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Let's Clear the Air
  • ChibikoChibiko
    Posts: 2,692Member

    It has come to my attention that a few of you have an issue with the little game I was playing with myself.  I started the game to try to get myself to open up more.  My goal was to post 25 times a night for 7 days.  That goal just happened to get me to 1000 posts.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />


     


    I want to be very clear on this next point.  My little game had absolutely nothing to do with SM of the month.  Nothing.  It was about me doing something outside my comfort zone and pushing myself in a positive way.


     


    If you (general you) have an issue with me making goals intended to better myself in a public forum, such as SM, please feel free to PM me.


     

    U R who U think U R

    "You were the truth I would rather lose than to have never lain beside at all"
  • [Deleted User]
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  • Chocoholic
    Posts: 983Member
    No idea what this is about as I've been absent much of the last week, but I flipping love you @chibiko!!!

    And I for one and so so glad to see you on here more- I really like your style ;;)
    The answer is chocolate. I don't care what the question is.
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,511Member
    Good grief. The fact that this even became an issue is just sad.
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    It was my impression you've been trying to open up and be more active to combat feelings of isolation. 

    I'm sorry if there's been contention/confusion. 
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  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,891Confessional Manager
    WOAH! Who had a problem with you posting more?? Give me names! 

    Seriously though, if someone is bullying you let a mod know. 

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,968Administrator, Moderator
    WOAH! Who had a problem with you posting more?? Give me names! 

    Seriously though, if someone is bullying you let a mod know. 


    Dude. What she said ^.
    That is beyond ridiculous.
    Chin up, @Chibiko. The only people who complain about other people posting a lot, are people who are insecure in their own post content, otherwise they wouldn't have a reason to care.
    Keep it up, girlfriend, and let us know if there's a problem.

    community-manager


  • beambeam
    Posts: 1,061Member
    Someone was tracking your post count? - well besides you ;)... I guess some people have nothing better to do like read a book or go for a walk or do something positive for themselves or others.
    "Magic things are fond of deceptions.” ― Tom Robbins
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    I thought it was brilliant. A challenge to yourself to open up more and get more involved in the community. It's not easy for everyone to just jump in, even when they want to, so I think it was a fabulous idea. I bet it inspired others too! So you keep doing the damn thing, @chibiko. We love ya! >:D<

    community-manager


  • French_momFrench_mom
    Posts: 1,551Member
    OH geez. I knew about your personal goal.  And people freak because of it ?  I personally am happy you are opening up more. And i love your in an out of chat at night :) 

    Keep posting!!!  
    It is for me to know and you to dot dot dot.
  • AnonUser34
    Posts: 1,825Guest
    I didn't even notice :) I think it's great, you've been here a while and I don't see very many post from you.. There's people here that post all the damn time 'who cares' there's always going to be a few suckers that have nothing better to do then bitch :D They should worry about there selfs. Congrats on hitting 1000 post, took me a little over 6 months myself.
  • DontpooponthedogDontpooponthedog
    Posts: 240Member

    @Chibiko-you have been one of the most friendly ladies in here to me (although, everyone has been super nice, you seemed to go out of your way to be nice to me.)  If anyone has a problem with you trying to better yourself- the real problem is certainly not with you.

     

     

    >:D<
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,615Member
    Wow, some peole have too much time on their hands. I was glad to see you post more. :D
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • hippiekinshippiekins
    Posts: 1,096Member
    @chibiko I think you're awesome! You even helped me open up more!
  • ChibikoChibiko
    Posts: 2,692Member
    Thank you so much for your support!!!! When I came to know that people thought I was trying to hit 1000 for the SM of the month thing my heart just fell. My goal had absolutely nothing to do with that.

    It just hurts that people would think that of me. Especially since I rarely post about money - weather I have it or not.
    U R who U think U R

    "You were the truth I would rather lose than to have never lain beside at all"
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,486Member
    OMG people suck.
    I didn't know anything about this, or even notice, but I'm still sorry people are being nasty about it.  

    Get a life, whoever you are.
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,775Administrator, Moderator
    I don't understand why anyone would even have an opinion about that. You've been a part of this community for a long time, it's been nice to see you post more.

    community-manager


  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,197Member
    Geez, I thought it was kind of funny...it's always good to have goals!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
    Posts: 2,252Member
    I find that funny that someone is judging you about posting! I was not aware of your goal and I don't take notes on thers posting history, just my own. And when I noticed my number had jumped so quickly I thought, damn, I talk too much, so I have dropped way back but that's my issue. Post if you want, as much as you want. There would be no forum if no one posted! Haha
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  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 2,509
    Oh for fucks sakes! Some people need hobbies!
    Get me a damn beer.
  • FreeToBeMee
    Posts: 643Member
    I want to have the amount of time this person has on their hands. Do you boo ! You arent hurting nobody and this can be a good place to go out of your usual comfort zone.
  • ImWendyImWendy
    Posts: 6,562Member
    I hate how money or the thought of money changes people and causes suspicion and anger.

    @chibiko I think setting a personal goal like that was brilliant.
    deus ex machina
  • lovinmom
    Posts: 694Member
    I think its great you have been posting more. Isn't that what this community is about? Don't let whomever it was get you down. We all make goals and maybe your goal help someon in need, even if you don't know it. :)
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,752Member
    ImWendy said:

    I hate how money or the thought of money changes people and causes suspicion and anger.

    @chibiko I think setting a personal goal like that was brilliant.



    Right?? I swear I wish we could just go back to the barter system in this country. Then, people are forced to be both motivated and kinder to each other. Ugh.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,489Member
    Oh fuck. You have got to be kidding me! I didn't know about your goal, but I did notice you'd been posting more, which I thought... Was awesome! You've been here longer than I have and I've always enjoyed reading your posts, so I was glad to see there were more of them.

