Control Freak.

GlitterGirl1987

So, here is my issue..

The short story is..I am a control freak..

The long story is..I am having issues with the fact that I am going to be at the hospital giving birth and pretty much be helpless and am going to need to rely on other people a lot. By other people, I mean my husband, the nurses, the midwives etc...I realize this is their job, but I am just having a hard time (almost to the point of feeling bad that they are going to have to cater to me) relinquishing control like that..

Is this normal? I almost got to the point of not wanting my husband in the delivery room due to the fact that I sort of wanted to prove to myself that I don't need all these people and I could do it all by myself..

Is anyone else feeling this way or am I the only crazy out there like this?

fatchickonabike

Sorry to break this to ya, but control is an illusion. Life is totally random. I've come to accept this as a fundamental truth. I wish I had some advice, but I'm afraid I don't. Except that having a kid will either cure you of being a control freak, or make you a hundred times worse. Could go either way. In any case, hugs to you, and I hope you have a healthy happy baby (and mom), however your delivery goes! >:D<

BellaBefana

You're the only crazy one ;) ...but I know how you feel, especially in a medical situation I want to control as much as I can, because I know there will be much I can't.

RELAX, and let them take care of you...that's what they're paid for! And I'll tell you honey, take advantage of it while you can, because once you're home with that new baby, s/he has ALL the control!!!

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Charlotte_Sometimes

This was one of the reasons I had a doula. I don't know if that's an option for you, but I had a very specific birth plan written out and signed by my Ob and then I had a doula and then my best friend was there too... basically so there was someone to tell hospital people to back off if necessary. I knew my (now ex) husband wouldn't do it.

I was a control freak too in this way but I had good reason to take extra steps because of previous traumatic hospital experiences.

Mainly the big thing was when they kept trying to get me to come out of the shower, even though my contractions were nice and strong and fast IN the shower but slowed to nothing when I got back in bed. Oh and they kept trying to get me to put a gown on even though I had a private birthing room... I wanted to be naked and IDK what their issue was. For both things though, having an advocate got them to leave me alone on unimportant stuff like this. And knowing my Ob was backing me up.

In some ways a lot is out of your hands but there are other things that are about convenience for hospital staff vs. true medical necessity and those are the things I held my ground on (and won). It made the entire experience a good one for me.

Just my experience...

momofeveryone

i, too, am a control freak. at the hopital, just do your best to relax and let them do the job they are paid to do. at home? your at the mercy of an 8lb lump w/ lungs that NEVER STOP SCREAMING!!!! (both mine had colic)

when you get home, contol will fly out the window and you will get real good at flying by the seat of your pants. when LO hits about 3 months you can take back some control. but your life is not your own for a while. it sucks. you get used to it and decied it was the coolest thing ever and will want to do it again, or say one is enough!

good luck!