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Opinion on your spouse
  • Athlete
    Posts: 3Member
    What's one thing you love about your spouse and what's something you can't stand about your spouse.
  • cr8zy_mom_of_4cr8zy_mom_of_4
    Posts: 49Member
    well, i love the way my dh kisses me when i least expect it, but i can't stand the fact that he's such a dick majority of the time. lol
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,489Member

    Thanks for the heads-up, @MumTheWord (see below). Post deleted.

    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    I love he's willing to do anything for his family, work a shit ton of overtime and hand me the check and say its yours to spend on anything you want.

    Sometimes he has a hard time being present when he's home unless it involves sex.
    not my chair, not my problem
  • runbitchrunrunbitchrun
    Posts: 907Member
    @fatchickonabike I think we are married to the same man!
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,847Member
    My husband is very hardworking and handy and will do almost anything I ask around the house.
    He's also selfish and inconsiderate in that he doesn't do it unless I ask. Is he blind? Does he not notice when the kids or I are sick or tired, or something needs to be cleaned or put away?
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,234Member
    I love that my DH can be thoughtful, gentle, kind and sentimental

    I hate that he can be thoughtless, nasty, and hurtful when he's angry
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,622Member
    My dh is a very nice man. He is also very lazy which is really annoying!
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,742Member
    Hey ladies!!@katz_meow, @Katescrazymom, @fatchickonabike, @runbitchrun, @onmylastnerve, and anyone else who stumbles onto this thread or any other by Athlete...he's been banned. He was a pervy kid who wanted I don't know what from here. He messaged me, I messaged the mods, and he's banned. Just a heads up!
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 7,022
    The user and all related content has been deleted.
    well behaved women seldom make history
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,847Member
    Thanks for the heads up. It's still an interesting question. And if dh ever wants to sign up I think he will get enough of an eyefull that he will run away. He also says whatever comes to mind when he is angry. Might do him some good to see what I am thinking uncensored. I think very bad thoughts when angry!
  • canadamom
    Posts: 867Member
    He makes me laugh.  He is kind and always has nice things to say to me.  He helps around the house and works on my honey-do list.

    However, if I don't tell him what needs to be done he is oblivious.  He will sit on the computer all day on days that I am sick, so If I am not up doing anything then he isn't either.  On his days off, I sometimes have to ask him to shower and shave because he would go days without doing it if he didn't have to work.  I actually had to insist he brush his teeth twice a day when we first started living together.
  • momofeveryonemomofeveryone
    Posts: 1,709Member

    i love how attentive dh is in bed, how when i nag he will do what i need, also how if i cry (very very rare) he falls all over himself to fix the problem/ help me

    i hate how he can play a pc game and ignore our DS3 who idoloizes him, i hate how he uses his high body heat to not hold the baby (she and he 'run hot' always warm!) when he's not in the mood too, i get he's tired after work but she will not want to go to you soon if you dont hold her now!

    we got the house!!!!! i have worked so hard for 5 years to get us in a spot to buy! isnt it cute?!?!?!?
  • kmetz44kmetz44
    Posts: 2,506Member
    i love that he will pretty much do what i need him to do..i hate that he is oblivious to what needs to be done, unless i point it out directly
    Im pretty extraordinary in an ordinary way
  • SuperSneaky
    Posts: 53Member
    MumTheWord said:

    Hey ladies!!@katz_meow, @Katescrazymom, @fatchickonabike, @runbitchrun, @onmylastnerve, and anyone else who stumbles onto this thread or any other by Athlete...he's been banned. He was a pervy kid who wanted I don't know what from here. He messaged me, I messaged the mods, and he's banned. Just a heads up!



    He messaged me on his other name! "Why is your name Super Sneaky" and a wink. LOL.
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,489Member
    There's a supermoon this Saturday, and I think it's starting early.
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    If anyone gets any messages from him, (in case he makes another name or uses another device) please let a moderator know :) Thanks.

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,742Member
    @SuperSneaky...dirty-minded little fucker! Gah...WTF?? Apparently he has a MILF fetish!
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    ThAnks for the heads up! Good thing I was behaving lol
    not my chair, not my problem
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,422Member
    Bwhahahahahahaha...I know I shouldn't find it funny...but some random degenerate teenager trolling a Mom site for MILFs sounds like something out of American Pie...
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • SassySassy
    Posts: 2,434Member
    SO is always there for me for anything. He is amazingly supportive. I don't like that sometimes I will ask him something and it takes him forever to respond. 
  • AnonUser31
    Posts: 327Guest
    He sent me a message when I responded to the cheating spouse thread
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,742Member
    Yay for mods!! And anyway,  I kind of do like the thread topic, so here's my two cents!

