Married Men & Single Women
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    What are your thoughts?
  • Anonymous
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    Bragging about sleeping with married men is the equivalent of bragging about pooping yourself. Noone is impressed & it just makes you smelly. 14420
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  • Anonymous
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    We have a term for women who happily, knowingly sleep with married men: self-absorbed-insecure-twat. I guess that's a compound word! If you try hard enough, MAYBE some man will love you instead of using you as his plaything. #14415
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  • Anonymous
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    There is some truth to what she said. You either need tot ake care of your spouse, or scare the hell out of him. As in: cheat and I'll kill you. I use a little of both myself!
  • Anonymous
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    Can't stand women who sleep with married men. put yourself in the wifes position! How would you feel if your husband was banging another woman. Bragging about being with a married man is NOT cute..find a man who isn't taken #14388
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  • Anonymous
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    Insecure? I can get any man I want? And I don't have to play nursemaid to him? That just screams insecure. Not looking for love/marriage/family, just a good time. And married men are happy to give me that. Who's using who? #14418
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  • Anonymous
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    We met when he was married with a pregnant wife. She treated him like shit... I loved him. We have been together for 10 years counting the two years of our affair and married for 6. I dont regret a minute of it. #14451
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    We met when he was married with a pregnant wife. She treated him like shit... I loved him. We have been together for 10 years counting the two years of our affair and married for 6. I dont regret a minute of it. #14451
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  • Anonymous
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    I confess: while I think aspiring to sleep with married men/women is stupid, I get SO tired of people not placing the blame where it belongs: with the cheater, as they're they ones that CHOSE to ruin their family. #14459
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  • Anonymous
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    I was the "other woman" a few years ago that broke up a marriage. Now, I feel absolutely terrible about it. I sent a message on facebook to the wife and apologized as much as I could. I know that's not enough for what I caused but it gave me some closure. I'm married now and couldn't imagine what I would do if my husband cheated on me. Growing up as taught me alot and I'm thankful I know now that a marriage is not something to fuck with.
  • Anonymous
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    the worst excuse comes from the man when he claims to only be staying for his kids. no loser you just want your cake and to eat it too.
  • Anonymous
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    You can't expect a man to let you stay home with the children, accept that you can't keep up with the housework so he has to help after he's already worked a full day, accept that he has to help care for the children because you've been with them all day and need a break, be happy that you've put on 50 pounds since you got married, can't be bothered to look nice for him anymore AND accept that you're too tired for sex. You want an awful lot of things from your husbands and seem to think that giving them children and making a half-assed attempt at cooking and cleaning is acceptable reward for that.
  • Anonymous
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    You can't expect a man to let you stay home with the children, accept that you can't keep up with the housework so he has to help after he's already worked a full day, accept that he has to help care for the children because you've been with them all day and need a break, be happy that you've put on 50 pounds since you got married, can't be bothered to look nice for him anymore AND accept that you're too tired for sex. You want an awful lot of things from your husbands and seem to think that giving them children and making a half-assed attempt at cooking and cleaning is acceptable reward for that.
  • Anonymous
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    I am frustrated by how lightly cheaters take their vows. Seems so hypocritical... I agree with "cake and eat it, too!" Why are women with self-worth labeled as bitches? Sadly, we (women) can be our own downfall.
  • Anonymous
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    Dear, You can't expect....
    First of all , he lets you stay home with kids,??? Seriously. I don't believe you have any idea how hard being a mother really is. Bet you don't have many women friends.
  • Anonymous
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    14451 is a slut, home wrecking whore who is going straight to hell. Karma will catch up with your nasty skank bag self! Keep yourself away from married men you fucking loser! How could you knowingly screw around with a married man, especially when his wife is pregnant? You're a dispicable excuse for a human being, like all the other losers out there (male OR female) who cheat on their spouses!
  • Anonymous
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    I love how you pick and choose what you want to post here, mod. Way to be fair and impartial. I wrote a long note and you chose not to post it, even though I wasn't nasty about things.
