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Wish you had a SM friend?
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    Wish I had a SM friend, or hell anyone, that I could talk/vent/whatever too with out feeling like I am bothering them. I just have no social skills at all, and I'm afraid of what people will think of me if I let it all out.
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    You have TONS! You just have to come out and let us know who you are so we can be there for you!! I am always available. PM me anytime. 

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    If you can see this, and I have a feeling you can. We can't reach out to you if you don't at least PM someone. It doesn't have to be public but give us a chance to get to know you! We can be there for you. The choice is yours. 

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • NikkiNikki
    Posts: 1,791Member
    What @unforgiven said!!! Please reach out!
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    Pick someone & pm them! Everyone here loves to talk lol. Seriously, I doubt you would be bothering anyone at all. That's why we are here :)
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,153Member
    yep, what everyone else has said, just chime on in...
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    Agreed.
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 2,528
    Hey, I'm ridiculously socially awkward and you can talk to me anytime! You'd never be bothering me! :D (Yes..I'm claiming her!)
    Get me a damn beer.
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    I claimed her first I thought!!!

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,470Member
    That's not my confession, but I can relate sort of. I have no problem posting comments or even starting a thread here and there. But for some reason I can't bring myself to pm someone just to chat. It's almost like not having the nerve to ask someone to the school dance, bc they might say no, lol. There are a handful of ladies on SM that I could totally see myself having a lot in common with and talking to more, but alas I'm too much of chicken to pm them and say, "hi, wanna be my friend?"
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    @pdxmama, any of us would be willing to be your friend. Just send a pm to someone...

    Will you be my friend?
    Check one:
    __ Yes
    __ No

    Lol
  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    I might not get RIGHT back to you, but I'm usually around.
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    Anyone can PM me anytime. Just putting that out there. :)

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,470Member
    @chaosmom yes! That's exactly what I meant. LMAO!
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    I wanna be friends! Lets chat, I love PMs! Makes me feel special! 
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,308Member
    Lol i love this i have irl sm and all of you.. My friend is just like i am but has 5 kiddos... 7 and under... I call her a crazy bitch... But i love her!
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • LilbitLilbit
    Posts: 1,421Member
    Ok I'm putting this out there...I'm bored out of ever loving mind because I am home alone most days so if you pm me you will actually be doing me the favor!
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    I'm here to be friends too! I'm a chatterbox so you don't need to worry if you don't chat much, ill handle that side of things lol
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • LesboMomLesboMom
    Posts: 2,838Confessional Manager
    I am on here all day during the week. Pop in the chatroom....say hello....and we can chat. On the weekends I am on and off all day. We will be your friend. Go to the SM buddy thread....pick out a buddy. Or ask me and I will match you up with someone. These ladies are great and want to be your friend.

    confessional-manager

    Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow. -- Helen Keller
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,164Member
    @pdxmama I'll be your fwiend!! xD
    To the OC, jump on in! We are not here to judge, we are here to listen and understand.
    And to bitch. xD

    SMSM_s_5

  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    I would love to have someone pm me!  :)
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • episcopal
    Posts: 1,402Member
    It's a wonderful community.  Don't be shy!
  • Mommato3Mommato3
    Posts: 22Member
    Hi ladies, I have been on this site for a few months now and I feel like a total dumb ass for even asking this but, how do you PM someone?
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,603Administrator, Moderator
    @Mommato3

    If you're on your computer you can do two things; one click on your inbox, and then click the button on the right hand side that says "start a new conversation" or you can click the user name of the person you want to pm and look to the right hand side, click the button that says "send xxxx a message" (on some pages you may not to scroll down and then look to the right to find it)

    If you're on your phone click Inbox, then click the speech bubble in the right hand corner, type in the name and start your message :D


    community-manager


  • AnonUser34
    Posts: 1,799Guest
    If you want to be friends with the cool kids PM me B-) Just joking! Kinda lol.. I love making new friends so anyone can reach out I'm always here :)
  • BeautifulDefianceBeautifulDefiance
    Posts: 755Member
    pdxmama said:

    That's not my confession, but I can relate sort of. I have no problem posting comments or even starting a thread here and there. But for some reason I can't bring myself to pm someone just to chat. It's almost like not having the nerve to ask someone to the school dance, bc they might say no, lol. There are a handful of ladies on SM that I could totally see myself having a lot in common with and talking to more, but alas I'm too much of chicken to pm them and say, "hi, wanna be my friend?"



    I completely understand that. I have felt that way since I came to sm. I actually finally spewed my guts the other day because I couldn't take anymore and when I asked someone to on me so I had someone I talk to I got like 6 Pms lol. How do u choose??? So I just put it in a long rant and felt all awkward. It's hard to just start a random combo and be like hi I'm amber wanna be my friend? Thats typically frowned upon irl lol
    I prefer not to think before speaking. I like being just as surprised as everyone else by what comes out of my mouth.

    SMSM_s_5

  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    I will not frown on anyone! @pdxmamma and @idreamifpalmtrees. Pm me ANYTIME I'm not on at night like I used to be. But I will take the time to answer you when I get up. Or I will on u my cell number if need be. We can text!

