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Highschool Prom: Success? Failure? Didn't Go?
  • GisleyandHank
    Posts: 300Member

     I started college at 16 and was living on my own at 18, but I was dating a guy 6 months younger and went to Senior Prom with him. Upscale proms in California proved to be kind of a shock. I was the only one without a mani-pedi (still haven't had one to this day) and who did her own hair. I was working and going to school, supporting myself. I wore a little lacy pink dress I'd picked up at a boutique in Portland a year before and put some badass turquoise shoes on my credit card (I was a design major and would never have dreamed of "matching" dress and shoes). Some more background, I was a conservative homeschooler from Western Oregon. And I can't dance. And 90% of the kids there were on X. And my BF had just gotten out of the hospital for a severe infection and looked like death.


     But I've got some awesome prom pictures so I can still feel like I was part of something.

  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    My bf was too old to come to prom with me so I told him he better plan me an awesome amazing 'prom night'. But he was a turd, we had dinner then went to his 'fraternity' (Loooong story, but their frat was not recognized by the school..) with a bunch of his friends whom I did not know and did not like me, as they were all several years older than me..

    Man.. why did I date that dude for so long?!!! Ugh...

    SMSM_s_5

  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,749Member
    I went to Prom my Freshman, Sophomore and Junior years, but my dickhole boyfriend at the time wouldn't go with me my senior year. This is the same dickhead that refused to come to my graduation (he was 2 years older) because he didn't get an invite to a FAMILY dinner. @batti, I totally echo your sentiment!!


    batti said:

     Man.. why did I date that dude for so long?!!! Ugh...




    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • sunnymommasunnymomma
    Posts: 2,263Member
    My DD was born the day before my junior prom. I went to my senior prom with DD's father. it was an ok time, mainly it was great to be out in public, dressed up, and not speaking baby talk! 
    “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
    ― John Lennon
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,031Member
    I worked. I was working backstage crew for a local theater. We were doing Little Shop of Horrors. It was opening night and they said if you weren't there for opening night you could not do it at all !
    " Wibbly wobbly timey wimey ......." The Doctor
    " I'm a leafe on the wind..watch how I soar ." Wash :((
    " Oh the wall had it comming.' Sherlock Holmes
    yea I am geek !!
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    @grits OMG that turd didn't come to MY graduation either! He was 4 years older than me.
    2 years later I was back at the school for my bffs graduation, my date was DH! I felt that made up for it in a way, and kept him to be my DH and baby daddy xD

    LOL sorry, off topic a bit..

    I did go to my senior homecoming, I was single and my friend wanted me to go with one of her bfs friends so we could have dinner together and whatever. So I went with the only one available, which was fine, we were not into each other and already knew that but went as friends.
    My hair was BRIGHT GREEN. His MOM made fun of me xD
    But I looked AWESOME xD

    SMSM_s_5

  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,508Member
    I didn't go. High school was three years of pure hell and there was no way I was going to go to all that trouble and expense just to spend time with people whose favourite passtime was publicly humiliating me. Plus I would have had to go alone because no guy in school would have been caught dead with me as a date. I don't remember what I did that night, but I'm pretty sure it didn't involve being called fat or ugly.
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 66
    I went to prom, was 5 months preg with ds. H was too old to go so I went with a girlfriend. It was a blast!
  • Doxiegirl
    Posts: 13Member
    I had a great boyfriend (not DH) who I went to prom with my jr and sr year. Senior prom we fought so he dropped me off at home and he went to the after party without me! A fun side note- just a few weeks ago I cooked dinner for a group of prom kids (sophomores to seniors) then chaperoned the dance. The kids all looked great and appeared to be having fun. No girl drama in the bathroom the 6 times I checked. Afterwards, I thanked the DJ who stated that this was the best prom he ever worked!
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,775Administrator, Moderator
    I went to four proms, and one anti-prom. I went with male friend, and always had a blast. I think the key was not taking it too seriously.
    Also our proms were planned by the highschool sorority (of which I was a member) so they did tend to get out of control, by the time we hit my last prom we had to find a hotel out of the city to host it.

    community-manager


  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,761Member
    I went to my 'prom' (we call it a formal) and I was 6months pregnant. I bought a dress that would accomodate my bump. It was great. It had like a lace layer over it. When I got up to dance, during the first dance a guy stood on my dress and ripped a huge hole it it! I didn't care though, I danced the night away in my bare feet and had loads of fun! I stayed til the bitter end it was just brilliant! :)
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,865Member
    I didn't go to my senior prom. We were at the national DECA competition on the other side of the country. That was way more fun anyways!!
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,434Member
    I went to our Junior Prom and Senior Ball with DH. We had fun. We took a limo for our Junior Prom and split the cost with 3 of our friends. I stayed over DH's house with the other guys that went and in the morning we wen't to Great Adventure (Six Flags Great Adventure, I believe, to the none local folk.)