  • Anonymous
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    "Let's you stay home with the kids". Wow. What a privilege. Poop, pee and puke. Because the expense (and illnesses) that come with day care are often not worth it. My husband does not want me to go to work, while I'd love to. He even objects to me taking classes two days a week now that she's 4. Because we didn't become parents to let strangers raise our children. Yes. He works hard. I work 24/7.
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    My apologies to those whose posts got deleted without being moved here. It's not personal, I just didn't think about moving the confessions here until shortly after I started deleting non-confessions from the confessional.

    ~MOD
  • Anonymous
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    Of course, I have no idea how hard it is to be a mother. I've only raised two of my own and do foster care when needed. No clue. "What a privilege to stay home with my kids and their bodily fluids!" That's what being a mother is about, and women have been doing it for thousands of years, most of them without the basic comforts you take for granted.
  • Anonymous
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    I am 7 months pregnant and if my husband cheated on me right now (or ever for that fact), I don't think I could ever get past it. Not only would it ruin our marraige, but it would ruin me emotionally, too. Knowing that there are women out there who prefer married men makes me sick to my stomach.
  • Anonymous
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    Monogamy is a ridiculous and outdated concept. And how unfair and selfish are some of you women who just decide you're done with sex or lose interest in it? I agree with the earlier poster, you can't just stop having sex with your husband, or worse, "phone it in" as they say when you decide to feel sorry for them, and expect them to be happy and satisfied with that. Why is it so shocking to you that so many men in this situation look for sex elsewhere?? Shame on them for not being honest, but shame on you too for refusing to be the lover and partner to your husbands that you vowed you would be!
  • Anonymous
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    I found out my husband was having an affair with someone who I thought was a really good friend, while I was pregnant with our second....I always said that if he ever EVER cheated on me, thats it, I'm gone, no excuses, no forgivness, one strike and your out...but here I still am...its been alittle over a year since I found out about it...its easy to say "If he cheats I'm gone" but when your put into that position, especially when you have kids, its not so easy to just get up and go....And honestly, what woman in her right mind would even THINK about putting the blame on SAHM for their husbands cheating....FUCK YOU...I am a good wife...I clean this house everyday, top to bottom and make sure its sparkling clean when he gets home from work everyday, the kids are well taking care of, smart and great kids, I have a hot meal waiting for him every night when he gets home, and when he wants some I rarely EVER turn him down....I've always been this way...yeah most days I stay in sweat pants and a hoodie, but I'm always showered, and always well kept enough to where if I had to run out of the house quick, I could...So please tell me...was it my fault my husband cheated?? Because I'm pretty sure I wa doing everything right when he decided to sleep with another woman.....the blame is NEVER on the woman who is being cheated on....but ALWAYS on the piece of shit husband who only knows how to think with his dick, and the stupid whore who slept with him KNOWING he has a wife and children at home.....
  • Anonymous
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    Oh and I forgot to mention I'm a Navy wife too...have been together for 7 years now...I've waited for him through deployments and underways...dealt with being away from eachother for 2 years of our relationship and always stood by his, supported him, and never once in 7 years have I even held another mans hand in an intimate way...so Please tell me again how its the SAHM fault for her husband cheating?
  • Anonymous
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    My first husband cheated on me the entire marriage. I didn't let myself go. Actually I worked really hard to be in shape. I also worked full time and raised two children. Kept my home clean and cooked for him. Sex was never an issue on my end. I was always the one initiating it. Little did I know he didn't need me anymore since he was getting his rocks off with other women. Monogomy is not outdated. When you get married you take a vow to be faithful. If that's something you don't want or can't handle don't get married. His cheating has forever scarred me and now I can't trust any man. Not only did his cheating hurt me but it hurt my children as well. You may think your not doing any wrong by sleeping with a man you know is married because your not cheating, but you are willingly engaging in harmful behavior. Sleep with single men if your just want a good time and leave the married men alone. I hope that one day this doesn't happen to you. It's heartbreaking to be cheated on.
  • Anonymous
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    If you read any of my posts you'd know that I've said, repeatedly, that it's the SAHMs who cut their husbands off from sex ad do nothing to make themselves or the house look good who share the blame. If you didn't do that, you just married a shit man.
  • Anonymous
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    I wish I could give some of you who have posted on here a hug in real life...