    Op, u too! No need to be worried about it!
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    Dreamnofpalmtrees said:

    pdxmama said:

    That's not my confession, but I can relate sort of. I have no problem posting comments or even starting a thread here and there. But for some reason I can't bring myself to pm someone just to chat. It's almost like not having the nerve to ask someone to the school dance, bc they might say no, lol. There are a handful of ladies on SM that I could totally see myself having a lot in common with and talking to more, but alas I'm too much of chicken to pm them and say, "hi, wanna be my friend?"



    I completely understand that. I have felt that way since I came to sm. I actually finally spewed my guts the other day because I couldn't take anymore and when I asked someone to on me so I had someone I talk to I got like 6 Pms lol. How do u choose??? So I just put it in a long rant and felt all awkward. It's hard to just start a random combo and be like hi I'm amber wanna be my friend? Thats typically frowned upon irl lol



    Ya know its weird.. we tell our kids to do it tho. See a kid in the park or in school and we encourage them to do that very thing. Introduce yourself, ask them to play, be your friend etc.... but as adults we cant seem to do it.  Perhaps we've all been rejected and hurt to many times it makes us much more cautious of putting ourselves out there?
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • BeautifulDefianceBeautifulDefiance
    Posts: 755Member
    @dreamer I know right! When did it become uncool to just ask or friends? But somehow by age 28ish u have made most of the fiends u will have irl. Unless u change jobs or something and meet people that way. We have very limited interaction with others because of work and kids and life. Hell I barely have time for the friends I have, how would I fit more in?? That's why I love sm, I can check in on my time and see what's going on without worrying that someone is offended I haven't texted or called more ;)
    I prefer not to think before speaking. I like being just as surprised as everyone else by what comes out of my mouth.

    SMSM_s_5

  • AKimiBAKimiB
    Posts: 1,812Member
    I can definitely relate. Completely socially awkward, but believe me... You won't be bothering me!
    I don't really post all that much anymore, but I am almost always available since my phone is always on me. PM away! :)
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  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member

    For me, Im just scared to put myself out there..  Its easier here, cause I dont have to see peoples faces if I stick my foot in my mouth, or say something maybe something thinks is stupid... There is some what more freedom online. If you dont like someone, you just sort of steer clear of them...  I aslo have a habit of saying things that get taken the wrong way.. And therefor I am appologizing to people now, ahead of time in case it happens... 

    Here is a quote that often suits me to a "T":

    “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” 

     

    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • BakingmommyBakingmommy
    Posts: 401Member
    I think I am mentally stable enough to claim this one as mine from last night.  Just not in a good place, and it just seems when ever I open my mouth, people just run for the hills, no matter what I have to say.
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  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    @bakingmommy I'm slightly inebriated ATM but I can say with absolute certainty that we are here for you. I'm sure nobody would turn you away if you reached out. :) PM me anytime.

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • MistyStacy_2010MistyStacy_2010
    Posts: 487Member
    Pm me too!!! I love pm's they make me weirdly happy lol
    You are not my thong, so get out of my ass!!
  • GypsyMamaGypsyMama
    Posts: 614Member
    @Bakingmommy if you tag people in your posts then you get notifications when they respond with a tag. This is another way to kind of soup up the convo's. People like to be noticed. Is there a mama here who you relate to or is going through something you are as well? Ask a question. It's the easiest way to start a conversation. Like 'Hey @irishlass Did @eapple make it to visit you yet? ' Boom I just started a conversation with two mamas I have haven't spoken to directly before.
  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
    Posts: 4,323Member
    Its hard to get over shyness for me even online. I also have a really hard time trusting people
    i am insane!!! mwahahahaha
  • Mommato3Mommato3
    Posts: 22Member
    Thank you so much!  @CanadianMama
  • nessamommynessamommy
    Posts: 671Member
    Ya I have the same problem about shyness, but the crazy thing is I am WAY more shy here than irl.
    If life gives you lemons, squirt lemon juice in life's eye!
  • OpheliaOphelia
    Posts: 3,316Member
    Ill be your friend.
    Nothing left to do but smile, smile, smile.. -Grateful Dead<3
  • kristy2127
    Posts: 94Member
    I will be your friend!! I too feel socially awkward at times, so no judgement here!! PM me if you like...
  • luckymama
    Posts: 94Member
    @bakingmommy I feel like that too, lately. Feeling distant, like I'm not connecting irl. Feels like my friends and family are too busy for me. I like to bake too and I don't have a buddy yet :)
  • BakingmommyBakingmommy
    Posts: 401Member
    I love the love.  Thanks ladies.  I hate PMing, I feel like it's just like walking up to some strange door and knocking and just barging in.  
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  • Luvlyssa
    Posts: 2,916Member
    @bakingmommy lol! you knocked first ;) that's all that counts. Seriously... everyone here is SO welcoming. I too am afraid to PM people first (OMG WHAT IF THEY DON'T LIKE ME?!) but.. I have. and honestly? I've made a couple good friends.

    Not enough though. NEED MORE FRIENDS!

    Come on people. PM me. I'm bored hot sweaty. and not for a good reason! I'm a chicken shit.
    Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim.
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    TBH, if someone randomly pm'd me cause they just wanted a friend/talk.... Id be completely flattered. 
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • MaryPoppins25
    Posts: 1,686Member
    Nice! @Gypsymama

    we had a great couple of days and now that I'm back you and I will have to get to know eachother c:
  • GypsyMamaGypsyMama
    Posts: 614Member
    For sure @eapple I'm glad your trip was good. Did you meet irishlass?
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