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  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    So today is my birthday. 32 years! Well its not a great one. Usually my friends and I go out but, for some reason we didn't plan anything this year. Everyone is busy I guess. Well bf and I are moving in together on Thursday. It's stressful. I know he has A LOT to pack and has to work etc. and on top of everything he is feeling sick. The thing is I don't even think he got me a gift :( . He isn't even coming over here tonight or anything (currently he lives 30 min away). Every time I have talked to him over the past week all he can talk about is the move, what he has packed, and what he still has to pack. When the cable guys will be there, transferring the heat and electric, etc. It's driving me crazy. Am I over reacting that he has all but forgotten my birthday??
  • PandamandaPandamanda
    Posts: 134Member
    Happy birthday!!! And no I don't think you are overreacting! I understand life gets busy but never too busy for that! I would be super upset if DF forgot my birthday. I hope he gets his head out of his ass!
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,742Guest
    He hasn't forgotten. But Happy Birthday!!
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,298Member
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! don't worry the ones that love you the most, never forget! so I bet he has something REALLY special planned!
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,847Member

    Happy Birthday. 

    Even if he's stressed, he still needs to do something to let you know he's thankful you were born.  That's how I worded it to my dh.  He doesn't think any holiday is special, I do.  It certainly doesn't have to be expensive, or anything dramatic, just something like a flower, my favorite chocolate bar, cook dinner the way I like it, and clean up.  Just show that you aren't completely self absorbed.  So I don't think you are overreacting to be upset.

    Maybe he is planning something for next weekend when things are more settled?  Guys can be annoyingly practical about things like that. 

     

  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    Happy Birthday :)

    He may or may not have forgotten. If he did, it is because he is so wrapped up in getting everything together so you can live together!! Sounds like he is trying to take care of all those annoying little details & it could have honestly slipped his mind. Maybe give him a gentle reminder...wow, I can't believe I'm 32 yrs old today!...
  • justkeepswimmingjustkeepswimming
    Posts: 780Member

    Happy Birthday @loveit! <:-P

    Is it your birthday too @chaosmom? If so, Happy Birthday to you as well!

    And I really hope he is deliberately misleading you @loveit, because that would slice me to the quick too! I don't think you are overreacting.

    When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is.
    ~Oscar Wilde
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  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    @justkeepswimming, no, not my bday. Was just giving an example of how she could sneak it in there without being obvious that she thinks he forgot lol
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    No he didn't forget all together....I reminded him last night. So he knows, he is just too busy and stressed to do anything about it :(
    Thanks everyone for the bday wishes! I will have a scarymommy birthday instead!
  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
    Posts: 973Member
    @loveit Happy Birthday. I hope he hasn't forgotten. It sounds like he has a lot occupying his mind, so maybe he has forgotten. I would just remind him. And there is nothing wrong with feeling hurt and upset, I don't think you're overreacting at all. Hope your birthday turns out better!
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,629Member
    Happy birthday @loveit. Enjoy! @};-
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

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  • BIG_SM_695
    Posts: 81Member
    HAppy happy birthday! Best wishes on your move too! Warm hugs too!!

    High expectations- I too suffer from this! The older I get the worse it gets! I set myself up for failure by expecting the best. I blame my parents for spoiling me.......
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,700Confessional Manager
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    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,293Member
    Happy Birthday!
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  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,745Member
    Happy Birthday! Don't stress too much. My DH couldn't even remember if my birthday was the 14th or the 16th for the longest time! I bet he's got something planned...maybe a belated something for after the big move?? Moving sucks, so maybe he's just trying to get through that so he can really do something special!!
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • AnonUser33
    Posts: 743Guest
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY @loveit
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,277Administrator, Moderator
    Happy birthday, mama!! Maybe he's planning a surprise or a belated birthday gift/party after you all get settled? I bet he does something!!

    community-manager


  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
    Posts: 4,332Member
    happy birthday!!!
    i am insane!!! mwahahahaha
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    Happy Birthday!!! *hugs*
  • AnonUser35
    Posts: 543Guest
    Happy Birthday!!! Hope this is your best one yet!
  • LifeofchaosLifeofchaos
    Posts: 984Member
    Happy Birthday Chick!!!!
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    Thanks so much guys!!
    It turned out pretty decent! My bf came over after all, with a dozen pink roses and a cake. He got me a gift card to a place ive been wanting to go and its enough to take a bunch of friends with me! We went to dinner with dd and had a great time.
    Even though it was all last minute it turned out great.
    Thanks so much for all the happy birthdays!
  • justkeepswimmingjustkeepswimming
    Posts: 780Member
    YAY!! Glad you had a good time :D
    When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is.
    ~Oscar Wilde
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  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,177Member
    Happy  Birthday!  Maybe he has a surprise up his sleeve?
    Bite me, cupcake!
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