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Ultrasound/pregnancy anxiety
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    Going in for my first ultrasound, in order to check for any birth defects. I've never been worried about this in my last two pregnancies but my anxiety is through the roof. It almost gets worse each time. Anyone else feel like this?
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    I was nervous about DS1, because I had a ton of stress throughout my pregnancy and only gained 9lbs. I think it happens to all of us.
  • AKimiBAKimiB
    Posts: 1,812Member
    I had no worries with my first, and then I damn near fought off mini heart attacks when doing the screening with my second.
    Actually going through parenthood makes you more aware of things that could go wrong, I think.
    I'm hoping for the best for you. :)
    Please try not to worry too much.
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  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    Yeah. I have pretty pronounced anxiety and depression when pregnant. I obsess about things that can wrong. It had only gotten worse with each one. Not sure what to do really. My doctors usually brush it off. I guess I'm too functioning for it to concern anyone, hah.
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    Thanks @akimib. That actually makes me feel better. It seems like the more I know, the less I can talk myself down from, hah. I have to keep away from pregnancy books and medical sites right now.
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,297Member
    Hugs sweetie I was a crazy worry wort with all my pregnancies. Keep us inthe loop. :x
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • BeautifulDefianceBeautifulDefiance
    Posts: 755Member
    Try to relax. It's tough knowing all the things that can go wrong, but this will be your first look at your new LO. Focus on the positive and hopefully those anxieties will fall to the back ground :)
    I prefer not to think before speaking. I like being just as surprised as everyone else by what comes out of my mouth.

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  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    Well, the baby looks good as far as heartbeat, movement, etc. I get the genetic results next week. Thanks everyone. :)
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,317Member
    My last pregnancy was hell.. constant ultrasounds for lack of fetal growth...
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  • [Deleted User]
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    Always worried, even when I didn't have reason. Huge hugs!
    Get me a damn beer.
  • LLB
    Posts: 3,280Member
    I had no worries with my twins ultrasounds. Probably because I was too naive to think about all the things that could go wrong!

    I had an ectopic pregnancy last year so this pregnancy I get nervous before them all. Im so afraid of getting that "oh crap somethings wrong" look from the tech like I did last time.

    I've already gotten 3 full ultrasounds and a quickie in office one and I'm only 11.5 weeks. I go on Tuesday for what is probably the same one you just had. Plus a ton of bloodwork.
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    @LLB, that's horrible! That was the first thing I asked her- is the baby in the right place. I fear everything! My first pregnancy I had no clue about anything but was obsessed with a few things( I don't even like to talk about what I fear- its like if I say it, my anxiety gets worse). However, I kept going into preterm labor, I had previa(thankfully it corrected)and the baby was breech for a long time(finally flipped).

    You must be a wreck. :( we're exactly a week apart- I'm 12.5 but my boys came a little early, so we'll see. I'm glad things ate going well for you this time.
  • LLB
    Posts: 3,280Member
    Thanks @rosie08 just finding out that it was not in my tubes this time was a huge relief but I still worry. I've had surgery in my cervix so my chances of preterm labor are pretty high. May end up needing a cerclage. But I'm trying to keep the anxiety in check and just hope for the best. So far everything is going great :-)
  • DominoDomino
    Posts: 9Member
    meandmy243 said:

    My last pregnancy was hell.. constant ultrasounds for lack of fetal growth...



    I was the same way, every appointment they had to do an ultrasound because of how small she was.. Then she came a month early, at only 5 lbs, 14 oz, so she was in NICU for a week. The dr told me the smaller the baby the faster they grow, though.
  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
    Posts: 1,769Member
    The ultrasound I had w this pregnancy had me anxious.
    I NEEDED to see the heartbeat. Seeing baby in there moving made me cry. He/she is in there and doing good.
  • 456Imamom
    Posts: 538Member
    @Rosieo8 I was a wreck during my last pregnancy with stress, but not from worrying about the baby (work and other shit). But with this pregnancy (i'm 13 weeks) I'm a stressed mess. I'm trying to talk myself down, but I was super happy to see so much of the baby at the 13 week ultrasound last week. it was a huge relief. When I told DH how happy and relieved I was I think it scared him that I had been so worried. I keep imagining what could go wrong, and I have been since I peed on the stick. 

    @LLB and @Rosieo8 if you are finding that the stress/anxiety is really out of hand, please talk to your doctor or find a therapist. I did a research paper for a university class after DS was born about PPD and PPA. If you have anxiety during pregnancy you are much more likely to develop depression after the birth than if you had depression during pregnancy. I think that's why I'm so worked up this time, I know I shouldn't, but I'm scared of going thorough again what I went through last time.
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    @456lmamom, thank you. I have anxiety otherwise, but I control it on my own(diet, exercise, and otherwise just dealing with it/talking myself down). It's just so hard during pregnancy, and my otherwise athletic self cannot make myself exercise on the way I need to. Food is another issue during pregnancy also.
    I'm hoping to talk to my doctor Tuesday. He's know me since I was 12, and my sister used to work for him- she has similar issues and like me, she's sensitive to hormone changes and hormone based BC. I'm hoping he will actually help- I'm a great faker, so when I'd bring it up to my previous OB's( I was living in a different state), they brush me off, even after I ended up in ER with a full blown panic attack last pregnancy(they had me on the EKG machine, the works). I think I need medication because this is getting so old.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,169Member
    I miscarried my first high tech pregnancy...had the first u/s for placement of the embryo, a yolk sac, but no heartbeat a week or so later (serum preg tests every other day) my hcG went down the toilet, from 11,000 to 70.  The doc thought it was a lab error, sent me for another u/s there was nothing in there, I had had some light bleeding when they started to taper off the progesterone, but it wasn't even a light period amount.

    My second round, I went for that first u/s...I didn't even realize how worked up I was, until I ran into a friend at the radiologist's who was there with her mother.  They thought she was actually with me and invited her in, so she came with me, I guess I was holding my breath through the whole thing and we heard dd's heartbeat.  I went on to worry about what could go wrong so much through my entire pregnancy, I really didn't enjoy it, and sadly it'll probably be the only one I'll ever have, so it would have been really nice to relax and enjoy a pretty uneventful pregnancy!

    SO...I know it's hard, but TRY not to stress over every little thing that "might" happen.  If something is going to happen, it will, and the only thing worrying about the "might's" and "maybe's" will accomplish is to ruin the experience for you.

    Big hugs, hon.  Keep that smile on, it really will make you feel better!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    @bellabefana, thank you. Hearing things like that helps me put things in perspective. It's not "easier" per say, but it does help.
  • 456Imamom
    Posts: 538Member
    @Rosieo8 I feel for you! I'm apparently really good at pretending everything is fine. Even when I was pregnant with DS and the physical symptoms were really bad, I just brushed it of as 'normal pregnancy discomforts'. It wasn't until after he was born and I told the doctor who delivered him ( I moved at 7mths preg) at my 6 wk postpartum check-up that I really couldn't handle things anymore, that I think she realized just how out of wack I was. She must have know something was up because she had me come back every week after the birth. I have always brushed off the worry and it ends up showing up 90% physical. I still notice the physical symptoms before I realize that I'm worrying. 
    The not being able to exercise like I usually do (damn this heat!) is really getting to me, that and I guess the pregnancy hormones. Good luck! BTW, when are you due?
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    @456lmamom, I'm around 13 weeks. I get a lot of physical symptoms too, before I realize I'm at my breaking point. And yes, this heat- its making me not want to do anything, it's awful.
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