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annoying play date
  • ShamaMama
    Posts: 3Member
    Went over to a friends house last week.  Her DD5 made my lil 18 mo DD so miserable.  Every toy my DD touched, her DD5 would SNATCH way and say that's mine or that's my sisters.  EVERY SINGLE TOY!  And what did that other mother do?  NOTHING!  My DD7 and DD5 tried to entertain the devil child in hopes she would leaves their baby sister alone, but it never worked.  I ended up leaving much earlier than planned.  I am still so pissed....but she is one of the few friends i have left :( I wish she had better disciplined children!
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,131Member
    say something to her...or kindly, mention something to her child about sharing...maybe she'll get the hint  Sorry, but 5 yo's should know how to share...mine's 3 1/2 and despite being an only child, she has always been very good about sharing...they need to learn early!
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  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,286Administrator, Moderator
    This would make me sad and frustrated too! If you want to try to salvage the friendship, then next time she invites you over I would mention it. I'd say something like 'I'd love too. DD7 & DD5 have so much fun with your daughter, but DD18months has a hard time because (insert her daughter's name) doesn't seem to want to share with her or let her play." It might piss her off a little, but I think you need to say something because that is unacceptable especially if she is the one inviting you over to play and not expecting her child to share/be respectful. 

    Also, you could try going over, and then saying something to the mom like "Do you have some things DD18months can play with? (Insert her daughter's name) doesn't seem to want to share the dolls or the blocks..." that will let the mom know that you are a bit put out by the mistreatment of your youngest daughter and may cue her in that you're getting frustrated with the entire situation. 

    It's normal for kids to get territorial and have issues sharing, but it is NOT okay to allow an older child to alienate someone so much younger. 

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  • BeautifulDefianceBeautifulDefiance
    Posts: 755Member
    If you dont say something she won't know. Maybe she was too preoccupied to notice. Or maybe she ignores this behavior on a regular basis but regardless u shouldn't have to avoid ur friend because of her kids
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  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    I agree with these ladies. You gotta talk to her.

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  • Peace
    Posts: 2,080Member
    Is her other dd older or younger?
    I'd try a different tact. Next time she invites you, or they come over, pull mom aside & ask if she has any ideas for how to make her dd comfortable with the baby. That you & your two other dd's got the definite impression she didn't like having her around, & you feel awful if she's bothered by the baby. And what should you do to fix this before it becomes an issue between the girls? :D
  • AnonUser23
    Posts: 2,278Guest
    Honestly ALL "playdates" are hell, imo. Unless you really like the Mom sometimes it's just not worth it but then again I don't care for too many children, most of them are little a**holes so unless you really like the Mom and her kids I suggest staying away lol
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
    Posts: 2,240Member
    Why not bring along a few of DDs toys to the play date? You could put her down with her toys and tell the other girl that she can not touch them, they are for your DD only. If the other mom gets put out, then tell her you did this because her child wouldn't let your child play with any of the toys.
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  • ChibikoChibiko
    Posts: 2,671Member
    IMHO playdates are like babysitting and not getting paid.  I detest them.
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  • Babymakesthree
    Posts: 496Member
    I would straight tell thta kid, Honey you need to SHARE your toys. See?My dd's are sharing their toys with you, can you share with youngest dd? If not then your friends will have to leave.
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