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Will you ever have another child?
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,653Administrator, Moderator
    This right here totally sums up my feelings on the matter:

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  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,715Confessional Manager
    DAMMIT @canadianmama I was JUST about to post that!! 

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • AnonUser35
    Posts: 543Guest
    We are 97% sure we are done. I say we are done, but I think DH really want more. Well besides finances, the main reason is because I had preeclampsia with DD2 and a complete previa with heavy bleeding and an ambulance ride to the hospital with DD7 mths. I feel like we may not be so blessed with the next one. And it scares me!
  • OxiMOMOxiMOM
    Posts: 3,051Member
    Yup due in December. Fucking alcohol. Little mans asleep in my arms right now tho and I'm thinking may not be that bad Get back to me when he's awake.
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,620Member
    Snipped clipped tied and burned... Thank god!
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,707Member
    If I had the money, absolutely, but it's getting to be a bit of a mute point for me...
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    Yes, if I had the money.  But by the time I have the money, I think I will feel like I am past the age where I'd want another.
    "But a lesson must be lived in order to be learned" Ani DiFranco, Manhole
    "Screw you guys! I'm going home." Eric Cartman
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    I am thinking the same thing @charlotte_sometimes. I need three more years to finish school, and then a year or two of work to pay off loans and get established, by then I'm going to be 35 and DD will be 10. Probably not going to want to start over at that point.
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member

    PallasAthene said:

    I am thinking the same thing @charlotte_sometimes. I need three more years to finish school, and then a year or two of work to pay off loans and get established, by then I'm going to be 35 and DD will be 10. Probably not going to want to start over at that point.



    Yup.  I need more like 4 more years of school.  I need 2 years to get my BA and I can work as a Speech Language Pathology Assistant with just the bachelor's but if I want to move out of Texas and make good money I need the Master's.  So another year or two is more likely, for a total of 3 or 4 years.

    By then I'll be 44 or 45. 

    I think I could handle a baby now, while I am in school, but the issue for us is going through the process of artificial insemination and a donor and all that.   Plus I am not sure if my health is ideal for baby making... I am really feeling 40, you know?  :(
    "But a lesson must be lived in order to be learned" Ani DiFranco, Manhole
    "Screw you guys! I'm going home." Eric Cartman
  • AnonUser33
    Posts: 743Guest
    Heck no. I have no baby oven anyway
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,707Member
    hey, I was 46 when my first was born...so, don't give me the "too old!"
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • mommyof2_76
    Posts: 358Member
    Yep. Going to Ttc again after DD's 1st bday.
  • AnonUser26
    Posts: 1,144Guest
    No. Thank you, total hysterectomy! :D
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    BellaBefana said:

    hey, I was 46 when my first was born...so, don't give me the "too old!"



    Nah it's just me feeling old.  Not that it's "too old". :)   I feel most days like 40 going on 60 and so I can't imagine that improving in 4 years but who knows.  Maybe I'll make myself go to the doctor for these mysterious aches and pains and I could always turn things around right?
    "But a lesson must be lived in order to be learned" Ani DiFranco, Manhole
    "Screw you guys! I'm going home." Eric Cartman
  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
    Posts: 4,465Member
    Tubes tied and uterus too damaged!!
    i am insane!!! mwahahahaha
  • GrainneGrainne
    Posts: 891Member
    I wish we could but too hard financially I'm getting too old and we have a good chance of having twins again lol
  • StarsStars
    Posts: 1,054Member
    honestly if I had the option and my husband actually wanted kids of his own I definitely wouldn't mind having another. But seeing that is impossible without having a surrogate Ive given up on having my daughter and have made my sons promise to give me grand daughters. :)
    apsycho

  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member

    HELL NO! NEVER AGAIN! I WOULD SHOT MYSELF!

    DH is booked in for the big V (again). I'd get myself tied if it didn't cost so much.

    We've got 4 kids! But we've had 5 babies. I've only planned 1 of those. I've had a pill baby, a withdraw method baby, an out-of-cycle-how-did-we-manage-that baby and a BF-24/7-no-period-WTF baby.

