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Tuesday Morning
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
    Posts: 2,820Member
    'I've learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and not from our circumstance' Martha Washington

    What are your tips or tricks?

    ~O) Chocoholic
    :¦:-•:*'""*:•.-:¦:-•** She who leaves a trail of glitter is never forgotten**•-:¦:-•:*'""*:• -:¦:-
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
    Posts: 2,820Member
    @chocoholic
    :¦:-•:*'""*:•.-:¦:-•** She who leaves a trail of glitter is never forgotten**•-:¦:-•:*'""*:• -:¦:-
  • runbitchrunrunbitchrun
    Posts: 907Member
    Prozac. Lots and lots of Prozac. Sometimes a sprinkle of Xanax.
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,634Member
    I dont have any other than what @runbitchrun said, but I could sure use some tips ;)
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,551
    Morning @lauriebizz!!!

    Wine and bad decisions are the key to happiness ;)


    I agree with the First First Lady- its the "if life gives you lemons,make lemonade" mentality. When life shits on you, instead of rolling over and giving up, you make a shit sandwich and laugh. Almost everyone goes through really rough times in their life, but it is how you choose to handle them that determines your character.

    I say when in doubt, just accept it for what it is, and make step-by-step goals for yourself that you are in complete control of- give yourself a reason to feel accomplish every day and focus on the aspects of life you can work on now- exercising, cleaning a room, mailing a letter- the day to day things that you can accomplish will make your overall feelings more positive!
  • BirdieBirdie
    Posts: 1,751Member
    Any of you who know me on here know that the situation I am in is really not a good one. There are many, many, many reasons to give up, to want a divorce, to stop functioning all together. But I know it won't be like this forever. I know that it will get better. I know that I will be ok. I know that my marriage will be ok. I have to believe that.

    I know some of you aren't religious but I hope you don't mind me sharing this... This is my life verse: psalms 126:5 'those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy'. I know that I have to work for this, it may suck and not be easy and I cry more often than not. I pray alot. I seek out friends to talk to. I love. The best thing you can do for someone struggling is to love them through it.

    SMSM_s_5

  • BirdieBirdie
    Posts: 1,751Member
    *shrinks down a little* hi, I'm birdie and I'm a thread killer!

    SMSM_s_5

  • BeerWenchBeerWench
    Posts: 2,820Member
    @birdie not at all! I live your ideas.

    I say a lot of things in my head and try to stay positive. Xanax and vodka help ;)
    :¦:-•:*'""*:•.-:¦:-•** She who leaves a trail of glitter is never forgotten**•-:¦:-•:*'""*:• -:¦:-
  • nonamejustmommy
    Posts: 162Member

    This always puts me in a better mood
    Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass....It's about learning to dance in the rain.

    Bide within the Law you must, in perfect Love and perfect Trust.
    Live you must and let to live, fairly take and fairly give.

    These Eight words the Rede fulfill:

    "An Ye Harm None, Do What Ye Will"
  • krhodeskrhodes
    Posts: 27Member
    I have a lot of miserable, grumpy, bitchy people in my life.  I was one of them for a while, but now I see that, and I just don't want to be that person.  They bring everyone down.  So I go the other way.  I smile through the shit sandwich and hope it rubs off on them one day, just like their bad attitude got me down for a while.
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,551
    @nonamejustmommy that is hilarious!!!
  • ProudPalsyMamma
    Posts: 1,260Member
    Is it bad to take a swig of some whiskey to wake me up? I'm so dreading today that 3mile walk I did yesterday is killing me lol
  • Avahsmom
    Posts: 20Member
    I get frustrated but I always try to remember there is someone facing something much more difficult. The only things you have when you are gone is memories, so itry to focus on the things that really matter. Easier said than done :)
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,606Administrator, Moderator
    I try not to take things too seriously, and to always keep the big picture in mind. And damnyouautocorrect.com is a good go to if I really can't shake the mood. 

    community-manager


  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,470Member
    You know that episode of the Simpsons where Homer has to go back to work at the nuclear power plant because Marge is pregnant with Maggie and they need the money?  He has that sign that hangs above his work station that says "Do It For Her."  I have a sign that says "Do It For Him" above my desk.  Sometimes I do need to go look at it.

    I also don't take myself very seriously either, and just remind myself a lot that even though I feel like I'm always struggling, I have a lot more love and support in my life than a lot of people do, and they manage to get through life, so so can I.  Same with "stuff."  I'm poor, but I know lots of people would give their right arm to live my life. So I just try to be grateful.

