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Therapist is criticizing your husband
  • kristy2127
    Posts: 94Member
    To the scary mommy who's therapist is criticizing your husband. Get a new therapist as soon as possible! I am currently in the process of getting my Masters in counseling, and I can tell you that what your therapist is doing is WRONG! No, I don't have my degree yet, but that is therapy 101! As therapists, we are not there to judge, criticize, or tell you what to do. You, and you alone, are the client. That therapist's job is to work with you and, as you stated in your post, to help you cope and/or make decisions for yourself. What she is doing is unethical by professional standards. Find someone else so that you can get the help and support you deserve!
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    My therapist has her opinions about my DH's actions but I wish she'd keep them to herself. It just makes me more angry to hear someone else criticize him. What I need are ways to deal with his stupidity, please.

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    Yep, your therapist shouldn't be criticizing your SO. I know when mine kinda disapproves because she says, hmmmm, sooooo, what do you think about THAT?!? Lol but she would never ever come right out & talk bad about him. I think the most she has ever said was something like, that wasn't very supportive of you.
  • TruthandjusticeTruthandjustice
    Posts: 68Member
    I'm a counselor, finishing the last handful of hours toward licensure in my state :)

    Sometimes....expressing empathy can come off as sounding critical. For example, "Wow. It sounds really awful that he did XYZ to you." However, if the criticism is excessive and ongoing, and it makes you uncomfortable, I would mention that to the counselor first before you switch to someone else. Just honestly tell her it makes you uncomfortable. Trust me...I work with many severely mentally ill clients, and they have NO problem telling me about things they don't like or would like done differently ;) And truly, it doesn't bother me a bit, because my goal is to help them and make their sessions worthwhile. 

    However, if it's more than this one issue that's making you uncomfortable, it's not unreasonable to think about seeing someone else. If you don't mind my asking, for how many sessions have you seen this therapist?
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