    I love that I can say very confidently that my DH would never cheat on me. Maybe he would have thought about it in earlier years, but at this point in our marriage, I know how much he loves me.

    I fucking hate that he thinks that he doesn't need to put things back where he found them. FFS! If my 3 y/o brings me "daddy's (insert inanimate object here) one more time....
    ~X(
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,234Member
    I kind of wondered about him, he messaged me too, after having read my comment on the fetish thread. see how we awesome we are? we even attract 18 year old pervs!
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,234Member
    oops, my apologies, @lesbomom.
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • cr8zy_mom_of_4cr8zy_mom_of_4
    Posts: 49Member

    thanks @mumtheword he sent me a msg too!! so thanks for the heads up

  • SuperSneaky
    Posts: 53Member
    I'll answer:

    I love the stability. He never had a good family life growing up, and he does everything he can to make sure we're happy, in sync, and together. He's crazy about our son, and we have our spats, but he's always open to communication.. after the fact. ;) Love that he's gorgeous and motivated. Love his sweet smile.

    HATE how stubborn he can be. Hate how he isn't as "adventurous" as I am, and hate when he shaves his beard. Hate that he works so far away from us :(
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,452Member
    I love pretty much everything about him.

    Except his bad memory, his constant tardiness and his tendency to act like a know it all sometimes.
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 7,022
    The user and all related content has been deleted.
    well behaved women seldom make history
  • CrazyinNC
    Posts: 7Member
    I love that my DH is so sensitive and also can't stand it either.. I want to tell him to grow a pair. He is super attentive but can get his feelings hurt easily. Sometimes It feels like I married a chick!
  • jaelaraejaelarae
    Posts: 30Member
    I love that my husby is a great dad & provider who allows me to stay home, but I hate that he sucks at communicating, and his amazingly romantic side ended when I said "I do".
  • rockermami88
    Posts: 12Member

    i love: his nerdy side, his body, when he speaks spanish,we communicate well for the most part, he doesn't get mad when i watch my shows or am on the internet a lot,he makes me laugh, we have fun when we get out, he's financiially stable,  n he helps me with laundry.....

    i hate: that he basically ignores my oldest  son bc he's not his, tells me some of my facial expressions are ugly, says he wants to go out then i'm like let's go do something, n we don't, doesn't help around the house, but gets on me about it ( fyi we both work he just wrks maybe 15 more hrs than me),he only helps with laundry n sometimes the trash ( once in awhile he forgets), ............

  • boring_nameboring_name
    Posts: 667Member
    Hmmmm... DH puts up with a LOT of my mental crazy crap... and still loves and supports me anyway...

    His ADD/Tourette's drives me bonkers.. he hyperfocuses on things he's interested in... but can't focus if it's not 'interesting' to him. 
    B
  • rockermami88
    Posts: 12Member
    i hate that he is controlling about certain things, games on his pc or xbox n shush's me when i talk to him or says not now im raiding or whatever, he says i have morning breath like he has normal breath when he gets up, oh sometimes i think he needs a refresher on brushing his teeth, he has the worst timing on intimacy n intercourse, he always just tries to rub up on me n doesn't realize i'd like a passionate make-out session instead of just being groped.......he's undecisive, stubborn, n super conceited despite the fact that he realizes he has flaws, he's antisocial even more than i am....he thinks he's superior in so many ways....ugh..........but i love him..........
  • Redmomma
    Posts: 75Member
    I love that DH tries so hard to be a good father and do things right, but still let's me make the big descisions regarding DS and always consults me on things.

    I hate that he is so level headed sometimes lol everything must be carefully calculated, the pros and cons always weighed on everything.....he's not spontaneous at all.
  • Xraymom
    Posts: 102Member
    I love that he does the grocery shopping and the cooking, and he is awesome with our son, and very patient.
    I hate that he spends so much time listening to Howard Stern, has grown out a huge bushy beard, and is messy, disorganized, and can't remember shit.
  • JenH13JenH13
    Posts: 9Member
    I love that my DH randomly brings home treats for me...my favorite wine or cheese, once he bought me a furry winter hat he thought I would look cute it....

    I HATE that he HAS to poop EVERY MORNING for 20 MINUTES> minimum, while I am trying to get me and 2 kids dressed and ready for the day.... REALLY?? 
  • WillileeWillilee
    Posts: 1,002Member

    DH always makes me laugh and for some reason wanted to marry my crazy ass, so what's not to love??

    Although when the occasional problem arises (XW, $, whatever), I really wish he would be more aggressive about fixing said problem.  He is very passive sometimes and it makes me want to pull out the shank.

