Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy
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Speaking of drinking, timing played an important role in the following discussion I had with a soon-to-be former friend with no kids last week:
Friend: ”Hey, a few of us are going out for drinks after work. Wanna come?”
Me: ”Nah, my wife is going to be home late tonight, so I’m going to take care of my daughter.”
Friend: (condescending tone) ”How cute. Are you two going to play dress up together?”
Me: ”Actually we’re going…”
Friend: ”You know what? I really don’t care what you do. Babysitting your daughter has become quite a convenient excuse lately. It’s a woman’s job to take care of kids, and you really need to learn how to man the hell up – but you probably have no idea what that means.”
To provide some background, I have a beautiful 16-month old daughter. That said, if this guy made similar emasculating, misogynistic comments prior to my baby being born, I’d be composing this post from the county jail while awaiting trial for caving in his face. Since my baby girl has brought out the best in me, I simply shook my head and walked away. Just another example of the importance of timing.
By the way, I should’ve told that fool that watching your own kid is parenting, not babysitting. Babysitting is when you pay a high school girl $14/hr to fool around with her boyfriend on your couch while you’re away. Geesh.
I digress.
As I drove home, I thought about what “man the hell up” actually means. Does it mean ignoring my obligations as a father to drink beer with a guy I don’t even like so he would think I’m cool? Does it mean that I should believe it’s my wife’s sole responsibility to raise our daughter while I sit on the couch watching ESPN? That’s not how I see it.
In my own words, “man the hell up” means:
Giving my wife a break: I don’t care how good of a dad I think I am, my wife will still outwork me more often than I’ll outwork her. To add a little value I rub her feet after a long day, help to cook dinner, clean up the house, fill up her car with gas, get a “real” babysitter so we can enjoy an occasional night out on the town together, or just give her a hug and tell her how much I love and appreciate all that she does for our family every day.
Exercising and eating right: Hell yes there are times when I’m tempted to hit up the McDonald’s drive-thru at lunchtime, or make excuses for not working out; however, when I feel like skipping the gym or taking a Big Mac to my face, I always think about my daughter. To “man the hell up,” I workout often and eat as healthy as possible because I’ll be damned if my baby girl has to deal with the pain of losing her father to some health ailment (heart attack, stroke, diabetes, etc.) that I could easily prevent.
PDA: I’ve only been on the job for 16 months now, but I’ve noticed that there’s a population of dads out there who won’t interact with their kids in public unless it involves some sort of discipline. I hug my daughter, kiss my daughter, high-five my daughter, play basketball with my daughter, dance with my daughter, and sing with my daughter in public almost every day. Do I get quizzical stares from others? Absolutely. Do I care? Absolutely not. I want my daughter to know that it’s perfectly normal to show public displays of affection towards the people she loves (within reason, of course…I don’t want my mind to go “there,” so I’ll move on).
Playing dress up: I know plenty of men who have tea and doll parties with their daughters. They aren’t too cool for it, they aren’t embarrassed by it, and quite frankly – they actually enjoy it. My daughter is a little young for those activities, but I’m the first to pick out clothes and accessories for her while shopping. I’ve schooled myself on Hello Kitty, bracelets, purses, Dora, hair clips, and jeggings. Hell, I didn’t even know what jeggings were until about three months ago. To “man the hell up” is to be whatever your child needs at a given time. If I have to dress up like a princess or shop at the Sanrio store for her amusement, I’ll do it with a smile.
Being a good role-model: Shit, I love to swear – especially after I had a damn shitty day. One thing you’ll never see me do is curse in front of my daughter. There are some parents out there who think it’s funny to hear their toddlers swear, and it absolutely makes me cringe. I also say “please” and “thank you” around her so she begins to understand the purpose and meaning of those words. I know it’s working because after I changed her diaper a few days ago – she smiled, looked up at me and said, “tank ew” (otherwise known as “thank you”). I’m pretty sure that my heart almost exploded from the cuteness of the event. One thing I’ve learned about parenting is kids are watching and listening to you even when you think they’re not, so I always want to be my best self whenever I’m around her.
