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Hubby doesn't want me on SM
  • KindredSpiritKindredSpirit
    Posts: 184Member
    So, last night my DH (I use the D loosely) picked up my Kindle Fire and started looking at the confessional.  Then he said, "This is just a bunch of women complaining about their kids and husbands."  And I said, "Umm...so?  You don't have to read it."  Then, this morning I was on the site again and he goes, "Why are you always on that?  It's so stupid.  You shouldn't be on there."  WTF?  He looked at it once for 5 minutes. 
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    My husband said the same thing... I fought with him on it. It still bugs him but he knows that this is my space and how much it means to me. Let him know that this is your space. He doesn't have to like it, it's yours not his. This is your place to vent, to talk to your girlfriends and to connect outside of your house with other mommies. It's no different then him talking to his buddies in the office or locker room or wherever he talks to his buddies. Stand your ground. I'd hate to see you give up this incredible place.  >:D<

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,294Member
    lol my dh tells me the same thing, I ignore him. I think my dh is jelaous. I read him all the postive posts and threads then he gets all teary eyed, and leaves me alone for a wk then its back too bitchin about the all this site is about women hating their men bs. Girl we will never win this battle, just ignore him.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 3,915Member
    Heaven's to Betsy! We might influence you to, gasp!, speak your mind! Or, even worse, think for yourself.
    You got two choices sister.
    1. Tell him to suck your dick.
    2. Be discreet about your fascinating love affair with all things Scary Mommy.

    Ok, ok, there is a third option, but you have to be a patient woman to pull it off.
    You can sit him down and explain exactly what this fabulous group of women, and men, are really about.
    Searching for my lost shaker of salt.
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,742Guest
    Fuck 'em. I just deleted my FB account so my SO was like who the fuck are you talking to if you're not on FB?! I said scary mommies, bitch!
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,294Member
    @MassHysteria lol had too do that too with fb. Welcome to the club!
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,234Member
    I too abandoned that fb BS. I'd rather spend my time here. its more real. tell ur hubs to blow it out his ass. I'm sure he has something that's just for him, right? this is for you.
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    Tell him this could end up benefiting him someday, in more ways than one
    ~slim shady~
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,757Administrator, Moderator
    JustBeachy said:

    Heaven's to Betsy! We might influence you to, gasp!, speak your mind! Or, even worse, think for yourself.
    You got two choices sister.
    1. Tell him to suck your dick.
    2. Be discreet about your fascinating love affair with all things Scary Mommy.

    Ok, ok, there is a third option, but you have to be a patient woman to pull it off.
    You can sit him down and explain exactly what this fabulous group of women, and men, are really about.



    yep. that. ^

    community-manager


  • StarsStars
    Posts: 1,054Member
    That's ridonkulous!  My DH doesn't mind at all.  He even rather enjoys some of the stories I read to him.  He has his eagles message boards that he uses A LOT.  So he wouldn't dare tell me anything negative about my habits.  I gotta agree with @unforgiven tell him this is your outlet and sanity time.   Good Luck! :X
    apsycho

  • mama2tutnkcmama2tutnkc
    Posts: 1,039Member
    Insecure much?! Tell him if you give up SM he has to give up [insertsomethingheloveshere]…see how far he's willing to go lol
    feels like *home* to me
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    My SO thinks some of the confessions are great, and he's super supportive of me being on here. He says that I need a place to complain, since I'm a sahm/student, and this a great place for that. Tell your hubs to suck it up, you need a place outside of him, kids, and work(yes, I count sahm as work). *hugs*
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member

    Wow.  It's nice to see that some men *can* be so supportive and understanding.  My ex HATED when I'd be online talking to distant friends.  If he were still here he'd bitch and complain about my SM time.  I hope to someday have a SO like @morganD and @stars. 

    In the mean time, I hope you guys can come to an agreement.  This place is full of some WONDERFUL women, SUPERB advice, and most of all more love than you could ever imagine.  Hope you stay!

  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    @Primalbitch SO feels bad for leaving me at home with the kids all the time. He's a one-of-a-kind guys. If he bitched about me being on SM, I'd probably kick him in the nuts.
  • Harleyman
    Posts: 54Member
    Use the first Amendment: 
    Congress, for wives or husbands and especially children shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or
    prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of
    the press, or the internet., or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, @ Scarry Mommies and to petition the
    Government or spouses for a redress of grievances.