  • Anonymous
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    It doesn't matter if a SAHM cuts of their hubby for alittle while, or doesnt always have the house clean, or gives more to her family than she does herself...still doesnt make it right for her husband to cheat on her...and it DEF does not give stupid little insecure sluts like you an excuse to sleep with married men!!! Find your own men that are SINGLE!!!! Its ridiculous now a days how wedding vows are tossed in the trash like a dirty paper towel....all of a sudden one thing doesnt go your way and you think its okay to throw away all the promises you made...FUCK THAT....Go to the corner porn shop, buy a fucking porno, and wack off...don't go to the corner and find a 2 cent whore who thinks its okay to sleep with a married man....uugghhh...wondering if monogamy really is dead....so sad...
  • Anonymous
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    My house looks like crap - but you know what: My kids are clean, have a great time all day, and we switch off making dinner. Yes, I am a SAHM. However, I encourage my husband in bed, don't "phone it in", and am willing to try just about anything. Even if I wasn't like that - cheating is not ok. Not happy in your relationship? Grow up, get out of it like a grown up, and leave. Don't try to have a mommy at home and a piece of ass on the side. Men or women - it is that simple.
  • Anonymous
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    I don't think women who actively seek out married men are worth even the 2 cents. And, in reality, they are just jealous. But, you know what, you will ALWAYS be second best. Because you are the whore - and I am the wife. You are nothing, have nothing. I have his kids, vows, and pay check. And even if he leaves for you (for a minute) I'll STILL have all those things. You never will.
  • Anonymous
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    Fuck the bullshit. Cheaters (men or women) are selfish assholes. Their willing partners are probably desperate for attention and willing to settle for less. But to say that the cheated-on spouse is a total victim is a crock of shit. Sometimes, ppl cheat because they have internal issues. Too often than not, however, a relationship is ignored & not cared for (maybe because of monotonous wife/mother duties). You cannot pretend that it is all one person's fault. If you have lost that spark, if the connection or attraction isn't the same, then ppl need to wake the hell up, realize that & fix it before cheating serves to fill the void. Most cheaters do say that they did what they did because they felt wanted & desired again.
  • Anonymous
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    I'm not remotely jealous of your marriage, and if the mods would stop deleting comments I've made, you'd know that. Yes, some women ARE out to "steal" your man away from you. I just don't happen to be one of them. I don't WANT him for a relationship, just the hot sex that you're no longer interested in having with him. I've said it more than once, I don't want his time, his babies, his money OR his vows (which wouldn't do me any good anyway, since vows don't mean much to him and if he left, all his money would go to support your kids). I have MY OWN money and I have great friends to DO dinner, movies, etc with. I don't need your man for that! Single men suck and want to control you once you fuck them. And most of the guys I hook up with are once in a while things, not long term or ongoing

    At least 90% of the men that I've hooked up with have said it clearly: they love their wives, they love their kids, they're otherwise happy in their marriages but they NEED the sex, and they've gone a good while without it before porn and wanking isn't enough. Often times, their wives bitch about the porn even, since he's "looking at other women", so many of them don't even get THAT release. Is it any wonder they look for it elsewhere?

    Look, I feel for the women who DO take care of their relationships and their men still cheat. Unfortunately, there are a lot of really pathetic men out there, and it sucks that they do that to you. But there are also a lot of women who put their relationship with their husband as the very bottom priority, and use sex as a weapon against their husbands, and I think those of you who do that suck just as much.

    I've said my peace on this matter, and I'm done with it. One of the guys I hook up with sometimes mentioned this site to me because he'd heard his wife talking to one of her friends about it, and was shocked when he looked and saw how many of the women here openly admit to withholding sex from their men because they've lost interest. I was just trying to give you girls a heads up and insight as to why your men cheat, but you're not really interested in hearing it, so I'm done trying.
  • Anonymous
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    How can you live with yourself, you whore?
