I pulled this off the thread feeling helpless because of cheating so you wonderful ladies can welcome her and give her some advice.

@rcavpcac I'm sorry you're going through this. I know the sickening feeling of being unable to sleep because you see disgusting images as soon as you close your eyes. Big Hugs. I understand you wanting all the details also, at times it's the only way to decide if you're going to continue working on the relationship...or just cut it off. I think your DH's brother must think volumes of you to show you what your DH was texting him. All I can say at this point is if you think he's cheated before...he probably has. The gut never lies.


@rcavpcav1 6:49AM
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I have read through many comments and never imagined there are that many sleeze balls out there. I need help in the worst way. A few months back I caught my husband at a bar after telling me he was at a friends after work. I was not too upset even though we made a geological change 5 years back to help in his sobriety, I understood him falling off the wagon but something just did not feel right. I asked for his phone while at the bar and found a girls #, which he said was a friend of a friend of ours that he seen there earlier. I called the # and heard the same background noise when she ansered, she immediately hung up. I asked him over and over again if she was there and he denied it (needless to say I found out later she was) I promised to let it go as long as he never entered that bar again. Things were going fine until a few nights later she called when we were going to bed, I had deleted the # from his phone but it was embedded in my head. I told him to answer it but he wouldn't. I called her over and over to ask how she knew my huband and finally just left a message to not call him again. I asked over and over for him not to go back there and he if did I would know there was more to it. Exactly two weeks later he called me while I was at work and said he was helping a friend, I said "you've got to be fucking kidding me" "you expect me to believe that" I again found him at the same bar he came up to me and I asked why he was lying. Then a girl came up on my left side and I asked him if that was the whore he was fucking? I was so upset that I left and packed some things going to my brother in laws. He tried to call me a few times but I did not answer. Later that night not knowing I was at his brothers he texted him "I am with a hot piece of ass you have not heard from me" He later sent a pic of her naked at a motel with a condom on the nightstand. My world stopped at that moment, the man I trusted, my best friend just killed me is what it felt like. I left the bar that night not thinking in a million years he would ever cheat on me. We had a marriage that people envied, we were always told we had a one of a kind relationship.

For two days he kept calling and texting me.I finally started texting him back, I did not want to even hear his voice. I accused him of fucking someone and he says he did not that he would never do that to me, he loves me and I am the only one for him. I had to forward all the texts and even the pic of her and he still denied sleeping with her. Well I came home even though I knew the truth, I was not about to lose my home and everything I worked for, for some whore. I ended up texting her that Monday and she told me everything, that he told her he was getting divorcesd, that he could not get his ring off and that I came in that night to discuss the divorce. the fucked up part is that he tried calling me and texting me a half hour after he fucked her. We finally sat down and talked about things and I got the rest of the details and oh how they hurt, like a knife through the stomache. He says it ws the stupidest things he has ever done and that he realizes more than ever how much he loves me. Why do they realize it after they screw another woman? I know there was not a relationship there, she is a coke addict whore and I am not the most beautiful thing in the world but she was nasty. I asked him do you realize this is what she does to get what she wants, drugs and that who knows what the fuck she has. The hardest thing this week was waiting for my husband to get blood work done for std testing, Never in my wildest nightmare did I imagine having to do this. I know this has been long but I do not have anyone else to talk to this about. I am embarrassed, I blame myself for not seeing the signs that my husband was drinking again and that he was using drugs. He has agreed to AA, DA and even a lie detector test. I need to know that this is the only time he has cheated and that he is sincere in wanting to work this out but I am not too sure it was the only time. I had suspicions a few months back about a girl that used to live our neighborhood but never had enough proof just suspicions. Q Does anyone know anything about a SIM CARD READER? I have his old cell that has a Sim card and thought I could recover the deleted texts. Thanks all for reading and any advice you may have would be well appreciated. I know that no one can tell meto leave or stay but I am having mixed emotions, can't even close my eyes without picturing him with someone else.