    In my experience, when people are overly concerned about what someone else is doing or the motives behind it, it usually means that they are the one with questionable motives. So, maybe whoever has such an issue with your post count should examine their own behavior and ask themselves why they are really so concerned with yours. And then, maybe they should get a fucking life or a hobby or something to occupy their time.
  • beachmommybeachmommy
    Posts: 2,492Member
    I agree with @pdxmama - what is the old saying?  When someone points a finger at you, 3 more are pointing back at themselves?  Keep posting - it's what makes this place fun.
    My beach is still Sandy....
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,281Member
    Holy Crappp @Chibiko are we on the same wave length! i was doing the same thing not for the SM mom of the month. but for my own personal achivement. I was kinda waiting for someone to talk crap too, maybe because i am pmsing, but thats not cool! you are one cool ass chick! girl, i got your back, just hold my earrings and shoes its on like donkey kong.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • Chocoholic
    Posts: 983Member
    I'm also with @pdxmama- when people snarky hug you or talk trash, it says more about them than it does about you. Fuck'em.
    The answer is chocolate. I don't care what the question is.
  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,508Member
    Chin up Chib! And Congrats on hitting the 1000 posts.

    Fuck all the rest of it. Just keep doing you. When you are having a rough day I'll do you ;)
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    Yeah, I'm with @breezy. I don't mind if you play with yourself.
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  • CrashCrash
    Posts: 8,208Member
    Just so you know, @Chibiko, imma snarky hug the fucking hell outta the all the whiney bitches that are all up in your shiz.

    Lurve you long time!
    See ya in another life, sister!
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    O_O
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  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,508Member
    @lesbomom

    paging all mods cuz I want to get really mean right now!
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    Thanks @breezy
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  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    I can say with certainty I never read any such comment/post from @Chibiko stating a goal of SM of the month. I am pretty sure I read her first post about the 1000 post goal. I stand with @Chibiko
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  • AlbertaMomAlbertaMom
    Posts: 789Member
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    Posts: 1,015Member

    Thanks @Sammie . Not that I need the boost but the 1000 post rule on the SM thing got me thinking. I've been around posting for 6 months but I guess I don't post as much as I should?

     

    I seen this. That's all. Nowhere did I see her say that she wanted to get SM Nation Funds, simply that it made her think she doesn't post as much as she should.

    I follow the spam thread and have seen her posts and to me it seemed like nothing more than a personal goal to open up around here.

    Good on you @chibiko
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  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    I've deleted some comments from this thread. Let's try to keep things civil and please no name calling or personal attacks on anyone. At all. If there's a real issue that needs to be dealt with, please reach out to me. Or any of the other mods. Things have been running so smoothly on the boards and we'd like to maintain that supportive environment for everyone. So if something needs to be hashed out or I'm missing something entirely, please reach out. Thanks, ladies.

    community-manager


  • sidsmommy3sidsmommy3
    Posts: 2,204Member
    People are just unhappy and mean.  Congrats on the 1000 posts - LOL - I don't think I will ever make that milestone.   :)>-
    Mary :-)

    Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    I'm hoping this was just a misunderstanding. Chibiko, is your next goal 2K posts?

    @sidsmommy3 - it just takes time. You can do it.
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  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,456Member
    I don't think I even noticed... Whoops!
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,197Member
    I saw how many posts I had a while back, and thought "shit, have I nothing better to do?"  I hope the words of encouragement I received in response to my thread about it are true, and that maybe I have been able to help someone, I know the site's helped me.  A LOT. 

    @Chibiko...you go girl!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • sidsmommy3sidsmommy3
    Posts: 2,204Member
    @Gingersnap - Thanks!!  I will do my best!
    Mary :-)

    Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,312Member
    @sidsmommy3 - See! You just hit 100.
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  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,055Member
    I saw how many posts I had and freaked out too!! @BellaBefana I'm like wow I must post way too much :\">
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  • StarsStars
    Posts: 1,058Member
    @Chibiko I've been here since day one and even have been a mod for a bit and I've been trying to post more too. Certainly not for SM mommy of the month but because I'm trying to connect more.  I'm shy too.  Yes even online.  Never would have thought that of you and surprised people are so petty to think that way. I say fuck em.  You know what's in your heart.  People can say whatever they want but 99% know the truth and the struggle you have had with socialization.   Big hugs, sweetie.   >:D<
    apsycho

  • CrashCrash
    Posts: 8,208Member

    I have the urge to make it my personal goal to reach 5000 posts. By the end of the month.


     


    Lol,  I'm kidding! Although it'd be funny to piss someone off, I just don't think I have that much to say.


     


    Post on, Chibs!

    See ya in another life, sister!
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,893Member
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    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,779Guest
    I didn't notice, I guess I'm just self centered like that hahaha. I really only notice when ppl are flat out rude in a thread or comment on my thread, tag me or pm me.
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,252Member
    I'm so sorry @ chibiko.some people just suck. I myself have also been trying to post more, mainly because I don't feel like I've connected with people here yet. and yes, I'm also a bit shy irl and online.

    I say keep posting girl. whoever doesn't like it can suck it.

    oh! and @Chocoholic, I'm glad to see you're back. :-)
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 3,889Member
    I saw a thread where you said something about being here all the time, but with very few posts. Then I saw something about posting more. I never thought anything except you were jumping in with both feet.
    Sometimes, people really do need to criticize other people to validate themselves.
    I am sorry some boogers got to you and upset you.
    The people that matter understood your intentions. Those who didn't understand do now.
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  • nessamommynessamommy
    Posts: 671Member
    I'm sorry people are being jerks to you. Noone should EVER make someone else feel badly for setting goals for themselves. 
    If life gives you lemons, squirt lemon juice in life's eye!
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