Never giving up: There are days when my daughter won’t listen to me, has an epic meltdown, or is just a freaking terror of a human being. I sit alone in frustration wondering if I’m cut out for this, or if I can even make it through the day – but guess what? It always turns out fine. I know that my baby loves me, and to “man the hell up” is to continue being the best daddy I can be for her, no matter how tough it gets. Being a parent is easily the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it’s also the best thing I’ve ever done or will do.
Giving a shit: That means that I’m always going to be loving, attentive, and supportive to my wife and daughter. It means that the best night of partying and drinking doesn’t even compare to the happiness I feel after an average day spent with my baby – so I party and drink a lot less because of it. It also means that I’ll dedicate my life to fostering the health, education, safety, and happiness of my daughter. I’m a new dad still learning the ropes of this gig, but I will happily sacrifice anything to ensure that my daughter has the best life possible. Even if it means *gasp* disappointing some guy who thinks taking care of children is women’s work.
Memo to my knucklehead “friend”: My daughter means everything to me – and if you’re reading this, that’s how I would define “man the hell up.” Instead of giving a shit, you took a shit on all of the great parents of the world with your ignorant and asinine comments, and hopefully you now see the errors of your ways. If not, I’m sure there are bunch of men and women reading this who would love to beat the stupid out of you. However, it looks like timing will save you once again from an ass kicking, because the readers are way too good for that kind of behavior. Right?
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An amazing post! After reading this, I think I need to “mom the hell up.” You’re a better parent then me. I do play LEGOs with my son much like you have tea parties with your daughter. But I hardly ever work out, or rub my husband’s feet, and I don’t know what jeggings are. I salute you!!!
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I have to laugh at the term “jeggings”. Back when I would wear them, they were just leggings, or denim leggings. LOL
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Kim, if you haven’t thought about trademarking “Mom the hell up,” you need to drop what you’re doing and get on that now. You could sell thousands of T-shirts in about an hour. Brilliant! :)
Oh, and I still don’t quite understand the functional use/purpose of jeggings…
Daddy Doyin recently posted..The Definition of NOT Hot
I would say I love you, but I have my own man (20 yrs this fall!) ;)
Seriously THANK YOU. YOU are awesome.
I am blessed to have a husband who, like you, has been a real man (and dad) for 17 yrs now. (Erm, just wait until you have to buy your daughter ‘feminine hygiene products’. Hello Kitty not sounding so bad now, right? LOL)
Ok so I do cuss (my husband, less so). And yes, I’d like to pound that guy a little bit (please God let him be sterile and not let him produce offspring).
But it is nice to know there are husbands and dads like you in the world. Treasure each moment….my “baby” is now 17, her brother is 10, and it goes so, so fast.
Keep on with your awesome self!!
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HA! Yeah, I’m definitely not looking forward to buying any feminine hygiene products…ever. However, with the way time is flying right now, it seems like my 17-month old will be 17 years old (like your baby) any day now. Thank you for the support!
Daddy Doyin recently posted..The Definition of NOT Hot
I love your definition of “Man the Hell Up”. Your wife and daughter are lucky to have a person like you to love them. And you obviously are lucky to have people like them to cherish. Your blog made my heart sing!
Thanks Miss Kathleen! In my opinion, I’m the lucky one to have such a great wife and daughter. It makes me smile to know that this blog entry made your heart sing, because my family does that for me every day :)
So true! I think there’s nothing sexier than a man playing with his kids – really playing like you said – even dress up and smooches. One of my fondest memories of my dad is “doing his hair”. I remember him saying, “Ow!” a lot, but he put up with it and I loved it!
Mother Ruckus, one thing I won’t have to worry about is baby girl ever doing my hair – because I’m just as bald in real life as I am in my avatar. Maybe I can have her pluck my eyebrows or something!
I can honestly say that I never loved my husband more than the day he put a pair of old boxers on his head and pretended to be a gnome for the amusement of his two daughters.
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I’m so happy that you all enjoyed the post! As a man, I have to say that nothing is more awesome than raising a child – especially a baby girl.
