oh, hon.  I'm so sorry you're going through this.  I wish I could help you.  If you think your husband is serious, he needs help badly, but then you already know that.  You can try and get him admitted on a 72 hour hold for evaluation and see if you can get him some help.

I don't have any advice that was not already stated but I'm sending you hugs and prayers.

That is a very difficult spot you are in right now. Hugs. Big, giant hugs.

We definitely need to find a food bank near you so you can get some food in the house asap. Have you applied for food stamps & disability? That needs to be done as well. Hubby can not possibly expect you to handle your medical concerns & take care of the bills, etc all on your own. He needs help. Especially if he is suicidal, you can request that he be taken in & evaluated to get the help he needs. If he is in a better mental & emotional state, then he can do his part to take care of business.

I get how difficult this is. I really, really do. Once you are that far down, it seems impossible to pick yourself back up. BUT it can be done. It is a vicious cycle. You have financial issues & stress...leads to mental & emotional issues...which exacerbates the financial & stress...and it keeps going. You have to accept the fact that everyone, even you, needs help at some point. It is ok to ask for help. It is imperative that you actively seek help right now. Thank you for trusting us enough to bring your troubles out in the open to us. We will help you in the best way we can.

Disability is a long process which I have started. Foodstamps denied me cause Dh refuses to go through the process he said he's not begging. I could get my medical help I need food help I need and chlo could get her shots and medical help but Dh told me if I went to welfare he would kill me. He flattened my tires when he found out I made an appt behind his back. They make him go through a class with child support bureau and he won't do it. His threats are empty and just threats. He uses it cause he knows my df killed himself and it works on me. So I found a food bank and I am considering having home committed maybe he will quit with the threats.

@chlomom:  he can refuse all he wants, but if you file a 5150, he has no choice.  it's a 72 hour mandatory hold for psych eval.

^^^^^ YES.

The thing about protective orders...they only help if the cops get there before something bad happens.

These ladies are not telling you to abandon everything. They just want you in a safe place until he can be picked up for evaluation. Based off of what you have told us, his mood is very unstable & unpredictable. We don't want anything bad happening to you while you are trying to get help for your family. I know it is scary for you right now.

He's at his mothers. They are already there. I got a text from her cussing me for her baby boy being in hand cuffs.

I'm getting protection order. He will get a psych evaluation in the jail. I have to go...paperwork to do. I'm ensuring I have custody and protection order.

Good girl, keep us posted. >:D< >:D< >:D<

I'm typing on here as he gets carted away. Thanks for the push guys. I needed it.

awesome. i'm glad u didn't take off, u and ur dd shouldn't have to leave ur home just b/c of this idiot, he should be the one to leave. u did the right thing with the po, now u can stay there and he can't come around or even call.  hopefully with the documentation of the po u will be able to apply for food stamps and medicaid without him since he's no longer part of the household. when the po expires please don't let him come back unless he's gotten some type of treatment. even if he's not really suicidal and he just says that to manipulate u, there is clearly something wrong with him to slash ur tires to prevent u from getting help to feed ur baby and threaten to kill u. u will be so much better off without him anyway, he was not contributing anything he was a drain on the family. there will be one less mouth to feed, u will be able to get assisstance, he will have to pay child support, and u won't have to deal with the emotional abuse of someone using the death of ur ex and behaving irrationally in front of ur dd and threatening ur life. that could easily escalate into violence. i would seriously consider cuttng ties for good.