  • Anonymous
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    "If you have lost that spark, if the connection or attraction isn't the same, then ppl need to wake the hell up, realize that & fix it before cheating serves to fill the void. Most cheaters do say that they did what they did because they felt wanted & desired again." I agree 100% with this. I have cheated on my husband numerous times simply because he doesn't make me feel wanted. I love feeling the desire of a man and my husband is too fucking stupid to see it. Maybe if he were to realize I need that feeling again I would stop cheating, but I'm sad to say I don't foresee that happening.
  • Anonymous
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    I think that there is a difference between meeting someone and there being a spark AND the active searching out of married men. Good thing that sex is the one area that we don't have issues in. And, I am very clear that cheating will result in his death. I also control the money and can cyber-stalk all of his purchases, cash, etc. That isn't why I take care of the money, but it doesn't hurt! I cheated on my first husband, for over 2 years. I know how a cheater works. It doesn't make me a good person, and I'm not proud of it (glad this is all blind). This has made me much more wary.
  • Anonymous
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    If the spark is gone in a marriage, or things need to be fixed, the answer is NOT cheating!!! HEELLLLOOO FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE......YOU TOOK THE VOWS, STICK TO THEM OR FUCKING LEAVE!!!! Cheating isn't going to make anything better, its going to make things a hell of a lot worse...I don't trust my husband....not one little bit since I found out about the affair....and it KILLS me....and I'm trying to fix the trust issues, but its hard not to think hes going to do it again....And you dumb little whore who is just looking for sex...there are millions of SINGLE men out there who are just in it for the sex....STOP LURING MARRIED MEN...YOU ARE A HOME WRECKER AND YOU NEED TO GET A FUCKING LIFE....next time your in bed with a married men, just think about his children sitting at home wondering where their daddy is....or think about his wife, sitting at the dinner table with a hot meal, waiting on her husband to join her for dinner...maybe you'll think twice....Women like you make me sick to my fucking stomach...to think that sleeping with a married man is okay....just wait...I can not WAIT until you get married, and have children and your wonderful husband finds a whore like you and cheats on you....then maybe you'll finally understand...Karma is a bitch and it will come back to bite you in the ass....you really should be ashamed of yourself...its already apparent that you have no self worth or self respect....And for all you women and men out there who aren't happy in your marriage and are thinking about cheating or are already cheating....GET DIVORCE, spare the hurt and embarassment on your family!!!
  • Anonymous
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    The cheating husband is a coward for not telling his WIFE what he needs! Matressback: If you are single and want to FUCK there are soooo many single men around who are happy to service you. You are making excuses for your behavior and are acting passive-agressively yourself: Female sociopath... Your self-worth is artificial and inflated. That's why you like them married. Sad.
  • Anonymous
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    It might not be right to use sex as a bargaining chip, but for some SAHM's, it's the only currency they have. That's why they're confessing anonymously...
  • Anonymous
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    "Single men only want to control you once you fuck them"? Give me a break. And I highly doubt you came on here to give women a clue as to why their husbands cheat -- you want to stir up some shit because you like to make women feel bad about themselves.Classic case of making them feel small so you can feel sexy and desired. Shame on you. I think you have low self-esteem and only get with men who are at the point where they'll fuck anything.
  • Anonymous
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    I just want to point out that you are technically being cheated on as well if you're sleeping with a married man. Don't think that he doesn't get the occasional something from the wife. And most likely, he's not going to leave his wife for you - you're probably just a sex toy to him. And if he does, he probably will cheat on you once you are an item. Coming from a man's point of view who has cheated. FYI.
  • Anonymous
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    It all boils down to the fact that If you wont give it to him someone else will.
  • Anonymous
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    If you're going to act like a whore, a slut, and sleep with married men, you should definitely get paid for it. Did you ever look at it that way? You're such a sad loser, sleeping with married men. But just think of all the great stories you'll have for the nursing home some day - where you'll end up, sad and lonely, because you're too emotionally retarded to make meaningful, lasting relationships with men or women. Good luck to you, you miserable tart!
  • Anonymous
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    Sore loser? I married my married man. Yes he left his bitch of a wife and married me because we are in love. You cant keep treating your husband like shit and expect him not to stray. Most of the posts on here are women banging on about how shit there husbands are yet as soon as someone else shows interest in him you suddenly cant be without him. If you respected him more he wouldnt even be interested in someone else.
