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Father dashes Make-A-Wish dream for daughter
  • SaraSara
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    The mother and grandmother of 4-year-old McKenna May, who survived leukemia, are collecting money to get the little Ohio girl to Disney World after her father nixed a Make-A-Wish trip to the theme park.

    McKenna's father, William May of Toledo, said using Make-A-Wish money for a child who is "free and clear" of illness is an improper use of donations made to the organization. "I think it should go to kids who only have six months to live," he told the Sentinel-Tribune of Bowling Green, Ohio.

    The charity requires that parents have to sign off for a child to accept a trip.

    After going through two years of cancer treatment that included spinal taps, chemotherapy and hospitalizations because of reactions to the treatments, McKenna's mother, Whitney Hughes, and grandmother, Lori Helppie, feel she deserves the trip.

    [Related: John Cena grants record 300th Make-A-Wish request]

    So they've pulled their family's request with Make-A-Wish and are placing collection jars around the community to raise the needed $3,500 to fund the trip on their own.

    The important thing is to get her there," Helppie told the newspaper. "She loves Mickey Mouse. She loves Cinderella." "She's really excited," Hughes said. "It's all she's talked about for the last three months."

    Helppie and Hughes are outraged at May's refusal and claim McKenna's father is just trying to get back at them over visitation privileges. May was just granted visitation earlier this year, according to the Sentinel-Tribune.

    The father, however, blames McKenna's mother and grandmother for keeping him from seeing his daughter. "I wasn't allowed to be involved," May said. "It ticked me off."

    Susan McConnell, president and CEO of Make-A-Wish for Ohio, Kentucky and Indiana, said that McKenna clearly qualifies for a wish since she has gone through so much in her two-year struggle to beat leukemia, the newspaper reported.

    McConnell said it is unfortunate that the family yanked their request for a wish since the father wouldn't sign off. "She's been through a lot," she said of McKenna. "What I really feel bad about is she is stuck in the middle."

    Anyone wanting to donate to McKenna's trip may send donations to 5/3 Bank, 275 South Main St., Bowling Green, Ohio 43402 (419) 354-9531 to the benefit account for McKenna May.image

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  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
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    WHATAFUCKINGASSHATSPORTINDOUCHENOZZLE!!!!!!
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  • SaraSara
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    @SchweddyBalls, my thoughts exactly!
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  • LoveLove
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    I agree, my initial reaction is What a DICK!


    It's not hard to see the logic in his reasoning, though, if there are children who aren't as lucky, I thought that's what the Make-A-Wish foundation was for....

    edit: but upon further reading, it seems she still more than qualifies, by the foundations standards!

    And really. If it were the principle of the thing, it would be different, but every article I just pulled up said almost word-for-word the same thing, and it really seems like he's not doing it because it's the 'right' thing to do as he sees it, it's just another weapon in their gotcha-last custody thing. That is revolting!

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  • MistyStacy_2010MistyStacy_2010
    Posts: 491Member
    How dare he take that baby's wish from her! Can you say Father of the year right there??? *totally sarcastic* I am at a loss for words and really want to head to where he is just to junk punch him. 
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  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,848Member
    SchweddyBalls said:

    WHATAFUCKINGASSHATSPORTINDOUCHENOZZLE!!!!!!



    This ^^^

    And Make-A-Wish says she clearly qualifies. I hope that sweet girl gets her trip. She deserves that & so much more. I wish I had money to donate!
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,489Member
    Sounds like a regular father of the year candidate. What an asshole. Why would he want to crush his daughter's dream just to get back at her mom?
  • LLB
    Posts: 3,322Member
    I'm curious as to where the father got the idea that it is only for children who have 6 months or less to live!

    My 7 year old niece is still in treatment for leukemia and just got back from her Make-a-Wish Sponsored trip to Disney! She has only been In treatment for 10 months and has at least another 2ish years of treatment left!

