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Normal Friend Finder
  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,136Member
    Just saw a confession about how they wish there were a site where you could sign up like a dating site, but just find normal friends.  Like a BFF.  Nothing sexual.


    Me, too!
    “I did then what I knew to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” (Maya Angelou)
    http://www.primalmomma.com
  • MaryPoppins25
    Posts: 1,686Member
    Dh told me to go on pof to find friends... Ummm no they are all looking for a bang.
    It would be a great idea! Shake yer money maker ladies, this could be a goodie!
  • Mommyoftwo2Mommyoftwo2
    Posts: 36Member
    I would love something like that...I need more female relationships to keep me sane from life!
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,849Member
    That would be nice. You never know who's out there that you'll just never cross paths with.
  • AnonUser34
    Posts: 1,799Guest
    That would be Awesome!! I need a cool Mommy friend.
  • babynkittymama
    Posts: 77Member
    Same here!
  • mountainprincess
    Posts: 134Member
    me too!
  • AnonUser23
    Posts: 2,278Guest
    LesboMom said:

     

    Hello, ladies - what do you think we are doing here? :) 


    Buddy system. Map. Local meetups. Book club. 
     


    I was thinking the same thing! I've met lots of friends here and met up with some of you irl. Wish I could meet a lot more of you awesome ladies!
  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,136Member
    lol... hahaha.... yup.  I never thought of that...
    LesboMom said:

    Hello, ladies - what do you think we are doing here? :) 


    Buddy system. Map. Local meetups. Book club. 



    “I did then what I knew to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” (Maya Angelou)
    http://www.primalmomma.com
  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,136Member
    I was just browsing Real Life Connections... Friendmatch??? heard of it??

    link about this topic: 

    http://www.scarymommy.com/message-board/index.php?p=/discussion/9199/make-friends-online

    Or I copy/pasted the text in case the link doesn't work:



    katielady

     


    This is a really fun site that I can find myself spending hours on. I
    love the community!  Just thought everyone should know that there is
    also a website out there that is online matchmaking for friends, not
    dating or romance. It's called friendmatch. I actually met a running
    partner using it. have a beautiful day.

    “I did then what I knew to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” (Maya Angelou)
    http://www.primalmomma.com
  • CoffeeQueenCoffeeQueen
    Posts: 227Member
    I definitely need some normal friends.I"m flexible on the definition of normal; they just can't be mean spirited or jealous; mean people suck!  I"m pretty new here and I kill a lot of threads, so I'm batting a thousand making buddies. LOL  Help! hahaha
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
    Posts: 1,805Member
    My DH has been telling me to find a state where I know some sm's and we could move near them lol what state has the most scary mommies

  • AnonUser34
    Posts: 1,799Guest
    LesboMom said:

    Hello, ladies - what do you think we are doing here? :) 


    Buddy system. Map. Local meetups. Book club. 


    Oh, don't get me wrong I've made some really good friends here that I LOVE dearly a couple are my SM buddy's a few not, I talk to them pretty much everyday but they live so far away one is in London lol.. I meant I need a cool Mommy friend close by to hang with now and then.

  • AnonUser34
    Posts: 1,799Guest
    @toyoungtofeelold maybe Texas :-? Lol there's only maybe 5 SM's in Michigan but there also on the other side of the State! All but one, I'm planing a meet up this summer :) Yay!!
  • littlebitz
    Posts: 123Member
    Well Craiglist "Personals" section has a "Strictly Platonic" section. I tried it though and the people seemed interesting but flaked out when it came to meeting for coffee IRL. Probably men pretending to be women looking for friends lol.
  • shate98shate98
    Posts: 2,823Member
    SM is cool and all and I there are tons of awesome ladies, but I agree... some way to meet cool mommies in my home town. meeting for virtual coffee just doesn't give you the same buzz. but you guys are still awesome!
    "As you wander through your life, whatever be your goal,
    keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole."
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,470Member
    I heart Scary Mommy and all you mommies bunches! This site has been a great outlet for me the last couple months and I don't plan on going anywhere, but... I really know what you guys are saying! Online communities are wonderful and can be incredibly supportive, but nothing beats having a really good IRL friend to hang out with. I would love it if there was a site like that!
  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,136Member
    there's a SM map.  every one knows about it?  I can't remember which board its on.  I put my tag on there.  lots of tags on there, too.
    “I did then what I knew to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” (Maya Angelou)
    http://www.primalmomma.com
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    I couldn't figure out the SM map to save my life.  Maybe my computer.  It loaded but I couldn't move around to see other areas.