Also, I forwarded this article to my “friend” who told me to “man the hell up” last week. I’ll keep you posted on his reaction…
Thanks to Scary Mommy for the opportunity to share my story!
YOU ARE AWESOME. And, I would be happy to help beat the stupid out of your friend. Man, that made my blood boil reading his comments. Thank you for being a great example men everywhere. I consider myself very lucky that my husband is also very supportive and great with the little one.
Thanks Kate! I have a feeling that since this is on Scary Mommy’s huge platform, I’m sure there will be a lot of people waiting to beat the stupid out of him. Sometimes life’s best lessons are the most painful ones. Give your husband a high-five for me!
What a really beautiful way to describe how important being a husband and a father is to you.
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Love! Just sent the post to my hubs!
Love it. That guy is a lonely douche.
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Your non-friend is an asshole. I do like to fight but I won’t bother wasting my time on him. If ever he has children, I just hope he remembers this conversation (I love to look back on shit I said before I had kids. But I learn from those ignit thoughts/assumptions. Will he? We don’t really care, do we?)
This happens a lot even with women, even from women who have kids. Sure, I’ll go out occasionally, but to expect it to be weekly (or hell, even monthly) has nothing to do with my husband not wanting to babysit (stick hot sporks in my ears at that idiocy, please) but more with me either not wanting to be bothered or the idea of watching a Spongebob marathon is way more appealing than drinking and listening to you bitch.
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You get it. And for that Skittles (or whatever candy you love) will rain down on you, rainbows will light your path and unicorns will guard you. Always.
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Right on. And I think that jerk probably missed the point too that most women will think MUCH more of a man like you than a “man” like him.
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Awesome post. People look at my husband like he’s crazy for wanting to be home with his family instead of having guy’s night after guy’s night.
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This is amazing. The world needs more great dads like you!
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Anne, I’m so glad that you liked it! I mentioned this in previous comments, but there are SO many dads like me out there, but we never hear about them. I hope this post gives hope to future mommies that there are plenty of good men out there waiting to be found!
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I’m lucky enough to have a dad like you. :) I think we should share more stories of great dads – it’s sad that stories like this have become an anomaly, especially since, as you said, there are so many out there!
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Word. Nothing better than a family man with a heart and some sense.
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Word, indeed Rebeccah. I guess it all started with how me and my two brothers were raised. My parents’ parenting philosophy was quite simple: “Put family first, be kind to others, strive for greatness, and don’t embarrass us.” Words to live by if you ask me :)
Doyin at Daddy Doin’ Work recently posted..Introducing the New All-American Girl
I love this. That is the voice of a real man.
Mom Off Meth recently posted..Need to Know
Maybe you should give Dad, or better yet husband lessons.I’m a SAHM and I believe that means I do my job all day at home with the kids and then when my husband gets home from his job we should share the parenting, half and half. He believes it means I work 24/7, he gets off at 6pm and occasionally he “does me a favor” by bathing a kid or watching them while I cook dinner.
Hi Ms. Smith! You’re very kind, but I doubt anyone would want to take lessons from me about any topic. However, you make a really interesting point about SAHMs. I’m in the process of composing something about women in your situation and I hope to have it ready on my “Daddy Doin’ Work” blog by early next week. Without giving anything away, I’ll say that NOBODY has a tougher job than you have (with the possible exception of single parents). I love, respect, and applaud women like you. Hang in there!!
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And all of these are reasons I love my husband even more now that he is a dad. He would support this post 100%.
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Go super-dad!
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You guys are great. Thank you so much for the props, but I’m just doing what comes naturally – which is loving my daughter every single minute of every day. BIG thanks again to Scary Mommy for thinking highly enough of me and my new blog to share my story with all of you.
Thanks so much for the love and support, everyone! It means a lot :)
Daddy Doyin recently posted..The Definition of NOT Hot
You sir, are the definition of a father. Ultimately it is your little girl who will benefit. I only have boys – but I can see a lot of my husband in your comments and hope to raise my boys to be just like this. (Hopefully this will come in handy when the little flirts start dating.)
“Man the hell up” as uttered by little boys actually means “come be a weak little man child with me”.
