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How attracted are you to DH?
  • bagglady
    Posts: 3Member
    wow, I am obviously married to the wrong guy. Ten years of marriage, 2 young boys, and life have really left us so routine it's pitiful. I am not attracted to him and haven't been for a long time. No attraction and although I love him I am not in love. Is being in love even a real thing or is it all Hollywood hype?! I have been struggling with the decision to leave for two years but come back to not believing strong magnetic love is real so why leave?!
    Any words of wisdom?
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,457Member
    Big old 10. I feel so lucky to still have the hots for him like I do.
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • crazybroad
    Posts: 91Member
    after 12 years and three kids im going to have to give my dh a 10+.....we but heads on most everything but still cant keep our hands off each other. i love him and its still an everyday thing for us!
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    I am VERY surprised at all the 8 pluses!!!! I thought I would be the only one! Granted I've only been with bf for two years and we have kids separately, but not together, I say ten! Honestly he is THE ONLY man I have been with that I would give a ten to. And its great.
  • elsiegal
    Posts: 8Member
    after 20 years of a roller coaster marriage, and his weight gain(beer gut), as well as potty mouth in front of the kids, I'd have to say my attraction is,at best, a 5.
  • MRSC3761
    Posts: 2Member
    Been married 8 years, two kids later and weight gain of 50lbs for me and 30lbs for DH, sex is the best i've ever had - when we have it. I think once a week is good, but we've been 2 weeks without any at this moment & this happens often. I find myself never in the mood, even after house is clean and kids are in bed. I'd rather sleep or catch up on my dvr shows instead. DH would love to have sex everyday but that isn't happening! I THINK THERE IS A PROBLEM WITH MY HORMONES OR SOMETHING!  I use to think DH was extremely attractive but over the years, many ups & downs and add a separation too, we are just not on the same page anymore. I am envious of all you women that say you give DH a 10+ - I was looking forward to seeing more responses similar to mine, now I feel bad for DH.
  • Ashdawn684Ashdawn684
    Posts: 850Member
    Dh is a very nice looking guy looks alone I would give him a 10. But then he opens his mouth to speak and all bets are off, his actions make him a 0
    ~Live life to the fullest, or die trying~
  • LaurelLaurel
    Posts: 110Member
    Ya'll are lucky. I would say a 3-4. He's just not doing it for me anymore.
    Insanity is hereditary - you get it from your kids. ~Sam Levenson
    You know the only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children? Those who've never had any. ~Bill Cosby
  • mericksmom
    Posts: 388Member
    I LUST for DH. To me he is a 10, I think he is hot.

    Now for conversational and hang out and being a  "friend" I give him a 3....he is not emotional, he doesnt ever have anything to talk about and as a friend I want to vent and he is there trying to give advice and ignoring the fact that is a hug topic or a just listen topic and advice topic.

    and then I would rate for father.......sadly he is there for us, he pays the bills, but playing with the kid is an area lacking.  A 2.
  • Luxxi90
    Posts: 19Member
    Damn, I knew something was wrong in my life . . . I am SHOCKED by all the 10's on here.  I keep seeing wives being all giddy about their hubbies on TV and thought it was just a TV act, but I guess it's the real deal for many of you.  I do love my DH, but like a previous poster said I don't feel like I am "in love".  At least not passionate, I-want-you-so-badly lust.  He's not a bad looking guy.  I'd rate him an 8+.  He has a nice shape but could stand to be a tiny bit taller and more build.  No beer gut and at least he's not letting his hair grow out messy anymore.  As a friend/partner/father he's amazing, which is why I married him in the first place and why we work well together.  It was never about sex not even in the beginning.  Hell, I was trying to be celibate before marriage.  Now that I am older and heavier, ironically I feel better about my body and am horny as hell for about 2 weeks out of the month.  So our sex life is the best it's ever been.  But he is not the man I am most attracted to.  I have a gym crush who is a 20+++ in my books right now.  What I would do to just jump him once!!
  • TorturedbyTWINSTorturedbyTWINS
    Posts: 1,163Member
    My DH wasn't my type when I met him, he has the "bad boy" image and I've always dated clean cut military guys that look like genuinely nice people.  This isn't really asking to rate his looks alone though, it's asking how attracted to him I am.  He is honest, he protects the family, he is strong and has the sexiest voice, he's dirty hot, and I'm crazy about him.  He's all my fantasies come true, he just wasn't in the packaging that I was used to :-)  I rate him a 10, but really he's off the charts in my heart.  He can be a royal pain in the ass but then we just have mean sex because I still find him irresistably hot.  I can't say enough good things about him.  Sometimes I wish I didn't feel as attracted because he'd get away with a lot less!
  • GisleyandHank
    Posts: 300Member
    I love my husband inside and out so I'd say 10. Even when I have a "crush" on an actor or co-worker, it's always because he reminds me of DH. And our sex is amazing. We've done pretty much everything we'll ever do, but it's definately not "routine". Always different and it keeps getting better!
  • Krissi6Krissi6
    Posts: 24Member
    Haha mine can go from a 10 to a 1 in a matter of seconds and visa versa! On ANY given day, doesn't matter what time of the month it is. We have a love/can't stand the sight of you thing going on :o/
  • TurthipoTurthipo
    Posts: 340Member
    PurpleFlowers said:

    I feel bad saying that Im only attracted to Dh as a "3".He is a nice looking man but he is morbidly obese, has tons of health problems, and is a constant complainer. It just makes him so much less attractive. And lack of sex adds to the mix too :(



    I'm with ya. I still look into his eyes and go "omg take me now!!!" And then remember between his belly and my thighs *sigh* it'd not nearly as fun anymore.
    Hoping his (high blood pressure) diet & exercise routine works for both of us and we can get our groove on again!!!
  • luckymama
    Posts: 94Member
    An 8, sometimes 9. He's good looking, hard worker with a great body. He tends to be self-centered, in that his needs come first (in general, not in bed). He's a good lover. I'm just so tired and bored being a SAHM to have much enthusiasm to fuck him. That sounds terrible. Now I'm going to start at the top and read the entire thread.
  • bellabiondobellabiondo
    Posts: 7Member
    Some days a 10 and others a 2... As for sex it totally depends.... if i feel like its remotely a chore ill avoid him like the plague lol....... i think in any normal relationship especially after children you dont always want sooo badly to have sex and you dont always Hate it... its life.... some days are good some bad and some great. =)
  • HartiaHartia
    Posts: 62Member
    Defiantly a 10, I can't get enough of him, even when I'm mad at him!

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