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195651-Wish my wife would buy a strap on
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,848Administrator, Moderator
    I want my wife to buy a strap on and use it on me. I don't want her to think I'm gay, because I'm not. I just want to be laid on my back and penetrated.

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    #195651


    Oh wow. 
    Dude. 
    Um. 
    Are you my husband?

    Please?


    No?

    Damn.

    ::sigh::

    Oh well.


    If it's any consolation, most enlightened women (and men) would totally understand that liking anal play doesn't mean you are gay. 
    If you want to create a throwaway account and come talk to us about it, I'm sure there are tons of advice for broaching the subject!

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  • LesboMomLesboMom
    Posts: 2,935Confessional Manager
    I would say that you absolutely need to bring it up somehow. You might be surprised at how well she takes the news. 

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  • KellynnKellynn
    Posts: 2,058Member
    Yeah, to the  outside world I could be seen as a little prudish, but it's no holds barred in the bedroom, lol. If my husband had that or any other request, I'd for sure go along if it would please him. I think "most" women would. I'm sorry if you feel your dw wouldn't, but it doesn't hurt to ask.
  • TurthipoTurthipo
    Posts: 340Member
    *sigh* wish u were my DH
  • AnonUser33
    Posts: 743Guest
    Damn it. If you are my husband you better speak up. I have the strap on and I am ready to rock it. Tell her.
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    While its taboo in main stream society, it's much more prevalent than most people think. The University Of Chicago did a sexual research questionnaire, and found 18% of the 1200 heterosexual men who took it engaged in various forms of anal play.

    Society needs to get over the stigma of it really, I'm a dude and I don't mind a finger in my ass. Does that make me gay? Nope, just more open to what the wife likes doing.

    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,848Administrator, Moderator
    @FoulMouthedSailor have I told you lately that you're kind of awesome? LOL

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  • LLB
    Posts: 3,382Member
    Okay I must admit it would kinda freak me out if dh said this to me... Not saying I wouldn't consider it after the initial shock wore off but at first he'd probably have to scrape my chin off the floor.

    Not saying there is anything wrong with wanting this and that you shouldnt say what you want! You should definitely tell dw but try not to be hurt when her chin hits the floor. If she truly cares about your desires I'm sure she'll come around and be willing to try it, even if just once.
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    Hmm idk if I could do that! A finger yes, strap on... I know it wouldn't be a turn on for me, maybe even a turn off but if he really wanted me to I suppose I could... I would think it a little weird though
    ~slim shady~
  • FUGgettaboutit
    Posts: 30Member
    If BF wanted that I would do it. Wouldn't it be fun to penetrate AND give a hand job at the same time?!
    BF says he's not into it but I think he's in denial.
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,742Guest
    My theory is that you need to do whatever it is your hubby requests (within reason) or he'll find somebody that will.
  • nonamejustmommy
    Posts: 162Member
    I know my DH would never ask me to do this...He almost refused to do an enema and then locked all the doors and wouldn't let me in...He's not a homophobe he just doesn't like things around his butt hole...
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  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,863Member
    FUGgettaboutit said:

    If BF wanted that I would do it. Wouldn't it be fun to penetrate AND give a hand job at the same time?!
    BF says he's not into it but I think he's in denial.



    That would be fun. If DH ever agreed to it I'd be over the moon. But he's like @nonamejustmommy's DH--he wants nothing to do with anything going in his ass.
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  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,483Member
    I think the 62% were lying @foulmouthsailor ... just saying. 

    Est: ok maybe 60% I'll go with 2% being celibate.
  • sunnymommasunnymomma
    Posts: 2,258Member
    OC I say buy the strap on yourself, throw it on the bed next to the lube, have a nice dinner with a couple glasses of wine, take her to the bedroom and when she sees the strap on just say "what? honey how did you know? oh my im so excited. how did that get there? here let me strap this on you........"
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  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    @Breezy I'm confused as hell, some where the maths not adding up right, and I'm not sure what you're trying to say
    :-/
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • MaryPoppins25
    Posts: 1,686Member
    @foulmouthedsailor I think she means 82% meaning that the other men were lying when they said they didnt like anal play c;
  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,483Member
    Lmao @foulmouthsailor that's just because I am bad at math ... Or reading comprehension.. haha.
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    @eapple Thanks for the translation, @breezy I'm pretty sure there are more people that are celibate than engage in any form of anal play, just because its still taboo.

    And personally I think if you can engage in some type of kink(kink being a general term for what some one might do), in general you can be more honest in the relationship in general. More honesty, more feelings, and more understanding.
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,483Member
    Ya... I was just making jokes. And i have no actual idea how many men/women are celibate or like a pink in the stink. Being on this site from the get-go I am convinced that nothing is taboo.
  • organicbabyorganicbaby
    Posts: 1,546Member
    I would have loved it if my partner ever asked me this. And I can tell you that my dh would swear I would have flipped at such requests so you should let dw know, maybe you will be pleasantly surprised :)
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
    Posts: 816Guest
    I think my husband would like it but he refuses any kind of assplay, on him. I've dated guys who liked it and it seems pretty normal. Its def not the sex our grandparents were having(that I know of).
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,715Confessional Manager
    I think my husband would run away with his hands covering his butt.

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  • anonymousDH
    Posts: 49Mmember
    The first time I ever saw a woman with a strap on standing over a man, it was on a DVD in the sex shop.  I would not pick it up because I didn't want anyone I came in with to see me looking at it. 
    I just LOVE seeing all these responses from you ladies saying "Oh yeah, I'd totally do that."
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,715Confessional Manager
    LOL @anonymousDH I LOVE your honesty. Trust me the guy next to you pickin up a dildo is no better than you looking at a DVD case. Don't be ashamed! 

