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  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    Now, I'm not one to brag, I'm pretty modest and humble.... But I have 10 pounds to go before my pre baby weight. I had him 2 1/2 weeks ago. My baby pooch is almost gone too. This is #2 and the last lol. How long has it taken you? My older sister is bitter at me bc she gaid 60#s w both her boys. She hasn't lost ANY weight. She looks pretty bad since she's borderline obease. We are all small in frame and height. She weighted 115 before she had her kids.
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,715Confessional Manager
    \:D/ \m/ thats awesome.

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    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
    Posts: 2,388Member
    Congratulations! Good job
    my kids are five yrs oldand I got a way to go to  get to my pre baby.
    I like the way food feels in my mouth WAY too much...
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,366Member
    \m/ ^:)^ you rock !!! Now teach me !! Lol
    " Wibbly wobbly timey wimey ......." The Doctor
    " I'm a leafe on the wind..watch how I soar ." Wash :((
    " Oh the wall had it comming.' Sherlock Holmes
    yea I am geek !!
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    I run around literally all day w dd2. I eat healthy and all that. I don't count calories or anything and water is ky I think. I have a bad mtn dew habit but oh well.
  • pistolpackingmomma
    Posts: 1,068Member
    heartmeanseverything said:

     She looks pretty bad since she's borderline obease. We are all small in frame and height.



    i don't know why, other than the fact i am emotional and pissy, but isn't that a bit rude?  i mean damn, just because someone has put on a bit of weight doesn't make them look bad.  hell, i am small framed and only 5'3 and well i am considered morbidly obese at 280.  yeah, i am short and fat, but i can still rock the curves i have (if only i get a bit of fashion help, lol).  i realize i may come off a bit shitty here but it really irks me when someone judges someone else over weight.  i'm all for anyone loosing weight if they want to and all, but maybe instead or talking about how bad she looks, try giving her a bit of encouragement or a hug?  sorry, call me out if you need to but that just struck me as a horrible thing to say.
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  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    @pistolpackinmomma: the only reason why I bring it up is because all she does is complain about her weight. She doesn't do anything but sit there and watch tv, and eat. Then she calls me and cries about how I'm the "thinner, prettier one" she didn't want me at her wedding bc my mom said I could out do her wearing a garbage bag.... I don't mind curves, and if she did "rock" them thatd be great! But she doesn't. She says she wants to lose it, but she isn't doing the work to do so. It may be "rude" but its the truth.
  • pistolpackingmomma
    Posts: 1,068Member
    heartmeanseverything said:

    @pistolpackinmomma: the only reason why I bring it up is because all she does is complain about her weight. She doesn't do anything but sit there and watch tv, and eat. Then she calls me and cries about how I'm the "thinner, prettier one" she didn't want me at her wedding bc my mom said I could out do her wearing a garbage bag.... I don't mind curves, and if she did "rock" them thatd be great! But she doesn't. She says she wants to lose it, but she isn't doing the work to do so. It may be "rude" but its the truth.



    ok, i get what you are saying.  could it be she is depressed or maybe needs some sort of motivation?  i don't know the full story and all and i apologize if i was rude or shitty.  i'm going through my own crap and well, i get on my high horse about weight and such.  it wasn't meant as an attack at all, but more like cant we all just support each other stuff.  kwim?
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  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    @pistolpackinmomma no worries. Everyone has their days. She has been this way since I could remember. Even a kids she didn't do anything. Shed stay inside all day, and so on. I try to get her to motivate herself but she takes the easy way out. She may be depressed but if she is she isn't trying to get help. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. And I support what she wants, but not if she complains to be about her choices.
  • undercoverbanana
    Posts: 7,904Member
    baby weight is one thing---but pre baby shape never comes back. and it takes forever for the tummy to get firm again. you were lucky that you had an easy pregnancy with no health issues, and some support. she may not have had that.  not everybody is that lucky.    so don't be too hard on her, or gloat too much.     
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  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    Neither of my pregnancies were easy. I was in and out of the hospital almost the entire time. I was voilently ill, both were born 4weeks + early. I had to have 2 emergency csections, and the only support I had was my dh. None of my family was there for me, and still aren't. She on the other hand had fine preg. Good births, her kids were full term.... So keep throwing it at me....
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    Oh and btw, she had her kids taken from her bc she refused to ahem... Get of her lazy ass and feed them. So please continue making excuses for someone who does just fine making them for herslef!
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,366Member
    Well " I " am not making excuses for her I " just know I haven't lost my baby weight yet. How are we supposed to know her whole backstory.
    " Wibbly wobbly timey wimey ......." The Doctor
    " I'm a leafe on the wind..watch how I soar ." Wash :((
    " Oh the wall had it comming.' Sherlock Holmes
    yea I am geek !!
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    You don't, and you don't know mine. but I have said, that she isn't willing to do the work. What would that tell you?
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    And honestly, I feel I have a bit of a right to "gloat". I work my ass off day and night. Taking care of my kids and dh, our home, the dog.... And if anyone has an issue w it, maybe they should discover why. I'm not doing anything I shouldn't be. And if you can't be supportive of ME then remove yourself from MY thread. My sister is a lazy f*up. She did this to herself. She would be married to either baby daddys, but she cheated on them. She would have her kids but she threw them away, I'm tired of feeling sorry for her. My mom enabled her to do this her whole life, and look what happened! She refuses to get help, she has it ava. To her like anyone else.
  • pistolpackingmomma
    Posts: 1,068Member
    there is always more to the story that we never know.  even if it is someone we know well.  there may be issues that we don't know about but regardless, i don't see how bashing anyone helps anything.  i did not intend to start a problem here.  yeah, i may have said it when i should have kept my mouth shut, but seriously, what good is it to bash anyone over their weight no matter what.  it shouldn't matter whether or not they try to loose it.  there are a million and one factors that affect someone's ability to loose (or even gain) weight and many of those are things that people hide and deny and would never admit to.  some just cannot be controlled.  anyway, i am sorry it i started anything.


