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Prayers needed. Son fractured skull-blood on the brain.
  • PhDMommyPhDMommy
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    That's great news Sara!  Keeping all of you in my prayers.
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  • chaosmomchaosmom
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    Glad to hear the good report! I hope he continues to progress well.
  • Peace
    Posts: 2,108Member
    Great news, I hope he has a speedy recovery! Continued prayers..
    Make sure you're taking care of yourselves too, he needs you at your best. >:D<
  • BookMum
    Posts: 717Member
    Yesss! Good job Adam! Stay strong, Mama...when people join hands and cry out as one, amazing things happen.
    I shall futterwacken...vigorously*
  • SammieSammie
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    I'm so happy to hear that he'll be okay! What an immense relief! Now you try to get some rest too, ok? You deserve it. >:D<

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  • AnonUser35
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    That is great news!
  • SaraSara
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    @momofdbb, I fall back on humor in all stressful situations. The most inappropriate jokes/comments float through my mind. I tried humor with the neurosurgeon yesterday, I got the disdainful look in response. He was going over the injuries Adam has and said again that his brain was bruised...my response ...I don't expect any different when you go bouncing off the concrete at 35MPH. He did not find me amusing. I can't help it. Crying doesn't come to me. Being mean and shitty with the staff isn't going to help anyone. Humor helps me. So when we go home, what do I do?
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
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    Does he take jokes well ? I have tried to use humor at times. It doesn't work as well for me now though. My rule was if the kid survived I would " kill" them. I would give him a helmet to wear for a while when were in the car and set child safety locks on the car. Only for a little while and judge how he takes it. It's the rule around here d something stupid and you pay the price. But only if they make it without too many issues. I teased my DS horribly when he had to have his head glued back together. A much smaller crack on his head.
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  • ZidashaZidasha
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    @sara, Sometimes humor is the best thing to do.  IMO it really does no good be completely depressed and down.  It doesn't help you and it sure doesn't help the other person.  I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through emotionally and mentally but I know it must be hard.

    Some people can't see humor and it is a defense mechanism.  I do the same thing and it irritates the piss out of my mom sometimes, but, we all deal with situations in our own way.  My dad and grandma are the reasons for that.

    I'm still sending tons of positive thoughts your way.
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    glad to hear he's doing well!  btw, he's a very cute kiddo!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • SaraSara
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    They took out the tube and took him off sedation. He is answering questions correctly but very groggy. Combative and verbally aggressive. Cussing. Insisting to be released. He is in restraints. Asking that we get the demon out of him.
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    Oh wow, thats scary @sara. Glad he's on the mend. >:D<
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

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  • unforgivenunforgiven
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    I"m so glad to hear that he's going to be okay. I'm sure coming off the meds could explain his behavior. He's been through a lot the past few days. He's probably tripping out. I'll keep you guys in my prayers.  >:D<

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  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
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    unforgiven said:

    I"m so glad to hear that he's going to be okay. I'm sure coming off the meds could explain his behavior. He's been through a lot the past few days. He's probably tripping out. I'll keep you guys in my prayers.  >:D<



    Yeah, when our DD was hospitalized (different situation, pneumonia, but lots of sedatives and pain meds) coming off the meds made her really wonky.  She was screaming at staff, calling them names, funny names as she was only six but they were the best insults she could come up with ("Chocolate face!!" Turtle head!!") and pulled out all of her IVs,  kicked a doc in the face, etc.  It was frightening!
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  • AnonUser33
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    @sara, lots of good thought for Adam and the rest of your family, as well as the doctors and nurses who are treating him. I am glad you have found some humor, its a great stress reliever.

  • chaosmomchaosmom
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    When my step dad had an aneurysm rupture & lots of brain swelling, he was like that when he came to also. It was due to confusion though. They actually had to let him go home so he could calm down.

    Glad he is making progress though!
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    yep, it's totally normal, especially for a head injury.  He'll be o.k. @Sara, just be there for him, and the fog will clear soon, promise.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • Not_hisAnymoreNot_hisAnymore
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    Sending as many good vibes possible for your boy and big hugs to you.
  • SaraSara
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    Just talked to the nurses. They said expect to be here another 5-7 days. I called the Ronald McDonald house but they are full. We are going to be put on the waiting list. Plus, he is looking at rehab after this. For once, I am not happy to be in Vegas. Nurse says the hotels close by can give us discounted rates. $50 a night for the one across the street. (No car after Sunday) Hope for an opening at the RMH! They also offer transport.

    SO offered to come up the is weekend. He DOESN'T travel so this huge. Not sure how we are going to work it...three dogs ...but I am happy he offered.
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  • SaraSara
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    Adam has had his breathing tube removed and the sedation lifted. He is answering questions correctly but very groggy. Dr says he has a subdermal hemotoma and they are wanting the blood in his brain to absorb naturally. He is coughing/spitting up the crud from his lungs, they are concerned about pneumonia. He is expected to go to a regular room some time today. He is very wobbly and is considered a fall risk. He is looking at rehab after this. He is sleeping alot and doesn't want to wake up. Sorry if I am repeating info, trying to keep everyone updated.
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • anonymommy
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    Big hugs, mama!
  • stinkersmommystinkersmommy
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    Big hugs and hoping for the best
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  • chaosmomchaosmom
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    Just take things one day at a time. Lean on each other & just stay strong for Adam. Keeping you in my prayers.
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    hugs, it'll be a few days before they can make any kind of intelligent prognosis, and sub-durals aren't the big deal TV would have you believe...don't get me wrong, they're serious, but it's the epidural hematomas that can go critical fast, so it sounds like he's on the mend, and if they're going to let the sub-dural try and resolve itself, they must not be too worried about it either.  

