Too old for this

beerthirty

I'm 40.... have a 9 yr. old and 6 days short of a 2 yr. old. WTF was I thinking, doing this again? I'm tired, irritated, inpatient, and some days I just want to crawl in my bed and stay there. I am not depressed, just tired. Anyone else feel this way?

beachmommy

I am 36, almost 37 and I have my first baby, a 3 mo old. I am so tired that I feel like a zombie. How is it that just a few years ago I used to stay out all night, come home at 3 am, up for work by 7 am and go all day and not feel nearly as tired as I do after getting up with my son a few times each night?

Motherhood is the most exhausting party I have ever been to.

LA_PygmyHerder

I am 32 with 3 kids. I feel the same exact way. When they come whining at me, I always wonder why they can't ask someone else or figure it out for themselves. I know it's harsh, but sometimes I swear they just don't think. At all...ever. DD6 has her age as an excuse for most of what they do, but ds8 and ds9 should know better by now.

shadylane

This is what I'm afraid of, bf wants a kid of his own but I'm almost 32. By the time we're ready I will probably be 35. I think that might be too old but I really want to give him a baby hopefully a boy. I can't deprive him of his dreams but I'm really afraid of being an old out of touch mom like my mom.

BellaBefana

Oh, hell yes @beerthirty, I was 46 when dd3 was born, yes I said 46. I've never been so tired. ever. And yes, sometimes I wonder if I'd be more patient if I were a little younger. But you know what? If I could do it again, I absolutely would! I would LOVE a sib for dd, even 3 years (or more) older...

deviltwinsmomma

Always add 5 yr old twins to the mix

Butterfly

I'm 44, with a DS5 and DS2, and I'm tired all the time. I don't think there's a 'perfect age' to have kids -- younger,and you have more energy, older and you're more established. Wouldn't change a thing, but some days the boys know to give 'cranky mommy' a few more minutes of sleep in the morning. Wish I had the energy of my youth with the knowledge of my 40s.....

Twins911

Most of us feel you… "WTF was I thinking". Twins!!!! daily drained, have to take antidepressants to get through most days. When I go into the shower, I swear that I just take a mini vacation in there, close my eyes and just let the hot water run out. I wish I could be in there longer, but twins don't even let me take a crap in peace!

Calliopemarie

I'm only 29 with4 kids and I am exhausted all the time.

beerthirty

Thanks ladies, always nice to hear we're all in this together!

MooseKnuckle

Good Lord YES!!!

At almost 36, my 3 year old is way more action than I expected.

He will be the death of me.

Persephone

I'm 41 and will be 42 when my second will be born. DS will be 3 this year, so I started late. I was reading an article in the Huffington Post last week about older mothers. One commenter said something to the effect of: "please don't do this (have a child when you are older), you are robbing your children of your best years".

I wonder if my children will think the same. I was a mess in my 20's and would have really done a number on them. My 30's were better, but I think therapy would still be in order. Now, I think they have a fighting chance. My forties are going to be my best years, even if I am more tired.

If you don't mind me adding to the conversation. Do you think your children will resent not having your "best years" when they get older?

beerthirty

Totally know what you mean. I think of that allllllll the time! I keep thinking about her age/my age when she reaches certain points in her life. And my husband is 2 years older than me. I walk alot and try to keep in decent health, but she's gonna be the death of me. And I'm with you on the 20's and 30's thing. I didnt have my 1st till I was 31 and 38 with the 2nd. I thought going thru this a 2nd time would be great, cause I just didnt enjoy any of it the 1st time. Although I do think I enjoy the 2nd one alot more, I'm also over all the fun stuff I used to do with the 1st. And it's like we have 2 separate families. Can only do certain things with the oldest (like ice skating, rollerblading, amusement parks), and baby stuff with the other. It's hard.

mommyof2_76

I am 35 with DS13 and DD3 mo. Having 1 at 22 and the other at 35 I can honestly say that neither age is necessarily better but different. It is harder in some ways when you are older like being more tired. But when your younger you have energy but usually to broke to do anything. Kind of a trade off I think.

