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A little change
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,722Member
    You may have noticed I've changed my pic.  This is my daddy, the way I like to remember him.  It just hit me as I glanced at the clock, that it was about this time, 7 years ago, that my mom called and told me to come home. Now.  I had talked to my dad in the hospital a couple of times already, and when I asked him how he felt, it was the first time since beginning chemo and radiation he said, "bad."

    I want to thank Southwest Airlines for getting me on, literally, the next flight home...a flight that left 20 minutes after my arrival at the airport, so that I could say good bye to my dad.  I made it home, but by the time I got there he was beginning to lapse into a morphine induced coma.  I don't know if he knew I made it...12 hours later, I kissed him good bye forever.  It was exactly one week before his 63rd birthday.

    So, to everybody on here who still has their daddy, give them an extra hug and kiss and tell him you love him, because you just never know.  And, you're never too old to need (or miss) your dad.

    Dad, we love you and miss you.  Forever.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • French_momFrench_mom
    Posts: 1,566Member
    >:D< Bella

    I am celebrating my Dad's bday tomorrow. You bet i will hug him fiercely and tell him I love him.  He gave us a scare a couple of years ago. Heart trouble.  So now  I always hug him like i was a lil girl. He is not one for showing emotions much. I guess from his upbringing. But he never refrain from saying I love you to his grand kids. 

    I am sending you and your familly my thoughts.  
    It is for me to know and you to dot dot dot.
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,557Member
    this made me tear up too...makes me think of my grampa (he and gram basically raised us) I'm happy though that you got to say goodbye. I didn't and it still kills me. he died just before he would have been 74. the last time I spoke with him he asked me to grab him a pack of cigs before dropping my son off for he and Gram to babysit. I was "too busy" and forgot. I kick myself every day that I didn't. I miss that man so much and I wish he knew how much I appreciate all he did for us growing up.
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,901Member
    >:D<
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,388Member
    Ohhh @BellaBefana this made me cry. I still have my dad he is 72 yr old I call him every morning just to make sure he okay, if he doesnt answer I send someone to check on him. even though he is possibly alot more healthier than me and my kids put together (He still jogs and rides a bike around the block). I dont know if I could handle that mentally,or physically I know a huge piece of me will die too when he's gone.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,722Member
    Today would have been my dad's 70th birthday.  We miss you, Dad, Happy Birthday.


    :x
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • AnonUser33
    Posts: 743Guest

    @BellaBefana, thanks for sharing. Happy Birthday to your dad. (((hugs)))

    I wish I was close enough to hug my dad. He is one of my best friends and I miss him terribly. He will be 71 on Monday. I took the last $25 we had and sent it to him for his birthday, not sure how we will put gas in the truck for the next 10 days til DH gets paid again but my dad has always done for me and gone without to do it. He is struggling financially now and I wanted him to at least be able to go out for dinner.

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