    BOLD= My new changes to the First Amendment
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
    Posts: 1,805Member
    My DH didn't like the site at first either. he didn't like i spent so much time on here. he was saying i was most likely complaining about him to everyone. i told him he could join if he wanted that there are scary daddies on here too! but he wasn't interested saying he doesn't have time to sit on the computer. but now i find him saying ask your sm friends or what do the sm's think about it. and he just informed me as i was reading my post that it keeps me off his back. lol so give him time he will come around. i even got him to drive 2hr away so i could meet @scarymommy

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  • momsaidnomomsaidno
    Posts: 1,805Member
    oh yeah but i still am not allowed to read the ratedX section maybe if the name wasn't ratedX he never would have noticed! lol

  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,848Member
    Omg. I'm coming on a world tour to kick some not-so-DH ass. Fuck em. What are they afraid of? My DH loves that I'm on here. I vent and yell at you ladies instead if him! He loves hearing our stories. He loves that I have friends now, even of I wouldn't know them if I saw them. Doesn't matter, I can confide in my ladies and gents, I get stellar advice, I feel validated in my emotions. SM makes all of us better and stronger people. If your DH doesn't like it, kick him in the junk, punch him in the throat, and stomp on his face when he falls to the floor! If you don't, I will! :D
  • gamommiegamommie
    Posts: 348Member
    My DH is just glad I don't bitch at him. And honestly I read some of the confessions and I'm like ok he's great and he reaps the benes of that so he's cool with me being here.
  • ChibikoChibiko
    Posts: 2,685Member
    DH is fine w me being here although he wishes I would limit the amount of personal stuff I mention.
    U R who U think U R

    "You were the truth I would rather lose than to have never lain beside at all"
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    bf is now asking about people on here and even calling them by their real names lol 
    ~slim shady~
  • KindredSpiritKindredSpirit
    Posts: 184Member
    I'm jealous of all you ladies with supportive husbands.  I defintely am going to keep coming here and I don't think I'm going to hide it from him.  He does 0% of the work when it comes to raising our kids, so screw him.  I need an outlet!
  • Krissi6Krissi6
    Posts: 24Member
    My DH doesn't even know about me being on here and that's the way I like it. It's none of his fucking business, he goes on sites that he tries to keep from me so why shouldn't I have a place to go that he doesn't know about. He can kiss my ass if he ever does try to tell me not to come on here!!!!
  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
    Posts: 973Member
    My xh would have flipped if I had joined here while I was still married. He hated me online at all, he would stand over my shoulder and watch me on fb or checking my email or just playing some random game online. My current BF knows about this site, he doesn't say anything about me being on here, he's glad I have a place to vent and share my frustrations and problems, but he also thinks that it's all a bit silly for people who don't even know each other, and in a lot of cases, not even knowing real names, to get together and support each other the way we do.  So we don't really discuss it, but he understands that it's my outlet.
  • twinmommy2004
    Posts: 252Member
    Krissi6 said:

    My DH doesn't even know about me being on here and that's the way I like it. It's none of his fucking business, he goes on sites that he tries to keep from me so why shouldn't I have a place to go that he doesn't know about. He can kiss my ass if he ever does try to tell me not to come on here!!!!

    ^me too.  actually, if he did know, he would be ballistic about the fact that I post. He doesn't like when I tell our family about our business, imagine if he knew I was telling a whole bunch of strangers!
    the secret to happiness is not getting what you want, it's wanting what you get
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,164Member
    Feel threatened much, does he?  There has to be a safe place for moms/wives to let off some steam!  Every day is not sunshine and roses in mommydom!  If you think that you're either a) in Stepford, b) having someone blowing sunshine up your ass!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member

    BellaBefana said:

    Feel threatened much, does he?  There has to be a safe place for moms/wives to let off some steam!  Every day is not sunshine and roses in mommydom!  If you think that you're either a) in Stepford, b) having someone blowing sunshine up your ass!



    LOL Nice.
  • Ashdawn684Ashdawn684
    Posts: 850Member
    Dh doesnt know about SM its my little secret!
    ~Live life to the fullest, or die trying~
  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,483Member
    Read him a lot of the funny stuff. I don't come here to bitch! A lot of the ladies here come for advice or (like me) just for a laugh. 
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,699Confessional Manager
    It's interesting @bellabefana brought up the issue of feeling threatened...I should add, the main reason why my husband was against me being on here was because he felt I was talking to 'strangers' but not to him. We were having some problems then so I can understand how that might have only added to his insecurities.. now he just finds it annoying. :D

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
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  • twinmommy2004
    Posts: 252Member
    Mama TeeRoll - when did you marry my husband?
    the secret to happiness is not getting what you want, it's wanting what you get
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    Posts: 667Member

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  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,312Member
    my bf thinks that im plotting to.kill him.on here.. i told him its.just the opposite you guys are keeping me from.killing me...
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,742Member
    Chibiko said:

    DH is fine w me being here although he wishes I would limit the amount of personal stuff I mention.



