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  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member
    Everything happens for a reason my ASS, you hemorrhoid infested cunt. WHY WOULD
    THAT MAKE ME FEEL BETTER ABOUT MY BABY DYING?!
    >:D<  and many many more OC. You are not alone. I'm here with you.
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,889Confessional Manager
    >:D< >:D<

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,436Member
    That's up there with "It's all part of God's plans..." God is a douchebag if he planned to take someone's baby away from them...sorry. IMO there is no amount of scripture or whatever that justifies that statement whatsoever.
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,033Member
    I am with you there. I don't care about " a reason"'or " God's plan" I just want my girl back and it sucks that she is gone. No words can make it feel any better. It is wrong for a parent to bury a child. I have heard a quote " it is a pain worse than death" I am nit sure about who said it ( I think I know at least one person who said it but checking reliability is hard ) I agree with him.
    " Wibbly wobbly timey wimey ......." The Doctor
    " I'm a leafe on the wind..watch how I soar ." Wash :((
    " Oh the wall had it comming.' Sherlock Holmes
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  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,865Member
    OC, I'm so sorry you lost your baby. It is unfair and horrible and heart breaking. Sending you tons of hugs & love.
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,481Member
    First, hugs, OC. I'm sorry that happened to you.

    I think some people will say that in an attempt to be comforting when they don't really know what else to say. I don't think there's any harm meant in those words, but yeah, they bug me too. I never say it myself, but I understand why people do. I think some people really believe it, and often it's hard to know what to say to someone in the face of loss. I think sometimes we resort to cliches when we just don't have any other words.
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,186Member
    I try not to say things like that, because as much as I may believe God has a plan, I must agree it's a pretty fucked up one sometimes.  

    What do you say to someone who lost a child?  There's nothing, absolutely nothing anyone can say to a mother going through something like this, so what I do?  Listen and hug.  I've never felt more useless than with a grieving parent.  So, to the OC and anyone else who's ever lost a child (and I don't care how "pregnant" you are when it happens, it still hurts like fucking hell--that I DO know):  tons of hugs.  It will never be o.k., but at some point, it won't hurt quite so much.
    Bite me, cupcake!
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