What you are citing is the prolonged adolescence of the adult american male. Its sad and pathetic. It is our culture. It is American.
You know what else is American. You, Me, millions like us who are fathers, husbands and can see the grown man-boy child for what he is, a sad pathetic excuse for a human being.
WHAT???? Maybe I’m missing something, but the only sad, pathetic thing here is your post.
You know, some people should be neutered when they’re young….. just sayin’
You, however, are not one of those people. You sound like a fantastic dad and husband. Your “ladies” are so very lucky to have you. Um, you wouldn’t have a single brother would you…..
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HA! Kat, I have an identical twin brother and an older brother. Both of them are married with children – and are the best role models I could ever ask for. So glad you enjoyed the post!
Daddy Doyin recently posted..The Definition of NOT Hot
Until you have kids of your own, you have no idea what being a parent entails. I too had a kid-less “friend” who insisted that everything we do together be “adult” (meaning no kids allowed). She would suggest concerts, bars, movies, etc. She has a kid now, but unfortunately still has the kid-less mindset and leaves her daughter with her parents regularly. That is just not how I roll. Good for you being the best daddy and husband that you can be! More men should take on your mind-set.
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You rock!! Too bad there aren’t more men (and women) like you populating the earth.
I married a man with the same philosophy as you regarding parenting; and as the mother of a 17 year old son and a step-mom to an almost 30 year old daughter I can tell you that when your child grows up you will have the most rewarding relationship with her as a direct result of your parenting style.
And as for your non-friend? Well, karma will kick his butt for all of us, one way or another.
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Thanks Gigi! I think there’s a lot of good news to come from my post, because there are a TON of men (and women) just like me out there. We just don’t hear about them as often as we would like because…well, bad news sells, I guess.
I hope to have an awesome relationship with my daughter when she gets older, because nothing makes me happier than seeing her happy. :)
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I love this post! My husband is a lot like you, and, honestly, I just love him more and more for it. I see how close my daughter is with her dad. They have such a special relationship, and that is so important. My daughter knows she can ask either her mom or her dad to cuddle, to have tea parties, to read books, to run around in the grass, or whatever. You really hit the nail on the head: A true man is willing to be a real father to his kid(s).
I love ur post and the way u look at parenting. Really envy ur wife and daughter for having u. Hope my husband will think like u when we haf our baby. =>
Loved loved LOVED this post!! The world needs more men (well, people) like you!
It’s so nice to hear a dad say- “it’s not babysitting.” Thank you! I cringe every time I hear someone say this. Ugh…
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I absolutely agree! I’ve only been a father for 17 months now, and I’m shocked at how many times I hear a dad say that he’s babysitting his kids. Not cool at all…
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I absolutely LOVE this post!
My hubby has been Daddy to my 13yr old daughter since she was 4 & his world revolves around her…I am so happy that she has someone like him in her life. She is & will always be his only daughter.
I have to tell you that because he did something incredibly heart-wrenching this past week when her ‘sperm donor’ decided it would be an awesome idea to TEXT her that her grandma had passed…yes, he is an asshole!
My hubby hugged her & cried with her & then took her to see “Abraham Lincoln, Vampire Hunter” (they have a *unique* relationship LOL) She was smiling & happy when she got home…they had a long talk after the movie over ice cream. She knows, that above all else, she is loved & has a Daddy who cares about her…
Me, on the other hand, wants to tie that jackass *father* to the bumper of my truck and take a nice little drive….Thank God hubby keeps me just this side of sane as well.
You’re definitely a keeper!! Kudos to you & the Daddies like you!! MUAH!
I know exactly what you mean. I deal with this crap from my children’s father and I wouldn’t put it past him to break that kind of news in the same way.
However, I am blessed with a good man who calls my children his own. He is not above swinging my 4 year old daughter around, dancing with her in the grocery isles, or teaching my 8 year old son new things, playing ball with him, and just taking the TIME to be there. I can count on him to “man the hell up” and be not only a Dad, but also my partner and best friend.
Like the saying goes, anyone can make a child, but it takes a man to be a Dad.
