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Biting
  • SadAllTheTime
    Posts: 17Member
    ok my 8 month old is a biter big time. i have no clue where he learned it or how to stop him from doing it. he has 5 teeth and they HURT. he leaves bruises where ever he bites me at. Ive tried the things my friends and mil have told me but it doesnt work. my mil told me to bite him back and i have but i guess not hard enough but then again i dont feel comfortable biting him. hes a baby....and then my friends told me to make him bite himself..that DOESNT work. he just gets mad and bites me harder...please help im tired of my little babys piranha baby act:(
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,700Confessional Manager
    Mine was a buyer for a few months too. It will pass. Try redirection. Telling him firmly "NO". Consistency is key. I wasn't too find of the advice to bite her back either. Lol

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    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • SadAllTheTime
    Posts: 17Member
    thanks:) hopefully it will pass soon!
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    Mine only bit when I was holding them so I would put them down and say "No biting!" very firmly when it happened,and not pick them up again for a little while.  It worked.
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • AllOrNothingAllOrNothing
    Posts: 135Member
    Exactly that @charlotte_sometimes! I never got the whole "bite them back" idea. I see that as confusing them, and harsh.
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    @AllOrNothing  yeah me too.  The idea of biting or spanking a baby is weird to me.  I wasn't a big spanker, but I did spank my kids from time to time, but with DS14 I didn't spank him at all until he was 3 or 4 and totally verbal AND had been warned...   and I actually remember that day clearly and what exactly he did and how he responded.  I heard "bite them back" from people and I just rolled my eyes at that one. ;)
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
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    well behaved women seldom make history
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,081Member
    My great grandmother told me to get the kid to bite himself. That's what she did. When he grabbed her arm to bite down she quickly put his arm in his mouth. He bit down hard. No more biting. But she did have some other parenting advise I would not take. Rum on the gums for teething for one. Lol
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  • GypsyMamaGypsyMama
    Posts: 614Member
    When I was 10 my baby sister bit my dad. He turned (ferociously from my 10 yo perspective) and chomped down on her tiny arm with his giant freakin teeth. I was HORRIFIED. She never bit anyone again. Put that little PTSD episode away and fast forward 12 yrs to when DD was 1 and bit me hard and with purpose. I instinctively bit her back. It was the last time she bit anyone. I don't think I could have done it if I had thought about it but for some disgusting traumatic reason it worked but ii can't help but wonder at what cost.
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,849Member
    Ds went through this, and hasn't quit completely. He didn't do it while nursing, but gave my shoulders, neck and arms a few good ones. I usually yelped (just because it hurts), firmly said no biting mommy and handed him a toy to chew. If he did it again right away, I moved away a bit or put him down along with the rest. It's been a couple weeks since he bit skin, I think he's going for clothes on purpose, now, but I only remember him doing it once in the last week or so
    It will pass if you discourage it.
  • DontpooponthedogDontpooponthedog
    Posts: 240Member
    Try dampening a wash rag and placing in the freezer.
  • Twins911Twins911
    Posts: 212Member
    I have the same problem with my twins… "The biting blues"

    i've tried biting them back gently. didn't work.
    I've tried the "bite themselves technique". worked for a while and then stared back again. They think I'm playing with them. 

    Now what i do is a little smack in the mouth and say "NO". I hope it works.. cuz I'm out of options too. 

    Note: It's extreme, to the point that baby girl left a big bite bruise on baby boys' cheek. That's why I decided to smack her in the mouth. She was very surprised and look at me teary eyed, didn't what to do it but enough is enough. 
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    well behaved women seldom make history
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,749Member
    MammaTeeRoll said:

    I seriously doubt they will remember you biting them back and need therapy.



    I had to do it with DD8. I know she doesn't remember. She also didn't bite anymore.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • GirdyOleeGirdyOlee
    Posts: 427Member
    We did "sassy water". A squirt of vinegar after every bite. Kept it in a bottle with a nipple or in a spray gun. It's not harmful, and only took a couple times!
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,210Member
    When ever dd bit me (mostly when nursing) I SOFTLY flicked her cheek with my finger, nothing that caused pain but got her attention, and said "no bite."  

    I've heard a number of people use the biting back to teach it, I don't know how well it truly works, but people swear by it.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • stinkersmommystinkersmommy
    Posts: 1,322Member
    My ds bit me to the point of blood once on my boob (not during bf ) I bit back purely outta reaction on his arm because I could not get him to stop or break the connection. I never got bit again
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  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,338Member
    In washington state you can lose your child for biting back...
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • beambeam
    Posts: 1,060Member
    Mine is almost 10 months... no teeth but she tires to suck my arm and she tried to "bite" my SO but only once. I usually just give her something to play or chop on instead. While bfing she wants to explore  - fingers in the nose, eyes, ears  which I can generally turn my head but the slapping got her taken off the boob and she doesn't do it anymore... My problem is the pinching... OUCH!!! pfffffff !
    "Magic things are fond of deceptions.” ― Tom Robbins
  • beambeam
    Posts: 1,060Member
    Darn it, I forgot the most important part of my post, my dd does this to tell me she is thirsty/hungry (I bf). So you could try and either whip out a boob or give him a sippy cup. 
    "Magic things are fond of deceptions.” ― Tom Robbins
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