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need some help with my parents....
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    When I was younger I was adopted (by a homosexual couple). I was constantly called lazy and selfish, even though I literally did everything to help them with the other kids who they wanted to adopt. I didn't go to parties, they never went to my school functions, and they found every reason to ground me. Even if I didn't drink "enough" water during the day they wouldn't let me shower. I went to state science fair and they refused to attend. It was because my younger sister who was also adopted, had FAS, and "anything they did out of the norm would cause her to freak the fuck out". I was eventually homeschooled, where everything just got worse. After I did my school work, they made me take care of her. If I wasn't literally actively playing w her at all times I was called lazy and selfish and "to get off my ass and do something". I was constantly cleaning for them and doing the bitch work while my moms gf sat on her ass and took alllll the credit. I tried so hard to make it ok but anything I did good or bad it wasn't good enough. And if I missed my bio family they'd start to cry and be like why can't you be loyal to us? It was so confusing. And this was all before I had my first period. Then after that, it hit rock bottom. I wasn't a woman and all this. My moms gf turned into a freaking snatch and my mom did too. It was way too much hormones. So I spent majority of my teenage hood grounded, and taking care of their kid. They constantly talk shit to me to prove their dominance over the house. Ff 5 years, we were so tired of each other they married me off to a friend from school so they didn't have to deal w it anymore. And my mom is supposed to be a MFC. They moved me out of the state, then moved back when I was married. I don't know if these are people I want to know anymore. I feel a lot of hurt and confusion from it but I really want to tell them that they suck are shity parents and they shouldn't have the right to adopt children. Gahhh!
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    Damnn momma im sorry you had to go through is  shit. Super huge Texas hugs. Fuck they sound fucking bipolar. That bullshit must have left some deep emotional scars. Im so sorry. I wish I could throat punch a bitch for you. We are here for you sweetie. When ever you needs us! Or if you need to bury a body my service is free of charge. Hugs,hugs and more fucking hugs >:D<
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    Thanks a lot, its been giving me nightmares. I dream about this crap all the time, just reliving everyday shit that happened. Sometimes its like I can't get away from it.
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
  • nessamommynessamommy
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    I'm sorry you had to go through that! That is ridiculous, they choose to adopt you, meaning they were supposed to choose to love you and make you theirs. It sounds like all they ended up doing was ostracizing you. Big hugs, Momma! 
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  • realtormomrealtormom
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    So sorry you didn't get to have good parents... Hopefully what you learned from them will help you help others.
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  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
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    That just sucks. I'm sorry you didn't get good parents. I'm sorry they treated you that way. I hope you can heal from this and move on. I would stop contact with them if I were you and if it's possible. You don't need people like that in your life.
    >:D<
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    Thank all of you. I felt sorta empty because I don't have a relationship with my bios, or my adopted parents. I am a parent myself and I cant imagine not being there for my kids. And doing they things that I had to deal with.
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
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    Holy heck! What a childhood! I don't understand how they could do that... adopt but then treat you like Cinderella .. Why? What was the point?? I do now fas kids can be a handful, but you don't neglect the others for the sake of one. What's an MFC?

    I do worry about our boys resenting us at some time. They are not adopted, but we have custody. We are not blood related, we were their foster parents before gaining permanent custody. So of course they still have contact with bio families. And of course, we want them to see US as their 'real' family. We are the ones with them day after day. It's hard to know how to balance it. But as you were adopted, it's a different dynamic.

    Maybe limiting contact with them for a while will open their eyes to how they treated you? I don't know. Maybe now is the time to reach out more to your bio family? :)
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  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    A MFC is a marriage and family counselor. She's actually a dr/phd now. And it wasn't even my bio parents I missed. I missed my brothers and sister. There were 6 of us at the time. My bio mom had 5 more, but I don't know them. And I guess I resented them because they decided they wanted a baby shortly after I was put in their home, I wasn't even fully comfortable/ used to the situation.
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
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  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    Thank you. I'm just not sure how to deal with all of this. I'm currently not in contact and was wondering if I should keep it this way. Haven't been in contact since my daughter was born. They were upset because I didn't move back to where they lived to have the baby. Eventhough my husband and drs were here(1500mi diff). And I didn't want to be trapped like I was as a kid.
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
  • shadylaneshadylane
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    wow. that is crazy. i think the nex time they contact u and try to put a guilt trip on u, u should tell them the reason u don't want to be around them is b/c they were horrible parents, they treated u like shit and emotionally abused u and fucked ur head up and they should never have been allowed to adopt children. and tell ur "mother" she's a fucking fraud, what kind of family counselor treats their child like that. then hang up, don't argue with them or let them get u upset and don't speak to them for a long while, let them think on that for awhile
    ~slim shady~
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    I Agree w you 100%. I never thought I could say something like that but I honestly do now. I hate the fact that they plagued my brain for so long and it made me a very angry child, and its even spilled over into my own parenting. If I'm not killing myslef over my house and kids then I'm being, once again, lazy and selfish. I try now to back off and realize that the world won't end if the kitchen isn't clean. My husband helps a lot and if he knows days are getting rough hell tell me not to do a thing. Just sit there for a little bit, he says, try to relax. He knows about scary mommy and he says why don't you go talk and blog or whatever. So I do try to back off and know it wasn't my fault or problem.
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
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  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    I think with them being as far away as they are its easier to let it be. I'm sure if they live here it would be an even bigger issue. Thank you ladies
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
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