Grainne

Had our twins at 38 always tired. But think I am a better mom now than would have been in my twenties also wanted to wait until the right "dad" came along.

meandmy243 · mom of wild children going to the chapel 7/5/2014

My boys are 5&6 im always at the end of my rope.. It doesnt help that i am high stung.. I have to remind myself to say something nice to them or i wont.. Im very criticle and i hate it.. I feel like the worst mom ever.. My kids will probably hate when they are adults.. Im only 29..

realtormom

One note... After my first was born, when I was 35, I wad always tired. Turned it my thyroid had shut down. Now I'm on synthroid for life, but I'm less tired...at least when I'm not sleep deprived.

many_moons_ago

Have kids when you're young- they all said.

I'm not even 30 yet and I'm shatted (granted I am 38 weeks pregnant).

I have a DD7, DS6 and DD22mo and having another. I'm plain crazy/bonkers/mad/insane (or all of them together).

When (IF!) I get to 40 I plan on resting!

momnipotent

umm I turned 20 less than a week ago, I only have one 3month old who is a freakin angel and im tired.. I am terrified for the future
I cant imagine having more than one little one

katz_meow

well hell I'm 37 (in a couple weeks) and I'd give my right arm to have a baby with dh. I have two from previous relationships (8 & 10 yo now) but I'd love to give dh his own! looks like we might have a problem getting there though. I'd do it all over again, middle if the night feedings, teething, terrible toddlerhood ... I'd love every second of it!

love your screen name btw @beerthirty. dh insists on saying beer o'clock. I say that's just stupid....its BEER-THIRTY!

wtfwit

28 w 3 kids 12 9 3 and I'm so tired 24/7. I was never this tired until my baby girl. She isn't bad, idk what it is. I feel more stressed tired when ds12 is around idk I guess because he is my outdoor child he constantly has to be doing something. The minute I get the other two to chill out... he comes in the house sees me asleep and walks by and says... HEY MOM. Why would you do that? :(( Leave me the hell alone for 20 minutes damn. So when I joined sm that is why I chose wtfwit.... because I really dont know wtf was I thinking! lol I love them so much and it was all worth it but dammit they wear me out. I work 7:30 to 6 mon thr fri then go straight to the kitchen to cook eat by 7 bla bla you know the rest I guess those hours dont help. And dh wants another one helllll nooooooo. I wonder if that's why some grandparents don't want to be around their grandkids? Maybe they are still recovering from the kids lol :/

KindredSpirit

I'm 28 and I have two DDs (1 and 3). I am exhausted constantly. DH is 36. He always says he's too old to have kids as young as ours. I don't care what age you are when you have kids....18, 30, 40...you are going to be exhausted!

MorganD

Good Lord, I'm only 23 and I feel like that most days. SO is 41 and has more patience with the kids than I do.lol

orangepoppy

I'm. 35 & have 1, she's almost 18. My husband of 5 years doesn't have any kids of his own & I’ve gone back & forth on whether or not I want to try for 1 more. I'm pretty sure I‘m done. Just want to say to you mom‘s of little ones, enjoy them because they really do grow up so fast. I regret all the times I said I was too tired to play. I'm depressed now, must eat chocolate.

Charlotte_Sometimes

I had my kids at 20 and 26 then I met DW and got my DSD when I was 31. I was tired then, I'm tired now. The difference is, now, at almost 41 I have more sense. I don't have my act together but I am closer to it now than I was then. My poor DS20, I was so young when I had him I was in some ways like a big sister and not the nicest. I don't mean abuse but teasing him and pranking him, not mom stuff but meaner teasing big sister stuff. I think he forgives me now but damn. So in some ways I wish I'd been older, I think I am a better mom now and wiser for sure. Even though I still feel like a 15 year old most days (mentally, not physically!).

littlebitz

@persephone-please know you are not robbing your children of you'rest yesrs. My mom had me when she was 40 and I loved it. Just got some mild teasing in school because of my "grandma". We are the best of friends now and I had my first child when I was 29 and she was retired by then so got to help me out more than she did my older sisters, because she was still working when they had their kids. I think I benefited from having a mature and experienced mother .