    but @heartsmeaneverything glad you are getting your body back the way you want it!
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  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 4,045Member
    @heartmeanseverything, no offense, dude. (I call everyone Dude). We don't know th whole story, just snippets from what you tell us.
    So people get the wrong idea and run with it, ya know?
    So having read the entire thread so far, good for you, weight doesn't define a person, your sister sounds like a douche.
    And I am jealous of your easy weight loss!
    Searching for my lost shaker of salt.
  • MaryPoppins25
    Posts: 1,686Member
    Great job! I still have 20 to go and my dd is 2, I'm working at it tho!
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    No her weight does not define her. It would be nice for her to help herself tho. That's all I'm trying to say. If you got the phone calls I do you'd understand my frustration. I've told her to get help, find a therapist, go to support groups, I've even told her about scary moomy. She doesn't want any of it. She likes to wallow.
  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 4,045Member
    heartmeanseverything said:

    My older sister is bitter at me bc she gaid 60#s w both her boys. She hasn't lost ANY weight. She looks pretty bad since she's borderline obease. We are all small in frame and height. She weighted 115 before she had her kids.






    Sounds like you are defining her by her weight loss.
    Which, seriously dude, is your thing. She's a sloth, you try to help her. I get it it. I am not attacking you, you cannot help people who don't want help, right? So maybe just let her alone. Maybe she will get inspired by you!
    Searching for my lost shaker of salt.
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    I hope so, and being 1100 mi apart probably doesn't help either of our cases
  • sunnymommasunnymomma
    Posts: 2,258Member
    I have 7lbs left to lose to get back to prebaby weight!!!! uh I should mention that my "baby" is 15. Years old. Good for you momma's out there putting in the hard work to eat right, exercise and support each other to lose the weight!!!
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  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    Good for you momma!!! I have eight pounds to to. My baby is seven! :)
  • HestiaHestia
    Posts: 227Member
    I have 36 til pre baby weight. Of course I was extremely tiny 114lb so I doubt I want to weigh that again. I'm a size 6-8 though and would like to lose another 20lbs..I'm ok with going to 130lb. Oh and my baby will be 8 next month
  • Rawrchu
    Posts: 514Member
    I weigh about 30 pounds less than my DS's pre-baby weight. He's 11.  That being said, can I please get back to my HS weight???
  • AnonUser24
    Posts: 2,607Guest
    I gained 50 with my first and 55 with my second. Took me about 6 months to lose the weight with both, I'm presuming it was the breastfeeding. But my body didn't start really looking like pre-baby until about a year after each. How much did you gain to begin with?
  • lefty63
    Posts: 258Member

    I am one of 8, and am the skinniest in my family at 5'8" and 150 lbs. I lost 20 lbs over the last few months because of medical issues.  Except for one brother, my siblings are all obese in the 250-400 lb range.  When I was talking to my sisters they suggested that I'd be healthier if I gained weight. I asked how high blood pressure and pre-diabetes was supposed to make me healthy. 

    Like the OC, I have a problem with them bitching about their weight and not doing anything about it. I don't work out like I should, but also don't eat danish or bags of chips and live on pizza and soda. When I hosted a holiday and tried two low-fat dishes on them (that other people liked), you would have thought I poisoned them - so no more.

  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    @freedomlover 35 pounds with both my kids. That's what's reccomended I think.
  • heartmeanseverything
    Posts: 76Member
    @lefty63 I actually spent the time and emailed her a ton of delicious recipes that were low cal/ fat/ and full of the good stuff, and that were something I'd eat. She never made them. She likes hamburger helper and fast food. Oh well. I did my part.
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,655Member
    Humm pre baby weight... I was 90 with my first.. 140 with number 2.... 115 is my goal weight.... I'm at 185... I'm 5'2...
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
    Posts: 816Guest
    I don't think she was defining her sister by her weight. If she called her a cow, or a pig then yea. But the fact that being overweight/ obease is a major healt concern, people need to realize the cold hard truth. People need to desensitize themselves, because all that does is cause people to enable each other to continue to have the same bad habits that put them in that situation. It may be "mean" but we are all adults here, not 2nd graders.
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
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