  • LargeMargeSentMe
    Posts: 120Member
    I would dearly LOVE to have another child but more likely than not we're done. I'm 36 with 3yo and 1yo boys. Before I had children I was unsure about how much I would enjoy motherhood so I waited a long time to get pregnant. Had I known I would enjoy it so much I probably would have started at 29 and hoped for four. I also didn't think I would be scared to have kids after 35--I was the last born so my mom was 36 and my dad 44 when they had me--but I am scared. My husband has left it up to me--he is as ambivalent as I am--so if we do I don't want to wait much longer. I like the two-year spacing. We'll see what happens. My family does feel small and incomplete as it is and that's a powerful argument to have another, and of course there's the lost chance to have a girl. Sometimes I feel strongly that I want a girl but sometimes I'm sad if I think of never having another little boy. At the same time two feels manageable. Eh, I believe in waiting but I waited too long. I was so afraid having children would decrease my options in life that I denied myself the option of a larger family. Dither dither dither. 
  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
    Posts: 977Member
    I'm done. I have two, dd15 and dd17. When they were younger I wanted one more, but time went by, we had no money so it never happened. Now they are too old and I just don't feel like starting over. I'm done with diapers and sleepless nights and colic and teething, the terrible twos and all of it.

    A very small part of me wants another, and when I see a baby, or see a pregnant women, my heart stops and an incredible longing fills me and I want one so bad. Sometimes I think that means I may have gone a little crazy!
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,756Member
    misstressheidi707 said:

    I'm done. I have two, dd15 and dd17. When they were younger I wanted one more, but time went by, we had no money so it never happened. Now they are too old and I just don't feel like starting over. I'm done with diapers and sleepless nights and colic and teething, the terrible twos and all of it.

    A very small part of me wants another, and when I see a baby, or see a pregnant women, my heart stops and an incredible longing fills me and I want one so bad. Sometimes I think that means I may have gone a little crazy!



    I know exactly what you mean!  I feel that way and think that I must be insane.
    "But a lesson must be lived in order to be learned" Ani DiFranco, Manhole
    "Screw you guys! I'm going home." Eric Cartman
  • SassySassy
    Posts: 2,726Member
    We are having more. We are on number one and at this time SO says 6 isn't too many....
  • canadamom
    Posts: 867Member
    ^^^^^^^^this is me too!!!
  • canadamom
    Posts: 867Member
    AAACk no I am not having 6!!! lol it ws for the post above than one!!  Ihave no equipment, I just get baby envy soooo bad  I have DD17 and DS14
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,785Member
    One firecracker is MORE than enough for me!!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • toadintheholetoadinthehole
    Posts: 1,162Member
    too late for me to answer that particular question :D

    if you had asked 15 weeks ago it would have been "fuck me, no!!!".......
    "mummy I love your testicles" - mini-toadinthehole aged 3.5 years
  • squishsquish
    Posts: 784Member
    I want another. Dh doesn't. I dont know who is going to win that battle. Im one of six and can not imagine my son as an only child but having one more may put Dh in a looney bin lol. He's way too neurotic. :-S
  • realtormomrealtormom
    Posts: 649Member
    meandmy243 said:

    Snipped clipped tied and burned... Thank god!


    Me, too... Doc asked my DH if he was okay with me having the procedure... I said I didn't care. He can have more babies with someone else. This uterus is closed!
    :D
    The past has a vote, not a veto ~ Moredecai Kaplan
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,781Member
    Nope. Tubes tied + no sex + turning 43 next week = no more babies!
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,626Member
    MammaTeeRoll said:

    And the whole no uterus thing is a big complication.



    Yes, I hear that makes conception difficult.
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,164Member
    I have 2 now, both boys. I want a daughter SO BAD! We will probably have one more but not til the boys are both in school. They are too much right now, at 2 and 4, to handle a newborn on top of it.

