more selfish than a lavish “gender-reveal” party or the bank-busting affairs that pass as baby showers these days. We’re likely all guilty of being at least a little bit selfish during pregnancy. That doesn’t make us bad moms or shitty human beings. People should have the right to do their pregnancies and deliveries however they want. A push present might seem tacky and unnecessary to some, but finding arbitrary excuses to shame other moms is just as bad.