    Our Senior Ball we decided it was a waste of money to get a limo and drove in DH's car. We stayed at our friend's house afterwards. Our Senior Beach Picninc was the following day but it was humid and misting/drizzling so my mom and DH's mom called us out sick, (they were treating it like any other school day attendance wise) we went back to my house, slept a little more then went to the mall. Our other friends suffered through the beach party.

    I loved my prom dress (I posted a pic in the pics thread). My ball dress was pretty, nothing fancy and not exspensive. I wore white chunky flip flops...which gave me the inspiration to wear similar flip flops for my wedding!
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member

     

  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,434Member
    Here's the thread!
    http://www.scarymommy.com/message-board/index.php?p=/discussion/comment/302249#Comment_302249
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • GisleyandHank
    Posts: 300Member

    @CallieFlower82 I can't figure out how to post pictures on here

  • mericksmom
    Posts: 388Member
    I was 18 he was 17.  We were on and off again and I wanted to dress up but not go.  I got a hotel room and we had friends over and had a fun night.  That was it for me, I went to the other winter dances and what not but not the prom.
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,434Member
    I uploaded mine to my photobucket.com account then I copied and pasted the HTML code so the pic would show up in the post. You can also copy and paste the direct link code. :-)
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    We had fun! DH took me, I loved my gown, it was super strange for me to be in any kind of dress at all, I didn't even own a skirt at the time. I got all dressed like a princess and put DH in a tux. We rented a party bus, and all went out for dinner after the dance. After dinner we all got wasted in a field with a ring of headlights and stayed out all night. Yes, I come from a very hick town, we partied in fields or in the woods quite a bit :) We all went out for breakfast before going home to sleep it off... I have some photos up in the other thread as well.
  • janessaolise
    Posts: 32Member
    I went with XH to both my Prom's. My senior year I was 4 months pregnant with DD16, so I wore a pantsuit My junior year I remember my shoes not dying to match my dress right so I had to wear black ones! I was soo angry! But, in the end I spent both evenings fighting with XH over his jealousy anyway so both nights were sorta sucky lol
  • janessaolise
    Posts: 32Member
    I went with XH to both my Prom's. My senior year I was 4 months pregnant with DD16, so I wore a pantsuit My junior year I remember my shoes not dying to match my dress right so I had to wear black ones! I was soo angry! But, in the end I spent both evenings fighting with XH over his jealousy anyway so both nights were sorta sucky lol
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,889Confessional Manager
    Holy cow Doogie, @gisleyandhank! College at 16?! That's scary and impressive!
    I went to one prom: senior prom. Meh it was alright, went with my best friend at the time who later broke up with me bc she thought I was hitting on her boyfriend.

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • lefty63
    Posts: 245Member
    I went to my senior prom on a mercy date.  I wanted to ask one guy, but was too chicken so ended up going with someone a few years older than me who never went to his prom.  Afterwards about 10 of us went camping. We were partying and hanging out when this old man threatened to kill us if we didn't shut up.
  • pennypenny
    Posts: 796Member
    I went to 3 - sophomore (bf's jr), junior, and senior years. Also, my school did a thing where the sophomore honor students were "waiters" at the prom so I got to wear super uncomfortable and unflattering men's tux pants and a cumberbund for that ordeal. Worst dress was the one-shoulder, asymmetric-hemmed peach taffeta affair with a huge vertical bow on it. Holy hell, it was awful. Best time was senior year, when three other girlfriends and I took a guy friend as our date. We went out for a long dinner, breezed into prom for 20 minutes and insisted the DJ play Time Warp, and then left to go get plastered and jump on the trampoline at one friend's house.
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
    Posts: 1,757Member
    I went to Jr and Sr prom.  

    Jr prom I went with a guy I'd been dating for a while.. longer than a month was a record for me and I think this guy had made it an entire three months, might as well have been married to him!  My dress was a Jessica McClintock southern belle thing with an off the shoulder lace ruffle and it was pink and white satin, very very 80's.   Elbow length white gloves and all that. 

    We went with my BFF and her boyfriend and we went out to eat first at some seafood place.  I hardly remember the prom itself at all.  After we went to a hotel that was a jr. suite, just the four of us.  Very awkward.  My BFF and her guy were engaged and had been together a year and they went off in the bedroom area alone and had noisy sex while me and my date awkwardly sat around in the living area nd drank warm beer and tried to ignore what was up in the other room.

    Sr prom I went w/three girls.  Last minute decision, my BFF was one of the girls.  By that time, I was no longer in school, had dropped out and gotten my GED. My BFF had married her boyfriend and he was in basic training for the AF and couldn't go so all four of us girls went together.  I had no dress and no money for one so my mom found some fabric in her stash of fabric, red satin, and made me a strapless dress with a full short skirt (she sewed for as long as I can remember so she had patterns galore).   I chopped off the top of an old dance costume to have a petticoat for the dress, and I took the shoes I'd worn in my BFFs wedding (pink satin) and painted them red to match the dress.  It was all very DIY and I loved it. :)   Much more fun for that prom than the other.... but I have no pics from that one for some reason.