    Oh, and weed.  I smoke a fair amount of that. 
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,606Administrator, Moderator
    lol @Demanda "Oh, and weed.  I smoke a fair amount of that." oh yeah, I left that out. 

    community-manager


  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    Progress doesn't come from early risers - progress comes from lazy men looking for easier ways to do things...

    Small change can often be found under couch cushions...

    Jealousy is a symptom of neurotic insecurity...

    Always store beer in a dark place...

    The best way to deal with a man is not to tell him anything he doesn't need to know...





  • CrashCrash
    Posts: 8,191Member
    Lol @CollegeMom. I completely agree with the last one!

    As far as the original topic, I figure that a day that goes by without laughing is a day wasted. But maybe some people do find it easier, through temperament or circumstance, to just be happier. I feel blessed every day, however, I have no idea how I would handle a lot of the crap that I see people being dealt with. 
    See ya in another life, sister!
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    I suppose I am a little off topic, but these are just some words I try to live by to make my days easier, and help me deal with things as they are.


    ETA, I am happy most of the time. I have a very easy going disposition. I tend to take the long view with just about everything, and when I am unhappy, it never lasts for long.
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,453Member
    In our marriage we tackle everything as a team, even if it's just one of us supporting the other, we act as a team.

    In friendships...I live by "those willing to gossip to you are willing to gossip about you." I try to keep my thoughts and comments positive, it doesn't always happen. And I've learned the hard way to stay out of other people's arguments as much as possible. I can be an ear to bend and a should to cry on, but 90% of the time it's best to stay out of the middle.

    In life- it's all about the lemonade and knowing when you have to let go of the worry and stress. Once it's out of your hands, take deep breath, think positive thoughts and wait and see what the world has in store for you.

    With kids- Right now my motto is take it one day at a time. LOL
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,189Member

    I'm the eternal optomist in our family, regardless of the fact that everthing is crashing down around me.  Which it seems to be right now.  I try to look at the fact, too, that there are others who are far, far worse off than I am, no matter how bad it is here.

    It just makes life easier to look at the glass as half full.  I get really frustrated with my baby brother because he's exactly the opposite, in every way possible:  he gets everything he wants, everything comes easily for him and yet I've never met a more unlikeable, disagreeable, pessimistic person.  I work 10x as hard for everything, and I just keep plugging along, trying to enjoy the little things.  It just takes too much energy to be a pessimist.  A little like it takes more muscles to frown than to smile.

    I just keep telling myself, "It will get better, it will get better."  I just hope it does soon!

    Bite me, cupcake!
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,776Administrator, Moderator
    I used to be a worrier, when I was married to my first husband. I mean, like I would worry myself into an anxious FIT thinking about how the bills were going to get paid, or how we were going to put gas in the car, or where he was going to be able to find a job (and if he'd keep it)...
    For all that worrying, I gave myself high blood pressure and that eventually fed into other issues that caused a stroke.
    It aint worth it.
    So, now when something bad happens, or a worrisome situation comes up, I'm just shrugging my shoulders and knowing that whatever happens, happens. And we'll deal with it. 
    I refuse to stress over things I can't change. We do the best we can do, and that's really all we can do.

    Life gave me lemons, so I made lemonaide, and then found friends with vodka!

    community-manager


  • GreenteamomGreenteamom
    Posts: 79Member
    Oh. my. God!!!! @CanadianMama! Damnyouautocorrect.com literally just changed my life!!! I have been laughing so hard I'm crying and my 2 yr old is laughing a me laughing!!!

    Not hijacking, just had to say that.... Completely agree with most that when you get shit make a shit sammie and laugh. But damn is that hard to do when you're in it. The shit that is.
  • nessamommynessamommy
    Posts: 671Member
    When things get tough my motto is "take a breath, hold your tongue, suck it up, and get it done, then you can laugh about it when its over."  I also use music as therapy.  When dh starts getting in his pessimistic, "we won't get out of this" brain, I always talk to him about how things won't be like this forever.  We have a lot of good times, and when we look back the little frustrations won't matter for too much longer.  He has this same talk with me when I get down.
    If life gives you lemons, squirt lemon juice in life's eye!
  • Persephone
    Posts: 107Member
    I go a couple of ways.  Working out is my thing.  It helps relieve stress for me.  If I'm injured and can't work out, then I think of what I've learned in yoga.  I surrender to the bad feelings.  I immerse myself in it (if I can't stop myself from thinking about it) so I can try to figure out the cause and solution.

    I also think and use this a lot, and it's something my old boss would say, and I repeat often:  "don't worry about the things that you can't control, focus on the things that you can". 
  • episcopal
    Posts: 1,402Member
    Prayer, exercise, and Adderrall!
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