Magz – My heart breaks hearing that story. A “text message”?? An act like that makes my former friend look like a Women’s Rights Advocate by comparison. Karma will get him eventually. I’m just happy to know that you have a great husband who loves you and your daughter. That is easily the most important thing.
Thanks for the kinds words!
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Your ladies are lucky to have you. Wish my kids had been so lucky with their father. *sigh* I divorced him for a reason, but I’ll always wish that they’d had a dad in their lives like you. I’m not knocking single parents, because I was one for twelve years, but there is something to be said for having TWO parents. Doesn’t matter if the parents are married or divorced, I don’t think, as long as both of them take care of their children like you do your daughter.
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Thank you GunDiva,
Unfortunately, I know a lot of women in a similar situation to yours. The good news is that I can tell how much you love your kids, and that does go a very long way.
Continuing with the good news, there are a TON of men out there just like me who love their kids more than anything. They do exist! Keep your head up :)
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WTH? I can’t believe someone actually said that to you! I should, because I firmly believe a disappointing proportion of the population is incredibly stupid, but still… I’m shocked that he said looking after kids is women’s work – I know there are men who say it, I just rarely have face to face experiences with them because they aren’t often stupid enough to say it to my face. What an ass! And you’ve reminded me I am a lucky woman for having a husband who thinks as you do, and not like this jerk.
I’d verbally beat the stupid out of this guy if I knew where to find him and wasn’t more than likely separated by significant distance ;-)
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Ciara, you’re absolutely right, the guy is/was a jerk. Most -isms (i.e. racism, sexism, etc.) comes from how one is raised, and this guy had a ton of issues with his upbringing. Let’s just keep our fingers crossed and hope that he doesn’t have children…ever.
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You are awesome. You sound a lot like my DH, who definitely “mans the hell up” and is a great father to our little boy. It is so nice to hear form fathers who realize how important an active husband/father is.
Thanks Madge! Being a father is the best job in the world, and I can tell that your little boy will grow up to be a great man like his daddy. Keep up the positivity!
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So, I don’t have kids that need to look to me for an example so I would like to offer my services for the ass kicking of this particular individual. :) Loved this post! You are not only an awesome Dad but totally, 100% already ‘man-ed up’. Is that a word?
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Kudos to you! You could teach a lot of men in the world a thing or two!
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I think every parent can relate to the below sentence…
I sit alone in frustration wondering if I’m cut out for this, or if I can even make it through the day
You’ve nailed it right on the head. The coolest thing about your post is that you’re demonstrating in real time what your daughter should expect in a partner/husband. My wife believes that all girls end up marrying a version of their Dad. If you continue to be the best Dad you can then you will give her the best gift possible, an example of what to look for in a life-partner. Kudos to you.
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Thanks Paul! Everything about my blog is in real-time, because I’m learning new things on the fly. Also, your wife is absolutely correct – and that’s part of the reason why I always try to be the best person I can be. By your post, I can tell you’re a damn good dude as well. Kudos to you too!
Doyin at Daddy Doin’ Work recently posted..Why Stay-At-Home Moms Are Tougher Than You
Love this. I especially like the part about exercise. Did not expect that I guess. It reminded me that I need to work out so I will be around and active with in my kids’ lives.
Do all guys have “friends” like this? It’s like we meet people at a certain age and then we are stuck with them for the rest of our lives. Even though we evolve and change for some reason we are stuck with people who for the most part were just drinking buddies.
I’m doing the stay at home thing and even though I have not heard anything that directly obnoxious from any of my friends, I have picked up on a lot of narrow-minded opinions of what it means to be a man.
To be honest with you, Michael – I didn’t expect the part about exercise either. But I guess it’s necessary to ensure I’m above ground to see my daughter get married some day.
Yes, every guy has/had “friends” like this, and they’re lying if they tell you otherwise. However, once you have a child – it’s so much easier to cut out all of the crappy people from your life for fear they may negatively influence them.
Oh, and if you’re a Stay-At-Home Dad, you may want to check out the link below this comment about Stay-At-Home Moms. It’s mostly about women, but a lot of it can relate to your situation. Good luck!
