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  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
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    Just in the past 2 hours, two "drop in" friends of my DSs... DS20's friend came by with his one month old baby, just showed up.  Then DS14's friend came by, his Aunt lives in our neighborhood so he just popped in.   Then got a few texts from friends asking us to go to some horror movie free thing (not our cup of tea), then another friend texting wanting to stop by. 

    And all I wanna do is catch up on laundry and maybe watch some Breaking Bad.   Just let me be antisocial!   But then I'm sorry later about it.  ::sigh:::
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
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    I hate when people come by uninvited. but on the other hand i like to have people over, i am always home with the kids. its nice to have a change of face.

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  • SaraSara
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    @Charlotte_Sometimes, can i watch Breaking Bad with you? Of Course, I will be on my couch and you will be on yours...I like to lounge in my underwear...We can toast every time Jessie says something stupid. We should be snockered by the end of the episode...
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
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    lol @Sara  sure thing. :)  My man-child (DS20) will butt in of course.  He loves that show and he's the one that got me started on it.

    @MammaTeeRoll  yeah if you show up out of the blue around here then you can have chips & salsa or yogurt or cereal.  Otherwise you're SOL.

    @tooyoungtofeelold  I am funny, I am often against an idea until I am doing it.  I will agree to some event and then the date arrives and I do not want to go at all, no enthusiasm, but once I'm there I have fun.  Same with having people over.  Very often it's just me not wanting to put on a bra!
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    Most days I want to be alone and just be left alone but every once in awhile it finally gets to me and I start feeling sorry for myself for not having any friends. Then I would be overjoyed if somebody stopped by, I would probably be practically in their lap I'd be so happy for someone to talk to
    ~slim shady~
  • BookMum
    Posts: 717Member
    I am by nature a very solitary person....i like to do things alone, i always have. Eat alone, clean alone, shop alone etc. I was an only child with detached parents who gave me alot of personal space. So stuff like this drives me nuts, having to be social for my childrens sake. I have a few good friends who know how i am and they are fine with it (not after some discussions about why i never join them for drinks, shopping etc) They know im not going to go to functions every single time...not because i dont like them, but because its not my thing. I dont really get lonely. My husband is the same way...we rarely attend public functions/parties/barbecues, but it makes it that much better when we DO go because we arehappy to see everyone, everyone is glad and surprised to see us. We are well liked and VERY faithful, supportive to our friends, its just understood that its theway we are. The ones who dont like it arent worth a second of our time.
    I shall futterwacken...vigorously*
  • AnonUser25
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    People just showing up is a huge pet peeve of mine. It drives me nuts, df's family liked to do that when our son was just born. That quickly stopped :D
  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member

    Doesn't bother me. I'm rude enough to say "Not today" if it's inconvenant for me to have them there. And I'll say "You can go now" or "I need kick you out now" if I'm about to start dinner or something that is annoying to have people there for. I do the same on the phone if I don't want to chat. Normally it's a "So why did you call?" or "OK catch you later."

    If people stop in un-anounced then I just carry on with my day. They will normally follow me to the clothes line and help hang the washing or chat in the kitchen if I'm doing dishes. Most people know where the coffee is kept (they have to make me one too) and I don't feed them unless it's just to make them a cheese or peanut butter sandwich or if I have done baking- I figure they weren't invited so don't expect lunch.

  • PigeonPigeon
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    MammaTeeRoll said:

    I don't mind unexpected visitors if if not unexpectedly feeding them. I cook enough already.



    Yes! Our relatives always come by on weekends around supper time! So annoying.
  • Not_hisAnymoreNot_hisAnymore
    Posts: 285Member
    I'm still working on trust issues. Anytime there is a knock at my door, it's usually the Sheriff. I'd love to get a non law visit from a friend. Sadly, my escape from my DV life resulted in loosing the majority of my friends. Shocker alert, husbands tend to frown on their wives and children visiting someone who has a sociopath for an x. *le sigh*
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    @Not_hisAnymore  I have serious doorbell / phone anxiety for other reasons but I know what you mean.  I panic, it's been like that for years for me, it sucks.
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • Not_hisAnymoreNot_hisAnymore
    Posts: 285Member
    @Charlotte_sometimes panic is my staple. Thank you for responding. I'm so alone. To the OP sorry for the semi hijack
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    Not_hisAnymore said:

    @Charlotte_sometimes panic is my staple. Thank you for responding. I'm so alone. To the OP sorry for the semi hijack



    I'm the OP so it's all good. ;)   If it weren't for the anxiety I'd have probably just faded away completely by now!
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
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