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Confession #196151 - jealous of people who have normal children
  • anonymousDH
    Posts: 49Mmember

    Confession #196151







    I totally agree.  I am jealous of other parents.  
    I downright HATE some of our friends who complain about their own children.
    I would give ANYTHING to answer hundreds of silly-little-kid questions.


  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,889Confessional Manager
    >:D< >:D< >:D< >:D< >:D<

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • MaDhAtMoMmYMaDhAtMoMmY
    Posts: 165Member
    Me too!  I have a 12 year old with aspergers/PDD/tourettes and I get so jealous of all my friends who have "normal" kids and can go to theme parks and on vacation without having the meltdowns, the screaming and flapping fits, the stares and whispers from other people.  Whose kids are involved in sports and extracurricular activities and they have the nerve to complain about having to take them...ughhh, whatever.
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  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,749Member
    I'm a parent of "normal" kids, if there is such a thing LOL, but seriously, thank you for reminding me that even when my kids are at their worst, I still don't have to struggle with the day-to-day like so many mommies to special needs kids. My hat is off to all of you! I can't imagine what you must go through, the sacrifices you make, and the heartache you endure to give your children the most "normal" lives you can.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,277Member

    ohh momma/ daddy super crazy TEXAS hugs! >:D< >:D< >:D< you are by far one STRONG ASS WOMAN/MAN, don't ever think otherwise. remember we are all here if you need a shoulder to cry on, or to let out your anger. much love


    EDIT: I KEEP ON FORGETTIN' WE HAVE DADDIES ON HERE NOW...

    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • lolafllolafl
    Posts: 223Member

    "Normalcy" is something we take for granted and we shouldn't.  When my kids are running around like Energizer Bunnies with no end in sight I try to remember to be thankful that they can run around and annoy me.

    Parents: I know you don't want to deal with the things you deal with & you don't want to be "heroes" but you are.

    I agree with @Grits - hats off & many props to the parents who deal with these obstacles every day.  I wish there were more community (IRL not SM) support for amazing people like you.  =D>

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  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,489Member
    Mine are both on the autism spectrum, but thank God they are both higher functioning than many kids with ASD. I'm thankful that they have the ability to communicate with me verbally, and that ds7 is able to be in a mainstream class at school. But sometimes it feels like a double edged sword. I still deal with all the behaviors that come along with asd, the meltdowns, the tantrums, the quirks that both one else gets. (Like having to only turn left out of the grocery store parking lot, lol.) Plus all the sensory issues and feeding problems with dd4. But since they don't "look" disabled, and can often appear to be "normal" kids to people who don't know them, I feel like we get judged alot. People just think they're spoiled little asshole, and I'm an overindulgent mom who let's her kids run all over her.
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,036Member
    My 12 year old has Aspergers . I know some people might think I over indulge him. ExH ( soon to be) is one of those. One of DSs issues is small motor skills are hard for him. Holding a fork is hard , cutting meat is just about impossible. So when I get his food for him I cut his meat into bite sized chunks. It is just easier for me. Xh says I should make him do it.
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  • anonymousDH
    Posts: 49Mmember
    Little-man is four.  He's certainly not non-verbal (thank god), but we only get 1-2 words at a time.  He doesn't communicate well, he still doesn't potty well; and now he's starting preschool in AUG.  DW and I are NOT ready for this, I want to go to school with him to look after him. I don't like this at all. Sob...
  • momtomany74
    Posts: 294Member

    I can totally relate.

    My 5 yo dd has had a seizure disorder since close to 8 months of age. We almost lost her twice. Now she's cognitvely delayed and at age 5 has the abilites of an 18-24 month old. Her 2 year old brother talks more than her and has more reasoning skills. I can't take her anywhere without someone helping me. It sucks out loud.

  • momtomany74
    Posts: 294Member
    pdxmama said:

     Plus all the sensory issues and feeding problems with dd4. But since they don't "look" disabled, and can often appear to be "normal" kids to people who don't know them, I feel like we get judged alot. People just think they're spoiled little asshole, and I'm an overindulgent mom who let's her kids run all over her.




    This exactly!
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,305Member
    I get jealous, too. Both of my boys have autism. 
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