Doyin at Daddy Doin’ Work recently posted..Why Stay-At-Home Moms Are Tougher Than You
Awesome! My husband is this kind of dad, and it’s wonderful! Loved the post!
Thanks Dana! The world needs more dads like your husband!
Doyin at Daddy Doin’ Work recently posted..Why Stay-At-Home Moms Are Tougher Than You
Thank you!! When will some men learn that taking care of your own damn kid is NOT babysitting! If anything the other guy needs to man up. He seems like a little bitch lol.
I wonder what people would think of a mom if she mentioned that she had to leave now because she has to “babysit” her kids. Wouldn’t people be like uhhh you mean pick them up from the babysitter right? I don’t see how it is seen as only the mother’s responsibility to take care of the children. It’s like that in soo many other places around the world and it just baffles me. And this is coming from an old fashioned girl. I am a stay at home not-yet-mom and I get up every morning at 4 am and cook breakfast for my husband and pack his lunches, and keep the house clean. We will both share the responsibility of raising our son, and know how to take care of him equally well.
My grandpa has never once changed a diaper, nor does he have any idea how to do it! I just don’t understand how Grandma did it when her two sons were only 2 years apart. That was the norm in those days and I just don’t get it
Tabatha, I’m with you. It’s impossible to babysit your own kid, but I’m surprised to see the amount of people (usually men) who say that. For example, my wife is going to Vegas with her girlfriends this weekend and one of my buddies said, “Oh you’re on babysitting duty, huh?” I had to educate him.
As a soon to be SAHM, I think you’ll get a kick out of my most recent blog post “Why Stay-At-Home Moms Are Tougher Than You.” It pays tribute to the amazing women who have the toughest job in the world. Good luck!
Doyin at Daddy Doin’ Work recently posted..Why Stay-At-Home Moms Are Tougher Than You
Not only do I think you are an awesome dad (not just a father) and husband, but I admire you ability to turn a situation that obviously angered you and turn it into an insightful, informative, entertaining story for all of us strangers. This post is also a pretty awesome love letter to your daughter that she will cherish later in life. Kudos tenfold to you!!!
Aw, thanks Angel! That’s very kind of you to say. I was angry at the time, but I was able to turn it into (as you so eloquently stated) a love letter to my baby girl. As a matter of fact, every blog entry I create – I’m going to save for my daughter to read someday. I have to admit I stole the idea from the Google Chrome commercial, but oh well :) Thanks for the kind words!
I just pulled this up off of my son in laws facebook page. He’s a great dad, for sure. The whole thing brought tears to my eyes as I remembered my dad…oh about a million years ago….patiently untangling my fishing line for the the 100th time and baiting my hook all over again. Your daughter will always remember these things about you.
Lori, it’s refreshing to read something like this, and I’m happy that it brought back fond memories of your dad. I always wonder if my daughter will remember all of our crazy experiences together – and according to you, it looks like that will happen. :)
Wow, that was a great post. The whole time I was reading it I was saying to myself, “does he have a brother”. You are doing a great job and your friend will probably get it once he finds a woman to settle down with and give birth to his little prodgy. And you are right, I wouldn’t dare mess with him but I do have a couple of friends with some “outside ways” that would gladly “tap dat a_s” if the need arose LOL. Just kidding ; )
“Let’s put it this way – is the pimp with the most hoes the best pimp? No. The pimp with the most quality hoes is the best pimp. In other words, there are tons of pimps on the street with at least 20+ women on their payrolls. The problem is that 90% of them have more STDs than teeth. The high-end pimps who cater to politicians, movie stars, and professional athletes may only have one or two women on their rosters, but these women are as beautiful and classy as they come. You know…”beautiful and classy” in an I-sell-my-lady-garden-for-cash kind of way. It’s all relative.”
I have no idea who the poser is who posted under my name (especially since there aren’t a ton of “Doyins” running out there). Some people are strange…
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Too bad you two live so far. I’d babysit for free & I have no bf :P Well glad you’re so awesome to them! Lots of love from me & my mom Rebecca!