    While yes the prognosis for her is good there have been many times she has been hanging by a string and we could have lost her.

    Just because this little girl has been called a survivor doesn't necessarily mean she is in the clear! Plus you know what seeing the hell my niece is going through now anyone that survives that deserves a freaking trip to Disney!!!
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,254Member
    what a spiteful petty thing to do. karmas a bitch daddy. you'll get yours
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  • realtormomrealtormom
    Posts: 647Member
    Maybe this attitude its why he didn't get visitation for so long... And why he should lose it again
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  • amyclarkamyclark
    Posts: 213Member
    I do kind of agree with him, but if it was daughter and I couldn't afford to make her wish come true I would gladly accept any help I could get.  If the foundation says she qualifies then she should get her wish.  Survivors are just as important than those who have no hope.
  • blkrosemommablkrosemomma
    Posts: 297Member
    Children shouldn't suffer because their parents don't agree on shit! That ticks me off. While I do think that the foundation shouldn't be responsible for surviving children's wishes it's not cool that he used it just to get back at her mother and grandmother. I also agree with @ amyclark the foundation did say she qualifies. 

    Men can be so fucking petty when their stupid egos are hurt.
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
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    I wouldn't be surprised if WDW comes to the table to help fund the trip.

    Fine, if dad doesn't want to use Make a Wish money, should he really be asking for handouts from the public at large? Maybe he should hit up his own bank account for the funds.
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  • Katescrazymom
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    Um, if the charity says she qualifies, then he needs to grow up and learn to separate his issues with his ex from his child. Maybe he's upset that he wouldn't be going? Maybe he just wants a trip to see Mickey?
    I didn't know Make a Wish did things for survivors. I can sort of understand his feelings, but surely they prioritize funds, urgency, etc.
  • GingersnapGingersnap
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    There is an online donation option:

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  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
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    I was on the Dad's side until I read the CEO saying she still qualifies for the Make A Wish. It would be one thing if she didn't meet the qualifications anymore, but she does.

    As for the rest of the story, we need to know more about the family dynamics to see if Dad is truly justified in his actions...
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  • iamslowlygoingcrazy
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    What a pitiful excuse for a father!  GRRRRRRR
  • GritsGrits
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    The Make A Wish Foundation fundraises year round, so I'm sure they fund wishes based on urgency first, then they fund trips for those who deserve it. I can't imagine them skipping over a kid who did only have 6 months to live for a survivor. That being said, McKenna's dad is an ass. Why dash your little girl's hopes to go to Disney World just to get back at her mother. Leukemia is no joke, it could come back. So why not let a little girl, who has been fighting her fight for over two years, celebrate her remission in style?? Dick!
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  • [Deleted User]
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    Hasn't this poor girl been through enough? Obviously he's not doing this because it's "the right thing." Out of spite for her mother, that's why. Fucker.
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  • regpregp
    Posts: 1,019Member
    Here's my 2 cents:
    This guy is a complete jerkass. I don't think this has anything to do with his daughter at all, it's all about controlling the mother. I also think he must not know much about childhood cancer. She could have a recurrence today, and die from it this time. What a DOUCHE he is.
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  • YeahThatsMe
    Posts: 47Member
    Eh.
    I *kind of* get what he's saying. I'm not sure I'd be able to stand by that principle if it were my daughter, and I couldn't afford to take her myself AND the CEO was all, "but she still qualifies!" But I do KIND OF see what he's saying.

    And it sounds like it's the mother/grandmother with the donation jars. IDK, I know that the mother/grandmother say it's all just a ploy to get back at them, but honestly? Don't know him, don't know THEM, and have no way of knowing which side is being honest in that scenario. I hope the little girl gets to disney one way or the other, though
  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
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    The thing is being in remission doesn't mean anything till AFTER 5 years.....and even then it can come back. This kid had fucking CANCER and fought it........she qualifies just as much as the kids still fighting.
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  • KiinuKiinu
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    Make a Wish foundation accepts children with life threatening diseases, not just children who are definitely dying. Cancer is most certainly life threatening. I'm going to assume that she was referred and accepted before she went into remission, it was pure luck that she went into remission at that time.