    Yep. Mine too.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • nessamommynessamommy
    Posts: 671Member
    Dh likes that I have a place to vent for the most part. He really enjoys when I get awesome nookie tips!  His only frustration is that sometimes I'd rather be on here than spending "quality time" with him.
    I just tell him to suck it. I need an outlet, and SM is it. 
    If life gives you lemons, squirt lemon juice in life's eye!
  • mommaOf2RottenBoysmommaOf2RottenBoys
    Posts: 129Member
    My husband doesnt mind and would love it if I read the X-rated more often. [-O<
    Life's like an hourglass glued to the table.........
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    I am deleting all my content.
  • Monkeynmoo
    Posts: 1,420Guest
    Mine doesn't care of I'm on here! When he needs my attention he just says something smart like "put down the phone and back away from the mommies" or "HELLO, I'm gonna be a scary daddy if you don't put that phone down for a minute!" "maybe you should marry that website, your love affair with it is gross!" something like that... He reads it every now and then but just says " are you fucking kidding me!" and puts downy phone! :)
  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
    Posts: 1,769Member
    Dh doesn't care if I'm on here and quite honestly if he did I wouldn't give a shit. I'm a grown woman and bust my ass taking care of the kids and the house, no one is going to tell me what I can and can not do.
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,489Member
    Mommyliciousx4 said:

    Dh doesn't care if I'm on here and quite honestly if he did I wouldn't give a shit. I'm a grown woman and bust my ass taking care of the kids and the house, no one is going to tell me what I can and can not do.

    Preach it, sistah!
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,455Member
    Mine thinks it's funny. Not that it would matter, he's not the boss of the me. He has asked I not share pics of him or the kids on here and I respect that, but that's as far as he attempts to regulate it. He knows better than to try to tell me what to do - that would cause way more problems than a website ever could. I'm a grownup and expect to be treated like one. I couldn't be with a man who was so insecure or distrustful.
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,489Member
    Demanda said:

    Mine thinks it's funny. Not that it would matter, he's not the boss of the me. He has asked I not share pics of him or the kids on here and I respect that, but that's as far as he attempts to regulate it. He knows better than to try to tell me what to do - that would cause way more problems than a website ever could. I'm a grownup and expect to be treated like one. I couldn't be with a man who was so insecure or distrustful.

    Preach it, sistah!
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • iamslowlygoingcrazy
    Posts: 145Member
    My DH knows I'm on here and I've caught him reading the confessions more than once lol.  But if he told me not to I'd laugh at him, then carry on lol  If he was bothered by something he would talk to me about it but he wouldn't tell me what to do.  And he would love it if I read the rated X section more too lol
  • JenInHeels
    Posts: 101Member

    My Husband just thinks I’m a dork.  Sometimes I tell him about my posts and the strength and encouragement you gals give me and he thinks it’s nice that I have help from other moms. 


    You need to tell your husband to get over it.  Seriously, if you can’t vent online to some girlfriends your gonna wind up at a bar vending to a hotter version of your husband, then you’re going to have one too many beers, then you’re going to go to his house and let him screw you silly.  Then after that he is going to let you lay in his arms while you finish venting and he is going to relate to you and understand everything you say and ask you to move to Paris with him.


    It’s Scary Mommy or the above story – tell him to pick one.

  • mommydeliriousmommydelirious
    Posts: 3,220Member
    Logging off to head out to whatever bar @jeninheels has been frequenting! 
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  • SaraSara
    Posts: 1,037Member
    My SO doesn't care. He calls this site Angry Mommy or Mommy Dearest. "Is that Angry Mommy again?" I corrected him until I realized he was doing it on purpose. He knows I need an outlet and since he is extremely antisocial he prefers that I am in here on the computer as opposed to always asking if we could go somewhere and talk to "real" people.
    Think of your problems as challenges to overcome not obstacles to be avoided.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,164Member
    hey, scary mommy has given me a pair.  I find I'm much bolder about confronting things I NEVER would have confronted before...even things/people in my past.  Things that have needed doing!
    Bite me, cupcake!
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