So me, and my 10 siblings, were all products of the system. My mom was a crack whore and my dad was just the same. We grew up very very poor. My parents were on welfare, and we still weren't fed. My issue is with my oldest sister. She has had 2 kids and had them taken very young. She like my mother, claims that social services did it just to hurt her. (Well being an adult now with all the info, she dropped us off and ran!) She is a lazy, disgusting pig. Never once did she clean her house or even throw the dirty diapers away. She didn't even bathe them. She refused to feed her children, one almost died so that's how cps got involved. She has completely walked away from them and then cries about how she doesn't have them. I'm so disgusted in her because she's trying to have more kids. She's just as lazy and nasty as before. She got married in hopes she could quit her job. Since that didn't work she's trying to get preg. So she can stop working. Her dude is just as lazy and incompetent as her. She has NO drug or alcohol addictions, she's fat and lazy, that's it. I'm enraged with her when she calls me and cries about it all because she did this to herself. She KNEW the consequences of her actions and still refused to get her fat ass of the couch. I'm a parent too. I would literally die if someone took my babies from me, especially if it was my fault. She is just like my mom, "I'm a victim, they did this to me on purpose" bs. Or its the "your dads the problem, not me". They enable eachother, and whenever something goes wrong she flocks to my mom for that much needed "battered woman" support. Now she is like I said just as lazy and nasty as before and thinks she can do nothing and have kids and dude will care for them which he won't he can't even make his own dinner. I'm at an inpass in life, I swear if she has kids again I WILL call cPs on her. She still hasn't changed. I can hear it in the way she talks to me. Ands not to mention her house is riddled w cat shit and diapers from dudes dad. I can't imagine the smell. And she wants kids in that?! I'm not saying she has no right to move on but I feel very deep concern for her future children. She is not an adult. I haven't gone to visit her because she wants us to stay w her. But for 1. I HATE cats. Like really I do. 2. Her house is unlivable. 3. I don't want my children or hubby in that biohazard. 4. My mother. I Hate my mom with every particle of my being. She's trash, she walked away from us. Hasn't even the slightest bit of remorse or anything. Then she says she just wants peace and quiet. She's had it! Then she's mad since I refuse to talk to her and she has the nerve to ask why. I've told them both very clearly how I feel but neither listens. My sister will call for advice and I give very logical, doable advice and she doesn't take it and calls crying AGAIN! I really don't know what to do anymore....