    Meeting people in real life is odd, after talking to them online, in my experience.  It can turn out well or it can turn out, well, weird, but it's always worth a shot.

    I met my exH online.  Example of it turning out badly.
    :-))

    I met another mom once online, then oddly enough, I moved into a house down the street from her!  We didn't click as much in person though as we had online.  Was okay until her husband started hitting on me and her kids were just little nightmares and my kids didn't want to play with them. 
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
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  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    MammaTeeRoll said:

    i have been looking for something,like that for YEARS. good luck. last time i thought i found a normal friend, they invited me over to dinner, and both of them were hitting on me without the other's knowledge. not swingers, but 2 cheaters. and they were the local boy scout den parents. rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhh



    Oh jeez.  Sounds like something that would happen to me. 
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,136Member
    took me a while to figure out the map.  lol

    I met DH online.  and I totally relate to the "not clicking" thing with people.  other men I "clicked" with online or even on the phone and then I see them in person...and its a disaster. DH was #7 of my search.  Lucky #7!!
    “I did then what I knew to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” (Maya Angelou)
    http://www.primalmomma.com
  • GypsyMamaGypsyMama
    Posts: 614Member
    I see this issue in the threads and confessions so much and now, even after my kids are raised, I find making friends tedious and exhausting. How did we do that when we were younger? Is it because our lives were so much simpler or we were free from expectations? I think I will discover the answer then travel around the country in my RV having motivational friend making classes. What do you think? Kind of like Fight Club for moms?
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,470Member
    @gypsymama like fight club for moms. LMAO! I love it.

    The 1st rule of mom club... You never talk about mom club. I'd come to your motivational seminar!
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    GypsyMama said:

    I see this issue in the threads and confessions so much and now, even after my kids are raised, I find making friends tedious and exhausting. How did we do that when we were younger? Is it because our lives were so much simpler or we were free from expectations? I think I will discover the answer then travel around the country in my RV having motivational friend making classes. What do you think? Kind of like Fight Club for moms?



    I think it was that.  When we were young, how much really did it matter that our friends were in line with us on our views on major issues?  As long as we had fun together that's all that mattered.   Now, there's so much else to consider.  I didn't want it to happen but a long time friend and I parted ways because she was just SO damned pushy about her politics and her views had done a 180 over the years from the time we first met. 

    And for me anyway, I live in a city that is very spread out.  My existing friends live all over our city, it's not like they are in my neighborhood and can just "drop by" for coffee.  It takes a concentrated effort to get together.  I think it was different even for my mom's generation, there seemed to be more friendships naturally formed with neighbors.

    And it's a lot easier to nurture a friendship when you don't have a thousand places you have to be.
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member
    How about everyone just move to New Zealand to be closer to ME!!
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
    Posts: 2,240Member
    Haha ... NZ is too small and expensive. ;)
    I love purple; I love cats. Imagine if cats were purple ...
  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member
    @AloneOverseas thats true. Maybe I should just follow the migration wave to Aussie.
  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,136Member
    many_moons_ago said:

    How about everyone just move to New Zealand to be closer to ME!!



    I would move to New Zealand!! I've been looking online actually ;)  If I understand correctly from the immigration websites I've been reading...  the protocol is that as a foreigner you must be able to bring something of value to the country (ie:  job, student, family, or money) ... sadly, we are nothing special...and have nothing to offer.  your country could probably find  our skills among its own people. 

    maybe we'll be able to visit!!

    I mean, how often do you need a Spanish speaking HVAC tech and a preschool teacher?
    “I did then what I knew to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” (Maya Angelou)
    http://www.primalmomma.com
  • undercoverbanana
    Posts: 7,734Member
    Shit...i WISH there was a "half ass normal friend finder"!!! until then, lets use the scary mommy map. I recently found out two bad ass beeyotches are not far away from me....and another chica I dont have much in common with, but is a bad ass mommy beeyotch in her own right isn't far....(some random teacher/mommy person)
    You dont have to be soulmates to have coffee or lunch in the park. So.......i will consider scarymommy my abnormal friend finder .....
    i'm nekkid.
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