For those of you that know what's going on with my daughter, she recently sent me a friend request on fb. This was my response, that was also sent simultaneously to my mother:

I received your friend request, C****. And please don't think I've ignored it. I've debated several days about what to do with it.

Given the tone of the recent conversation we had (the only one in months), I cannot in good conscience allow you access into my personal life at this time. Nana and I received a hastily scribbled note on over facebook for mothers day. As I've told you a hundred times before, be as ugly to me as you want, Nana and Grandpa have done nothing but been there for you your entire life, they do not deserve what you are doing to them. Not even a little bit. Did your Mee-Maw (exh mom) get such disrespect on that day? I seriously doubt it. Grandpa cried because he saw on your page that you were in the city (through facebook) and couldn't even drop by and say hello. Cried. Nana and I had to deal with that. You do realize the time he has left here with us is short, right? I know you do, Nana and I explained it to you, carefully. Yet you still choose to hurt him so terribly. Shame on you. Leave that poor man alone. I do not want you contacting him right now. He and Nana both are going through enough. Not that you would know or care what is going on in their lives.

With your recent history of using us or calling only when you need something, I feel like this request is being used as nothing but a way to access my private life, if not for you, then for your father to be able to see what I'm doing. I divorced him. He no longer has a say in what I do any more, and I will not allow him to use you to spy on me.

If you would like to speak to me, nobody's phone number has changed. Mine is still *******, Nana's is *******. Has been for years. If you want to speak to Grandpa, you need to go through me or Nana and we will decide if he is having the kind of day where he can handle speaking to you. Those days are now sadly few and far between.

Plus given your malicious actions to come between ***** (DF) and I, causing both us and our families humiliation by posting crap on his facebook wall last time you had access to our pages, I don't think you're mature enough to handle the adult interactions that take place between my friends and I on my page. That was just cold hearted and mean.

If you want to speak to me, call or text. If you want to see any of us, we are a phone call away. We stopped trying to reach out to you because we are tired of being hurt, or just used to take you shopping or give you gifts, for what I don't know, barely passing seventh grade? Congrats on that, by the way. We were amazed. Nana is a person outside of her wallet and doing your school projects, you know.

If you desperately want to know what is going on in my life, here it is: I work monday through friday, I come home, make dinner, clean house, play with my hedgehog, go to bed. On the weekends, we visit Nana and Grandpa, Maw-Maw and Pops and Ms. C***** (who all still ask for you). I deal with wedding planning when I can. Shockingly, sometimes I have a glass of wine. We go out to eat with his Grandparents on Sunday (a lesson you could learn). Take that to your father. Otherwise, you need money from me, I send enough to your father every month. Have him take you shopping.

Good night.

*I feel horrible about this*