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possible deployment
  • stevienixxxstevienixxx
    Posts: 106Member
    my husband and i find out in october if his unit will be deployed- he is a combat medic in the army reserves. after dealing with our cranky teething 8 month old all week without him (he was at a work training) i was awake for hours last night crying. i have tried not to think about this but as the summer goes by it becomes a bigger and bigger weight pressing down on my chest. i dont want to do this without him. i dont know if i can.
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,276Member

    HUGE HUGS momma we are here for ya!!

     

    much love!!

    >:D< >:D< >:D<
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • TorturedbyTWINSTorturedbyTWINS
    Posts: 1,141Member
    If he does deploy can you go "home" to visit your family?  Or maybe have family and friends come stay with you for a bit?

    Hugs and love, and THANK YOU for sacrificing for all of us.  It means so much to me, and I really appreciate what you do... it's no easy job and military wives don't hear it enough!  (Thanks to your hunny too)


    >:D<
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,145Member
    Hugs, hon.  Deployments are never easy on anyone, especially when they're to a combat zone.  You WILL get through it, one thing I've noticed about military families is they watch out for each other and take care of each other, I'm sure you can find lots of help and support if you reach out, especially if you have no family close to lean on.  Many thanks to you and hubs for the sacrifices you make being a military family.

    Plus you always have us! 
    :D >:D<
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,886Member
    As the Navy version of a "Combat Medic", I can relate to him. It is very difficult on him because lives are in his hands everyday, and even worse on the family because the lack of information. But do you have a family support group when they deploy? I know its not for every one, it wasn't for my Dw, she only met one lady who wasn't a bitch. But I know theres a few ladies on here with military Husbands like @Love and @runbitchrun who could give you support as well, and I'm always around too.
    You show the lights that stop me turn to stone, You shine it when I'm alone. And so I tell myself that I'll be strong
    And dreaming when they're gone.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,965Administrator, Moderator
    Totally. Spawn was 3 weeks old when DH got deployed, albeit not to a combat zone.
    It's hard, and frustrating as all hell, but you CAN do this! It just take a little fortitude and some creative thinking to make things work. (DH heard Spawn's first words, and saw his first steps, via webcam.)

    We're here for you! Any time you want to yell, scream, swear, cry, or just need a laugh, we're here.

    @Handtowellady is a military wife, too. And I think @AkimiB and a few more.

    community-manager


  • AKimiBAKimiB
    Posts: 1,820Member
    Aww, honey! We are moving to Ft.Bragg come the end of this month and dh will be in one of the most rapid-deploying units (if I'm not mistaken, they can give as little as a week maybe less,) and if you are anywhere in that area, you WON'T have to go through this alone. >:D< PM me if you want.
    I haven't had to deal with deployment yet, but I have no qualms with riding it out with a fellow military spouse.

    And thank you @Love for the heads up!

    I'm definitely here if ever you need. :)
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  • stevienixxxstevienixxx
    Posts: 106Member

    thanks yall.

    i think the hardest part about this is that have been together, the army hasn't really been a huge part of my day to day life. he is not active duty so other than him being gone one weekend a month for drill and several weeks during the summer for trainings, it hasn't been at the forefront of my mind.  so i kind of don't consider myself a full fledged "military wife."  i have my own full time job and i havent been a sahm.  him leaving would mean i would need to make huge changes and i have no idea what it would look like. it is really scary.

  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,456Member
    I'm so sorry. *hugs* I can't imagine what you go through.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,965Administrator, Moderator
    @Stevienixxx I wasn't either! My DH was in the Guard, and like you say, it was one weekend a month, and 2 weeks in the summer, for years and years. 

    It's definitely an adjustment! I know I definitely took for granted all the little things around the house that he did, until he was no longer there to do it anymore!

    Sleeping alone was the biggest adjustment for me, and I'll be honest and tell you right now, I pussed out and couldn't handle it! My daughter moved into my room, and slept with me and Spawn in a big pile LOL 

    You might want to get your stuff together (bills and such) and make sure that if they are in his name, and yours isn't listed, that he calls/writes/emails those people to let them know that you are authorized on the account, if anything needs to be taken care of. (cable, cell, bank account, car payment, power bill, etc..) And SCRA everything you can, as soon as you can. You may not need it now, but it could be a life-saver later, if something happens. I know it saved our butts back last year, when the paychecks went wonky!

    community-manager


  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,145Member
    Oh, and his Power of Attorney as well...a lot of things families of reservists/Guard don't "normally" have to deal with...maybe check with the Base/Command, they may have a checklist of such things.
    Bite me, cupcake!
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