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We invited my parents to come visit for Father's Day.
  • HaileysMomHaileysMom
    Posts: 478Member
    My dh and I have plans to go buy a lawn mower and a charcoal grill in the city on Saturday, after I go pay all our bills on Friday. We want to have the day to ourselves and Hailey. We invited my parents to come visit (2-3 hour drive one way) for Father's Day on Sunday. They plan to come visit Saturday morning and spend the night a a nearby hotel. When I told them our plans for Saturday, they didn't understand why we'd want them to drive here and back in one day or why we'd want a day to ourselves. My dh says that they're being rude, and he won't include them in our plans. What can I do?
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
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    Short answer? Nothing.

    Invite them to come with you to go do the things you were going to do, or leave them at home. Or Change your plans to include them. I understand wanting the day to yourselves, but sometimes shit happens, and it's best to just roll with it than to make your parents feel unwelcome. A 2-3 hour drive can be a lot for a one day visit. 

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  • SammieSammie
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    Did you invite your parents for the weekend? If you invited them, and they are traveling all that way, then I can understand why they'd be upset/frustrated that you're planning on being out of town while they are IN town to visit you and their granddaughter. Travel expenses plus the hotel say probably means they are spending quite a bit to visit you all which tells me that they really want to spend some time with your little family. If it was me, I'd accommodate them and make a trip to the city at another time or after they head home OR take them along. I think that would be the easiest and best solution. You can all spend time together, accomplish your errands and have help with Hailey. 

    Now if your parents make a habit of imposing on your plans, showing up uninvited and otherwise disrupting your family then I could see where your husband's frustrations come from. It doesn't sound like that is the case though.

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  • HaileysMomHaileysMom
    Posts: 478Member
    We made a similar one say trip to see them on the Saturday before Memorial Day. They also came to visit for Mother's Day and stayed for the weekend. They stay at least one night everytime they visit.
    We're getting a grill so we can cook our with them. Saturday is the only day my dh can go pick out a lawn mower and grill, and since he will be the one using them, he wants to pick them both out.
  • stinkersmommystinkersmommy
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    Compromise? Have breakfast with them Sat morning and see if the will hang out with hailey for the day while you and hubs goes shopping?
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  • HaileysMomHaileysMom
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    @stinkersmommy That sounds like a good idea to me. They helped us move over a weekend in February. While my dad helped us actually move furniture, my mom stayed at our new house with Hailey. Usually my parents get here in time for lunch. I told my dad that they could go see my aunt in the city while we go shopping and then maybe meet us for lunch and then go home to visit with us after that.
  • HaileysMomHaileysMom
    Posts: 478Member
    @Rosie08 my dad is 62, an my mom will turn 54 this month.
  • HaileysMomHaileysMom
    Posts: 478Member
    Rosie08 said:

    @HaileysMom. Hmm, well that's still pretty young, but maybe they have issues going on they aren't vocalizing? It is frustrating to have them disregard your plans. I hope it works out and your husband is ok with everything. I've seen you post in the past;doesn't he travel a lot for work? That makes sense why he wants time with just you.



    @Rosie08 yes my dh has been working on locations for over a month. My dad drives a truck. My mom pointed out how much my dad drives but forgot how much Bob drives and how long he's been gone.
  • EtoileEtoile
    Posts: 34Member
    I drive 3 hours to my in-laws all the time, and it's not the end of the world to drive back after a day. You could certainly extend an invitation to them to do something before shopping, but I wouldn't completely change your plans just to accommodate their brattiness.
  • HaileysMomHaileysMom
    Posts: 478Member
    My Dad's sister lives in the city. My mom wants to take Hailey to visit her there. So I told my parent that we can meet at her house, and they can watch Hailey while Bob and I go shopping. Then we can all meet for lunch in the city, and my parents can follow us home, get a hotel for the night, and cookout with us on Sunday. That's what I said in the first place, but they have to "come up" with the idea themselves.
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