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Dont know what to do about my kids
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    Ds16's girlfriend is moving an hour or so away. He is insisting on moving with her. Her mom says shes ok with it. He says he hates living here with me and Ds11. He is planning on getting a job and paying rent there. I actually dont have a real problem with him moving. I do however, have a big problem with me still being responsible for him while he's away. As I've said in many threads before, he has been in juvy 3 times, smokes pot and is ADHD/ ODD and has anger issues. I dont know if he can legally move away with me not being responsible for his actions. Im so fucking upset and pissed at him. I keep wondering what the fuck did I do to make him this way??? Im a good person! I dont deserve all this stress. Ds11 is just being a moody fucking lazy prick lately. I want to crawl in a hole. As sad as it sounds, most days I wish I never had kids.
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    You well know that sometimes you do everything right, and it still doesn't work as planned... :-S

    I would tell ds16 if he wants to do this, he needs to emancipate himself, to release you from the responsibility.

    As for the 11 yo, maybe it's just hormones?
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  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
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    @bellabefana and @mammateeroll read my mind. Once he's emancipated he's on his own...but you both have to remember that's a two way road. You don't have much say in what he does and can't he expect you to help him if he gets in trouble.

    Whatever you all decide I wish nothing but the best!
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    No, I understand you don't have anything to say about what he does when he's on his own, but he can sure as shit expect help, doesn't mean you have to give it!
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  • TrEr02TrEr02
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    what if his girl friend ends up pregnant?? Thats alot to think about ya know...thats how I ended up pregnant at 17. Keep us posted :)
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  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    Do any of you know whats involved in emancipation? At this point, it seems like thats the best choice. If he thinks that hes an adult now and can move out, he better not even think of asking me for $. I can barely support myself and Ds11. Not to mention, his juvy bill is over $6000 that Im paying on monthly. :( fuck!
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  • OtakuHimeOtakuHime
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    He needs to prove he can support himself before he can become emancipated.

  • DaBOMB
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    At what point does a parent throw up their hands and say I can't fix this kid? Where is his father? Where is the extended family. My response is hell no... he shouldn't move with the girlfriend. If he's that out of control make him a ward of the state. He sounds like he's way too much to cope with but clearly not adult enogh to be responsible for himself.

    Hugs... I will pray for you both. You're in a horrible position and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy!! Beat wishes and good luck!
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