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  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    My daughter, who I hadn't heard from in a few months now (except for a shitty messaging fiasco starting with a weak "Happy mothers day." (exactly that) fb message a few days after mothers day, had the NERVE to send me a fb friend request today after having me blocked for months. I have a large group of friends all over the world and fb is a great way of all of us keeping in touch so I am always on, constantly updating, etc. and she knows this. So what, I'm supposed to accept it so she can sit with her crazy ass father and nose in on every aspect of my fucking life?? I had to delete her in the first place for calling me a "fucking bitch" on my wall and posting all sorts of nasty shit on DF's wall, causing great embarrassment to BOTH of us and our families! My mom doesn't know, because if she did I'd get the whole "give her a chance" bullshit. She has my home phone, cell phone, email, work phone, address and EVERY family members information. She can damn well reach me that way. Every one of my friends and family that I DID tell about it cringed and said to dance myself from another round of humiliation and not to do it. And trust me, I'm not!! I'm sorry, but I'm fresh out of chances right now.
  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    *save not dance. Fucking autocorrect.
  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member

    I think I would feel the same way and not re-friend her until she shows she has grown up a little and learnt how to restrain herself on internation community web sites. Until she has learnt that the internet (facebook) is not a good place for family battles.

    Good luck with the out come of your 'decline'.

  • SassySassy
    Posts: 2,441Member
    Aw man... *Hugs* and I agree with @many_moons_ago. 
  • tothemoonandbacktothemoonandback
    Posts: 2,128Member
    Dance sort of works there too :) hugs to you!
    Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring. - Marilyn Monroe
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
    Posts: 2,820Member
    What if you accepted her frien request and limited her access and ability to post?

    It sounds like you are pretty hurt though, so it may be better to just leave it be.
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  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    She posted on DF wall that I was still sleeping with her father. I haven't even seen him in two years except for across a courtroom! He's smart enough to know that, though, thank god.
  • beachmommybeachmommy
    Posts: 2,516Member

    I personally would not accept it.... but if you are feeling in the "give her a chance" mood - you can always de-friend her again the moment she posts something inappropriate.  Since you receive notices as soon as she posts something, you can catch it before it gets out of hand.

    As far as her being able to see everything that you are up to - I wouldn't worry about that.  That is what public announcments are all about.  Who cares if she knows where you were last night - I am assuming that if it were bad you wouldn't be posting it to begin with!

    Either way - don't let your mom or anyone else pressure you to accept any form of attempts your daughter may or may not make.  This is between you and her - noone else understands the situation better than you do.  Noone else knows her and what she is capable of better than you do.

    My beach is still Sandy....
  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    Honestly, I need to keep the hell away from her right now.  I'm not even mentioning it to my mom.
  • regpregp
    Posts: 1,018Member
    eek. With the history, I'd just let it ride or approve it but block her from accessing anything at all. That's what I have done to lots of people if I think they are just being nosy. 
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  • NoDramaMamaNoDramaMama
    Posts: 134Member
    @ FinallyFree2BMe, if you don't mind my asking- how old is your DD? Another option would be to accept her but go to your privacy settings & block her from seeing a lot of your stuff or writing on your wall, kinda like baby steps.
  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    She's almost 14. I'm furious with her right at this particular moment.
  • boring_nameboring_name
    Posts: 667Member
    From what I see here. It seems to all be to fresh and painful right now. I'd just let the friend request sit there waiting until you are ready to make a final decision. And I agree... don't tell your mom, you don't need that stress! 
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  • canadamom
    Posts: 867Member
    I am of two minds about this

    1) She might be looking for access to what is going on in your life to give herself more ammunition to bash you with or to make her situation appear worse to outsiders ( poor me, my mom won't have anything to do with me!!)

    2) She might actually miss u and this is a tepid first step to re connect.

    You have to be true to yourself and do what you need to in order to keep your sanity and emotional balance.  They chose the actions against us so they get the consequences that come with that.  I have told both mine that as a result of their actions, I won't be contributing to post-secondary education- they can live at home - but I won't be paying for school. 
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