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    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,848Administrator, Moderator
    anonymousDH said:


    I just LOVE seeing all these responses from you ladies saying "Oh yeah, I'd totally do that."


    I'd prefer if it was all these responses from MEN saying it LOL

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  • French_momFrench_mom
    Posts: 1,566Member
    I would hope if BF wanted something like that he would ask. I would not mind. Power trip anyone ?  I still can't understand why it is still so taboo... What ever rock your boat. And you are not gay if you want some anal play. 
    It is for me to know and you to dot dot dot.
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    I think if more people just asked what their partners dig, it would be better for both sides.

    The first time, I never saw it coming, messing around in the shower she just snuck finger. I was like what the fuck? And then it was over, I won the race.
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,715Confessional Manager
    @foulmouthedsailor  =))

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    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • anonamoose
    Posts: 24Member

    I wish dh would go for this! I'd love to strap one on!

  • poopmom
    Posts: 9Member
    I think with the right amount of wine beforehand, it would be hot.
  • mama2tutnkcmama2tutnkc
    Posts: 1,039Member
    I actually read this confession to nd when it was posted. He said, ( and I quote...) "ummm no. Not in this lifetime or the next. You are NOT Putting ANYTHING in on or around my ass, so don't even ask." I may do what @foulmouthedsailor 's dw did & sneak attack him hahaha
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  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,848Member
    My DH would never go for this. He's so boring in the bedroom, anything kinky makes him duck under the covers and cry like a bitch. (:|

    Maybe this guys boring wife is up for a little swingers action? I'll pound you in the ass while my DH does the same boring craptastic things to your DW. Only if you promise to return the domination in my favor.

    My DH is gonna shit his pants when he snoops later and reads this! Lol. Kidding baby! (Or am I???) O:-)
  • lifeisgood
    Posts: 481Member
    I may try the sneak attack @foulmouthedsailor 's wife pulled.  Anal play on him is one item we've never discussed...and we're pretty open.  Although..for the most part he does the initiating on the discussions.  

    Now, as grace and agility are not 2 of my strongest traits.  Am I the only woman here who wonders....Could I drive that fucking thing without any serious injuries to either one of us?? :)  *Smiling, giggling and dead serious*
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,278Member
    @lifeisgood that would be my fear.  Id start giggling.... part of me thinks it would be hot, but Id be laughing all at the same time
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  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    I'm pretty open about whatever my SO wants to try.  You never know, your wife might be willing to give it a try. :)
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    I don't think I'll go as far as a strap on, I'm pretty sure the things that would come out of Dw's mouth would be Like "how's that feel? Yeah take it", "who's the bitch now?", and "you don't take it like you give it!"
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,848Administrator, Moderator
    FoulMouthedSailor said:

    I don't think I'll go as far as a strap on, I'm pretty sure the things that would come out of Dw's mouth would be Like "how's that feel? Yeah take it", "who's the bitch now?", and "you don't take it like you give it!"



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  • French_momFrench_mom
    Posts: 1,566Member
    @FoulMouthedSailor   I am sure she would.  Hell I think most of us would act like that!  Like I said... Power trip  >:)
    It is for me to know and you to dot dot dot.
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    @FoulMouthedSailor Wow, I'm not sure I could get any of that passed my lips. My SO might start laughing. What can I say? I suck at talking dirty. lol
  • lifeisgood
    Posts: 481Member
    @Dreamer   hahaha....along with "Honey, does this strap on make me look fat?"   
  • OrchidsAndTulipsOrchidsAndTulips
    Posts: 345Member
    French_mom said:

    @FoulMouthedSailor   I am sure she would.  Hell I think most of us would act like that!  Like I said... Power trip  >:)



    You don't know the half of it. I'd make him walk funny for a week. It would be an extreme hate fuck not that I hate him.
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,863Member
    FoulMouthedSailor said:

    I don't think I'll go as far as a strap on, I'm pretty sure the things that would come out of Dw's mouth would be Like "how's that feel? Yeah take it", "who's the bitch now?", and "you don't take it like you give it!"




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    Seriously....can't...breathe...laughing...so hard!!!

    @OrchidsAndTulips....you are my hero!
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  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    /:) @Grits don't encourage her, she's never going to a toy store again after that comment.
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,863Member
    @FoulMouthedSailor, I'm sorry, but that is funny shit! DH and I constantly talk shit to each other and I think that's why I'm cracking up! Sometimes, when the kids aren't around, I'll find him bent over and grab him by the hips (like he does me) and start saying shit like that...we both find it hilarious. Our poor kids are destined to have filthy minds.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,848Administrator, Moderator
    ::snicker::

    @FoulMouthesSailor may wake up tied down in silk scarves one night after @OrchidsandTulips gets her a new toy LMAO

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  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    @Love in the words of many women on this site, "Oh Hell No", the one thing I wont do is restraints.
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • lifeisgood
    Posts: 481Member
    @foulMouthedsailor - I believe that quote comes from alot of women who have also said "I'll try anything once" and "Well honey, ya gotta sleep sometime?"   ...I mean....On various threads not to be taken out of context :)

  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,934Member
    @lifeisgood Touche, But 18 months in Afghanistan has turned me into some one who wakes up at a mouse fart.
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • lifeisgood
    Posts: 481Member
    =))   I admire your courage.  
    @OrchidsAndTulips may decide it's now a challenge.  I've refuse to tell my SO I hang here for that VERY reason!!! 
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