  • Anonymous
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    I feel sorry for you. It's evident you have some deep issues which makes you think sleeping with married men is ok. Maybe your Dad cheated on your mom, maybe you were someone's "other"family, maybe something worse happened to you as a child. Although you are saying all of this here, deep down you know what you're doing is wrong. You choose married men because there's no way you can ever have them, you don't get emotionally involved so you don't get hurt. Seems simple enough, but you know it's not that simple. You cannot truly be happy doing this, and Karma is a bitch so you really need to be careful.

    Now I'm married with 2 kids and both my husband and I work. That being said we both try to balance all of our responsibilities but still work on our marriage. I take care of my man, and he takes care of me. We both try and look good for each other because temptation is everywhere. Yes we've both gained weight, but never criticized each other for it. We are now encouraging each other to lose it and work together. MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK! But both parties have to work on it otherwise it won't work.

    A few years ago I felt that my husband was having an emotional affair. Although he never admitted to it, I know something was off. However, I had to take an honest look at what my role in it was. I was depressed, let myself go, and wasn't fun to be around anymore. So I changed all of that and guess what? Things felt normal again. No I may not want to go out with his loser friends but I'm going to go and make the best of a night out with my man.

    Anyway, you should get some help. You seriously can't truly be happy sleeping with married men. See a therapist, journal, do something to help you get over your childhood traumas so you can actually start living your life.
  • Anonymous
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    Bottom line: cheating is never just on one person. There are at least three people that have screwed up along the way.
  • Anonymous
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    I read Dr Laura's book on The CAre and Feeding of Husbands after my divorce. Wish I had read it before. Women will spend all day cleaning up kids snot and shit, yet not look after their husband. Kids will call and you will go all night, but will turn our guy away when he needs something. Men need to feel we care about them and the biggest way they receive this is through making love.
    Another author I read - Dr Greg Smalley - said that withholding the loving activity of sex is the same as if he refused to talk to you for months one end. We need to talk to him and share ourselves verbally, the same way he needs to express himself physically.
    These two authors changed the way I looked at relationships.
    There were other issues that got in the way of intimacy in my marriage - his passive aggressiveness, his 100 lb weight gain, and other things. With my new relationship I am very careful to attend to my SO others sexual needs despite my illnesses of the past year. I felt very unloved in my last relationship because the sex died( I even begged but to no avail) My new SO had the same type of experience(no sex marriage) so we are very careful to attend to each others needs.
    I think all partners need to make sure they are looking after what the other needs. This is the only way to better defend against cheating and divorce.
  • Anonymous
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    I sometimes think that perhaps the more European way of looking at marriage may not be so far off - a loving wife and home life and a mistress. Or perhaps we all need sister wives so that there is help in all aspects of married life - kids, chores and looking after the husband.
  • Anonymous
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    If a man is not getting it at home, he will get it elsewhere (in most cases).
  • Anonymous
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    My ex-husband cheated. Said "it just happened". BULL CRAP! Nothing "just happens"! The moment you flirted with her, the moment you felt that first stirring of desire, you should have grown a pair, come to me and let us both make the decision about our marriage. To cheat, and then come and confess is cowardly and cruel, and to be f**king her and me at the same time is criminal! I blame them both equally, and will never have any respect for either of them.
  • Anonymous
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    I cheated on my husband and he admits that he deserved it. Go ahead and treat your wife like crap and that is exactly what will happen. It woke him up when he realized someone would treat me well, make me smile and take care of HIS kids. He is a better husband now than the day I married him. Now if you are a woman sleeping with a married man understand that he will more than likely pick his wife in the end..
  • Anonymous
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    Before I was married, I'd have the occasional one night stand with married guys. I'd look for married guys. Married guys seemed safer than some creepy guy at the bar and more appreciative. As a lonely single girl, I would kinda get annoyed so many great guys were 'taken', so it was kinda fun to doing things with them their wives wouldn't... Now that I'm married, I know full well my husband has opportunities to cheat, I make sure he's getting it at home so he's not out there looking for it from someone else, even stuff I'd prefer not to do. If that's what he wants, that's what I better give him.