    SMSM_s_5

  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,707Member
    At the risk of repeating myself, I'm older than all of ya, and if I could find a way to do it financially, I would have 1 more, even at my age...
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,848Member
    I would love to turn back time and have another one! But NOT now! I'm only 30, but if I had another one now, I'd be 48 when they (hopefully) leave the nest. Gulp, I don't want to be raising my kids still at that age...I want to be a gma by then!
  • motherofdragonsmotherofdragons
    Posts: 57Member
    I'm at high risk to have complications if I try for another, If I did I'd have to keep frequent appointments with my gyno
  • OtakuHimeOtakuHime
    Posts: 357Member
    After 3/3 special needs kids no way. I don't know if it was my body or the ex's and it's not worth the risk. I'll wait for a granddaughter..:)
  • momnipotentmomnipotent
    Posts: 498Member
    I am 99% sure this is a one and done kinda deal. maybe if I meet the right man and get married I would possibly maybe think about thinking about it. but um... no. I learned my lesson. I am sooo not having another baby with the douche, and be stuck together even longer. nu uh no way. trying to convince him to get snipped not only.for my benefit but for that of the general population
    *ad astra per alia porci*
    my nuts hang like there aint no curfew
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,388Member
    Hell to the NO. 3 devils are ENOUGH for me. theres not enough hydrocodone in the world to change my mind.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • PigeonPigeon
    Posts: 681Guest
    I only have one, but HELL to the motherfluffin NO! Love DD with all my heart, but even if I met my soul mate I'd still not want more kids.
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,708Member
    We are done making babies, but if we can, I would like to foster-adopt. I would like to have more improvements on the house and some improved manageability at home first. If I can't learn to manage my stress effectively, it's not going to happen. 
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  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member

    I can't say for certain that DS will be our only child, but all baby-making plans are on hold for at least 3 more years.  We'd like to be done with college, married, have a house, etc. before considering having another baby.

  • serenitynowserenitynow
    Posts: 2,177Member

    hopefully if everything keeps going good and God keeps answering my prayers, healthy  #5 will be here in Feb. 2013! and then after that, we are done!

  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,653Administrator, Moderator
    Aww Congratulations @serenitynow!!!! That's great news!! 

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  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,506Member
    Dh and I would like one together. I had two when we got together.

    But, He had an injury as a child and the doctors said he may not be able to. His health insurance doesn't cover fertility stuff and neither does mine. I told him if it doesn't happen naturally by 40 (he's 37 and imabout to be) we can pretty much rule it out but we are still hopeful
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • blkrosemommablkrosemomma
    Posts: 296Member
    We're PG with our first and will DEF be having more. I asked DBF if money would ever play an issue in how many kids we have, he said "no, my parents made it work (4kids) on a teachers salary" *SWOON* love my man!! Right now even going through the gall stones and the tired for first 3 months I want at least 4 :D
  • blkrosemommablkrosemomma
    Posts: 296Member
    We are also pretty young, he's 28 and I'm 25.
  • serenitynowserenitynow
    Posts: 2,177Member
    Thanks! @CanadianMama!!
  • etherieletheriel
    Posts: 729Member
    I have 3 kiddos, all delivered by c-section with extensive scarring. OB recommended I don't get pregnant again but couldn't find my tubes to tie them off. I am now engaged to a wonderful man without children. He says kids of his own aren't necessary, but if he changes his mind, i am totally there with him. I want more kids. If he decides he wants some of his own, I am very willing to consult with a high risk OB to see what options we have.
    If I'm not supposed to do it, how come I can?
  • scarle
    Posts: 6Member
    I would have one right now if I could but financially we can't afford it. I also want my DH to finish school and I want to go back myself. So then when I think about how long that is going to take I figure I probably won't have another one.
  • WildandFree
    Posts: 1,694Member
    Fuck that shit. Sorry, but no. Some days I do but then I come to my senses.
  • GisleyandHank
    Posts: 300Member

    After DD I was terrified to have another, but DS is such a biscuit that I feel like I could do it again right this second. Luckily my husband is down to earth enough to convince me to wait. And when I wait I realize that with my depression and the way with which we flirt with the poverty line it would be a horrible selfish thing for me to do.


    To some extent, however, I feel like you can never really choose these things for yourself. How many people want kids, or want a boy, or a girl, and can't have one? And I'm sure we all know those people who only wanted one, or said they were done, and had twins. So when people ask I just tell them "we will see..."

  • GoneCrazy
    Posts: 49Member
    We are done!  Not having any more.  We have 4 little monsters.  
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