    I know that's not much comfort to a mom, but if they extubated him and he's breathing on his own, that's an amazing thing.  Also, the fact they're no longer keeping him in a drug-induced coma is a really good thing.  He'll be groggy for a while with a head injury, though.  did they tell you where the sub dural is located?
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  • BookMum
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    Normal reactions when coming out of sedation Sara. Verbally aggressive is good compared to the alternative. Im VERY glad to hear he is awake and talking, even is he is loopy and sleepy. I will continue to send love and prayers to you guys!
    I shall futterwacken...vigorously*
  • AnonUser28
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    keeping you in my thoughts! Stay strong!
  • SaraSara
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    @BellaBefana, the fracture is at the base of his skull. Near the corradid (sp?) Arteries. I would assume the blood is near there.
    @mammateeroll, mostly frustrated and confused.
    @bookmum, I know he is doing well but I want my normal kid back. You know?
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    @Sara...not necessarily, with this kind of injury...picture your brain like a ball of jello in a jar and then shake that jar.  There are ridges on the inside of your skull that the brain "bounces" against, they are called contra coup injuries, so the hematoma could actually be on the opposite side from the fracture.  A fracture near his carotid arteries?  Did he break his jaw as well?

    But talking is very, very good, even if it is mouthy, aggressive.  So long as he's making sense then he hasn't damaged his speech centers.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • notperfectnotperfect
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    I'm glad to hear he's doing better, him and your family have definitely been in my thoughts.
  • SaraSara
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    Hemorrhagic contusions in thethe Left frontal lobe and right temporal lobe and Linear non displaced occipital bone fracture. The nurse let me copy from the notes. 8-X
    @BellaBefana
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  • GingersnapGingersnap
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  • BookMum
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    @bellabefana....exactly!
    @Sara - i know you do. Your normal boy will return to you in no time.
    I shall futterwacken...vigorously*
  • GingersnapGingersnap
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    I'm praying for Adam, too. 
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    o.k., frontal lobe contusions may be causing the belligerence, frontal lobe are executive functions:  reasoning, emotion control, etc.  Depending on where in the right temporal the contusion is or how big an area it encompasses you may get some expressive language problems, but they'll  likely be temporary.  the occipital fracture is the back, base of his head, so you may see some visual disturbances, but if it's non-displaced probably not, or if so, they'll likely be temporary too.
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  • GypsyMamaGypsyMama
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    Check out La Hacienda casino and hotel in Boulder city. It is $35 night and is pet friendly. (there is an extra fee for pets) they have a simple and inexpensive buffet too. We stayed there when we had our RV in for repairs several times last year.
  • kristy2127
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    Big hugs to you! I'm so sorry. Sending lots of prayers to you and your entire family.
  • SaraSara
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    @Gingersnap, thank you!
    We got accepted into the Ronald McDonald house! As soon as I get rich they are getting my money. OMG! They seriously provide for you. I barely made it through the tour without crying. I am so grateful for...everything. We are in the best possible place for being in such a horribly traumatic situation.

    I am so appreciative of all your supportive comments and explanations. You all are making this overwhelming time bearable and I can't thank you enough.
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • AnonUser28
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    So glad you made it into RMH @Sara, it will help ease alot of worries so you can focus on your dear son. I hope you start to see some improvements soon! xxxooo
  • Twins911Twins911
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    Good and positive energy for Adam. May he be kept safe and out of serious harm… many prayers for all of you. 
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    So glad you got into the Ronald McDonald house!
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

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  • AnonUser28
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    Any updates today @sara? I have been thinking of you and Adam.
  • SaraSara
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    @PallasAthene, the CT this morning looked good enough that the neurologist is moving him out if the ICU. He will have a sitter because he is a fall risk. He hasn't passed the swallow test yet. No food since Tuesday. He still chokes on water and ice chips. Still foggy, asks the same questions repeatedly. Sleeping most of the time. Waiting for shift change to be done then they will move him.
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • AnonUser28
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    I'm glad to hear he is holding steady. Stay hopeful, it will come. Keep us updated, xxxooo
  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
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    Keeping you guys in my thoughts
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  • anonymommy
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    Still thinking of you...I hope things are looking up.
  • GingersnapGingersnap
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    @Sara:  I'm glad to hear he's doing well enough to be moved, that's great news.  His loss of gag reflex/choking may be from the intubation, and water is kind of hard to swallow because of it's "thinness," if that makes sense.  they may try him on stuff like thick pudding at first.  He'll get there.  Has he had a speech therapy consult?  They can help with swallowing problems.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • SaraSara
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    Adam is out of the Trauma Unit. Sharing a room with a belligerant gentleman. The sitter has her hands full. He has been watching TV for a little while. Hocking loogies. Failed the swallow test. They couldn't get the tube down his throat...looking at an IV for feeding. We "sponge" bathed him, brushed his hair and applied ointment to his road rash. He is doing well with the breathing exerciser. We have heard "I love you" a dozen times today.
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
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