    Threatening to life doesn't mean dying, a decent number of children granted wishes are not actually dying anytime soon, they are in danger of dying younger than adulthood. that poor girl should have gotten her wish, I'm sure the poor thing is heartbroken and wondering why she's been promised something that isn't happening.

    I don't care what is going on in mommy and daddy's life, I don't care why dad didn't sign, just that he didn't. He should have, she most definitely meets the requirements of the foundation and he ruined that for her, whether he did it for pride or for spite it was a shitty thing to do to his baby girl. If he felt THAT BAD he could have saved up his own money and "paid" the foundation back with a large donation a few years from now if they were in a position to afford that trip.
  • Live4PeaceLive4Peace
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    All I know is if you tell a 4 year old she's going to Disnyland- the most magical place a child can imagine as she's been suffering for years...you don't pull that out from under her. He might as well tell her Santa isn't real.


     If she didn't know about the trip, then he might be less of a douche, but she did know.  I just hope the humiliation right now he is getting publically makes him sign off for her to go.  It's dumb that her mom has to get donations when Make A Wish already approved her.  I wish I had $ to give her- being a mom telling my daughter she can't go anymore would suck!

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  • GingersnapGingersnap
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    She's going! They've raised over 10 thousand, and they needed 3.5K. Thanks to everyone that pitched in or spread the word.
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  • Live4PeaceLive4Peace
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    Sooo glad...maybe they should take another cancer kid family as well. =-)

     

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  • LesboMomLesboMom
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    Wow! Looks like the internet community showed that das who's boss. Way to go for them earning 11k. That's awesome.

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  • GingersnapGingersnap
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    I don't know what they're going to do with the monies in excess of the goal...
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  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
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    Make A Wish tried sending her while she was doing treatments but she was too sick then and it was advised that they wait.
    The dick is just a spiteful jerk using his dd as a way to punish the mom.
  • Turtlekot
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    If his reason was for another child that is currently threatened to receive their wish I stand by him.  Just because "someone" qualifies for something, does not mean that they must use it.  While my family may qualify for food stamps it does not mean I am going to use it, unless I absolutely have to.

    If it is a fight between the parents....shame on them.

  • regpregp
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    @turtlekot, Her going on the trip would not keep another child from going, that's not how Make a Wish works really.I guess in the most technical sense, his reasoning would make sense because the money used on a trip for her could be used by someone else.

    I stand by my theory that he's a jerk and just has no idea how often childhood cancers reoccur. My friend's daughter was in remission for over a year and is now sicker than ever since the cancer came back.
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  • mami_of_3mami_of_3
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    While I was reading this I was thinking:"Douche. Douche. Douche" As I got near the end I got this real strong impulse of kicking said man on the groin, real hard. Just to be a effin douche he denies his daughter of her dream. So glad other people showed more compassion than he did and she gets to go :)
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  • undercoverbanana
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    he was on the news today, and said he thought that make-a-wish should be for children that have a TERMINAL illness, with no hope of any type of remission...................but i didn't think he was sincere. or, if he was, he had some funky reasoning. if make-a-wish foundation thought she was qualified, what is his problem with it?
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  • LLB
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    Regardless of what *he* thinks should qualify a child Make-A-Wish has their qualification set as such that she qualified! It really doesn't matter whether he thinks that since his daughter is still living she shouldn't qualify! She does and therefore he should have been a man and a father and signed the damn papers!
  • GingersnapGingersnap
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    @mami_of_3 - there you are! (still alive, I see) I totally agree with the "douche" impression. 
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  • mami_of_3mami_of_3
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    @Gingersnap Was going to message you to say hi but you found me first lol
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