  • wtfwit
    Posts: 220Member
    He is good with the kids... and can get over an argument we had 5 minutes ago... i cant stand how fkin lazy he is and how if he doesnt get wat he wants he acts like a 3 yr old... still dsnt get what he wants tho lol
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,756Administrator, Moderator
    I love how he's so amazingly sweet, and such a great dad, and I love that he'd do anything to make me smile, even if it meant making a fool of himself in public to make it happen LOL

    I hate that he can't remember to take his meds like a grown up, and when he gets off them, he turns into the kind of person that I'd advise anyone else to leave.

    I love that it was his suggestion that I take a year or two off work to work from home so I could be here with Spawn, but I hate that he sometimes holds the fact that I 'don't work' over my head when we argue.

    community-manager


  • LA_PygmyHerderLA_PygmyHerder
    Posts: 1,239Member
    There are too many things I love. But the biggest one would have to be his sense of humor. Sick and twisted though it is. And the thing I can't stand? The piles of crap he leaves in his wake and NEVER cleans up till I'm ready to blow a gasket and then he's all like "I know, I'm trying to be better about it". I call bullshit
  • Stac81
    Posts: 14Member
    I love the fact that even when I say that I am ok, he knows that I am not and I love the way he can be so sweet when he wants to be.

    I hate the fact that he constantly plays video games and ignores me half the time. Plus, the way he expects me to answer his texts automatically, but never responds to mine. Plus, he is an asshole a LOT!
  • Anonymous39
    Posts: 172Member
    I love the fact he is dedicated to me and our son. I hate when he is bitchy, he tries to steal my period. That is the one thing I have to myself!!
    It's nunnya... Nunnya yo business..
  • rockermami88
    Posts: 12Member

    @ Staci81  .................i agree with u on the hate parts......u summed it up better than i could lol..............

     

  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,307Member
    I love that my man does anything to make us happy... I hate that he worrys and frets over things beyond our control. .
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • tothemoonandbacktothemoonandback
    Posts: 2,123Member
    I love his drive for success, and he is always trying to make me laugh.

    I hate his self diagnosed ADD, fucker can't sit still and pay attention to anything for more than a minute.
    Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring. - Marilyn Monroe
  • onetimeonetime
    Posts: 2,014Member
    My favorite thing is probably...... uhm.. he's literally the best dad I know .. hate, he's always touching my ass, which is normally fine, except when I'm hing over and still waking up and not in the mood....
    Suck it up buttercup!
  • NotMeDidItNotMeDidIt
    Posts: 13Member
    I love that he puts up with me, which is amazing.  I don't know if I could put up with myself.  Also, he works really hard, really long hours, and his entire paycheck has gone to pay our bills while I am in school.  My paycheck pays for me to go to Target and pay off my credit card, but he rarely complains.

    Things that drive me nuts?  He does his two things in the house (dishes and garbage), and nothing else unless I tell him what to do.  He never puts anything back where it goes, so I can't find it when I want it.  He's very smart, but common sense missed him, so he's a total putz.  Also, he was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in February, so I feel bad about expecting him to get up and do stuff around the house, but he manages to play Xbox for hours with no problem...
  • LatinDallasMamaLatinDallasMama
    Posts: 10Member
    I love that he wants to work as a team to make the relationship work. 
    I hate how feminine he is. I feel like the guy in the relationship. He wants to spend every waking moment w/me and I cant stand that much face time with just one person. 
  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,483Member
    I love that his is a great Dad and that we are truly (finally) a team 50/50 work/play/chores/kids.

    I hate that he doesn't trust me.. Not like I will sleep around... but he double checks everything. If I take an important phone call ... tell him all about it.. He has to call back and have the exact same conversation that I already had. If I give him directions ... he checks google maps before he leaves. Calls my Dad to find out how to gut a fish after I have already told him, and showed him...I grew up in Alaska...Hello..I can gut a fish... and load a gun... and change the oil/spark plugs/break shoes<----I taught you how to do this REMEMBER!

    The rest (socks by the bed every night, coffee cup by the computer every afternoon, his ciggerette butts by the front door) trivial. But the previous really hurt my feelings. do you think I'm inept?! wtf?! 
  • scholarmom4
    Posts: 547Member
    I love that my husband is hard working, a good dad and old fashioned as far as feeling like he needs to protect and provide for his family, he is rugged, blue collar and incredibly sexy and good looking and amazing in the sack, but bitches when I want sex more than twice a week! I am six years younger than him! I am just hitting my sexual peak! I don't think the fact that we are busy or have kids is a reason to claim you are too tired to put out! He should be happy that I want HIM and not someone else after six years and four kids!!
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