    My son (DS14) just went to prom and he is a freshman!  I don't know what's with his school but they don't restrict prom to juniors and seniors.  Probably because it's a very small school.... anyway he just went with friends, no date, but they all had fun.
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • Rawrchu
    Posts: 516Member
    I went to Junior prom with my now ex husband. Nothing exciting in my memories. I know we danced. I bought an amazing dress. We went with a few friends and shared a limo, but it just wasn't anything exciting. I didn't go to senior prom because he was in the golf war at the time. And that's about it.  ;)
  • no_whine
    Posts: 61Member
    Ugh memories. went to senior prom with a guy that asked me rather than the friend I should have asked to go with me (he went to another hs). spent the night sitting with my gfs and the end of the night wondering how I could dodge that goodnight kiss. I ended up basically saying bye and running up the driveway.
  • littlebitz
    Posts: 123Member
    @fatchickonabike~yeah, that ws me too. My anal retentive father wouldn't have let me go anyway. That's why I didn't go to my 20th year reunion last year, didn't want to relive that unhappy time in my life.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,968Administrator, Moderator
    Junior prom and senior prom, at our school, unless you are dating someone in 11th or 12th grade, you are s.o.l. on a date. They didn't/don't allow anyone to be present, other than teachers/staff/chaperones, except for 11th and 12th grade students of that school.
    So my boyfriend at the time (later became my first husband) took me to both of my proms, dropped me at the door, and picked me up when it was over.
    Junior year, after, we hit the field party (and that's exactly what it sounds like it is--a big ass party, out in a field), and then spent the night in a tent out there in the field.
    Senior year, after, we hit a field party, and then got a hotel room :D

    Our proms weren't like the typical ideal of a "prom" though. (Seriously, it's like Footloose flashback or something!)
    Our Junior/Senior Prom was actually a banquet. Formal dresswear, crappy catered food, predictions for the Seniors written and read by the Juniors, and "Wills" for the Juniors, written and read by the Seniors, interspersed with speeches by a handful of teachers, and another handful of entertainment efforts by the more outgoing students in drama or voice.

    community-manager


  • OpheliaOphelia
    Posts: 3,291Member
    I went to my Jr and Sr prom and the guy I was dating's Sr prom. They were ok, I loved getting dressed up. Sr prom, my sister who was a freshman came as a friend's date. My sister and I had loads of fun, for most of it we were the only girls on the dance floor. Fav part, we talked the dj into playing the humpty dance.
    Nothing left to do but smile, smile, smile.. -Grateful Dead<3
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,508Member
    littlebitz said:

    @fatchickonabike~yeah, that ws me too. My anal retentive father wouldn't have let me go anyway. That's why I didn't go to my 20th year reunion last year, didn't want to relive that unhappy time in my life.

    Yeah, I have no desire ever to see any of those people again.
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • bendorbreak bendorbreak
    Posts: 475Member
    I never went to school functions. I did help make decorations and shit though because i spent extra time in the art classes. Im kinda sad i didnt go to any proms, i wish i had gotten to dress up for something in my life. There is a riverboat fleet in pittsburgh called Gateway Clipper, they do a Second Chance Prom every year for so i want to have BF take me and go all out.
  • mountainprincess
    Posts: 134Member
    I never went to prom. I am still holding it over my DH's head to this day. We had broken up, but could have gone since neither of us had a date, but he never asked me. I actually don't care that I never went. I went to Homecoming all 4 years.
  • GisleyandHank
    Posts: 300Member
    unforgiven said:

    Holy cow Doogie, @gisleyandhank! College at 16?! That's scary and impressive!

    I'm not a genius or anything. I was homeschooled and already a year ahead. My parents got a divorce when I was 16 and my mom didn't know what to do with me so she signed me up for college. I dropped out after 3 years because I was pregnant and was tired of carrying my portfolio (Design major) up the stairs (no elevator).
  • momtomany74
    Posts: 294Member

    I went my junior year with my ex DH who was a senior.

    Strangely, it was one of the few good times I had with him in our 12 years together.

  • DonnaMay
    Posts: 4Member
    I went as a Sophomore with a Senior, then didn't go my Jr/Sr years, and went again as a college Freshman with my boyfriend/future husband/exhusband (a year behind me) to his Sr. prom.  It was  funner the second time - no curfew, wore a low cut, sexy dress; however, it was a pretty crappy, small town high school prom both times.
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,456Member
    I had two proms, Junior and Senior. Junior prom rocked. I had an awesome dress, the sweetest date, and great hair. Senior prom...I should have stayed home and watched the House marathon. I was 9 weeks pregnant with a slight bump that everyone could see in the truly awful dress that I had on. My date was/is a douche bag that bailed the second he found out he'd knocked me up, so I went stag. One positive note: my mom let me drive her Mustang. I went home from that truly crap of a night and cried. Three kids later, I'm rolling my eyes at all the stock I put in that one night. So not worth the angst.
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